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Hello fellow nairalanders, trust your day is going well
There is this female colleague of mine at work who buys stuffs for or me time to time especially when I help her out with a task.So yesterday was her birthday and she did a party at her home and we attended the party.She told me she likes me and won't mind if I can be her lover.I like her to a point as well and another thing is she is from a rich home though am ahead of her in the banking system but I haven't experienced this before.No girl has shown me love like this before.Sometimes, when we go for lunch (because she likes going for lunch with me) she never allow me pay her bill.Sometimes she will even pay mine and my fellow male collegues have encouraged me to ask her out but I don't really fancy relationships at work before she made it clear to me yesterday and I am scared she is not trying to set me up sha because I have being applying some red pill energy around me of recent 😂
What would you advise me to do yo

Enjoy your fantasy world brother. If real don't hesitate to enjoy the experience. In all you do just try to enjoy the sweet moments

If she brings more tasks, please complete everything without hesitation, lol.

Jokes apart....go ahead. You don't have anything to lose unless becoming boy boy..... certainly obviously she will be the one leading the relationship.

What if, you play reverse engineering. Don't say you will think about....say you want to focus more on your job. Beside workplace relationships get as he be. This doesn't seems like it will lead to something serious. But take the shoot with sense. This wan wey everybody don know...lol

Just make sure you chop... before closing

BrosG007:
If she brings more tasks, please complete everything without hesitation, lol.

Jokes apart....go ahead. You don't have anything to lose unless becoming boy boy..... certainly obviously she will be the one leading the relationship.

What if, you play reverse engineering. Don't say you will think about....say you want to focus more on your job. Beside workplace relationships get as he be. This doesn't seems like it will lead to something serious. But take the shoot with sense. This wan wey everybody don know...lol

Just make sure you chop... before closing

My fear is been dominated in the relationship in the future

My point exactly 💯. Bit, reading what you wrote here.....you have nothing to lose or gain at the same time. This is workplace relationship, and mouth don too much inside already. Any disagreement na your colleagues go dey help una settle am. Just act normal, if you even haven't shown your interest already through body language, lol.

Back off the first offer.... create the direction yourself.

Solofresh2:
My fear is been dominated in the relationship in the future

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow nairalanders, trust your day is going well
There is this female colleague of mine at work who buys stuffs for or me time to time especially when I help her out with a task.So yesterday was her birthday and she did a party at her home and we attended the party.She told me she likes me and won't mind if I can be her lover.I like her to a point as well and another thing is she is from a rich home though am ahead of her in the banking system but I haven't experienced this before.No girl has shown me love like this before.Sometimes, when we go for lunch (because she likes going for lunch with me) she never allow me pay her bill.Sometimes she will even pay mine and my fellow male collegues have encouraged me to ask her out but I don't really fancy relationships at work before she made it clear to me yesterday and I am scared she is not trying to set me up sha because I have being applying some red pill energy around me of recent 😂
What would you advise me to do yo

avoid office romance except you can get a better job elsewhere first. Don't complicate your life in this hard economy

Okay bro.





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My guy tryput body asap , no dulling. As long as say she like you and she no go bill you unnecessarily. But dating a colleague isnt advisable sha so try go anoda branch and make the ship work out well.

You are extremely lucky to be in 2 trains that most guys have never ever experienced before.

1. To be liked or loved first, by a Lady.
2. To be asked out or told I love you, first by a Lady.

I have never ever experienced both. So, lucky you. At a time, I even kept aside 10million Naira for the first lady who would ever do so to me, whossai, no one even look my side.

But guess that is no longer possible.

