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dreamxhaser:
Omo! I just read through everything. Bro permit me to call you the king of simps. I can’t think of anyone who beats you in that record (aside maybe will smith). The thing com Dey do me like series film.

Omo X2 you messed up big time bro. Worst part of it all is you still love her. You are not over her yet.

If care is not taken you might still create excuses for her in your head.

The girl con worwor sef. For that fact alone, my ego was bruised, damaged, buried on your behalf.

Like Bro com’on

Well I hope the bosses in this thread give you some pills to swallow. I hope they force it down your throat sef.

Chaiiiii! Omo! Things Dey sup 😂

Omo na the worwor own shock me pass ooo. I was just thinking for him to woo that kind of girl and still let her use him. Make the op no vex, him suppose post him own pics sef. It’s either his smv is really low or he has low self esteem. No caps oo, but if I post the girl I’m talking about. She beats that banny times 5 and I haven’t sent her up to 30k since I started dating her.

Even the 30k is like a gift cos I like giving naturally. Like babe take 1k for suya. That’s my kind of giving. I just hope the poster learns from his mistake. I’ll recommend him starting from 1st page of this thread and some ubunja miseducation. That should help him for now.

You settled for trash and got thrashed.
Deal with it😂

SpencerForbes:
I can’t believe I just read the whole 8 pages and I thank God I found the redpill when I was broke. At a very young age.

My girlfriend knows I can’t trust anyone. She has tried everything possible to make me trust her. Even telling me that if I don’t trust her she can’t trust me. And I’ll still vet her anytime, Anyday.

About single mothers, I think they all have the same characteristics cos this my girlfriend opened up to me that she has a child and she was “raped” She started with the love and everything but after she noticed I’m not falling for that shit, she switched off all the love. That’s her business.

I’m always the one initiating the break up but she won’t reply and she knows I don’t take her bullshits. She has even complained that I complain a lot cos I don’t want to take shit but she’s still coping tho.

Her phone has been giving her issues for a while now and she wants to change the phone. She told me about it and me that just needed fun, I played along. She’s was telling me I’ll support her with 110k. I laughed in my mind and played along.

Recently, the phone started tripping off and she said if I can help her before Saturday. I told her she’ll have to come over on Sunday cos I’ll be free. She asked how much am I giving her and I told her it’s 100k and out of the money, she’ll pay for everything. Both the hotel and everything.

She started blackmailing me with tears. I told her the change would be enough for me to buy 5 new tops and baggy jeans. That if she doesn’t want it, she should forget it.

While we were still chatting, she said if she should eventually buy the phone, that no bastard to come to her front to tell her shit. But thank God that particular day, I was with my gees having a bottle of whiskey and that got me tipsy. Na so I change am for am asap. She told me about her ex that bought a new phone for her. I told her she can go and date a ritualist. That I’m a hustler and if she’s not taking it, she should f up. Mind you i wasn’t even planning to give her up to 25k and she knows cos I always tell her I can’t get her a phone to chat other guys and she’s claiming I have trust issues.

While we were arguing, I told her I can’t give 110k to a girl that I’m not married to and she claims she knew I had that kinda thought. That she’s gonna get it herself. I told her if she don’t want, she can take a L that she can block me if she wants and she said that’s why my relationship doesn’t last. That’s it’s gonna take the grace of God for me to reach 1 year in a relationship and I was happy she knew I don’t take shit.

Due to my no nonsense lifestyle, I blocked her asap. Down to her TikTok account but the little simp in me no rest until it achieve it’s mission on Sunday. So I unblocked her. She later sent me a voice note saying if I’m angry that I always tell her what no other man has told her. That if I continue that I’ll be a single father. That sounded like a complement. Even saying she was gonna tell my sis some things about me so she can advise me.

Now the redpill in me is not planning to give her anything on Sunday. If she wants to come over, good and fine. If she doesn’t, I’ve told her sex is cheap and she should F off.

So bro, you just have to keep learning cos this gender ain’t taking it easy on guys out there.

You guys dey try sha....

Giving a woman 100k...🤣🤣🤣🤣

No woman except my mum and sister has collected 25k from me. These two people have spent way more than that on me.

