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Call me childish or whatever but I don’t keep friends or contact with any of my ex regardless of how the relationship ended.
Immediately the relationship ends I block and delete everything that reminds me of them, contact , pictures e.t.c Currently I don’t have any of my exes contact on my phone, early this year I had to change my number so I cut ties totally with all of them.

I don’t see them as my enemies or anything of sort, as a matter of fact I wish them well but it’s from a distance, I can’t imagine being just friends with someone I once loved unless the feelings wasn’t genuine.
Most people I shared this view with says I’m childish and there’s nothing wrong with being friends with an ex but for me I think cutting you off is the surest way for me to move on.

What do you think?

Ericmaestrooffi:
Call me childish or whatever but I don’t keep friends or contact with any of my ex regardless of how the relationship ended.
Immediately the relationship ends I block and delete everything that reminds me of them, contact , pictures e.t.c Currently I don’t have any of my exes contact on my phone, early this year I had to change my number so I cut ties totally with all of them.

I don’t see them as my enemies or anything of sort, as a matter of fact I wish them well but it’s from a distance, I can’t imagine being just friends with someone I once loved unless the feelings wasn’t genuine.
Most people I shared this view with says I’m childish and there’s nothing wrong with being friends with an ex but for me I think cutting you off is the surest way for me to move on.

What do you think?

No matter how hard it was when we broke up
Sometimes I'll still want to hear their voice
I can't imagine myself turning down a call from someone I once loved

saviourGeorge:
No matter how hard it was when we broke up
Sometimes I'll still want to hear their voice
I can't imagine myself turning down a call from someone I once loved

I understand you bro, sometimes I do wish to hear from them too but I will never take their call or messages.

You are doing well...

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I don't see your decision as being childish, do whatever works for you.





As for me my decision depends on the person, I cut ties with the bitter ones completely......I still keep in touch with two of my ex girlfriends, we talk once in a blue moon. The recent one was today when they wished my mum a happy birthday after liking my WhatsApp status with her pictures.

For them to be able to remain friends, either of the 2 things is involved

1- They were never in love while they were dating.

2- They are still in love after they have broken up.

Ericmaestrooffi:
I understand you bro, sometimes I do wish to hear from them too but I will never take their call or messages.

You're doing the right thing.
You don't want to reinforce the energy tie.
[That is one aspect of it most people are yet to understand]

Bahamas95:
I don't see your decision as being childish, do whatever works for you.





As for me my decision depends on the person, I cut ties with the bitter ones completely......I still keep in touch with two of my ex girlfriends, we talk once in a blue moon. The recent one was today when they wished my mum a happy birthday after liking my WhatsApp status with her pictures.

Yes bro, the last time I tried it we ended up having sex even though we were both in new relationships.
I learnt an important lesson after that experience.

Mariangeles:
You're doing the right thing.
You don't want to reinforce the energy tie.
[That is one aspect of it most people are yet to understand]

Thank you, I’m glad you see things from my perspective but I have a question and I’ll be glad if you can advise on that.

What about your ex partner siblings , is it also necessary to cut them off. One of my ex girlfriend’s sister still chats me till date, like she regularly checks up on me and stuff like that. If I ignore her messages she’ll send multiple messages or even call to see if I’m ok.

Ericmaestrooffi:
Thank you, I’m glad you see things from my perspective but I have a question and I’ll be glad if you can advise on that.

What about your ex partner siblings , is it also necessary to cut them off. One of my ex girlfriend’s sister still chats me till date, like she regularly checks up on me and stuff like that. If I ignore her messages she’ll send multiple messages or even call to see if I’m ok.

Even she from her end shouldn't be communicating with you (not to talk of regularly),since you and her sister are no longer together.

Do what you think is right for you.
You don't have to prove anything [that it doesn't affect you]

Ericmaestrooffi:
Yes bro, the last time I tried it we ended up having sex even though we were both in new relationships.
I learnt an important lesson after that experience.

So it's better you cut ties completely.....Na this kain thing dey cause paternity fraud.


You won't find it funny if your current partner is still seeing her ex so don't do it.

Ericmaestrooffi:
Yes bro, the last time I tried it we ended up having sex even though we were both in new relationships.
I learnt an important lesson after that experience.

You lack restraint and discipline.

There is nothing wrong with having a platonic relationship with an ex

You can stay friends either your ex if both of you have emotional maturity and just have set your boundaries, if your relationship was not all.about sex , you will find out you guys can have something reasonable to talk about ..even assisting each other if the need arises .. not all exes are bad..A bad person in relationship will stil be a bad ex .. This does not mean you should be in constant communication with your ex.

Me the best decision is to cut ties with everything ex

MarkNsukkaBread:
You lack restraint and discipline.

There is nothing wrong with having a platonic relationship with an ex

The guy never said it was wrong...

He clearly stated his reasons which is to avoid temptations and entanglements.

He already knows his weakness that's why he is trying to avoid it. It's not by force to have a platonic relationship with an ex.

It's what works for him!

Ericmaestrooffi:
Thank you, I’m glad you see things from my perspective but I have a question and I’ll be glad if you can advise on that.

What about your ex partner siblings , is it also necessary to cut them off. One of my ex girlfriend’s sister still chats me till date, like she regularly checks up on me and stuff like that. If I ignore her messages she’ll send multiple messages or even call to see if I’m ok.

People around Ur exes are completely different from Ur ex, you and them never go beyond boundary seeing each other unclothedness.

