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Dzzzz:
It doesn’t matter if she was a virgin or not,any woman who wants to cheat will cheat..You need to act like the man of the house and stop listening to her lies bro..She’s doing something behind your back if what you say is true..Go to through her phone and if you see anything then throw her out..Life is to precious to waste your time on a cheater..Call her family and tell them what she’s been doing..You’re the man of the house so step up and don’t be soft..If you see that trader for road Abeg give am 2 slap for me.

I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

DaCharis2016:
The story is very interesting ooo!

Pls do and come and continue the film 😂😂

Ajeh!!!

I swr guy the story interesting like maddd.
OP post follow up story, I fit pay to read am

Xso666:
I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

1. Seems your wife is a house wife.
2. You are more likely an introvert and don't give her vibes like the other guy
3. The have started knacking or started having a romantic relationship if not guilty conscience won't make the guy run .
4. That ur contract that was cancelled that is a warning shot to you that if ur wife continue in such more calamities might happen to you.
5. Just scare her that you would do something traditional on her that any day she sleep with any man is finished for her

Me I no be saint oooo but I understand as e dey be

Xso666:
I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

Bro let me tell you something way open my eye. There's one married woman I met, her husband married her as a virgin, but I was surprised her strong tendency to cheat which I didn't think was common in virgins. Mind you she hasn't cheated before, but wanted to make plans with me, I had to swerve the plans way. The fact I did that, doesn't mean the next guy she will meet will.

That encounter makes me laugh whenever I hear men say marry virgin wife.

Daniiel:
1. Seems your wife is a house wife.
2. You are more likely an introvert and don't give her vibes like the other guy
3. The have started knacking or started having a romantic relationship if not guilty conscience won't make the guy run .
4. That ur contract that was cancelled that is a warning shot to you that if ur wife continue in such more calamities might happen to you.
5. Just scare her that you would do something traditional on her that any day she sleep with any man is finished for her

Me I no be saint oooo but I understand as e dey be

Yes I’m an introvert and my wife is a house wife for now she just finished her service so no job yet but we are Catholics and don’t do traditional rituals. But I try to give her vibes as much as I can I really don’t know what other vibes she might be needing to warrant such act

gravity4:
Bro let me tell you something way open my eye. There's one married woman I met, her husband married her as a virgin, but I was surprised her strong tendency to cheat which I didn't think was common in virgins. Mind you she hasn't cheated before, but wanted to make plans with me, I had to swerve the plans way. The fact I did that, doesn't mean the next guy she will meet will.

That encounter makes me laugh whenever I hear men say marry virgin wife.

You must be a disciplined man to avoid such act. My wife is young and beautiful and she is a fresh graduate with no job yet. Someone said I don’t give her vibes she want so I’m thinking if she is already bored or something that made her to think that way

Your problem is the you over magnified her virginity and you have been caged mentally by that but...it's unfortunate your wife is gone because she has tasted the street and her life will never remain the same.
Just check her phone and see what will kill you before your time.
That's life bro.... virginity is not the ultimate.
Be wise

kenn4rill:
Your problem is the you over magnified her virginity and you have been caged mentally by that but...it's unfortunate your wife is gone because she has tasted the street and her life will never remain the same.
Just check her phone and see what will kill you before your time.
That's life bro.... virginity is not the ultimate.
Be wise

I really do love my wife and I prayed before I got married to her so I see nothing bad in magnifying the woman in my life

People seem to have serious comprehension issues. This man first called his wife and she lied she was home! That's Red flag number 1.How did most of u miss this? Let's ask ourselves this question, why did she have to lie? She obviously lied because she couldn't afford to say where she was cos it would lead to further questions! Now this man caught her with a man late in the evening, why are we waiting for the man to catch them in bed before already knowing what has transpired?
To the poster, it's unfortunate that ur virgin wife has started trying out other men, it's now left for you to either forgive her and move on or send her Back to her parents, your the one wearing the shoe so follow your heart. In my years on this earth I have seen decent married ladies almost fall for other men, sometimes innocently, so if you have a wife always remind her daily that she is loved don't let an outsider shower her with love

Xso666:
I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

You're wrong to seize her phone cause it has no meaning,have you checked to see if there’s any hidden details?..You also must go confront the trader and if possible give him the warning of his life..If you don’t stamp your authority on your wife,she will do it again..She’s seeing the guy behind your back and it’s been happening everytime you travel..

In summary, your Virgin wife is gone thats if your story is true cuz for her to lie alone makes whatever pleads void.

Xso666:
I am here to seek suggestions from experience people and I don’t just want to act based on my own thoughts alone so I don’t regret my actions later

Stop the cap...