See as you dey explain history to one single mother wey suppose dey spend money on you.

I don't spend money on such women, they spend money on me

SpencerForbes:
Omo na the worwor own shock me pass ooo. I was just thinking for him to woo that kind of girl and still let her use him. Make the op no vex, him suppose post him own pics sef. It’s either his smv is really low or he has low self esteem. No caps oo, but if I post the girl I’m talking about. She beats that banny times 5 and I haven’t sent her up to 30k since I started dating her.

Even the 30k is like a gift cos I like giving naturally. Like babe take 1k for suya. That’s my kind of giving. I just hope the poster learns from his mistake. I’ll recommend him starting from 1st page of this thread and some ubunja miseducation. That should help him for now.

Alaye stop the cap... If you post your girl now, everyone go shock say she no even fine reach tenrack own... You are trying to shame the dude but you got your own issues to figure out with women

Smartb0y:
You settled for trash and got thrashed.
Deal with it😂

Don't hate the player...hate the game...

Applies to women too

luminouz:
You guys dey try sha....

Giving a woman 100k...🤣🤣🤣🤣

No woman except my mum and sister has collected 25k from me. These two people have spent way more than that on me.

See as you dey explain history to one single mother wey suppose dey spend money on you.

I don't spend money on such women, they spend money on me

how far about your sis? Is she single make I try redpill on her

Carot:
how far about your sis? Is she single make I try redpill on her

She say she gets one yeye boyfriend wey she wan marry but until I see him, I don't know how serious she is...

You think the sister of someone like me will not be redpilled?
Dey play 🤣🤣🤣

luminouz:
Alaye stop the cap... If you post your girl now, everyone go shock say she no even fine reach tenrack own... You are trying to shame the dude but you got your own issues to figure out with women

Reallllll😂

SpencerForbes:
Last week, I played a prank on my babe by using someone’s else pics to chat her on TikTok. She always leaves my messages unread cos of TikTok. The moment I told her I really like her and I asked her if I could ask her a question. She started narrating her life story to me. Telling me where she lives and where she’s from. Then I told her I want to date her, she asked really?

I played along and asked if she had a boyfriend, she replied yes, somehow😂

I was reasoning if na babe wey I don Dey date Dey reply somehow. Even if she didn’t fall but the win wasn’t convincing enough. The babe just Dey find higher bidder make she monkey branch.

I confronted her and had to give her a pass for that. Some go deny you outrightly like my ex. She told a man in front of me that she doesn’t have a boyfriend that I’m her friend. Since then I stopped trusting that gender.

I’m kind of pitying the girl cos if I react she’s going to hate all guys. She has a good character and is very feminine, she’ll be good for the next generation and she’s earning fair enough. I just don’t understand why the sudden rush to monkey branch. The female mind is really something else. I’ve been expecting it from her due to the lessons I’ve learnt on this thread but I’m still going to give her another chance and if she fails, she’s gone.

I've noticed this trend lately among guys I teach and meet in real life.

There is this erroneous tendency to "confront" their babes. Or worse, forgive her for failing the basics.

First, I want you to understand that you don't have a gf. And it has nothing to do with monkey branch but rather your skill as a man and the quality of girl you chose.

Let me give you an analogy: women are like tree planted into the ground. The ground/soil is you and the relationship. The wind or storm are the "highest bidders" that try to woo her. How easily she can be uprooted from the ground (read:your relationship) depends on HOW FIRMLY she's planted.

You can have a quality girl and still lose her because of how bad the relationship is.

Secondly, the right response to "do you have a boyfriend is an emphatic yes. Anything short of that is questionable.

It seems like most of guys today are just in relationships for the sake of it. Cause while women have a tendency to monkey branch... it doesn't mean they'll act on it. And besides, there are measures to drastically reduce it.

Also stop all these "pranks" It doesn't work and makes you look insecure

Tenrack:
I had known about your teachings for a while, yet I let my feelings get the best of me. I hope someone else can learn from my mistake.

https://www.nairaland.com/8461427/got-scammed-served-breakfast-single/7

Keep doing the good work boss.

