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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Konquest: 6:54pm On Jul 10, 2025

Double0h7:
The beauty of the human experience is that we don’t miss what we never had. She’s never had a sister so she doesn’t know or feel the absence of one.

Your sister has adapted to her unique circumstances. I’m sure she has friends, and female role models who she can bounce ideas off.

Of course, she’ll have a deeper relationship with your mum being the only girl. I wouldn’t worry about her.

Women, unlike men, prioritise their mental health. Most of us are talkative by nature so we rarely ruminate about our feelings, we talk it out.

@Double0h7

That's impressive. I've NEVER bothered to ask her how she felt being the only female in the midst of us men till date but your deep insights here have given me some fresher perspectives.

Oh wow! You practically described my younger sis there. She always has a lot to say to me on the phone... I tactically have to end the calls sometimes after 15 to 20 minutes. Indeed, most females are social creatures, hence they honor celebrations, birthday parties and social bonding. These are the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind of scenarios that differentiate us men from you women. That's what makes the world go round though. Life would be totally boring if we didn't have our differences in this physical world of duality. Hot or cold, male or female, light and darkness, etc.

Last but not least, I appreciate your insights and feedback here and deduce that you must be a coded James Bond girl (fan) based off of your moniker name.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Ciao.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Double0h7(f): 7:09pm On Jul 10, 2025

Konquest:
@Double0h7

That's impressive. I've NEVER bothered to ask her how she felt being the only female in the midst of us men till date but your deep insights here have given me some fresher perspectives.

Oh wow! You practically described my younger sis there. She always has a lot to say to me on the phone... I tactically have to end the calls sometimes after 15 to 20 minutes. Indeed, most females are social creatures, hence they honor celebrations, birthday parties and social bonding. These are the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind of scenarios that differentiate us men from you woman. That's what makes the world go round though. Life would be totally boring if we didn't have our differences in this physical world of duality. Hot or cold, male or female, light and darkness, etc.

Last but not least, I appreciate your insights and feedback here and deduce that you must be a coded James Bond girl (fan) based off of your moniker name.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Ciao.

I absolutely love your take on this. Your sister is a very lucky lady to have all that protection around her.

It was a pleasure chatting with you. As for the moniker; it was the only thing I could think of at the time of its creation. I’m not a fan but I’ve seen the Pierce Bros-whatshisname- and I loved the Nintendo game (the one you had to blow the cartridge, when it stopped working), I’m showing my age now 😂.

See you around

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Famous606(m): 7:09pm On Jul 10, 2025

To me you are very greedy you want her all to yourself,so that you can manipulate her and matr

Konquest:
@Double0h7

That's impressive. I've NEVER bothered to ask her how she felt being the only female in the midst of us men till date but your deep insights here have given me some fresher perspectives.

Oh wow! You practically described my younger sis there. She always has a lot to say to me on the phone... I tactically have to end the calls sometimes after 15 to 20 minutes. Indeed, most females are social creatures, hence they honor celebrations, birthday parties and social bonding. These are the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind of scenarios that differentiate us men from you women. That's what makes the world go round though. Life would be totally boring if we didn't have our differences in this physical world of duality. Hot or cold, male or female, light and darkness, etc.

Last but not least, I appreciate your insights and feedback here and deduce that you must be a coded James Bond girl (fan) based off of your moniker name.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Ciao.

ete her

Konquest:
@Double0h7

That's impressive. I've NEVER bothered to ask her how she felt being the only female in the midst of us men till date but your deep insights here have given me some fresher perspectives.

Oh wow! You practically described my younger sis there. She always has a lot to say to me on the phone... I tactically have to end the calls sometimes after 15 to 20 minutes. Indeed, most females are social creatures, hence they honor celebrations, birthday parties and social bonding. These are the "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind of scenarios that differentiate us men from you women. That's what makes the world go round though. Life would be totally boring if we didn't have our differences in this physical world of duality. Hot or cold, male or female, light and darkness, etc.

