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galantjoe:
Since I started cooking I stopped having quarrel with my wife over late food.

I can now cook my favorite meal with variety of taste.

Tallesty1:
Do you get? A nice article but he nearly ruined it with that part.

Nearly everything men did in 1985, they’re still doing today, but you don’t see anybody telling them to stop because it’s 2025. Look at marriages, even after divorce, the core things a man provides in marriage, he can still be mandated by court to keep providing for the woman and kids. But nothing binds the woman to do anything for him. It’s crazy.

In my family, everybody cooks. And being the one who stayed in the village longer, I cook local foods better than all of them. Recently, we were in the village for Easter, and I was the one cooking. My brothers were there, their wives too, and my sister, my mother, and others, I was cooking because I love cooking and I trust my own food. But all this talk about 2025 doesn’t move me. Yes, it’s 2025, I can order any food from my phone; heck, I can order both the food and the chef.

Nobody remembers it’s 2025 when we tell men to be the providers and do all the heavy lifting. Recently, because a woman died over ₦500k, the internet was full of “don’t settle for less” and “marry a man that can always cough out a million.” This is coming from a POS attendant that earns ₦15k monthly without any allowance.

Recently in a conversation with one, she said she can't marry a broke guy because she doesn't want to suffer; and I asked why she would suffer because of his brokenness when he isn’t asking for her own money?

Women have all the opportunities that men have, they have the education men had, they can get all the skills men have access to, and for some good reason, it’s even easier for them. But nobody reminds them it's 2025 when they hold back their own money and expect everything to come from the man. Nobody tells them it's 2025 when they're planning their dream weddings without contributing a single kobo.

Na man dey do man las las, NEPO kids dey buy off the whole food in the canteen because they no wan queue while LAPO kids are being told to start cooking because it's 2025. Na money and fellow man dey do man.

I dey live in one beedrom, I marry woman put inside, she no add extra room, na me dey pay the bills but na she settle for less.

Chineke kpọkwa ha ọkụ

Nnamdipapa:
Yes, you heard me right. As a man, you should be able to cook your own food—soups, stews, rice, yam porridge, snacks, even baking if you feel adventurous. Cooking is a basic survival skill, not a gender-specific responsibility. This idea that men aren’t supposed to cook because it’s “a woman’s job” is outdated and honestly, harmful.

Let me be clear—I’m not saying you should take over the cooking duty in your home if you're married. What I’m saying is simple: as a man, you should be able to cook for yourself, at the same level as your wife, or close. You should be able to take care of your food and nutrition if she’s not around, or even when you’re single, or living alone. What if you travel for work? What if you’re posted to a new town? Must you rely on noodles or buka food for survival?

It baffles me when I see educated men—some with Master’s degrees—who still can't boil rice properly. I personally consider any man who can't cook as partially illiterate. Why? Because it shows you can’t follow simple instructions or recipes to produce a decent meal.

We are in 2025, not 1985. Anything you want to learn is just a click away. YouTube, cooking blogs, Instagram reels—everything is available. You don’t need to call your mum to ask how to make egusi soup anymore.

Let me share my story. I used to rely completely on my wife for meals. Whatever she cooked was what I ate, whether I liked it or not. Over time, I gained unhealthy weight, became sluggish, and was always feeling bloated. I knew something had to change. I started learning to cook—not just anything, but food that worked for my body, my health, and my preferences. Now, my wife literally begs to eat from my food. And don’t get me wrong—she’s a great cook. But I simply became more intentional with what I prepared.

Now I control my meals, my portions, my ingredients. I experiment with both local and foreign dishes, and I eat exactly what I want, when I want it. That's true freedom. Cooking gave me back control over my health and my life.

Here are a few added advantages of learning to cook as a man:

You save money – Instead of eating out daily or depending on expensive food vendors, you can prepare meals in bulk and reduce expenses.

You’ll eat healthier , You control the oil, salt, and ingredients. You’re not at the mercy of unhealthy food.

You become more attractive – A man who can cook is instantly more appealing. Ask around.

You're prepared for life’s realities, If you're single, divorced, widowed, or even just living apart from your family for work, cooking becomes your lifeline.

You build confidence, There’s something deeply satisfying about making a tasty meal from scratch and watching others enjoy it.

So dear brothers, this isn’t a feminist campaign or a call for you to abandon traditional roles. This is simply a wake-up call. Learn to cook. Own your kitchen. Your health, your wallet, and even your future self will thank you.

MMempire:
Only cook when no woman is around or available, if not, dem go turn you to slave with their feminine tactics.

MMempire:
Only cook when no woman is around or available, if not, dem go turn you to slave with their feminine tactics.

galantjoe:
Since I started cooking I stopped having quarrel with my wife over late food.

I can now cook my favorite meal with variety of taste.

descarado:
Your role models must be ter'rible.

What a warped mentality in this age and time.

Nnamdipapa:
Wife is seriously trying to discourage me from cooking since I started making food and kids prefer my meals. previously, we used to quarrel with cooking what I want and when I want it. Now, I have the control and feel truly liberated as I can make whatever I want more than most women.

Knacking experience is overrated as well.

WhiteIverson:
I guess you don't know how to swim, perform CPR, start a fire without matchsticks, build an emergency shelter, navigate when you're lost without using your phone or a compass.

Which means I can also call you a stark illiterate because these are all survival skills

Tallesty1:
If the child lives with her, and he funds that child’s life, he's funding her household whether she admits it or not. The money doesn't come with a condition don't touch me unless it's for junior.

And don’t say the man should fight for custody when the court treats working men like sperm donors and wallets. How did you people manage to deviate from cooking to divorce and child support?? Una well so?

Dragging men to court, fighting over salaries, and threatening jail isn’t love for the kids. A man gets a job with a bigger pay and boom, she wants a bigger child support? Why? Did the child's needs suddenly increase?