Just read your thread. Fùcked up situation. Single mothers are off limits for any sensible man.

They put themselves and their children before you. Put their baby daddies above you. And transfer the baggage of past hurt relationships on you.

Most of them hate when you're good to them because their subconscious is used to being taken for granted. So when they see a good man, you're seen as weak and become an easy target for manipulation

Always Always vet women before dating them. No point wasting resources on liabilities that won't improve your life.

And even in relationships keep vetting and testing them. Either they pass and become your woman or they fail and you discharge them.

No such thing as "pity" or "soft heart for her" All that matters is how much is this girl willing (or already has) to invest in your relationship

As a general rule: Men tend to appear stronger than they actually are.... while women tend to appear weaker than they actually are. Never forget that.

This doesn't mean you should always assume the worst about women. But keep an open mind and kmow that NOBODY is above fùck ups

All the best

Senkasa:
Good morning house.

I'm in my mid twenties and want to learn a digital skill that's not related to tech but i need valuable suggestions.

Currently, I'm doing amazon kdp but for close to a month now I've recorded zero sales in any of my three books.. hence I want to change line..

Initially, I wanted to start youtube content creation (like posting pix of night life in different parts of my state) but I don't know if I can do it with only my phone camera or I'll be needing a gopro camera..


However, I want a skill that i can easily learn from now to December and be getting paid in dollas.. I want to be financially free soonest..

I have enough time and data to learn whatever valuable skill you may suggest.. i just need guidance on which path (skill) to follow (learn)

A Digital skill not related to tech? That's like hoping to find am ocean without fishes.

Anyways, most Digital skills are profitable. Pick one and stick to it for 6 - 8 months

As a beginner like yourself with zero mentorship, one month is too short to give up. When I started online business, it took me 2 months to make $100 and I had some guidance. So don't think ANY online business will give you much in one month.

Stick to one for at least 6 - 8 months. For Amazon Kdp, I'd advise you use the next 2 months to learn it very well. You're experiencing slower sales because this is June/July. It's summer and spring period. People are not out there looking for books to buy. They're partying and enjoying life.

However, towards the end of the year? People start picking up books as gifts etc. So get ready for that period. You haven't learned Kdp well. Take your time to learn it while trying to pick up another skill

https://youtube.com/shorts/X6WXy0-KBEQ?si=5pZZnqUo57dfMhTF
THE END

Rizzputin:
I've noticed this trend lately among guys I teach and meet in real life.

There is this erroneous tendency to "confront" their babes. Or worse, forgive her for failing the basics.

First, I want you to understand that you don't have a gf. And it has nothing to do with monkey branch but rather your skill as a man and the quality of girl you chose.

Let me give you an analogy: women are like tree planted into the ground. The ground/soil is you and the relationship. The wind or storm are the "highest bidders" that try to woo her. How easily she can be uprooted from the ground (read:your relationship) depends on HOW FIRMLY she's planted.

You can have a quality girl and still lose her because of how bad the relationship is.

Secondly, the right response to "do you have a boyfriend is an emphatic yes. Anything short of that is questionable.

It seems like most of guys today are just in relationships for the sake of it. Cause while women have a tendency to monkey branch... it doesn't mean they'll act on it. And besides, there are measures to drastically reduce it.

Also stop all these "pranks" It doesn't work and makes you look insecure

Why replying a guy, whose his gf denying him, outrightly in his presence? Did you need a rocket science to know the type/level/intelligent of such guy? They think gragra is how to be in charge of relationship with woman.

luminouz:
Alaye stop the cap... If you post your girl now, everyone go shock say she no even fine reach tenrack own... You are trying to shame the dude but you got your own issues to figure out with women

Lolz 😂 no caps bro. I’m not shaming the dude oo but I can’t fall for that kinda girl. If you think I’m lying, let’s chat on WhatsApp and my babe still dey submissive pass that banny. So your advise is not needed here😝

Fiscus105:
Why replying a guy, whose is gf denying him rightly in front of him? Did you need a rocket science to know the type/level/intelligent of such guy? They think gragra is how to be in charge of relationship with woman.