Last but not least, I appreciate your insights and feedback here and deduce that you must be a coded James Bond girl (fan) based off of your moniker name.

Enjoy the rest of your day.

Ciao.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by BigDawsNet: 7:17pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Be happy she’s have a deep discussion about you with her sister and not one random friend who may be jealous of her…

Since you dint see any bad words about u in the discussion.. I think you should let it slide or rather don’t approach her with what you saw in her phone and just use style to tell her that.. when you guys are married.. you would love her to keep some sensitive information to the family alone and not take it outside

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by klyn81: 7:35pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Hespee93: 7:41pm On Jul 10, 2025

If her sister is happily married and your fiancé doesn’t say anything toxic about you, I would say don’t stress yourself., that sister might even be the one that contributed to her being virgin.

The only thing you should worried about is seeing you woman discussing your affairs with another single lady which is due for marriage.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by AfonjaPriest: 7:44pm On Jul 10, 2025

This guy complained too much.
In fact, let's solve the issue for him.
Oya, DUMP HER.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Jieta2: 8:07pm On Jul 10, 2025

Demigod22:
To be honest, I have similar relationship with my elder brother. He tells me everything, and he takes my advice on everything. Anytime they have misunderstanding, his wife will call me immediately to explain to me, I will ensure they settle immediately.

The bond is so crazy that my brother tells me about his sex life with girls before he married, who is good in bed or bad. I open up to him about my relationship also.

When he makes money, I will be the first to know, if he wants to change his car, I will be the first to know, when he gets a girl pregnant, I will be the first to know. His wife once told me jokingly that I am the number person her husband loves so she doesn't joke with me.

Back to your feelings, you can politely tell her. Start a casual conversation with her by asking her who can she tell all her secrets without fear of being snitched on? You will tell her that for you, she is the one, then when she says her sister, tell her why she shouldn't discuss everything with her sister especially her relationship with you because you guys are a team.

Only Hod knows how long you have been married, I like your last paragraph.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by optm(m): 8:14pm On Jul 10, 2025

If her sister is having a peaceful home, you really have nothing to worry for.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Konquest: 8:15pm On Jul 10, 2025

Double0h7:
I absolutely love your take on this. Your sister is a very lucky lady to have all that protection around her.

It was a pleasure chatting with you. As for the moniker; it was the only thing I could think of at the time of its creation. I’m not a fan but I’ve seen the Pierce Bros-whatshisname- and I loved the Nintendo game (the one you had to blow the cartridge, when it stopped working), I’m showing my age now 😂.

See you around

Indeed, we had our fair share of little querrels back in the day but we were also protective of her.

Aha! The Irish-born Pierce Brosnan was active between 1995 and 2002 as JB. He's now 72 as of 2025 and he's ageing gracefully. The references to the Nintendo game and your "age footprint" got me smirking there. (Getting to easily figure a woman's age can feel like trying to squeeze water out of dry rocks). cheesy

Talk to you later and stay safe.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by VaginaAcademic: 8:17pm On Jul 10, 2025

FYI your sister and mother in law knows the size of your peepee grin

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by jaxxy(m): 8:17pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
No she didn't.... But whenever we had misunderstanding her sister is the go to person she vomit everything to

it's better she goes to her happily married sister than to her single friends or a male bestie. U don't know what God had done for u. It can be worse.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Offpoint1: 8:23pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Ended a relationship because of this.... If I confide in you it should stay with you, you can't keep taking what I discussed with you to a third party. Worse is the 3rd party influences her decision.

We had minor issues and she took it to her sister, the sister drops voice note full of insults on my WhatsApp. I called her to come over and played the voice note to her, she kneeling, crying and begging that she's sorry her sister took it to far. She didn't send her to do this, she only told her the issues we had.

Ended the relationship that very day... Till date she's still begging for a second chance, I've moved on

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by GboyegaD(m): 10:48pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
We barely gossip about her sister but obviously there certain things I know about her sister through her

This concludes it all. What you can do is make her understand that you will appreciate she doesn't discuss everything with her sister particularly, things that has to do with the both of you mainly. You cannot rule out she talking to her sister about her relationship 100%.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Ozzyk(op): 11:18pm On Jul 10, 2025

She's happily married and she's respectful
I'm worried because her sister fit dey control her

femmy2010:
Is she respectful ? Is her sister happily married ?
If yes , you almost have nothing to worry about .

