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I have a friend, 25 years old, who once told me something that left me speechless.

He said, “Masturbation has saved me… not destroyed me, like people say.”

At first, I was confused. Saved him? How?

So, I asked.

He looked me in the eye and explained:

“I’m 25 and I’ve never had sex. Anytime I get Hot, I just help myself. People think it’s weakness. For me, it’s strength. It keeps me focused.”

He told me about how he tried dating before. How it always ended the same way—distractions, manipulations, emotional games. Instead of giving him peace, relationships drained his energy.

So, he made a decision. He cut it all out. No more chasing. No more drama.

“Since then,” he said, “I’ve had full concentration on my work. And because of that, I’m doing really well.”

And he wasn’t lying.

He’s into tech. He’s building something huge—an app that, according to him, will shake up Africa. He even told me the idea, and honestly, I was shocked. It’s bold. It’s powerful. And the crazy part? He’s already done with the web app. Right now, he’s building the bridge for expansion.

I sat there listening, half inspired, half confused.

On one hand, I saw his confidence, his focus, his progress. I saw someone who didn’t let urges, relationships, or society’s pressure derail him.

On the other hand, I wondered—was he truly right? Is masturbation really what saved him? Or is it just his discipline, his choice to put concentration above pleasure?

Maybe what saved him wasn’t the act itself… but the mindset behind it.

Maybe he simply refused to be controlled by others, and chose to control himself.

And that choice—whether people agree with it or not—gave him peace, focus, and direction.

Now, I’m left with the question: is he correct? Or is it just his own way of surviving in a distracting world?

He feels safe now.
By the time he will realize he is not it might be too late.
He shouldn't be too comfortable not being in a steady relationship with a woman if his intention is to get married anytime in the future.

july21st:
He feels safe now.
By the time he will realize he is not it might be too late.
He shouldn't be too comfortable not being in a steady relationship with a woman if his intention is to get married anytime in the future.

I personally understand what he's saying...there's mo lady out there that just won't knock you out of focus or becomes overbearing..
My own is a working class, I will say she's understanding butttttttt I can't talk what my eyes have seen...
Sometimes I feel like running away...

I asked him if he don't plan on getting married..he said yes but there's a time he seff knows it will be time...
By then there would be no need to service himself anymore..he now got the bag so can concentrate on family and the rest..according to him

He can get pussi with no drama. Everything can be negotiated.

Personally I don't see anything enjoyable in masturbation, it's nonsense.


I would rather get one pay as you go whenever the urge comes than do that rubbish.

Please stop pushing this rhetoric. You would rather watch yourself having sex than mst.urb.ting. It's a disgusting, addictive act meant for those who are only seeking an easier way out.

It would drain you and distract you, cost you energy and valuable time. You would always feel tired and the ugly part is unlike sex which is scarce and makes you limit your attempts, you can engage in mst.ub.tn anytime leading to excess.

Let's stop misleading our generation.

Sex with no dramas actually do exist, but Goodluck to him tho

For me, the only advantage of masturbation is that you never contact or exprience infection.

You see that thing called STD, it's very bad.

Some people has end up getting HIV because they want to satisfy their gbola.

Most of these fresh looking girls you see are bank of infections. They can still pass some skin infection to you even as you use CD.

Before you nack any girl, observe her skin and toto area well. Don't just dive into anything

At least once once make he dey carry hookup

Bendeco02:
For me, the only advantage of masturbation is that you never contact or exprience infection.

You see that thing called STD, it's very bad.

Some people has end up getting HIV because they want to satisfy their gbola.

Most of these fresh looking girls you see are bank of infections. They can still pass some skin infection to you even as you use CD.

Before you nack any girl, observe her skin and toto area well. Don't just dive into anything

While still at school, a roommate of mine Abdullahi Nak one banny like that,, she give am sweetie...the guy con give us sweetie too..all of us wey dey inside room...we almost died...

After God rescued Abdullahi...baba run away from ladies...he said this is the 5th times he's having different infections from clean girls oh...and he always use protection according to him..
I have never had sex in my life anyways...