Not now again. That was 2 years ago. I underwent personal development and now I’m way bigger than that. I fit provide for myself and more people but I don’t take ladies seriously. I date for fun and not for anything more and I’m ready to leave anytime. Guys once you make the money, just go for the best. Don’t allow any entitled lady use your head. If you can, get the beauty, the brains and everything cos beautiful ladies are also selective.

Think like a man, act like a lady.

Rizzputin:
I've noticed this trend lately among guys I teach and meet in real life.

There is this erroneous tendency to "confront" their babes. Or worse, forgive her for failing the basics.

First, I want you to understand that you don't have a gf. And it has nothing to do with monkey branch but rather your skill as a man and the quality of girl you chose.

Let me give you an analogy: women are like tree planted into the ground. The ground/soil is you and the relationship. The wind or storm are the "highest bidders" that try to woo her. How easily she can be uprooted from the ground (read:your relationship) depends on HOW FIRMLY she's planted.

You can have a quality girl and still lose her because of how bad the relationship is.

Secondly, the right response to "do you have a boyfriend is an emphatic yes. Anything short of that is questionable.

It seems like most of guys today are just in relationships for the sake of it. Cause while women have a tendency to monkey branch... it doesn't mean they'll act on it. And besides, there are measures to drastically reduce it.

Also stop all these "pranks" It doesn't work and makes you look insecure

Nice one. I think you should talk more on vetting🤔

.
call a spade a spade joor

SpencerForbes:
Lolz 😂 no caps bro. I’m not shaming the dude oo but I can’t fall for that kinda girl. If you think I’m lying, let’s chat on WhatsApp and my babe still dey submissive pass that banny. So your advise is not needed here😝

K boss.

emmaodet:
Modern men are emotionally available…

but financially broke, physically weak, and spiritually lost.

Nobody respects that combo.

The main problem with the modern man is that he doesn't truly understand the ruthless nature of females.

And because of that, he keeps getting played, used, and heartbroken… over and over again.

One of the most bitter truths about female nature is this:

A woman’s ego doesn’t crave love. She craves power over the man.

You see, brothers, the female ego wants power over you.

When she bills you, shames you or threatens to dump you, she’s trying to dominate you emotionally. When she praises you, it’s not always admiration… It's often a strategy. Flattery is the softest form of control.

Naija women are out here playing and manipulating the typical naija guy from day one…. because naija guys don’t realize for women...it about power, not love.

Women have deceived men that they need to spend money to get sex. But that’s the female ego deceiving men, and most men are submitting to the female ego.

You don’t win women's hearts by submitting. You win by challenging the female ego.

In the garden of Eden, the serpent understands this. This was why he didn’t seduce Eve with sweetness or compliments.

He didn’t sell her the fruit: he sold her the illusion of power. He told her: “Eat this… and you’ll be like God.”

He wasn’t flattering her. He was activating something deeper. It was never about the fruit. It was about giving her something to wonder about.

That was the real seduction.

Master seducers, pimps, cult leaders, expert marketers... they use the same blueprint today.

More importantly, this is how veteran pimps persuades beautiful girls to start hookup(prostitution), sleep with simp and then the money to the love-vendor.

A pimps doesn’t walk up to a pretty girl and say, “You’re beautiful and special.”

That’s what simp does. Simp flatters. A pimps doesn’t flatter: he provokes.

A pimps looks her dead in the eye and says:

“You say you love designer heels and Brazilian wigs? But you’re still chilling with those broke mumu boys who can’t even buy you puff-puff?”

“I see a star in you… But how can you become that star when you’re still living off your mama and washing plates in her kitchen?”

Every sentence is a seductive challenge to her ego.

Because the pimps knows what most men don’t:

The female ego doesn’t crave love. It craves power and becoming “more.”

And the pimps established himself as the bridge to that “more” the female ego crave.

That’s the real game. Not gifts. Not validation. Not playing Mr Nice guy.

Just Challenge her and make her Wonder.

That’s why Eve ate the fruit. Not because she was hungry. Not because it was juicy.

But because the serpent made her wonder what it would feel like… to rise… to transform… to become like God.