Tallesty1:
If the child lives with her, and he funds that child’s life, he's funding her household whether she admits it or not. The money doesn't come with a condition don't touch me unless it's for junior.

And don’t say the man should fight for custody when the court treats working men like sperm donors and wallets.

Dragging men to court, fighting over salaries, and threatening jail isn’t love for the kids. A man gets a job with a bigger pay and boom, she wants a bigger child support? Why? Did the child's needs suddenly increase?

Jman06:
Their agenda is to finally absolve women of all responsibilities and shift all feminine roles to men. Total emasculation of the male gender is the goal of the 21st century feminists and their feminised male supporters aka simps. Serious research works are currently ongoing in laboratories in developed countries on how to transfer the role of bearing pregnancy to men and how to impregnate men to women. Brace up for some crazy 21st century gender roles reversals!

Double0h7:
There’s nothing more attractive than a man who knows his way around a kitchen! To just sit there with your favourite 🍹, and just watch him at work is an aphrodisiac of the highest order 😍

descarado:
Your role models must be ter'rible.

What a warped mentality in this age and time.

dollytino4real:
Wen man knows how to cook it spice relationship, and him com sabi knack jon women go faint and wake up on his beddie

cr7lomo:
Either u are gaslighting or a bonified simp

John1868:
If your wife makes this argument and doesn't want to fulfil her role, marry a second wife. She will immediately modify her behavior.

Nnamdipapa:
Yes, you heard me right. As a man, you should be able to cook your own food—soups, stews, rice, yam porridge, snacks, even baking if you feel adventurous. Cooking is a basic survival skill, not a gender-specific responsibility. This idea that men aren’t supposed to cook because it’s “a woman’s job” is outdated and honestly, harmful.

Let me be clear—I’m not saying you should take over the cooking duty in your home if you're married. What I’m saying is simple: as a man, you should be able to cook for yourself, at the same level as your wife, or close. You should be able to take care of your food and nutrition if she’s not around, or even when you’re single, or living alone. What if you travel for work? What if you’re posted to a new town? Must you rely on noodles or buka food for survival?

It baffles me when I see educated men—some with Master’s degrees—who still can't boil rice properly. I personally consider any man who can't cook as partially illiterate. Why? Because it shows you can’t follow simple instructions or recipes to produce a decent meal.

We are in 2025, not 1985. Anything you want to learn is just a click away. YouTube, cooking blogs, Instagram reels—everything is available. You don’t need to call your mum to ask how to make egusi soup anymore.

Let me share my story. I used to rely completely on my wife for meals. Whatever she cooked was what I ate, whether I liked it or not. Over time, I gained unhealthy weight, became sluggish, and was always feeling bloated. I knew something had to change. I started learning to cook—not just anything, but food that worked for my body, my health, and my preferences. Now, my wife literally begs to eat from my food. And don’t get me wrong—she’s a great cook. But I simply became more intentional with what I prepared.

Now I control my meals, my portions, my ingredients. I experiment with both local and foreign dishes, and I eat exactly what I want, when I want it. That's true freedom. Cooking gave me back control over my health and my life.

Here are a few added advantages of learning to cook as a man:

You save money – Instead of eating out daily or depending on expensive food vendors, you can prepare meals in bulk and reduce expenses.

You’ll eat healthier , You control the oil, salt, and ingredients. You’re not at the mercy of unhealthy food.

You become more attractive – A man who can cook is instantly more appealing. Ask around.

You're prepared for life’s realities, If you're single, divorced, widowed, or even just living apart from your family for work, cooking becomes your lifeline.

You build confidence, There’s something deeply satisfying about making a tasty meal from scratch and watching others enjoy it.

So dear brothers, this isn’t a feminist campaign or a call for you to abandon traditional roles. This is simply a wake-up call. Learn to cook. Own your kitchen. Your health, your wallet, and even your future self will thank you.

Tallesty1:
Do you get? A nice article but he nearly ruined it with that part.

Nearly everything men did in 1985, they’re still doing today, but you don’t see anybody telling them to stop because it’s 2025. Look at marriages, even after divorce, the core things a man provides in marriage, he can still be mandated by court to keep providing for the woman and kids. But nothing binds the woman to do anything for him. It’s crazy.

In my family, everybody cooks. And being the one who stayed in the village longer, I cook local foods better than all of them. Recently, we were in the village for Easter, and I was the one cooking. My brothers were there, their wives too, and my sister, my mother, and others, I was cooking because I love cooking and I trust my own food. But all this talk about 2025 doesn’t move me. Yes, it’s 2025, I can order any food from my phone; heck, I can order both the food and the chef.

Nobody remembers it’s 2025 when we tell men to be the providers and do all the heavy lifting. Recently, because a woman died over ₦500k, the internet was full of “don’t settle for less” and “marry a man that can always cough out a million.” This is coming from a POS attendant that earns ₦15k monthly without any allowance.

Recently in a conversation with one, she said she can't marry a broke guy because she doesn't want to suffer; and I asked why she would suffer because of his brokenness when he isn’t asking for her own money?

Women have all the opportunities that men have, they have the education men had, they can get all the skills men have access to, and for some good reason, it’s even easier for them. But nobody reminds them it's 2025 when they hold back their own money and expect everything to come from the man. Nobody tells them it's 2025 when they're planning their dream weddings without contributing a single kobo.

Na man dey do man las las, NEPO kids dey buy off the whole food in the canteen because they no wan queue while LAPO kids are being told to start cooking because it's 2025. Na money and fellow man dey do man.

I dey live in one beedrom, I marry woman put inside, she no add extra room, na me dey pay the bills but na she settle for less.

Chineke kpọkwa ha ọkụ