Even though I agree with you, this P.A.Y.G will also cost you money. The little cash giving to OS will later compound into something big that would have been used for something productive. Except you're earning huge income or you have attain passive level of income.

Them don chop my money sha.

Bahamas95:
Personally I don't see anything enjoyable in masturbation, it's nonsense.


I would rather get one pay as you go whenever the urge comes than do that rubbish.

Vaseline was just a body lotion until some people started using it to make a way where there is none.

I hope you don't understand what I typed

Ogunnaike144:
While still at school, a roommate of mine Abdullahi Nak one banny like that,, she give am sweetie...the guy con give us sweetie too..all of us wey dey inside room...we almost died...

After God rescued Abdullahi...baba run away from ladies...he said this is the 5th times he's having different infections from clean girls oh...and he always use protection according to him..
I have never had sex in my life anyways...

Infection bad. That's the only thing that speaks to we men in the language we understand

It would soon destroy you that you will curse the very first day you tried it.

Bendeco02:
Infection bad. That's the only thing that speaks to we men in the language we understand

😂😂😂

Even while I don't agree with this my older friend but I have seen serious changes in his life..
He said masturbation had helped him erased his mind from women and helped his focus big time..

He moved out of the house I knew him from to a much bigger apartment..
His workspace is tempting....his phone is always on DND, and this guy will sit on his work chair for hours coding and helping his life...

He told me he Will marry because once a man has money, he have 50% respect first from a lady and then his own standard will be high that all those hungry girls won't be able to reach..
He said he will settle for a big player like himself where she's independent too and is busy with her life while he's busy with his..

Ogunnaike144:
I have a friend, 25 years old, who once told me something that left me speechless.

He said, “Masturbation has saved me… not destroyed me, like people say.”

At first, I was confused. Saved him? How?

So, I asked.

He looked me in the eye and explained:

“I’m 25 and I’ve never had sex. Anytime I get Hot, I just help myself. People think it’s weakness. For me, it’s strength. It keeps me focused.”

He told me about how he tried dating before. How it always ended the same way—distractions, manipulations, emotional games. Instead of giving him peace, relationships drained his energy.

So, he made a decision. He cut it all out. No more chasing. No more drama.

“Since then,” he said, “I’ve had full concentration on my work. And because of that, I’m doing really well.”

And he wasn’t lying.

He’s into tech. He’s building something huge—an app that, according to him, will shake up Africa. He even told me the idea, and honestly, I was shocked. It’s bold. It’s powerful. And the crazy part? He’s already done with the web app. Right now, he’s building the bridge for expansion.

I sat there listening, half inspired, half confused.

On one hand, I saw his confidence, his focus, his progress. I saw someone who didn’t let urges, relationships, or society’s pressure derail him.

On the other hand, I wondered—was he truly right? Is masturbation really what saved him? Or is it just his discipline, his choice to put concentration above pleasure?

Maybe what saved him wasn’t the act itself… but the mindset behind it.

Maybe he simply refused to be controlled by others, and chose to control himself.

And that choice—whether people agree with it or not—gave him peace, focus, and direction.

Now, I’m left with the question: is he correct? Or is it just his own way of surviving in a distracting world?

Follow his footsteps now who is holding you? Why bring it here? Shebi he is doing well so follow him

Kimo21:
Follow his footsteps now who is holding you? Why bring it here? Shebi he is doing well so follow him

So does me asking questions means I am right or wrong or he's right or wrong?
Sometimes someone ask questions to make learn more...
I didn't agree at all and with him and so decided to share if I am only one "Archaic and Beclouded" as he termed

Ogunnaike144:
I have a friend, 25 years old, who once told me something that left me speechless.

He said, “Masturbation has saved me… not destroyed me, like people say.”

At first, I was confused. Saved him? How?

So, I asked.

He looked me in the eye and explained:

“I’m 25 and I’ve never had sex. Anytime I get Hot, I just help myself. People think it’s weakness. For me, it’s strength. It keeps me focused.”

He told me about how he tried dating before. How it always ended the same way—distractions, manipulations, emotional games. Instead of giving him peace, relationships drained his energy.

So, he made a decision. He cut it all out. No more chasing. No more drama.

