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bigpaul84:
Can we chat privately. This my Whatsapp number ,08064616153

pls remove ur number i ve called u and u ve my. Number now

dollytino4real:
dat is wat is really keeping me back, dis rent issue na wahala but if i continue my dear i dey faint and wake up everyday with plenty confusion of wat is right to do,

Lol @ I dey faint and wake up every day. You can be so dramatic! An abusive marriage will probably cause anyone to faint and wake up, psychologically or physically.

I'am sorry about your predicament, if you were in Lagos helping you find honest work with a reliable income would have been the starting point but I saw you mention Delta & Rivers State.

Klass99:
Lol @ I dey faint and wake up every day. You can be so dramatic! An abusive marriage will probably cause anyone to faint and wake up, psychologically or physically.

I'am sorry about your predicament, if you were in Lagos helping you find honest work with a reliable income would have been the starting point but I saw you mention Delta & Rivers State.

eya thanks my sister, who go employ 45 years woman with 3 kids, where job dey dis days. I still hope 4 good thing to happen miraculous

Samantha125:
Don't you have a family house to go to?

Family house won't allow her to be dating different men as she likes..
The reason she wants to stay alone

dollytino4real:
eya thanks my sister, who go employ 45 years woman with 3 kids, where job dey dis days. I still hope 4 good thing to happen miraculous

Ahh.......You are sounding like one of my relatives. Please stop thinking that way, so long as you are a graduate the people I know in human resources management will employ you.

They will rather deal with older and mature workers than younger ones. They also realise that age discrimination is wrong as they themselves are from an older generation and they still have juice in their bodies to keep on working.

It's not a hype it's a reality.

emmaodet:
Family house won't allow her to be dating different men as she likes..
The reason she wants to stay alone

Emma please die that yarn!

I have a relative in a similar situation and she won't go back to her family house either because she and her mother do not have a good relationship. They are like fire and ice!

Why do you people assume any woman who wants her own place or space is looking to entertain men and be promiscuous? Not every thing is about men or wanting to have a man, last time I checked it is you people that konji used to worry like die, you are the ones more lacking in self control and discipline when it comes to sex.

Klass99:
Ahh.......You are sounding like one my one of my relatives. Please stop thinking that way, so long as you a graduate the people I know in human resources management will employ you.

They will rather deal with older and mature workers than younger ones. They also realise that age discrimination is wrong as they themselves are from an older generation and they still have juice in their bodies to keep on working.

It's not a hype it's a reality.

dis my babe dey sound like a motivational speaker, i don love u wella give ur number make i call u sharp sharp

dollytino4real:
dis my babe dey sound like a motivational speaker, i don love u wella give ur number make i call u sharp sharp

Send me a DM

Klass99:
Send me a DM

DM here ur email abi

emmaodet:
Family house won't allow her to be dating different men as she likes..
The reason she wants to stay alone

The reason many ladies rushed into wrong marriages is the family house to start with. A lot of Nigerian homes are inhabitable for their kids and these kids only tolerate for as long as they cannot fend for themselves. A lot of Nigerian mothers are not their daughters friends. It was this pressure to have a place she can call her own that made many of their daughters enter marriage without planning. It worked for some. It didn't work for many.

Her case is very redeemable if her husband were teachable. A quality many underrate until relationship/marital challenges comes.

pocohantas:
The reason many ladies rushed into wrong marriages is the family house to start with. A lot of Nigerian homes are inhabitable for their kidd and these kids only tolerate for as long as they cannot fend themselves.

@ the bolded.

Thissss!

I feel every woman should experience staying alone for one's sanity.

My friend is currently staying at her family house and wants to enter wrong marriage 'cause of freedom. I feel sad on her behalf and stylishly told her that they're not compatible but I cannot do pass myself. However, if she invites me for the wedding, I will wear my dancing shoes to eat rice and scream "Latest bride in town".

folake4u:
@ the bolded.

Thissss!

I feel every woman should experience staying alone for one's sanity.

My friend is currently staying at her family house and wants to enter wrong marriage 'cause of freedom. I feel sad on her behalf and stylishly told her that they're not compatible but I cannot do pass myself. However, if she invites me for the wedding, I will wear my dancing shoes to eat rice and scream "Latest bride in town".

I think they know and pretend not to.
Or maybe they do not know. I have read many of your friend's kinda case on FB and TT. Give a lot of women money and we would know how many of us truly like marriage.

Staying alone teaches you how to navigate finances, life and a home. If you have a good source of income, it should never be an issue because a woman is an autonomous being.

Tell her to please get a job that will make her go out everyday. Even as husband and wife, if you too see yourselves, see finish fit dey enter. So she should find something doing. A man is not a plan. It might look good in the beginning, but it hardly ends well.

