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Good day everyone, please I will be as brief as possible on this. After my first post here on naira land I was adviced by members of this forum never to bring my family predicament on the internet space as I would not get answer or solution to my problem. Well I made a complain here about my virgin wife who I caught coming back from God knows where with a guy that sells thrift in my area because I went for outside work but unfortunately the work didn’t hold so I had to come back home unexpectedly. My wife denied having an affair with this guy and even swore on her late father grave that she never had anything to do with this guy and that the guy only escorted her from where she went to buy something that evening. Now here comes the big problem as my wife is pregnant and and we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex because I am a very busy person and I go outside for work. I am confronting my wife now and begging her to tell me who is responsible for this pregnancy but she insisted I am responsible and she has never cheated on me, I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to involve her family members in our relationship for now but honestly I don’t think I can hold it anymore I really love my wife and I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this. Some weeks ago when she was bathing I quickly went through her phone and I saw a number not saved in her WhatsApp and I went through the conversation and I found out it was a guy she was talking with and this is same girl I have warned never to give her number to anyone I don’t care who the person is but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her because I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her and maybe she might be doing things at my absent as the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex . Please I need sincere advice on how to go about this issue and please I don’t want insult or abuse as I am not in a right state of mind now.
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Firstly, you said you don't want her giving out her number regardless of who the person is, so she's not supposed to have anyone else's contact details except for yours... Then secondly, you said her high libido is your greatest insecurity.

Clearly you're the problem here, free that woman from that prison you call a marriage... Is she your wife or your slave that you want to control her every movement? It's not her fault that you're insecured due to your low libido.

I will still marry a virgin.

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Paternity test, not scan.

I will spare you cos you plead not to be insulted.
Oga I beg you carry your wife enter house. When una don read rubbish online finish una go start to build skyscrapers for una head.

Scan cannot tell you the day you made love to your wife and get her pregnant. You hear me.

If her libido is high and you know that is even good for you. Don't you think so?

😂😂😁

What else can we say?

CON-gratulations

Are you very sure she was a virgin??
Girls dey run scam o, tighten laps and virg!na wall during period o bro!
When I read your story it was obvious the guy was Bleep!Ng your wife and pls stop "we promised not to involved third party", yous family
It's irritating my eyes, be a man!

Xso666:
we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex

the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex .

You keep brand new virgin nympho for house and you are marking sex calendar for her with excuses of being busy now smoke is coming out of your ears. You do well.

Is this what you want to go and tell her family? you want to go there and be explaining your sexual TIMETABLE to the whole community. 😂😁

Stop acting insecure, stop expressing any doubts and support her and the pregnancy but start preparing to do DNA 🧬 test when the child is born to clear your doubts.

Perhaps another Messiah

Xso666:
Good day everyone, please I will be as brief as possible on this. After my first post here on naira land I was adviced by members of this forum never to bring my family predicament on the internet space as I would not get answer or solution to my problem. Well I made a complain here about my virgin wife who I caught coming back from God knows where with a guy that sells thrift in my area because I went for outside work but unfortunately the work didn’t hold so I had to come back home unexpectedly. My wife denied having an affair with this guy and even swore on her late father grave that she never had anything to do with this guy and that the guy only escorted her from where she went to buy something that evening. Now here comes the big problem as my wife is pregnant and and we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex because I am a very busy person and I go outside for work. I am confronting my wife now and begging her to tell me who is responsible for this pregnancy but she insisted I am responsible and she has never cheated on me, I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to involve her family members in our relationship for now but honestly I don’t think I can hold it anymore I really love my wife and I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this. Some weeks ago when she was bathing I quickly went through her phone and I saw a number not saved in her WhatsApp and I went through the conversation and I found out it was a guy she was talking with and this is same girl I have warned never to give her number to anyone I don’t care who the person is but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her because I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her and maybe she might be doing things at my absent as the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex . Please I need sincere advice on how to go about this issue and please I don’t want insult or abuse as I am not in a right state of mind now.
Help me move to front page so more people can help me contribute to this so I get good and matured answers.

A woman may have gotten pregnant from the previous sexual intercourse that you had with her without knowing or obvious symptoms. And since your sex is continuous, you may think it was your recent sex that got her pregnant. Where as, you scored a goal long before VAR recognized it.

After a Sexual activity, a man's sperm still stays in a woman's body for extra 5 days before it dissolves and unable to fertilize her egg.

I am not saying you are completely wrong but there's 90% chance is your work and that got sealed.

This guy sound like a cool-headed man without womanology experience at-all, say said
a. " I am confronting my wife now and begging her,
b. I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to,
c. I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this,
d. but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her,
e. I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her"

This guy don buy market.

Samantha125:
Firstly, you said you don't want her giving out her number regardless of who the person is, so she's not supposed to have anyone else's contact details except for yours... Then secondly, you said her high libido is your greatest insecurity.

Clearly you're the problem here, free that woman from that prison you call a marriage... Is she your wife or your slave that you want to control her every movement? It's not her fault that you're insecured due to your low libido.