Which suggestions do you want again?? Your story is a lie.

mariobalotelli09:
People seem to have serious comprehension issues. This man first called his wife and she lied she was home! That's Red flag number 1.How did most of u miss this? Let's ask ourselves this question, why did she have to lie? She obviously lied because she couldn't afford to say where she was cos it would lead to further questions! Now this man caught her with a man late in the evening, why are we waiting for the man to catch them in bed before already knowing what has transpired?
To the poster, it's unfortunate that ur virgin wife has started trying out other men, it's now left for you to either forgive her and move on or send her Back to her parents, your the one wearing the shoe so follow your heart. In my years on this earth I have seen decent married ladies almost fall for other men, sometimes innocently, so if you have a wife always remind her daily that she is loved don't let an outsider shower her with love

Outsiders don't shower any married woman with love

They provide attention and diick...and soon enough, that fizzles out too.

kenn4rill:
Your problem is the you over magnified her virginity and you have been caged mentally by that but...it's unfortunate your wife is gone because she has tasted the street and her life will never remain the same.
Just check her phone and see what will kill you before your time.
That's life bro.... virginity is not the ultimate.
Be wise

Are you wise? Nope

You are clearly reinforcing what he is trying to sell...that virgins are not what any man should look for...but boreholes.

That dude just socially conditioned you and you didn't even know..

Xso666:
I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

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Yeah right

gravity4:
Bro let me tell you something way open my eye. There's one married woman I met, her husband married her as a virgin, but I was surprised her strong tendency to cheat which I didn't think was common in virgins. Mind you she hasn't cheated before, but wanted to make plans with me, I had to swerve the plans way. The fact I did that, doesn't mean the next guy she will meet will.

That encounter makes me laugh whenever I hear men say marry virgin wife.

Yes..marry virgin wife...at least you broke her in first...not like the boreholes everywhere you want to force on us.
Tufiakwa

Dzzzz:
You're wrong to seize her phone cause it has no meaning,have you checked to see if there’s any hidden details?..You also must go confront the trader and if possible give him the warning of his life..If you don’t stamp your authority on your wife,she will do it again..She’s seeing the guy behind your back and it’s been happening everytime you travel..

I am thinking of confronting the trader but I don’t want to look immature by doing that because my wife is an adult too

Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

wahala. I didnt do anything with him?? Do you have to do anything with him before you can tag it cheating? Is not really about the intercourse but the act.

DaCharis2016:
The story is very interesting ooo!

Pls do and come and continue the film 😂😂

Ajeh!!!

hhh very interesting I swear

16 more characters needed

What has 'I married a virgin wife's got to do with your issue?

You married a disguised-virgin and streetwise girl, she was able to hoodwink you because you seem to be a novice in the matter of women

My honest take on this situation:

First, posting this on Nairaland might not be the best idea. While it's a popular forum, you’re likely to receive a flood of diverse opinions—many from younger or less-experienced individuals—that may only add to your confusion and emotional stress.

Issues like this are deeply personal and should ideally be discussed with someone you trust—someone mature, married, and emotionally grounded. Alternatively, consider seeking advice from a professional counselor or relationship coach.

Now to the issue at hand:

The red flags are glaring—your wife lied, and you caught her strolling with another man. While there’s no concrete evidence that she slept with him, from everything you’ve described, there are clear signs of emotional (and possibly physical) intimacy. The panic and scream when they saw you suggest a level of guilt and fear that shouldn't be present in a platonic friendship. It's also clear that there’s mutual fondness between her and the man.

First of all, I’m truly sorry you’re going through this. No man deserves to be in a relationship where trust is compromised.

Secondly, understand that this decision is entirely yours to make. You must confront this situation firmly and decisively—because if you don’t deal with it now, it will fester and haunt your peace in the long run.

Here’s what I suggest:

Call a family meeting—with both families present. Let her people hear what happened. If you decide to continue the relationship, this needs to come with a serious warning and clear boundaries. Transparency and accountability must be demanded moving forward.

Take time for yourself—create space to reflect. Sometimes distance helps bring clarity. Don’t rush to make a decision under pressure or emotional duress.

Consider seperation or cancelling the marriage—especially since there are no children involved yet. That’s a blessing in disguise. Introducing children into this kind of instability will only complicate things further.

If you still choose to continue the marriage with her (though I strongly advise caution), avoid getting her pregnant for now. You must be completely sure that you’re the only one in the picture—emotionally, physically, and otherwise.

Finally, don’t be too quick to believe everything she has told you—especially if she claimed to be a virgin. Many people, unfortunately, manipulate the truth in relationships. Be wise. Don’t ignore your instincts, and don’t ignore the signs.

Wishing you strength, wisdom, and clarity as you navigate this.

Yawnnnnnnns, Muchecheche , na una Sabi oooooo 😜 Muchecheche

Oh, it’s this topic again. Yawn.


xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Xso666:
Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

Women too funny man. So you resisted the man and after resisting, you still carry him to your husband house.


Guy they knack your wife wetin no good outside. Them wan come your house come finish work.

The reason she is bringing him home is so that when you call on video call, she can pick it and the guy will hide somewhere.

When you’re done, he will Bleep the hell out of your wife.

let her go because your wouldn't forget it.
life is short.

DaCharis2016:
The story is very interesting ooo!

Pls do and come and continue the film 😂😂

Ajeh!!!

This story is concorted, fabricated and extremely fake

This movie should be called "The thoughting man vs The virgin wife".

Firebox123:
if this fake news can reach frontpage

Seun mynd44 Dominique just delete my nairaland account with immediate effects

This story is concorted, fabricated and extremely fake

Xso666:
She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

But I'm afraid Sir, this story is entirely false. Even if a virgin wife would cheat, it can't be that early especially in a new environment. We are not gullible here Sir.
100% fabricated