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| Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by underpinna(op): 6:24pm On Aug 15, 2025 |
I have been dating a lady of over 35 years which I know she will be older than that for over 8 months. I now want to pull out and don't know how. I am currently in their community and my rent will be due next year. A lot of people don't like the fact that she's older than me. But, She doesn't want me leave. What should I do.... Maurice........ |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by gerizzim: 7:07pm On Aug 15, 2025 |
underpinna:you wnt to pull out because people dnt like she been older or you dnt like her? How old are you by the way? 13 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by NobleRhyme2all: 10:37pm On Aug 15, 2025 |
Talk to her calmly about the age difference and that you can't continue on that ground. Meanwhile you're suspecting she is older now, but when u guys started u kept calm, now after wasting her time for months you have suddenly woken up Or is it that you have gotten what wanted from her? 7 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Nobody: 10:56pm On Aug 15, 2025 |
underpinna:That's their latest trend now after they've spent their prime age jumping from one married man, sugar daddy to another. They will look for an innocent younger man they can easily manipulate to marry them. OP, she will not leave you easily, I've met them severally. You need to apply wisdom of you think breaking up violently with her in her community will be a threat to you if not just arrogantly tell her you are not compatible and the relationship won't work. For now, start restricting her from coming to your house and if you can stop picking her calls. Also, don't ever think of falling for her crocodile tears and her cock and bull story of how she loves you because this is their usual line when they met younger men 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Kobojunkie: 12:30am On Aug 16, 2025 |
underpinna:What does it matter whether she wants you to leave or not? So long as you are no longer interested in the relationship... did she put a gun to your head that you feel you need to tell us about this? 🙄🙄🙄 4 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Sunnyrado: 1:04am On Aug 16, 2025 |
underpinna:My brother if you are no more Interested in her can you please link me up with her, I am very much interested. Thank you 2 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Zanzibar1: 6:51am On Aug 16, 2025 |
Don't love women over 27 out of pity. It was her decision to not chose a partner at a younger age. You don't have to be her partner at an older age. Don't do it out of pity since it's not what you want. 10 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by purples25(f): 7:17am On Aug 16, 2025 |
Unstick yourself, before you go ahead with a pity relationship. Before you start crying, day and night about how she blocked you from dating younger girls. Before you diminish her because your eyes are still outside. A breakup is better than the humiliation you’re going to be giving her. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Baronthecelebri(m): 7:34am On Aug 16, 2025 |
Get her pregnant,if she has good character |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by AllBlack: 8:32am On Aug 16, 2025 |
underpinna:God no go allow you pull out. When you didn't see any other lady to rope yourself you went for the one in the same community. Nack and switch off... you say you wan chop till kingdom come now e don choke you. 2 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Nobody: 9:39am On Aug 16, 2025*. Modified: 11:59am On Aug 16, 2025 |
AllBlack:Easy comrade, there's always a first time mistake but when we tell them to learn from other people's stories they think we deliberately spill hate on women. I believe the young man don learn him lesson, let's guide him on how to discharge the old cargo 1 Like |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Therock5555(m): 11:16am On Aug 16, 2025 |
Some times chop and clean mouth is the best... Cause the longer you stay, the deeper your pit to get out becomes!!! If your rent expires, run back to your parents house for a month then find different area and japka to. Using your parents house as a fortitude, she no go get liver come dey check you anyhow... Freedom.....😁😁 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Wananonly: 11:51am On Aug 16, 2025 |
I advise you to go back to the drawing board bro |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Exceed15: 2:36pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
So your conviction is based on people's opinion. Boy grow up! 1 Like |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Peakdesign23(f): 3:46pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
If you cannot make your own decisions without listening to what people will say, then you're still a boy. 1 Like |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Faber(m): 4:15pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
Ask her to borrow you so and so money for an urgent so and so business or challenge in your family bla bla...tell her how badly you need this money, once she lends you this money, if she doesn't have drag her to a financial institution and be the guarantor while she is the loanee... stay put in the relationship and fail to pay up... Watch how the relationship will crumble...  I mean huge amount of money, I did that to one of these ladies years ago, she arrested me and upon arresting me with Police I paid the money 2 days later and told her am done... She kept crying, I told her my family members told me that arresting me she have crossed the red line ... the next day I unveiled a sweet 16yrs old girl, I carry the girl pass her shop... NB don't tell me she has no money to lend to you...you cannot be dating an older woman and funding her lifestyle, then what are you benefitting, she must at least have some business or contacts to raise the money for you underpinna: 5 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by underpinna(op): 4:35pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
gerizzim:She's good and tends to work hard especially when you Ginger her. She's really old and tend to have explored enough. Her body temperature is always hot too. I've treated her but no much improvement. |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by pansophist(m): 4:41pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