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Ilekokonit: 11:50pm On Jul 10, 2025

Ozzyk:
Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

If you marry that woman, there will be 3 of you in the marriage and it will be 2 people against you. Your fiancees sister WILL be advising her of how to deal with you behind your back. That your fiancee is not yet mature enough for marriage and I am sure that when you get married, she will be telling her whole family about every quarrel you have with her and they (including her father, brothers, mum and sisters) will be advising her behind your back on how to really deal with you and that marriage may not be able to last their onslaught.

the ball is in your court !!!

Since your marriage is in one months time, you need to sit her down and lay down the rules as the man before you get married and ask her to detach herself from her sisters umbilical cord as her sister is happily married and just wants to use your own marital issues to catch cruise.

My ex wife was like that and unknown to me through out the first 10 years of our marriage she was discussing every issue we have with her father behind my back until the father had the guts to fly all the way to the UK to come and challenge me to a quarrel right inside my own house in front of my kids - a battle he gallantly lost as I ensured he moved out of my house that day back to my ex wife's sisters house where he came from.

Regarding my Exes sister, my ex will discuss everything with her sister and her sister who is also still married after decades will not tell my ex anything about her own marriage and she was just using my ex to catch cruise while keeping her own marital affairs private as they should be.

Fast forward to today , me Exes father is now late, her sister is still married but my Ex is unhappily single and I think it serves her right for allowing her father to influence her against her husband.

Marriage is different from dating o and when you guys eventually get married and start seeing the ugly sides of one another, an immature spouse who keeps running to her sister to spill the dirt on their spouse, will SURELY make that marriage fail. Better not to get married in the first place if you can not trust your wife to forsake all others including her own family and see you as her main confidant and she should also be willing to protect your privacy if she wants her family to respect you due to scarcity of information about you.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Ishilove: 12:13am On Jul 11, 2025

See them. Spoilers, wasters and emptiers.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Ishilove: 12:15am On Jul 11, 2025

Ozzyk:
She's happily married and she's respectful
I'm worried because her sister fit dey control her

Then leave her for another person who will appreciate her. Before you, her sister was. You cannot come with your insecurity to come and spoil a blood relationship that has been going on before you came into the picture.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by drehdinho(m): 12:52am On Jul 11, 2025

webincomeplus:
The irony here is that it could be the same sister who's been guiding her and helping her to be and remain the good lady you've always known her to be.

So, tread softly over the matter.

Highly conditional statement. The opposite could be true too.

This is not Hollywood movie. To me, spitting everything in the marriage with a third party no longer makes a marriage sacred.

She’s not emotionally independent, and I believe both can work it out.

If things go on the way Op has described it whatever that changes her sister in the near future will also affect his wife.

Too much of everything is not good. Nobody says she shouldn’t have confidence in others, but it shouldn’t be everything she spits to a third party.

If an enemy tries to get you and they cant - they go through who’s close to who’s close to you to make their evil agenda easy to execute.

If the sister changes today , expect that her wife to start learning negative things through her.

Our decision in life shouldn’t have to be lived based on the way of life of another - exception to this rule is marriage. Any other life choice should be independently taken.

It’s just a pity that this life is truly not balanced; a man will always have his flaws. That’s obviously Ops’ wife flaws. And he should handle it prayerfully.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by davygifted(m): 1:26am On Jul 11, 2025

Lol you just admitted to a crime

haggai247:
Just like me and my brother even though we are married we do things together.

He even uses my Certificate to work bear my name.

And the best part of all.

We share babes together we dey do pass around crazy things men don do.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by emmyN(m): 1:56am On Jul 11, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...