But all the same, enjoy your experience. Many of us wished for it but never had it. Na only Oloshos naim dey approach us, if we Waka pass wrong places at wrong time. But as for other ladies, na we dey always do the approaching. Made me to conclude that most Nigerian ladies are either too shy, too naive, or too cowardly to approach guys and express their feelings without being promoted or approached first. They would rather go to Shiloh and other Churches and waste time praying for a particular guy to approach them, instead of walking up to the guy and be open about how they feel

Just tell us you have a new girl and save us the stress

However what do you want to achieve by publicising this

Solofresh2:
My fear is been dominated in the relationship in the future

dominated how ? That only happens when you allow it to. Immediately handshake crosses the elbow, you cut it off and consistently cut that handshake by setting boundaries. Even Basiratu alagbo will try to dominate if you give her the chance talk less of this lady in your office and once they can control you, it's over. Stop any nonsense you see immediately and if it's what you can't condone or she repeatedly refuses to listen then, bounce. Tell her to carry her craze go front

PS, avoid office romance sha

Mr you are playing with fire.
And it seems you don't like your job anymore.
Please abort the mission because it will only end in premium tears. 🥺🥺🥺

essentialone:
You are extremely lucky to be in 2 trains that most guys have never ever experienced before.

1. To be liked or loved first, by a Lady.
2. To be asked out or told I love you, first by a Lady.

I have never ever experienced both. So, lucky you. At a time, I even kept aside 10million Naira for the first lady who would ever do so to me, whossai, no one even look my side.

But guess that is no longer possible.

But all the same, enjoy your experience. Many of us wished for it but never had it. Na only Oloshos naim dey approach us, if we Waka pass wrong places at wrong time. But as for other ladies, na we dey always do the approaching. Made me to conclude that most Nigerian ladies are either too shy, too naive, or too cowardly to approach guys and express their feelings without being promoted or approached first. They would rather go to Shiloh and other Churches and waste time praying for a particular guy to approach them, instead of walking up to the guy and be open about how they feel

Show your man some love BOSS. Make I send acct make you bless your man for breakfast. Laho

essentialone:
You are extremely lucky to be in 2 trains that most guys have never ever experienced before.

1. To be liked or loved first, by a Lady.
2. To be asked out or told I love you, first by a Lady.

I have never ever experienced both. So, lucky you. At a time, I even kept aside 10million Naira for the first lady who would ever do so to me, whossai, no one even look my side.

But guess that is no longer possible.

But all the same, enjoy your experience. Many of us wished for it but never had it. Na only Oloshos naim dey approach us, if we Waka pass wrong places at wrong time. But as for other ladies, na we dey always do the approaching. Made me to conclude that most Nigerian ladies are either too shy, too naive, or too cowardly to approach guys and express their feelings without being promoted or approached first. They would rather go to Shiloh and other Churches and waste time praying for a particular guy to approach them, instead of walking up to the guy and be open about how they feel

Honestly I haven't experienced it too.This is my first time and the love is even growing because I never really like her I just admire her feminine energy and her backside lol

Anijay1212:
Mr you are playing with fire.
And it seems you don't like your job anymore.
Please abort the mission because it will only end in premium tears. 🥺🥺🥺

Aborting this mission will be very hard because am growing into it already but I will apply common sense sha

KillahPriest:
dominated how ? That only happens when you allow it to. Immediately handshake crosses the elbow, you cut it off and consistently cut that handshake by setting boundaries. Even Basiratu alagbo will try to dominate if you give her the chance talk less of this lady in your office and once they can control you, it's over. Stop any nonsense you see immediately and if it's what you can't condone or she repeatedly refuses to listen then, bounce. Tell her to carry her craze go front

PS,avoid office romance sha

The love is growing already and am kind of confused sef

They say: Don't shit where you eat!

You can figure out the rest of the proverb yourself!

This is the thing; a girl that tells she likes you, had told some guys before you she liked them, and shall also tell other guy she likes him. Before a lady shows interest in you, she had already written her script and knew how the film would end ; you are just a lead character while she's the director.

Bro, deflate that dopamine; you are not the most handsome, smartest & richest. Now imagine after some time of getting along, there was a conflict, and you discover she's “seeing” someone else in the same workplace, how would you feel ?; sure discomfort and resentment for work.Gradually you begin to loose that virtue that attracts ladies to you;PURPOSE.

Cease that “opportunity”, cut her “pie”, is all a lie. NOTHING is FREE from LADIES(especially non-traditional ones), not even a cup of water; all have HEAVY price tags .

