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My husband brags to his friends how am a strong woman and how I have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything.

Meanwhile this his friends don’t treat their wife like he does yet he cant learn from them. I’ve been keeping quiet but today broke the camels back.

Today is my 30th birthday and all my husband could do is post happy birthday Iron Lady on WhatsApp and facebook.

All this because i try to be patient with him or not nag him. Now i believe why is important to give men small High BP and less peace of mind so they can sit up because being an understanding wife only makes them relax and leads to this type of treatment meanwhile the wicked women are steady enjoying their home

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(Not my story. Came across this and it really hit me. What do you think?)

A woman will light a match and when the fire starts, she will cry and blame the man for the same fire she started. Oya, go and be giving your husband small BP and less peace like you said, we will see who will first go hospital.

While it's good to push your husband, It should be done with love. No push am too much make he no use you do money. Meanwhile are you handicapped? Go and work too. Na only for work women no dey claim gender equality.

Nonexisting1:
A woman will light a match and when the fire starts, she will cry and blame the man for the same fire she started. Oya, go and be giving your husband small BP and less peace like you said, we will see who will first go hospital.

You don't get it because you're no different from him; you’re clearly a user just like he is. He has a good wife, but he refuses to reciprocate by being a good husband. It's her thirtieth birthday, for God's sake! He can't just go around bragging about her efforts. He could have shown he cares by simply buying her something, even if it wasn’t expensive.

Omoh, of a truth, i understand the woman's frustration. I'm a man and I'm aware of the fact that most of my gender relaxes, once they meet a woman that foots bills. They refuse to understand that women in cases like this, they have an elastic limit and when stretched over, they Weaken.

I understand things could be hard but it shouldn't give a man that liberty to relax and watch his woman foot all the bills. With time, they will break. African men, we have pride and ego. And one of such is, not allowing our women to foot bills in the home.

I'm not saying a womam shouldn't be supportive but it shouldn't be at the detriment of her feminine power. Men were meant to be providers and no matter how tough things may be, we need to keep fighting to keep the home.

A woman's role is to complement.

Merry100:
You don't get it because you're no different from him; you’re clearly a user just like he is. He has a good wife, but he refuses to reciprocate by being a good husband. It's her thirtieth birthday, for God's sake! He can't just go around bragging about her efforts. He could have shown he cares by simply buying her something, even if it wasn’t expensive.

So he went about bragging about his wife is now the problem? You want him to go about painting her bad instead? What is it that women actually want? By the way, what is so important about her 30th birthday and is she the only person to reach 30? What did she buy for her husband's own birthday or he doesn't have a birth date.🤔

Merry100:
➜ My husband brags to his friends how am a strong woman and how I have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything. Meanwhile this his friends don’t treat their wife like he does yet he cant learn from them.
➜ I’ve been keeping quiet but today broke the camels back. Today is my 30th birthday and all my husband could do is post happy birthday Iron Lady on WhatsApp and facebook.
➜ All this because i try to be patient with him or not nag him.
➜ Now i believe why is important to give men small High BP and less peace of mind so they can sit up because being an understanding wife only makes them relax and leads to this type of treatment
➜ meanwhile the wicked women are steady enjoying their home (Not my story. Came across this and it really hit me. What do you think?)

1. Birds of a feather, they say, flock together after all.

2. Endurance wives are iron ladies, naw... they endure all sorts of bullsheet as that is their particular claim to fame.

3. Patient? Oh, No! Endurance wives are not patient at all. Rather, they passively accept every scoop of poop shoved their way.

4. Won't giving them high BP backfire more times than not?

5. They aren't all wicked women. Those who lied to you that such women are wicked are probably the same men who hail you for being an endurance woman. Those women instead know what they want and deserve in particular situations — I acknowledge it is hard to have it all in Nigerian marriages — and they choose never to settle for less than that. Human who truly love and value themselves should live every moment of their lives with a similar attitude.

suckprick:
➜While it's good to push your husband, It should be done with love. No push am too much make he no use you do money. Meanwhile are you handicapped? Go and work too. Na only for work women no dey claim gender equality.

She should go and work while her husband, too, should also begin doing housework with her, right?

Nonexisting1:
So he went about bragging about his wife is now the problem? You want him to go about painting her bad instead? What is it that women actually want? By the way, what is so important about her 30th birthday and is she the only person to reach 30? What did she buy for her husband's own birthday or he doesn't have a birth date.🤔

Isn’t it ironic that the very reason a caring woman argues or complains is because she cares; and yet, that's what triggers some people to be violent?

People like you deserve emotionally detached women; those who are unconcerned and not invested in you. The kind who would praise you even when you're headed in the wrong direction, while focusing solely on their own personal growth.