Klass99:
Send me a DM

i sent u email which u have not replied me

dollytino4real:
i sent u email which u have not replied me

I responded to you here to say that my response may be delayed but I will respond asap, the spambot banned me and deleted that message.

I hope you will not begin to harass my life like this online and offline?

emmaodet:
Family house won't allow her to be dating different men as she likes..
The reason she wants to stay alone

date who? Dis is my 15 years of marriage, i ve not cheated on him, guy. Na money be my challenge not man, if u know my history dat is y i wanted to stay put in the marriage but it takes two to work together to break foundation problems

pocohantas:
The reason many ladies rushed into wrong marriages is the family house to start with. A lot of Nigerian homes are inhabitable for their kids and these kids only tolerate for as long as they cannot fend for themselves. A lot of Nigerian mothers are not their daughters friends. It was this pressure to have a place she can call her own that made many of their daughters enter marriage without planning. It worked for some. It didn't work for many.

Her case is very redeemable if her husband were teachable. A quality many underrate until relationship/marital challenges comes.

dis ur teachable is wat he really needs nothing more, because he is hard working but a great waster of his resources on kpekus

Klass99:
I responded to you here to say that my response may be delayed but I will respond asap, the spambot banned me and deleted that message.

I hope you will not begin to harass my life like this online and offline?

wat is harassing pls

[quote author=Klass99 post=136497391]I responded to you here to say that my response may be delayed but I will respond asap, the spambot banned me and deleted that message.

I hope you will not begin to harass my life like this online and offline? [/quote just add the yahoo. Com to my name id

dollytino4real:
dis ur teachable is wat he really needs nothing more, because he is hard working but a great waster of his resources on kpekus

I know right. If your kids are grown, I will suggest you learn a skill. Getting a job at your age wouldn't pay anything sensible given you have been out of the workforce for long.

pocohantas:
I know right. If your kids are grown, I will suggest you learn a skill. Getting a job at your age wouldn't pay anything sensible given you have been out of the workforce for long.

yes o! I am into one learning how to fry small chop chi chi and others

If siting down to talk things out works, a lot of marriages would have been saved.

Siting down and trashing issues only works in theory. A lot of couples need to separate and miss each other.

Christianity isn't against separation, you can be married but not stay with your spouse.

And others need to divorce. Divorce is not a sin.

dollytino4real:
yes o! I am into one learning how to fry small chop chi chi and others

That is nice.
I wish you the very best, Ma.

pocohantas:
That is nice.
I wish you the very best, Ma.

thanks

pocohantas:
I think they know and pretend not to.
Or maybe they do not know. I have read many of your friend's kinda case on FB and TT. Give a lot of women money and we would know how many of us truly like marriage.

Staying alone teaches you how to navigate finances, life and a home. If you have a good source of income, it should never be an issue because a woman is an autonomous being.

Tell her to please get a job that will make her go out everyday. Even as husband and wife, if you too see yourselves, see finish fit dey enter. So she should find something doing. A man is not a plan. It might look good in the beginning, but it hardly ends well.

@ the bolded. Yeah very true.
I kuku nor too like marriage. 😂😂😂

I know right. Staying independently as a female for a year/years is always a pro, never a con.

She actually has a job and same profession as I am. The reason I don't really like him is 'cause he once "jokingly" said when they marry, she'd be a SAHM, and she'd change her phone contact, that was a walking red flag to me, amongst other things.

folake4u:
@ the bolded. Yeah very true.
I kuku nor too like marriage. 😂😂😂

I know right. Staying independently as a female for a year/years is always a pro, never a con.

She actually has a job and same profession as I am. The reason I don't really like him is 'cause he once "jokingly" said when they marry, she'd be a SAHM, and she'd change her phone contact, that was a walking red flag to me, amongst other things.

Well, maybe it is not a red flag for her.
I wish her the best.😀

pocohantas:
Well, maybe it is not a red flag for her.
I wish her the best.😀

Yeah me too.

dollytino4real:
wat is harassing pls

Never mind. I have responded to your email

Klass99:
Never mind. I have responded to your email

ok i have checked but nothing in my mail box

Karleb:
If siting down to talk things out works, a lot of marriages would have been saved.

Siting down and trashing issues only works in theory. A lot of couples need to separate and miss each other.

Christianity isn't against separation, you can be married but not stay with your spouse.

And others need to divorce. Divorce is not a sin.

i really wanted this talking issues but he does even worse anytime i complain to his family about his behavior, i don't want dis life because am really really bittered

dollytino4real:
dis ur teachable is wat he really needs nothing more, because he is hard working but a great waster of his resources on kpekus

You dey wait to teach teach a grown man lesson? Na you be him mama abi him papa? 😩😩😩