You see brothers, women don't want peace or perfection. The garden was perfect. Peaceful. Safe.

The female nature doesn’t want peace.
She wants challenge… she want something to wonder about.

This is why:

– You treat her like a queen, and she still cheats.

– You give her money, comfort, security… and she still leaves.

– You try to make her happy… and she still breaks your heart.

Because peace bores naija women. She wants to worry. She wants to wonder. She wants “more”

This is why you can never satisfy the typical naija woman. She’s wired to chase "more."

And that’s why even the Garden of Eden wasn’t enough.

The serpent didn’t need muscles. He didn’t need money. He just gave her something to wonder about. “Eat this… and see what it’s like to become like God.”

And that one sentence cracked the foundation of paradise. Then Eve started wondering what it would be like to be God.

That's the female ego for you. It want power and dominion. That's the Sapent nature too.

The female ego is ruthless to the nice guy... Because the nice guy gives her power on a platter of gold. He show her love, peace, devotion, and she cheat on him and dump him.

But the man who challenges her, who gives her a puzzle to solve...she follows him.

The serpent knew it.

The pimps lives by it.

And as a Man, if you’re smart, you’ll stop trying to make women happy. And start challenging their ego and make them wonder.

Tenrack:
I had known about your teachings for a while, yet I let my feelings get the best of me. I hope someone else can learn from my mistake.

https://www.nairaland.com/8461427/got-scammed-served-breakfast-single/7

Keep doing the good work boss.

I just finished reading your story. You really messed up big time. Everything you had been warned against, you did. Never have anything serious to do with single mothers. Only pain and tears await you. Women, single mother or not, inwardly regard you as a beta fool, or a loser with no options, when choose a single mother as your spouse. They may not admit it openly, but it is what it is.

Go and do better, and start taking the red pill seriously.

Pukkalolo:
The main problem with the modern man is that he doesn't truly understand the ruthless nature of females.

And because of that, he keeps getting played, used, and heartbroken… over and over again.

One of the most bitter truths about female nature is this:

A woman’s ego doesn’t crave love. She craves power over the man.

You see, brothers, the female ego wants power over you.

When she bills you, shames you or threatens to dump you, she’s trying to dominate you emotionally. When she praises you, it’s not always admiration… It's often a strategy. Flattery is the softest form of control.

Naija women are out here playing and manipulating the typical naija guy from day one…. because naija guys don’t realize for women...it about power, not love.

Women have deceived men that they need to spend money to get sex. But that’s the female ego deceiving men, and most men are submitting to the female ego.

You don’t win women's hearts by submitting. You win by challenging the female ego.

In the garden of Eden, the serpent understands this. This was why he didn’t seduce Eve with sweetness or compliments.

He didn’t sell her the fruit: he sold her the illusion of power. He told her: “Eat this… and you’ll be like God.”

He wasn’t flattering her. He was activating something deeper. It was never about the fruit. It was about giving her something to wonder about.

That was the real seduction.

Master seducers, pimps, cult leaders, expert marketers... they use the same blueprint today.

More importantly, this is how a veteran love-vendor persuades beautiful girls to start hookup(prostitution), sleep with simp and then the money to the love-vendor.

A love-vendor doesn’t walk up to a pretty girl and say, “You’re beautiful and special.”

That’s what simp does. Simp flatters. A love-vendor doesn’t flatter: he provokes.

A love-vendor looks her dead in the eye and says:

“You say you love designer heels and Brazilian wigs? But you’re still chilling with those broke mumu boys who can’t even buy you puff-puff?”

“I see a star in you… But how can you become that star when you’re still living off your mama and washing plates in her kitchen?”

Every sentence is a seductive challenge to her ego.

Because the love-vendor knows what most men don’t:

The female ego doesn’t crave love. It craves power and becoming “more.”

And the love-vendor established himself as the bridge to that “more” the female ego crave.

That’s the real game. Not gifts. Not validation. Not playing Mr Nice guy.

Just Challenge her and make her Wonder.

That’s why Eve ate the fruit. Not because she was hungry. Not because it was juicy.

But because the serpent made her wonder what it would feel like… to rise… to transform… to become like God.

