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FRANCISTOWN:
Why did you have to put "My Virgin wife"?

Your wife is your wife, the virginity was not needed if you weren't trying to push an agenda.

An evil person is an evil person whether they are virgins or not.


Lemme say something quickly about people who push the virgin propaganda.

They say, being virgin is not enough. Character is very important.


Yes character is very important but virginity or non virginity does not change a lady 's character.

An uncultured, unlucky and disrespectful virgin lady will still be uncultured, unlucky and disrespectful when she becomes a non virgin, therefore choose virgin.

At least it shows she's disciplined and virtuous.


A homely, submissive, disciplined and respectful virgin girl will be homely, submissive, disciplined and respectful when she becomes non-virgin.


There are non virgin girls with some good qualities likewise there are virgin girls with good qualities. Therefore, virginity still wins.

There are non virgin girls with really bad qualities and there are also virgins with bad qualities. Virginity still wins.

The fact that your wife is a virgin shows she has discipline to an extent. She's not entirely evil.

Sorry what point are you driving here...?

Yo man!
A woman can swear with bibble or quran with no fear, but can’t do such with traditional idol.

I don’t believe a woman’s tears , it’s blackmail most atimes.
She’s lied to u abt her location, she’s hanging out with a stranger (male) odd hours and expect u to believe it like a punk, c’mon man, that’s trash talk. She’s straffing that dude for real. Don’t bonk her. Cos anoda man’s seed might already be inside her.
The dude ran cos of guilty conscience.
Involve ur fam and hers
Pick her fone , u will see clues in it.
Isolate her temporarily till u clear ur head and decide if she’s worth the second chance or not

Another fake story. Lots of such fairytales these days.

Kobojunkie:
No wonder it seems most of you have been mentally mindfucked.😂😂😂

You placed your bet, in marriage and life, on the virginity of a woman— not even your own— to solve over 80% of your life issues, including those in marriage. Now that you realize it does not solve anything — that was all your mental delusions talking to you — you quickly jump to accusing your fate of being manipulated? Of course it was, and by you. 😂😂

What is even sadder is that you think of the woman as property for you to monitor and hold down as you like. Anyway, ask your woman what is going on and try to learn to give her the benefit of the doubt until you have absolute proof that she is seeing someone else besides you. Even then, all you can do is divorce her and maybe go find yourself another mythical virgin creature out there to cure all of your problems in life. 😂😂

And in the end, you forgot to say something about your fellow wayward gender . Typical of you, never disappoint

Xso666:
Thanks for your thoughts but why I put virgin wife was because I was so proud that I was able to marry a virgin as I promised myself never to marry a woman that is not a virgin and now this is happening to me so it’s like my fate is being manipulated and I don’t know what to do at this point in time

Abstinence doesn't necessarily translate to a good partner; I've seen cases where people go without sex for years, but their character is poor.

Adds up to my previous response. Don't expect love from a lady, a lady can't truly love you, a woman only loves a child but a lady can respect you, infact in any relationship you should demand respect. She disrespected you when she lied to you that she is at home while she is with another man. She even disrespected you the more to bring a man into your marital home.

End it, there is no way around it. Anyone that tells you anything otherwise is either a lady or a man looking at the situation with emotion.

I would tell a man the same thing if my kids sister did such.

Xso666:
Thanks for this because I never want to drag her parents in now and that is why I came here to seek suggestions first

Well, if you don't leave her now, you will leave her later because she just discovered her talent. Why not now when there is no child or pregnancy involved

Xso666:
She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

It doesn't matter if she says has done something or not. What matters is that she lied when you ask her about her whereabouts. People lie for 2 major reason. 1. To mislead and 2. For fear. Whatever her reason was, it is bad. She either has an affair with that man or you must have warned her about that man, hence her fear. All scenarios are bad. For the man running away, they are doing something together. My advice is to involve her parents since she won't come out clean.

My guy to be frank with you, your wife is cheating on you, for her to exchange pleasantries with the guy and later both of them pretended as if they don't know each other speak volumes, also for her to lie to you that she was in the house with she wasn't there prove she's cheating, cheating start from lies. Also why did the guy run away having sighted you, if he wasn't guilty of something?So I recommend divorce, cos a cheating wife or girlfriend can never change, though don't divorce her quickly until you get substantial evidence. Just behave normal and play along, let her know you believe her while watching her closely you will definitely get her. You can buy a phone and put it on recorder hide it in your house anytime you go out or go to work, then when you get back take it to a private place and play it, you'll definitely hear her conversation with the guy or any other guy then you take your final decision.

I will advise you encourage her to maintain your trust for her especially in your absence because obviously she is hungry to fill emotionally any space you will leave because of your work demands. Encourage her to work on her feelings. If she doesn't have a work get her one or get her to learn a skill, and in the meantime get someone to always come around to stay with her anytime you are days off for work. Also Make that guy you saw her with a friend, and get his details.
Make sure you sound respectful in trying to persuade her to do any of these.