You're wrong by your submission! I wouldn't blame you much because you didn't follow the topic when this Guy first complained about the woman .

Op i read when you complained always seeing her with a guy close to your area, that's a woman that is married! Lol

You said there was a time you travel for work as there wre back and forth on the job you came back home announced, and she's not around and you called her and she comfortably told you she's at home .

Only for you to take a walk down the street and saw the same guy escorting her back home
This whole thing is getting obvious, i will strongly advise you NEVER let this issue lead you to fight because it can lead to dangerous situations, you need to be careful now.

Now send her to your parents and find time to meet with them and explain everything to them, let your parents decide if her parents should be invited, from there they found out the owner of that pregnancy. Fear and emotion is the reason you have not be able to face the reality of what is happening.

Don't be surprise when the final result come out and which ever it goes just take it as part of life, i wish it would be positive that you're actually the owner. But you need to clear all doubt if not looking at the way (she fraternize with that guy and she doesn't seems to understand the implication) it would remain in your mind even when you have send child, please let your parent help you before it's too late. It's painful if after 8 years somebody would come and tell you're not the father of the child you're already bond with and money spent for upkeep

At it is now all is not right and only you can't handle this issue , because if it happens they have something in common they may connive against you.

We have read a report like this from one of the Northan states where they killed the man, because the lady said she prefer her ex to her husband.

Did you calculate well as pregnancy is calculated based on Last Menstrual Period (LMP)?
Please calm down and ensure that you're calculating well before accusing her of infidelity.

Judging from your previous post, in all sincerity, your wife is not entirely being truthful. Women can swear to heaven and back for something they know they did. They can cry and swear and claim innocent for something they are guilty of.

My advise? Play it down, don’t worry too much about it otherwise you will develop high bp. If you have to get a lover outside to calm your nerves from overthinking, do so. Don’t get angry and vengeful cos u might kill her in the process. Assume all is well until the day you catch her red handed

I don't have the time to read this epistle now, I'll come back later

Xso666:
Good day everyone, please I will be as brief as possible on this. After my first post here on naira land I was adviced by members of this forum never to bring my family predicament on the internet space as I would not get answer or solution to my problem. Well I made a complain here about my virgin wife who I caught coming back from God knows where with a guy that sells thrift in my area because I went for outside work but unfortunately the work didn’t hold so I had to come back home unexpectedly. My wife denied having an affair with this guy and even swore on her late father grave that she never had anything to do with this guy and that the guy only escorted her from where she went to buy something that evening. Now here comes the big problem as my wife is pregnant and and we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex because I am a very busy person and I go outside for work. I am confronting my wife now and begging her to tell me who is responsible for this pregnancy but she insisted I am responsible and she has never cheated on me, I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to involve her family members in our relationship for now but honestly I don’t think I can hold it anymore I really love my wife and I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this. Some weeks ago when she was bathing I quickly went through her phone and I saw a number not saved in her WhatsApp and I went through the conversation and I found out it was a guy she was talking with and this is same girl I have warned never to give her number to anyone I don’t care who the person is but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her because I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her and maybe she might be doing things at my absent as the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex . Please I need sincere advice on how to go about this issue and please I don’t want insult or abuse as I am not in a right state of mind now.
Help me move to front page so more people can help me contribute to this so I get good and matured answers.

My candid advice, tell her after the birth of the child you're going to get DNA done on the child. Inform her family too and the reason you insist on it. If the child happens not to be yours she and her family will refund the amount you spent on anti natal including drugs bought. Note the DNA will be done before leaving the hospital.

We rise by lifting others

Esthered:
Did you calculate well as pregnancy is calculated based on Last Menstrual Period (LMP)?
Please calm down and ensure that you're calculating well before accusing her of infidelity.

That lady has been hobnobbing with that guy according to the husband, and lying to her husband, let him involve their parents and the question you raised here would be asked and they know what to do, he can;t handle the matter alone, it started like play, but look at what the man is saying today because somethings ways over-looked.

Xso666:
Xso666

Op, you can determine the paternity of a child during pregnancy, it's called non-invasive prenatal paternity test (NIPP). Clinics do it in Nigeria. If you're in Lagos, check smartdna clinic online. They have clinics in couple of places here.
Just do NIPP and rest, you go know if na you get pikin or not.
Don't wait till the child is born, do it now.. imagine paying hospital bills and all, what if e no be your own ??

correctyourself:
That lady has been hobnobbing with that guy according to the husband, and lying to her husband, let him involve their parents and the question you raised here would be asked and they know what to do, he can;t handle the matter alone, it started like play, but look at what the man is saying today because somethings ways over-looked.

I agree that he complained about her but then let him calm down and calculate correctly, work back to their last encounter....before making assumptions that may destroy the marriage.

Samantha125:
Firstly, you said you don't want her giving out her number regardless of who the person is, so she's not supposed to have anyone else's contact details except for yours... Then secondly, you said her high libido is your greatest insecurity.