You see brothers, women don't want peace or perfection. The garden was perfect. Peaceful. Safe.

The female nature doesn’t want peace.
She wants challenge… she want something to wonder about.

This is why:

– You treat her like a queen, and she still cheats.

– You give her money, comfort, security… and she still leaves.

– You try to make her happy… and she still breaks your heart.

Because peace bores naija women. She wants to worry. She wants to wonder. She wants “more”

This is why you can never satisfy the typical naija woman. She’s wired to chase "more."

And that’s why even the Garden of Eden wasn’t enough.

The serpent didn’t need muscles. He didn’t need money. He just gave her something to wonder about. “Eat this… and see what it’s like to become like God.”

[b]And that one sentence cracked the foundation of paradise. [/b]Then Eve started wondering what it would be like to be God.

That's the female ego for you. It want power and dominion. That's the Sapent nature too.

The female ego is ruthless to the nice guy... Because the nice guy gives her power on a platter of gold. He show her love, peace, devotion, and she cheat on him and dump him.

But the man who challenges her, who gives her a puzzle to solve...she follows him.

The serpent knew it.

The love-vendor lives by it.

And as a Man, if you’re smart, you’ll stop trying to make women happy. And start challenging their ego and make them wonder.

This is one of the things I miss about this thread. Thanks for the pills boss.

Pukkalolo:
In the garden of Eden, the serpent understands this. This was why he didn’t seduce Eve with sweetness or compliments.

He didn’t sell her the fruit: he sold her the illusion of power. He told her: “Eat this… and you’ll be like God.”

He wasn’t flattering her. He was activating something deeper. It was never about the fruit. It was about giving her something to wonder about.

Sometime ago, i pondered upon as to what mark(effect) the serpent left on Eve.
I want to believe the serpent truly rubbed off on Eve and her generations.

If you study women,they have a serpentine kinda nature,cunning, jealous,manipulative,proud...and for the most part pushing for a cause aka bringing down who is above them.

In a perfect world, simping would be the norm , however we live in an imperfect world so a man must learn to develop the attributes to defend himself.
Female nature is corruptive, probably because they were not created originally hence take the form of whatever entity they find themselves in.
The fact they lack a mindset of their own,being easily swayed by lies and rumors says alot.

What is saddening is that modern men are being programmed to function and think in this capacity.

Taking a pint from the relationship between GOD and devil will enlighten a man as to how he must interact with a woman.

So yeah,I can relate a lot to what you said👍🏼

luminouz:
She say she gets one yeye boyfriend wey she wan marry but until I see him, I don't know how serious she is...

You think the sister of someone like me will not be redpilled?
Dey play 🤣🤣🤣

incase of any update. Alert me

Carot:
incase of any update. Alert me

Yes boss

An unsuccessful woman still gets treated like a woman.

An uneducated woman still gets treated like a woman.

A broke woman still gets treated like a woman.

But an unsuccessful, uneducated, and broke man? Nobody cares if he dies or lives.

emmaodet:
An unsuccessful woman still gets treated like a woman.

An uneducated woman still gets treated like a woman.

A broke woman still gets treated like a woman.

But an unsuccessful, uneducated, and broke man? Nobody cares if he dies or lives.

This is one of the truths that turn a boy into a man.

Kipaji:
This is one of the truths that turn a boy into a man.

Yes bro.

How is Cameroun?

emmaodet:
Yes bro.

How is Cameroun?

Miserable and dangerous. Everybody distrust everybody and everything. We don't have a society here (at least in the main urban areas), just a bunch people that happen to live in the same area (with zero trust). Most people divert towards compromising and illegal ways to make a living. I observe that a lot of Cameroonian have turn into zombies. I fear that we are at the brink of an implosion.
But still, there's hope. Presidential elections come in October. Hopefully, we'll get a new national leadership that can stimulate a bold dynamic that will foster growth, well-being, Africanity and security in this country.