Arostar2023:
The repeated emphasis on "virgin" gave him away. He wrote the story to manipulate people's emotions...

Well, some immature men carry virginity on their heads like gala. You heard him saying marrying a virgin made him believe that 80% of his problem was solved

Obviouslyblunt:
This lady has shown you who she is, even had the gut to lie to you that she was at home and her phone battery low. And some clowns on this website are advising you to take it like a man, go for counseling and not involve her parents?

You have two options..

Option 1- she gets better at hiding her trails and continues with her act of disregarding and disrespecting you.


Option 2- you get your peace of mind back without her. You’ll never trust her the same way again. She will never trust you haven’t forgiven her again. You both will just resent each other with time.


So if this story is true, you are only a couple of time away from bringing another thread to this website titled “My wife has left me for another man”. Good luck.

If the guy is even wise. First thing he does is send her packing and second thing is to tell her parent what she has done and his decision (sending her home). But we men are fools sometimes, he won't do it unless he's one of few men that think right.

Firebox123:
until this same nairaland account start scamming innocent people on nairaland

Watch and see

No be so odafe start wetin end ham

That people should contribute for him to marry another wife or what?

Xso666:
She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

There is no way the guy had not had sex with her.
What did you think she went to do with him, or do you think they went to pray together?

I think of you forgiving her but even after forging her, she will still go back to him because she has tasted him. When you are away for work, the guy is the husband.. other husbands will still join the cue.


This is so painful. Call her parents, forget about your resolve not to involve 3rd parties.

When the Bush is on fire, the antelope ceases to fear the Hunter's bullets.

This one is a learner
The day I smell something near with my wife, the day she leaves to her side man's house.
No time to check time

maasoap:
Well, some immature men carry virginity on their heads like gala. You heard him saying marrying a virgin made him believe that 80% of his problem was solved

You are still assuming that OP is for real. How can 80% of his problem be solved by simply marrying a virgin? This is a story concocted with the sole aim of belittling "virgins" and making virginity look inconsequential. That's what it looks and sounds like.

Xso666:
Hello nairalanders, I am new to this forum and I was introduced by a friend of mine to this forum to seek advice on how to go about my marital issue.

Here is the problem, I married my wife a virgin and as at that time she was almost done with schooling as I met her when I went to stay with a friend around her school area. So we connected and then I told her I had interest in her and I would like for us to be in a relationship so she agreed and we started dating.

Fast forward to 2024 she was done with school so I went to pay her bride price and then brought her over to Lagos where I stay and then we started living together as husband and wife.

Everything has been moving fine after I disvirgined my wife and I felt like I was the luckiest man on earth and I feel like I already made it in life because I believe as a man if you get a good wife then you have solved 80% of your problem the remaining 20% will be making money to sustain the family.

So of lately I notice my virgin wife became so addicted to sex that she barely can’t go a day without sex and I am ready to give it to her any day any time.

So I traveled for work sometimes around feb 2025 and I stayed 2 weeks over there so when I came back I decided to take a stroll with my wife to get something down the street so I noticed as I was getting something she greeted a guy that sells female stuffs in my street so immediately I turned to talk to her she quickly discharged the guy and then they both acted like they were not talking together well I was unbothered because I mean the guy is just a trader doing his business and maybe she bought something from him and so I suspected nothing. Not until I noticed my wife likes going out to get things and she would spend time outside and this is something she doesn’t like doing before so I thought she is getting used to the Lagos life and so she is enjoying herself now and comfortable now in Lagos. I never had any insecurities whatsoever because I don’t believe she could have anything to do with any man since I married her a virgin although I know she has high sexual drive but I still think she can’t do no such thing.

Fast forward to sometimes around June I traveled again but this time somewhere close to where I live so I told her I would be spending a week or more and so I left to work getting there we lodged and waiting for update as regards to why we are here so on the 3rd day the contractor called and said we should all go and come back that the job has been rescheduled till the next month so I decided to go back home that same day since it was not far from where I stay so I tried reaching out to my wife’s number but she wasn’t reachable so I thought her phone was off, so I boarded a bus home to relax and break the news to her only to find my house locked and my wife wasn’t home and her phone was not going through so I managed to open the door using my spare key and then went inside and took my shower then I went to the kitchen but there was no food to eat so I decided to prepare something for us to eat in the house. I tried reaching my wife again and still not reachable and it was getting late already so I was worried and was curious to know what happened to her because she’s not so conversant with areas in Lagos. So I decided to pray and take some wine while I wait to think of my next action.