Solofresh2:
Hello fellow nairalanders, trust your day is going well
There is this female colleague of mine at work who buys stuffs for or me time to time especially when I help her out with a task.So yesterday was her birthday and she did a party at her home and we attended the party.She told me she likes me and won't mind if I can be her lover.I like her to a point as well and another thing is she is from a rich home though am ahead of her in the banking system but I haven't experienced this before.No girl has shown me love like this before.Sometimes, when we go for lunch (because she likes going for lunch with me) she never allow me pay her bill.Sometimes she will even pay mine and my fellow male collegues have encouraged me to ask her out but I don't really fancy relationships at work before she made it clear to me yesterday and I am scared she is not trying to set me up sha because I have being applying some red pill energy around me of recent 😂
What would you advise me to do yo

I read this piece early in the day but was very busy... I promise myself to come back and also advice u...

First, I want u to know that ladies are ladies ..like the same..only a few things differ from.person to person..

E.g, looks, carriage and class...

1.Looks: for looks it is usually natural and not by effort of most ladies..

2. Carriage: the way sh carry herself like her eloquence, dress sense, smell, commands respect and being vocal...

3. Class : is mostly about her level of education, level of income, and level of exposure...

Now come.to think of these..it is highly possible this ur said colleague has two of the three listed .I have not seen her looks, so can't tell..


Now come to relationship, I have dated and dated and come to know ladies alot. U see dat one day has chosen to like u naturally, plz stay with her..if sh meets ur candy...stop chasing after ppl dat will giv u headache..

Reasons..

1. Sh will make things easier for u

2. Sh will easily condescend to ur leadership

3. Sh will b totally helpful without reluctance in ur time.of need both physical , health wise and financial

4. Sh will later forgive u if u wronged her and genuinely apologize to her...

Guy ,stay with her and try to live only ladies who love u....not. Those u convince to love u..

Yes .it is true that when u date her, attention at the branch will b in u guyz and it may lead one of u to b transfered and in the time.of marriage one may lose the job...don't worry..

Her family that found her that job plus ur own connection will find her what next to do..good women are not to b let slip away..

Plz dnt dat stingy girls or difficult ladies all in the name of ego... relationship is not an FBI schemes or compensation for dominance in the house...

Plz dnt let that girl slip away

bigpicture001:
I read this piece early in the day but was very busy... I promise myself to come back and also advice u...

First, I want u to know that ladies are ladies ..like the same..only a few things differ from.person to person..

E.g, looks, carriage and class...

1.Looks: for looks it is usually natural and not by effort of most ladies..

2. Carriage: the way sh carry herself like her eloquence, dress sense, smell, commands respect and being vocal...

3. Class : is mostly about her level of education, level of income, and level of exposure...

Now come.to think of these..it is highly possible this ur said colleague has two of the three listed .I have not seen her looks, so can't tell..


Now come to relationship, I have dated and dated and come to know ladies alot. U see dat one day has chosen to like u naturally, plz stay with her..if sh meets ur candy...stop chasing after ppl dat will giv u headache..

Reasons..

1. Sh will make things easier for u

2. Sh will easily condescend to ur leadership

3. Sh will b totally helpful without reluctance in ur time.of need both physical , health wise and financial

4. Sh will later forgive u if u wronged her and genuinely apologize to her...

Guy ,stay with her and try to live only ladies who love u....not. Those u convince to love u..

Yes .it is true that when u date her, attention at the branch will b in u guyz and it may lead one of u to b transfered and in the time.of marriage one may lose the job...don't worry..

Her family that found her that job plus ur own connection will find her what next to do..good women are not to b let slip away..

Plz dnt dat stingy girls or difficult ladies all in the name of ego... relationship is not an FBI schemes or compensation for dominance in the house...

Plz dnt let that girl slip away

I have taught about this too be because only the girl that approached me in secondary school then, I shunned her off.I don't have the resources to look after a lady then but I felt sad for her.Growing up I begin to understand better about life and relationships and this particular lady has done it again emotionally (she is very emotional)
So I want to keep her.We have talked about our job and the thing is I can't work as an employer forever as I will also want to stand on my own.She is even assuring me that if anything happens to the job (God forbid) she has enough connections for a better job but am not relying on that as I have my own goals
Thanks for the advice sir