Kipaji:
Miserable and dangerous. Everybody distrust everybody and everything. We don't have a society here (at least in the main urban areas), just a bunch people that happen to live in the same area (with zero trust). Most people divert towards compromising and illegal ways to make a living. I observe that a lot of Cameroonian have turn into zombies. I fear that we are at the brink of an implosion.
But still, there's hope. Presidential elections come in October. Hopefully, we'll get a new national leadership that can stimulate a bold dynamic that will foster growth, well-being, Africanity and security in this country.

What you described in not unusual or uncommon....it is happening here in Nigeria too and virtually all round the world.
I think it is the second or third stage of capitalism.

emmaodet:
What you described in not unusual or uncommon....it is happening here in Nigeria too and virtually all round the world.
I think it is the second or third stage of capitalism.

African capitalism. It’s only in Africa that capitalism has issues and that’s because the black man has failed.

Fiscus105:
Why replying a guy, whose his gf denying him, outrightly in his presence? Did you need a rocket science to know the type/level/intelligent of such guy? They think gragra is how to be in charge of relationship with woman.

Lots of men have WRONG beliefs about relationships & women. From red pilers to blue pillers to normal guys.

I've met smart, rich guys who have no clue what they're doing. In fact, the "smarter" a man is, the worse he tends to do with women. Why? Cause logic doesn't mix with emotions.

And women being emotional creatures see their excess logic as boring and a sign of easy manipulation.

So it's always best to show pointers when possible

SpencerForbes:
Nice one. I think you should talk more on vetting🤔

Vetting is a straightforward path with bumps along the way. They're are no bends or short cuts but the obstacles are what makes the process challenging

When guys ask me about vetting, it means they haven't asked themselves two VITAL questions: 1) Am I high value? 2) If yes, WHY?

Once you ask yourself this, it will be clear on the purpose of vetting. I've said it before you're not high Value because you're a man. You're high value because you're a man that HAS things & can DO things.

From that perspective you understand that any woman that doesn't add to your value and/or removes from it will simply not pass the vetting process.

It's important to remember that it's YOUR duty to vet her. Even though she might also assess you, the underlying frame should be that YOU are the one vetting. It is your world. It is your kingdom. If she wants to be a part of it, she has to prove herself.

Now, Before I go into a summary of steps for vetting, I want to make two things ABUNDANTLY CLEAR: 1) 80% of your vetting MUST be subtle. Meaning, you don't go about telling her "I'm watching you oo be careful" OR "I don't trust you. You have to prove yourself" Vetting is under the radar, unsuspecting. There's little room for her to pretend. 2) vetting MUST start BEFORE she becomes your gf. Guys make this terrible mistake of vetting a girl while she's in a relationship to see if she will become a wife. As you'll see in the steps, this is a grave mistake. Because a wife is just a girlfriend with a new outfit.


-------Steps in Vetting

● 1 Ask yourself: What do you want as a man?
Nothing is more important than this. Cuz if you're not clear on the kind of woman you want, you will go for anything. As they say: A man that stands fir nothing, will fall for anything.

So have a list of qualities YOU want


●Step 2: Take note of your resources. Generally as men, we have 4 resources: Money, Time, Attention, Guidance.
These are things that make you valuable. And if you're really high value, you know the work & effort to get them. So the woman coming into your life as gf or wife is someone who has proven herself and CONTINUES to prove herself. The last part is very important. There's no end to how much she should be willing to prove herself.


●Step 3. Ask yourself 2 questions. Question 1; what are the qualities of a woman that ADD to my resources. Question 2: what are the traits of a woman that REMOVE from my resources.

Then you apply the Screen in/out model. For question 1, you screen smart women, resourceful women. For question 2, screen out leeches, gold diggers etc


As you can see, it is obvious why you should be subtle when screening. If you let a girl know you're vetting her, she will act like a chameleon and blend In to who you want. That is why you can bring a woman and different men will have different versions of her "not my amaka" "not my Jennifer"

When women drop shìt tests, do they tell you they're testing you? Nope. They just test and watch you pass or fail. You can learn a lot by observing how women game. They methods they use work on them even more. That's why I encourage men to have interactions with women. It will be obvious how women play their games. Then you can use the same on them


Anyways, this just a brief overview of what vetting means. Maybe in the future I'll create deeper nuanced threads on what moments to vet and how to do it