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Most marriage seminar speakers are not married on in stable marriage . Most economists are not rich. Engineers in Nigeria don't build solid homes. Pastors speaking sweet about God are full of fornication, fake and cook up stories, desperation,scam and fraud.

Who is anybody in Nigeria to advise me.

pongwa:
you are absolutely right. Some usually are controlling and want to dictate what happens in the home. The moment you say NO, you become their enemy and they will eventually poison their daughters against you till you divorce her. These kinds of family usually claim your kids

I tell you, you have first hand experience on this. Immediately you say No, they will start manipulating there daughter to hate you or instigate violence. If the daughter is mature enough to resist it, they will declare full blown war on you and your young family. Doing everything to scatter you people. If by any mistake, you come lose your job or business, your own don finish.

Nonexisting1:
You never ready to marry be that because you will continue to run. What if they like you before marriage and hate you after the marriage? The sure deal is to know who you want to marry whether husband or wife. If he is the type that back his words with actions and is no push over, marry him as long as he doesn't live in his parent's house. One man in my town that his family hates the wife just died. He left a Will giving everything to her and the children. Guess what? Everyone hates the woman and now everyone also lost out in the man's fortune because the woman that I know will lock up and not give anyone a kobo from the Will. They hate her but it never stopped her from enjoying her husband and her marriage. Did any family member go to Lagos to disturb her in her husband house? Even when they come back for xmas, will fear let you go their house and tell the man you hate his wife when na xmas money carry you go there. Even a no nonsense poor man will walk you out of his house if you go there to hate on his wife. Forget long talk, I believe in reality. Family can do nothing to marriage when couples are no push overs.

Exactly, if you are lucky to have a wife or husband that's not a push over... Thats victory. The only issue is they will always be throwing bombs here and there like Iran.

So right

I married I to a family that are poor. They see me as a treat and are hostile till date. They have also changed hubby's mind set towards me. Who cares? They are on their lane and i am in mine. Life na hard

Shine your eyes oooooo
No love is blind

Plenty story from my end to make a movie

The bottom line is that no family is perfect .Nobody chose the family he shoukd be born into . MAKE the best out of what you have .

greggng:
The bottom line is that no family is perfect .Nobody chose the family he shoukd be born into . MAKE the best out of what you have .

That doesn't mean you should reinforce suffering and failure.
Be warned now

Even you wey be yahoo boy, you suppose look say which kind girl in her true senses supposed marry you?
Most probably, such girl are usually ones from a bad home, have low self esteem, has no serious vision nd mission for her self. Now come look how your family will be, your sons will closely turn out to be yahoo children with no real core values and your girls o.ssssss

id4sho:
It does oOoOO 📌👌💯, naso my ex girlfriend told me I will put her mother on salary after we get married 👻

They want to be after my life like Tinubu

You say whattttt?


Some familoes na Almajiri. Poverty allevation is what most ladies from poor background are after these days.
Guys shine ya eyes.

Y'all looking at the spiritual part of the husband and wife
What happened if they have kids together!?
Have you think about what could be the fate of the children going forward?
Their mental health
Finance

okomile:
So right

I married I to a family that are poor. They see me as a treat and are hostile till date. They have also changed hubby's mind set towards me. Who cares? They are on their lane and i am in mine. Life na hard

Shine your eyes oooooo
No love is blind

Plenty story from my end to make a movie

Please take a moment to write a quality post with at least 40 characters.

You are correct...


Don't overthink it. It's not a big deal. I call my sister's husband Bro and that's what all my other siblings call him. My dad and mom calls him by his name but we can move mountains for him.


Come to think of it, I've never seen anyone call their inlaw "inlaw". It's mostly just a once in a while something[/quote]

Hmmmm!

Hopefully you see the signs before marriage

If you and your spouse are genuinely godly (Christianity), are manned with both mental and spiritual wisdom

Your spouse family problem mean very minute

Note we leave in a world of problem

Did you ask your self why sudden death to the husband? Let's wait is a season film try an learn from elders in the house. We human have 3 stages in life what stages is the woman now? Who tell you the children will not sell the property in presence of the mother and larvish it. Someone you will spent rest of your life with you most becareful

Nonexisting1:
You never ready to marry be that because you will continue to run. What if they like you before marriage and hate you after the marriage? The sure deal is to know who you want to marry whether husband or wife. If he is the type that back his words with actions and is no push over, marry him as long as he doesn't live in his parent's house. One man in my town that his family hates the wife just died. He left a Will giving everything to her and the children. Guess what? Everyone hates the woman and now everyone also lost out in the man's fortune because the woman that I know will lock up and not give anyone a kobo from the Will. They hate her but it never stopped her from enjoying her husband and her marriage. Did any family member go to Lagos to disturb her in her husband house? Even when they come back for xmas, will fear let you go their house and tell the man you hate his wife when na xmas money carry you go there. Even a no nonsense poor man will walk you out of his house if you go there to hate on his wife. Forget long talk, I believe in reality. Family can do nothing to marriage when couples are no push overs.

Nonexisting1:
When you marry a true adult, family will have zero influence. Family shenanigans can only affect your marriage if you marry a grown baby.

Lol dey play my fans ,you never jam family wey weerey na why you dey talk this one

When you jam one na you go use your hand modify this post

It's well o
Story of my life.

Thank God for life.
I keep moving till it gets better one day.

PastorKosi:
The Family You Marry Into Matters—A Lot

Many people believe that once a man or woman agrees to marry them, that’s all that matters. But that’s far from the truth.

The family you marry into plays a significant role in the peace and quality of your marriage. Some families are deeply problematic. From the moment you say “I do,” the real battle begins—fights, disrespect, abuse, and in some cases, spiritual attacks. Sadly, your own partner may even join forces with their family against you, leaving you isolated, broken, or forced to walk away from the marriage.

On the other hand, if you’re blessed to marry into a family that loves you—especially one where your spouse’s mother embraces you with a kind heart—you are one of the luckiest people on earth. That kind of love and support is rare and precious.

The signs are usually there during courtship. A lady once told me how her mother-in-law swore that she would never allow her to marry her son. She forced her way in, thinking love would conquer all, but since then, it’s been one spiritual and emotional battle after another.

Whether you’re a man or woman, please take this seriously: the family you marry into matters. Some families are just toxic—let me say it plainly, some are evil. And it’s even worse when your partner is either blind to their actions or lacks the courage to defend you.

For me, my wife is a core part of my life and my assignment. Anyone who disrespects or abuses her has automatically done the same to me. I don’t separate her pain from mine.

So choose wisely. Love is not blind—don’t let it blind you to the reality of what you’re stepping into.

Lopsided.

What if the person you marry is the bad one in the family, then you believe you must stand by them, meanwhile they're offending all of their family and you blindly join them to?

Your spouse isn't a saint. Choose your battles carefully.