Clearly you're the problem here, free that woman from that prison you call a marriage... Is she your wife or your slave that you want to control her every movement? It's not her fault that you're insecured due to your low libido.

Thanks for your contribution but i don’t maltreat my wife or treat her bad in anyway just that the problem started from when she started associating herself with people on the street which I don’t really like and if you read my previous post I explained what happened in there so I think you should check my previous post before you judge me please

jmoore:
I will still marry a virgin.

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Paternity test, not scan.

They are good

jmoore:
I will still marry a virgin.

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Paternity test, not scan.

They are good but it all depends on the individual as I am speaking my own life experience

Openair:
Op, you can determine the paternity of a child during pregnancy, it's called non-invasive prenatal paternity test (NIPP). Clinics do it in Nigeria. If you're in Lagos, check smartdna clinic online. They have clinics in couple of places here.
Just do NIPP and rest, you go know if na you get pikin or not.
Don't wait till the child is born, do it now.. imagine paying hospital bills and all, what if e no be your own ??

That’s my fear because I don’t want to be fooled at the end of the day but I’m confused

Esthered:
I agree that he complained about her but then let him calm down and calculate correctly, work back to their last encounter....before making assumptions that may destroy the marriage.

Thanks for your contribution but I was adviced on this forum not to involve our parents here and I followed that and now this is happening and I am lost and don’t know what to do at this point

Esthered:
I agree that he complained about her but then let him calm down and calculate correctly, work back to their last encounter....before making assumptions that may destroy the marriage.

well, it still ok if that would solve the challenge

What if the child is his? What then? Do you think she'll ever forgive him?

He should just free the woman from that prison he calls marriage and let her go and find a man with no insecurities.

correctyourself:
You're wrong by your submission! I wouldn't blame you much because you didn't follow the topic when this Guy first complained about the woman .

Op i read when you complained always seeing her with a guy close to your area, that's a woman that is married! Lol

You said there was a time you travel for work as there wre back and forth on the job you came back home announced, and she's not around and you called her and she comfortably told you she's at home .

Only for you to take a walk down the street and saw the same guy escorting her back home
This whole thing is getting obvious, i will strongly advise you NEVER let this issue lead you to fight because it can lead to dangerous situations, you need to be careful now.

Now send her to your parents and find time to meet with them and explain everything to them, let your parents decide if her parents should be invited, from there they found out the owner of that pregnancy. Fear and emotion is the reason you have not be able to face the reality of what is happening.

Don't be surprise when the final result come out and which ever it goes just take it as part of life, i wish it would be positive that you're actually the owner. But you need to clear all doubt if not looking at the way (she fraternize with that guy and she doesn't seems to understand the implication) it would remain in your mind even when you have send child, please let your parent help you before it's too late. It's painful if after 8 years somebody would come and tell you're not the father of the child you're already bond with and money spent for upkeep

At it is now all is not right and only you can't handle this issue , because if it happens they have something in common they may connive against you.

We have read a report like this from one of the Northan states where they killed the man, because the lady said she prefer her ex to her husband.

Xso666:
Thanks for your contribution but I was adviced on this forum not to involve our parents here and I followed that and now this is happening and I am lost and don’t know what to do at this point

Did you ask an experienced person to help you calculate before making these assumptions?
You didn't say if the messages you saw on her phone showed evidences of her cheating. She only disobeyed you and was still chatting with the person.
The foundation of marriage is trust and if it's not there, it can rarely stand firm and even if it does it's because one party is still tolerating the other person till they've had enough to leave.

AkhereOkaka:
My candid advice, tell her after the birth of the child you're going to get DNA done on the child. Inform her family too and the reason you insist on it. If the child happens not to be yours she and her family will refund the amount you spent on anti natal including drugs bought. Note the DNA will be done before leaving the hospital.

We rise by lifting others

I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

Xso666:
That’s my fear because I don’t want to be fooled at the end of the day but I’m confused

Stop been confused, if you can afford the test do it now, it's still ok.

The most important thing is to clear your doubt so that you can prepare to father the child.

Esthered:
Did you ask an experienced person to help you calculate before making these assumptions?
You didn't say if the messages you saw on her phone showed evidences of her cheating. She only disobeyed you and was still chatting with the person.
The foundation of marriage is trust and if it's not there, it can rarely stand firm and even if it does it's because one party is still tolerating the other person till they've had enough to leave.

I never said I didn’t trust my wife if it was her previous act that brought about all of this if you check my previous post you will see what I caught her doing and that’s what prompted all of this

Samantha125:
Firstly, you said you don't want her giving out her number regardless of who the person is, so she's not supposed to have anyone else's contact details except for yours... Then secondly, you said her high libido is your greatest insecurity.

Clearly you're the problem here, free that woman from that prison you call a marriage... Is she your wife or your slave that you want to control her every movement? It's not her fault that you're insecured due to your low libido.

He's a ridiculously insecure character. Imagine saying you told your wife not to give out her phone number, who the hell does that? 😠