You ex is past that you should avoid, if truly you want peace in Ur new relationship

Ericmaestrooffi:
Call me childish or whatever but I don’t keep friends or contact with any of my ex regardless of how the relationship ended.
Immediately the relationship ends I block and delete everything that reminds me of them, contact , pictures e.t.c Currently I don’t have any of my exes contact on my phone, early this year I had to change my number so I cut ties totally with all of them.

I don’t see them as my enemies or anything of sort, as a matter of fact I wish them well but it’s from a distance, I can’t imagine being just friends with someone I once loved unless the feelings wasn’t genuine.
Most people I shared this view with says I’m childish and there’s nothing wrong with being friends with an ex but for me I think cutting you off is the surest way for me to move on.

What do you think?

U are on point .. and same page as me... If u dnt cut them off initially, u will never move on...

There will still remain this jealousy thing ..

See all our celebrity and there exes ... Non ones to move on... U can imagine that up till now , Sophia of davido has refused to share pix of a nu boifriend since about 13 years later..

Because sh doesn't want to move on... Sophia of Israel bmw still snoops into her ex to know latest


I HV tried so many ways...and I realized..that the best way to handle it emotions after break up is complete blockage of ur mind from the ex..then physically, through all contact blockage..


After u get a nu patner and u guyz have gone done with time ND love..u can unblock...as the ex will now look ordinary to u

Plenty exs means plenty sex....


If you know Okafor's Law, then you know....

I still have some of my ex contacts from 10 years ago, no thanks to Gmail and my laziness to delete them....



Anyway, when ever I see that they've moved on completely with their lives, I reregister my presence and cause chaos....

Therock5555:
Plenty exs means plenty sex....


If you know Okafor's Law, then you know....

I still have some of my ex contacts from 10 years ago, no thanks to Gmail and my laziness to delete them....



Anyway, when ever I see that they've moved on completely with their lives, I reregister my presence and cause chaos....

lol, what is this?
When I see they have moved on I just let them be.
Life nor too hard.

bigpicture001:
U are on point .. and same page as me... If u dnt cut them off initially, u will never move on...

There will still remain this jealousy thing ..

See all our celebrity and there exes ... Non ones to move on... U can imagine that up till now , Sophia of davido has refused to share pix of a nu boifriend since about 13 years later..

Because sh doesn't want to move on... Sophia of Israel bmw still snoops into her ex to know latest


I HV tried so many ways...and I realized..that the best way to handle it emotions after break up is complete blockage of ur mind from the ex..then physically, through all contact blockage..


After u get a nu patner and u guyz have gone done with time ND love..u can unblock...as the ex will now look ordinary to u

Exactly my point, I don’t want to see any update about them or their new found love. That’s the reason I block them, it helps me move on fully.

Ericmaestrooffi:
Call me childish or whatever but I don’t keep friends or contact with any of my ex regardless of how the relationship ended.
Immediately the relationship ends I block and delete everything that reminds me of them, contact , pictures e.t.c Currently I don’t have any of my exes contact on my phone, early this year I had to change my number so I cut ties totally with all of them.

I don’t see them as my enemies or anything of sort, as a matter of fact I wish them well but it’s from a distance, I can’t imagine being just friends with someone I once loved unless the feelings wasn’t genuine.
Most people I shared this view with says I’m childish and there’s nothing wrong with being friends with an ex but for me I think cutting you off is the surest way for me to move on.

What do you think?

Some became ex due to their genotype not being compatible.

Ericmaestrooffi:
lol, what is this?
When I see they have moved on I just let them be.
Life nor too hard.

I like girls in serious relationships, they no dey too stress person

Therock5555:
Plenty exs means plenty sex....


If you know Okafor's Law, then you know....

I still have some of my ex contacts from 10 years ago, no thanks to Gmail and my laziness to delete them....



Anyway, when ever I see that they've moved on completely with their lives, I reregister my presence and cause chaos....

We dey the same WhatsApp group. Thanks to Okafor's law of Congo dynamics.

PerfectStranger:
We dey the same WhatsApp group. Thanks to Okafor's law of Congo dynamics.

My Niqqhaaaa😁😁😁

Haven't dated anyone in my life before but I see your point. I will equally do same.

saviourGeorge:
No matter how hard it was when we broke up
Sometimes I'll still want to hear their voice
I can't imagine myself turning down a call from someone I once loved

Sure, the feelings of intimacy and closeness don't simply die or fade away totally despite being out of the relationship...!

That's just natural.

However, acting on such feelings or creating the room for such feelings to lead to commitments and acts while in other relationships is setting oneself up for needless drama and problems.


It's simple and basic common sense to cut ties totally especially when being close to that person stirs up strong emotions and can lead to sexual acts.


Discipline dictates deliberately doing things that are necessary even when they are not enjoyable or palatable for the sake of a higher cause.


It is lack of discipline and even respect for one's partner to keep fooling around with one's Ex, whether physically or emotionally.

Some of us broke up respectfully
We still admire each other from far

There’s this popular line expressed in similar ways like “Let’s have each other’s backs even if we’re not dating”

I don’t stay friends with an ex. Some people do and it works for them but not me. I can wish you well from afar as you’re no longer in my circle and vice versa.

Just let go and enjoy your time here. The reason for the separation had its purpose and the woman feels it when a man moves on for real. She begins to see all the qualities she's lost and can never have. That's why she tries to bring back that feeling. To the man I don't think that's what matters, it's best to focus on ur new relationship with finance and self discipline. Stop gambling with your emotions. Focus.

There are exs that are like family,so I am still frds with them. Op heaven never fall