Women often give their all in relationships. They care deeply, make sacrifices, and invest their emotions completely. Some women would even be content living in a hut with a man they love. But a wise man understands that relationships require mutual affection. He would never take a woman’s love and sacrifices for granted. Even the smallest gesture of appreciation can make a woman feel valued and strengthen her love.

Nonexisting1:
A woman will light a match and when the fire starts, she will cry and blame the man for the same fire she started. Oya, go and be giving your husband small BP and less peace like you said, we will see who will first go hospital.

Many women can endure hardship and tolerate a lot of the tantrums men throw. But physical violence and infidelity? Those are deal breakers for most.

You are not showing any kind gesture, yet you are violent. You will learn a lesson. Haven’t you seen men who come online throwing tantrums because their wives left without saying a word? Or those whose wives secretly applied for a visa and flew out of the country without any prior notice?

If you have a good marriage, please keep it and value the spouse giving you peace.

It is not wise to look for wrong adventure after peace.

This post is painful but honest, and sadly, a lot of women will relate. It shows how being patient and supportive is often taken for granted, not appreciated. She stood by him when he had nothing, and he still gives her nothing not just materially, but emotionally. Calling her “Iron Lady” on her 30th birthday like it's a badge of honor for enduring mistreatment is tone-deaf. Love isn’t about enduring pain in silence. It’s about partnership and growth. Sometimes being “understanding” gets mistaken for weakness. It’s okay to demand more. Respect, love, and effort should go both ways in a marriage.



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A few things:

1. Lady probably has poor communication, most Nigerian woman do. Your husband should know how you feel, nobody comes to a marriage perfectly fit for the other. Thing is, the culture shuts many of us Nigerians up. We’re not expected to express ourselves to the point that it even affects our politics. We’re expected to keep quiet when politicians steal because they’re somehow “honorables”.

2. Husband seems immature, doesn’t understand keeping boundaries with friends over marital affairs.

I believe you love ur husband to some good measure, and that is why you have stood by him till now.

If ur story is true, then u have tried.

What you need to do is to cleverly chip-in ideas to him that can improve his finances. Also, you can connect him to some people or projects instead of waiting quietly for him to get it right by himself.

It's a union. You shld actually be designed to make him better. Just as he should also care for you, and love you.

Don't join the band wagon of evil women that thinks giving a man BP is the best way. It will only result to ur hubby dieing early or generates toxidity in the marriage and he will eventually kick you out or divorce you.

Try the suggested ideas first. Otherwise, you will not enjoy ur marriage or may find yourself in the streets very quickly.

My husband brags to his friends how am a strong woman and how I have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything.

Noted.

She is very right I am just an example, but I won't advice her to give her husband BP and less peace if she doesn't want to be a widow

Getting mad at your husband for a birthday? Yup ..a woman wrote this very limited thinkers

It goes both ways, it is also like that for men.
This 40 characters of a thing doesn't worth it.

Any man who depends on his wife's pressure to make money has no purpose in life and therefore no reason to live.

No human deserves too much understanding in this world else you would be taken for granted, once in a while you need to show you want more, else he would be complacent for life. Only pain pushes humans to pursue and change, dont be an over stable environment or an overly understanding spouse, push him or her, its called tough love.

Merry100:
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(Not my story. Came across this and it really hit me. What do you think?)

But it may not be so with all marriages. Unfortunately too, no partner may exploit the other, making the other appear like a fool.

Lol fake story. Misery loves company

I pity the ladies that are taking all these kind of talks seriously.

Most people pushing all these talks are lonely and regretting the roles they played in losing their homes... But they will rather mislead more women so as recruit more members. 😆

Merry100:
You don't get it because you're no different from him; you’re clearly a user just like he is. He has a good wife, but he refuses to reciprocate by being a good husband. It's her thirtieth birthday, for God's sake! He can't just go around bragging about her efforts. He could have shown he cares by simply buying her something, even if it wasn’t expensive.

for bragging about her effort that means the man really appreciate her, how about those woman that they are hardworking than her and there husband doesn't bragge about them

You better relax...don't let devil use you. You won't know what other women are passing through in their homes until you wear their shoes.

Today is not over yet, calm down, don't just start what you can't finish

Whatever gives you results stick to it

My submission

it is opposite in reality , wives deny understanding man thier money , food and body while women outside are desperate to give u everything at a cheap price because of thier situation but understanding men a faithful and trust worthy and ready to sacrifice everything

That is not true.

Understanding wife are suffering and wicked wife are enjoying.

If you marry the wrong man that is lazy then you will suffer.

This signs was there of his laziness but you ignored it.

Lmao @ "Happy birthday, iron lady".

Lmao @ how have been with him since he had nothing till now he still has nothing but he shamelessly tells them how i can endure anything."



Don't date or marry broke men, you no hear.

All these misleading narratives can be irksome.