She's known her sister way longer before she met you! Besides, what you did here is an offense under the new cybercrime law punishable by up to two years imprisonment. So be careful next time.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Pickieox(m): 2:44am On Jul 11, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

You don't need to bother about this. Be thankful it's even her sister. You're lucky unlike others that will tell their friends, or even exes. Bro look away, pretend as if you are not bothered. Later in time, you can easily form a story of something related like this and tell her to know her reactions. It is how she responds or react will determine her maturity. But always know that women will always be women.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by frozen70(f): 5:30am On Jul 11, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

Don't be displeased, get close to her sister so that whatever she tell her, you are already close to her sister and you are covered

One day she will be tired and face her family

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by webincomeplus(m): 6:21am On Jul 11, 2025

drehdinho:
Highly conditional statement. The opposite could be true too.

This is not Hollywood movie. To me, spitting everything in the marriage with a third party no longer makes a marriage sacred.

She’s not emotionally independent, and I believe both can work it out.

If things go on the way Op has described it whatever that changes her sister in the near future will also affect his wife.

Too much of everything is not good. Nobody says she shouldn’t have confidence in others, but it shouldn’t be everything she spits to a third party.

If an enemy tries to get you and they cant - they go through who’s close to who’s close to you to make their evil agenda easy to execute.

If the sister changes today , expect that her wife to start learning negative things through her.

Our decision in life shouldn’t have to be lived based on the way of life of another - exception to this rule is marriage. Any other life choice should be independently taken.

It’s just a pity that this life is truly not balanced; a man will always have his flaws. That’s obviously Ops’ wife flaws. And he should handle it prayerfully.

My comment was never to justify revealing everything in their marriage to her sister.

I only meant he should tread softly by handling things calmly and maturely.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by haggai247: 6:44am On Jul 11, 2025

davygifted:
Lol you just admitted to a crime

Oga no be crime ooo my brother shaga you tell me say make me too I reason your matter.

I tell you you sef agree how is that a crime?

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by purples25(f): 9:09am On Jul 11, 2025

Go and drop the sister as a friend. Hopefully, the person who will replace her sister (because someone asides you must replace her) will just be the worst and help you end your marriage.

Se fini.

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Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by iamL(f): 11:25am On Jul 11, 2025

Ozzyk:
I've been dating my woman since 2021. We did introduction recently and already fixed our wedding to next month.

Yesterday, She gave me her phone to fix so I used the opportunity to go through her chats...
So, I went through her chats with her sister only to observe that she discussed almost everything we discussed within ourselves with her sister too unprovoked.

Although I've always known that she and her sister who is happily married also used to be 5&6 but I never knew my fiancee could be spitting everything we talked to her sister just like that....

I went through their chats even though there's no toxic discussion about me between them
But I'm not fine at all with the fact she debates almost everything we talked about with her sister...
This lady Is everything a man could ask for, she's beautiful, hard working very decent and I met her a virgin.

I've not spoken to her about it though I still don't know how best to go about it.

I am very displeased.

If I found out that anyone went through my chats or messages without my permission through whatever means I will have that person arrested husband or not.

Legally and morally is wrong, if you don't trust someone to be in your life then don't deal with that person.

Meanwhile if this story is not the usual made up story to keep ND busy and to instigate gender war: whom do you expect her to open up to before your village people? Abi is she the one that says you shouldn't trust your own siblings?

Yeye small children brain everywhere.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by iamL(f): 11:27am On Jul 11, 2025

emmyN:
She's known her sister way longer before she met you! Besides, what you did here is an offense under the new cybercrime law punishable by up to two years imprisonment. So be careful next time.

Most Nigerians don't know it's a crime. I pity who go try this nonsense with me.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by frugal(m): 1:43pm On Jul 11, 2025

Sign of an emotionally immature partner. They're easily influenced. They can't decide for themselves.

Re: My Fiancee Tells Her Sister Everything.... by Gbengageorge: 6:06pm On Jul 11, 2025

She has a best friend before she met you and that happens to be her sister. God forbid if anything happens to you, and you are no longer there, who will help her. Don't sow seed of discord, just use your wisdom to approach the matter.

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