“Since then,” he said, “I’ve had full concentration on my work. And because of that, I’m doing really well.”

And he wasn’t lying.

He’s into tech. He’s building something huge—an app that, according to him, will shake up Africa. He even told me the idea, and honestly, I was shocked. It’s bold. It’s powerful. And the crazy part? He’s already done with the web app. Right now, he’s building the bridge for expansion.

I sat there listening, half inspired, half confused.

On one hand, I saw his confidence, his focus, his progress. I saw someone who didn’t let urges, relationships, or society’s pressure derail him.

On the other hand, I wondered—was he truly right? Is masturbation really what saved him? Or is it just his discipline, his choice to put concentration above pleasure?

Maybe what saved him wasn’t the act itself… but the mindset behind it.

Maybe he simply refused to be controlled by others, and chose to control himself.

And that choice—whether people agree with it or not—gave him peace, focus, and direction.

Now, I’m left with the question: is he correct? Or is it just his own way of surviving in a distracting world?

Lol wait till your friend attain destruction in disguise of focus.

Op no lie ooo. You are talking about yourself here.

Such a truckload of horseshit in a post. Damn!! 🥱

Weird how people don't see that this is an AI generated imagination of OP

Believe me your friend lie's so much. Oga expect you masturbate maybe once in a while I can understand you very well. But if you masturbate everyday or nearly everday bro you're a gonna you can never focus it will drin the living daylight from you. That act is not good to be addicted to it's a disaster I never knew sperm has so much energy in a man's body. Sperm is the root of a man's strength never drin it anyhow it's your tap root. Say no to masturbation please.

Aydot99:
Op no lie ooo. You are talking about yourself here.

Why should I do that?

emoboy4u:
Weird how people don't see that this is an AI generated imagination of OP

I don't know why images cannot be uploaded here from my end...can anyone help?
I told my friend that I posted this convo of us on nairaland, he is here currently to read through the comment...

When he responds or say something I will subtly reply then you guys will know he's the one..

And yes he's safe and aware of what I am doing..
I just want to drive in my point..

If you don't want a gf, then there are FWB everywhere, rather than self servicing yourself...

Besides any man that has control over his urge conquers 90% of his battle...I have a gf and yes I haven't touched her yet, I don't masturbate, I don't even watch porn...

Me wey dey sort my life out with anger...
I have videos to create and edit for my YouTube channel, have pending jobs from clients to do and also go to the gym and to church...

So tell me where's the time?

If I have nothing to do, I have lots of books in my mini library to read.

The only time I can even support masturbation if u find urself in a village that most gals looking for child
U jus have to forget sex
Village gals Dey find who dem won ruin with belle
If u give gal belle na u go come Dey advice urself say if u for know u for masturbate

Ogunnaike144:
I don't know why images cannot be uploaded here from my end...can anyone help?
I told my friend that I posted this convo of us on nairaland, he is here currently to read through the comment...

When he responds or say something I will subtly reply then you guys will know he's the one..

And yes he's safe and aware of what I am doing..
I just want to drive in my point..

If you don't want a gf, then there are FWB everywhere, rather than self servicing yourself...

Besides any man that has control over his urge conquers 90% of his battle...I have a gf and yes I haven't touched her yet, I don't masturbate, I don't even watch porn...

Me wey dey sort my life out with anger...
I have videos to create and edit for my YouTube channel, have pending jobs from clients to do and also go to the gym and to church...

So tell me where's the time?

If I have nothing to do, I have lots of books in my mini library to read.

Bro ur own good
Most people addicted to masturbation are actually jobless

nothing wrong with masturbation only Africans who have contributed nothing to world development sees something wrong with it,personally I see no difference between sex and mastirbation they are both about friction in the penis

Racheal45:
Bro ur own good
Most people addicted to masturbation are actually jobless

Really?
Does masturbation makes people jobless?

bigpriik:
nothing wrong with masturbation only Africans who have contributed nothing to world development sees something wrong with it,personally I see no difference between sex and mastirbation they are both about friction in the penis

I am not expecting anything less from someone with such a moniker..lol