Suddenly she messaged me and told me she has not been able to charge her phone and there have not been light in the house, so I asked her where she was and she told me she was in the house and then I told her to come on video call I want to show her something I got for her but she told me the ba3 will die that she managed to use this to call me so I know she’s fine well I told her there was no problem and she should do her to make sure the battery don’t die so we can communicate tonight. So I went outside the compound only for me to find my wife coming back that night with this guy that sells female stuffs down the street and she was so shocked to see me at home she shouted immediately saw me and the guy just disappeared from no where.

Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

Lies!

A lady who kept herself for the first 23 years of her life will not suddenly turn promiscuous after marriage.

Make you dey try to use punctuation my guy.
Your wife is a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets.It is what it is.

Xso666:
She has sworn with everything that she didn’t do anything with the guy. We promised not to involve 3rd party in our relationship but at this point I am thinking of doing that which is why I came here to seek advice and not to act based on emotions because I love my wife so much

Interesting, if your wife has done nothing with the man,why did he suddenly disappeared the moment he sighted you?Why was your wife panicking seeing you at a time, she least expected you at home? Anyway, the past is gone. A life without Christ is filled with crisis. As long as you and your wife are not regenerated, both of you are joking. You will both be unfaithful to each other.Jesus made the different. Look for any Bible believing church today and be born again. From my experience in relationship with women,except you meet a man on top of a woman, no woman would agree with you that she has committed adultery of fornication.

Xso666:
Thanks for your thoughts but why I put virgin wife was because I was so proud that I was able to marry a virgin as I promised myself never to marry a woman that is not a virgin and now this is happening to me so it’s like my fate is being manipulated and I don’t know what to do at this point in time

So, virginity is now a certificate of Chastity? Why are baby men like this?

Bro, for you to have come here, seeking advice it means you still love your wife, and I'd advice you to love her more, this will later make you guys stronger, many people will criticize me for saying this but bro, I've seen live experience of something similar and I intervened, trust me same thing that I advice you they did too, and till date they are fine... except if you don't love her anymore,

Yes give her time,
Yes, give yourself time too as you need to heal, but most importantly, find a way to get her to confess all other things she had done to to you, make her comfortable to tell you... I wish I can explain to you audibly... you can add me as friends sha.. I have a lot to share concerning this.[/color][color=#990000]

Where in Lagos do you reside?

I can help you lure your wife to see if she will obliged

@Ihenzy and others, because one person was a scam, doesn't mean all would be scam, make una calm down jare, and not like you all are saints Ooo, abegi make una free the man, na make everyone dey smart and watchful not to get Scammed by anyone. But putting too much attention on someone can cause another problem, moreover u all should learn to be your brothers keeper, if this story is genuine then its not something we should joke with Ooo..

Xso666:
Till now I don’t just know what to do because I married this woman a virgin but she has turned something else and I don’t know if to tell her parents or handle this like a man within us here although she told me she didn’t do anything with him that he tried to have her but she didn’t but how do I believe that please guys help me move this to front page so I get more suggestions as I am really confused.

I don't think nairaland is the best place to seek advise concerning matters like this if you dey serious o

Guys should we tell him

maasoap:
✓ And in the end, you forgot to say something about your fellow wayward gender . Typical of you, never disappoint

Nonsense! I didn't forget 🙄🙄🙄

OP is the one here trying to convince us that his wife is the problem and all of this without proof, something he admits to.

shadeyinka2:
Lies!

A lady who kept herself for the first 23 years of her life will not suddenly turn promiscuous after marriage.

I am glad someone else posted this and not me. 🥱🥱🥱

Xso666:
I have seized her phone which I know I’m not supposed to do as someone on this forum also told me she’s my equal and I can’t control her like a child but I just have to seize her phone to be sure she has not been contacting anyone in the past because I am not a harsh type and I love to treat my woman with respect and the reason why I tagged my post virgin wife was because I though I have made it in life the moment I disvirgined my wife I was so happy and I couldn’t even explain the joy I got in disvirgining my wife as it is my first time to do that. This incident got me bleeped up and I don’t know how to go about it as there are no virgins in this present society

I just want you to know no man can satisfy a nymphomaniac, the fact that she left the house locked since morning and came back at night with a man means she already got another sexual partner. With time she would get more cuz both of you can’t satisfy her urge.

The truth is that ,she will still do it again ....your wife love Bleep...sex ..so there is Notting you can do.....she will Bleep the next person....this time..I bet you...you will never know

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! I didn't forget 🙄🙄🙄

OP is the one here trying to convince us that his wife is the problem and all of this without proof, something he admits to.

Oh! I didn't know that he should come here to admit wrong doing just to please you. May be we should write invitation letter to the wife to come and state her side of the story. You will never change

You probably married a virgin os from a Christian home who only engage in anal sxx while keeping the pussy for a man like you..