I understand you, but this is a case of prevention is better than cure. You should not have started it, or when you start, make it clear you are not ready for anything permanent. You are in what I describe as the ''bungee dilenma''. I will explain. So just as bungee jumping is (jumping from an airplane sport), you will feel tensed, scared to death, and shivering before the jump, but after jumping, you realise it is not as scary as you imagined, and you will feel free. So the solution to this your bungee dilemma is to tell her, and be honest about it. Not brutally honest, but kindly honest. So being brutally honest would be like telling her that she is too old for you, making her feel defective and not good enough due to her age. I promise you, after you have told her, you will be free. She will be angry and pissed, but truth always heals, and it will set you free. If you dont tell her, or choose to ghost her, you will be a captive of your conscious, unless you are a psychopath, which I believe you are not. 2 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by ComeComing: 5:16pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
purples25:All these pains because he refused to wife an old cargo.. Smh |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Rexymania(m): 6:05pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
What's her name? |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by 22o62021: 6:26pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
Oga no let anybody pressure you No be you delay her reach 35 Ask her for money If she doesn't give you Use that opportunity to avoid her |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by purples25(f): 7:12pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
ComeComing:I don’t support you calling her an old cargo. I’m not happy with a woman being treated as disposable and valueless because she is not a little girl. I just know that you guys prefer little girls. Or rather, young girls. So he’s going to be miserable with her, which won’t be fair to her. Let him free her so he can continue hunting small girls to his hearts desire. If not, na she go hear am. And SHE doesn’t deserve such trauma. Let him go so that there will be peace. 3 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by CaveAdullam: 7:15pm On Aug 16, 2025 |
Ask yourself this: if she sees a better man than you, will she stay or leave? Ok, let's continue. 1. You have no business being in a relationship with a woman older than you. At this phase of her life, she sees you as her retirement plan or last card since she couldn't bag a man for over 10 decades since she started menstruating. 2. If you're not ready for marriage before 2025 elapses or at most 2026, there's no need to add blocks of chats, feelings, and romance to the relationship. You'll end up making her a villain towards you. 3. You don't need to do too much "shalaye" like I'm doing now. Once your rent expires, make sure you disappear. Tell her you're going far away and don't know where the road will lead you. That you don't want to waste her remaining youthful days with the hope of a happily ever after. Make this known to her with your eyes wide open throughout that day and make sure your bus is ready to move in the next few hours. 4. If you don't see her as a mother for your kids with her current virtues overriding her vices, show no pity. Exit the union asap. 5. However, it is men like you that eventually turn many women into villains by stringing them along with the illusion of a happy marriage while you're just there for sex and cruise when you know from the outset that you just want to "chop and clean mouth". Godforsaken foolish men. Anyway, life is a game. If you don't know how to play, you'll get played. Thanks. 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by 6ixT8: 8:45am On Aug 17, 2025 |
Men be showing weakness and pity, unlike the other gender who had be ruthless during their hay time. The game is the game. 3 Likes |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by G0odharddick: 9:20am On Aug 17, 2025 |
6ixT8:I swear. Women are very ruthless when it comes to decisions. They don't care about your thoughts or anything at all. They're ruthless when making decisions. This is why a girl can bill a guy straight up and expect the guy to give her that money she asked for. If the guy asks for..kpus she'll bluntly say NO Most guys are so afraid of asking for ...kpus because they don't want to offend her. Meanwhile reverse is the case. They no send! Scientific analysis has shown that women fear and respect men who are ruthless and firm in their decision making. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by OlaOfLagos(m): 9:43am On Aug 17, 2025 |
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| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Nobody: 7:55pm On Aug 17, 2025*. Modified: 5:59am On Aug 18, 2025 |
purples25:Personally I'm not a fan of a man getting married to a far younger wife but let's look at it this way: A lady in her early and mid 20s will see a young man of her age and 5 - 7 years older as a small boy, at that age she'll be dating her 10 - 20+ older men and when she's 33+ she suddenly start looking for her age mate to 3 years older men for express marriage, at 37, she'll reduce her age to 33 and start looking for men as young as 30 years for marriage. So you mean the young man should happily marry a left over old cargo after jumping from one bed to another with 10 - 20 years active experience on the streets ? I know you're also an old cargo that's why you're saying this. But my question is Always: Why younger men? Why not the older men that had you in your prime age? |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by purples25(f): 2:03am On Aug 18, 2025 |
ediko5:All this is a long story. Men like young women and always have. So let him go for his choice. 1 Like |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by Nobody: 6:10am On Aug 18, 2025 |
purples25:Na because of how old cargos dey damage themselves na. |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by purples25(f): 6:27am On Aug 18, 2025 |
ediko5:Even when nobody calls out men, they still look for how to clear themselves. 1 Like |
| Re: Stuck On A Lady Of Over 35. by bigpicture001: 6:35am On Aug 18, 2025 |
ediko5:This is very very true... She doesn't love u one bit... Sh only needs marriage... Ladies are very very senseless and believe they can always eat their cakes and have it back... Plenty of them old pigeons are in my matter .. ppl dt won't even look ur way had they been younger .. Build together is the language they hate the most.. now they are ready to build together.... Yeye ppl |
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