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Rexymania:
My prayers is for you not to father bastards 😂😂😂
You duh enter o e chance with that woman.
Wait for her to put to bed and conduct a DNA test. I can't tell a grown man like you what to do na. I have 2 boys btw.

Did you read about what happened last between us in my previous post

Esthered:
You're thinking the worst and that's the only advice I can give as your mind is fixed.

Sometimes I feel like my mind is been manipulated I just don’t know or maybe because of what happened last that’s making me feel this way

If you’re the father you have spoilt your marriage already
If you’re not marriage still spoil
You should have been patient

Samantha125:
You dictating who she should associate herself with already screams narcissism and emotional abuse.

Free that innocent woman because clearly you'll keep blaming her for your insecurities.

All you women know how to do is gaslighting, it isn't good to dictate who your partner should associate with but common sense should tell you the type of people to avoid if you respect your partner and want your relationship to last longer.

This isn't just boyfriend and girlfriend relationship it is marriage and husband or wife have the right to voice their concerns about who their partner associate with, imagine your husband sneaking around the neighborhood with a woman and you even caught them together in your home and he even lied to covered their tracks, how would you feel about everything? It is right to feel insecure because of the way your husband is behaving.

You can be the most secure person and still feel insecure if your partner behavior isn't more open and he/she is sneaking around with the opposite sex.

Samantha125:
What he needs is to free her from that marriage... Is she not supposed to hold a conversation with men from down the street because she's married?

She can hold conversation with men but there's limit to what married women can do with the opposite sex. According to OP she visited a single man, lied to covered their tracks and what's a single man doing with a married women to the extent of sneaking around with her ? Which business require them to be that close ? Married women shouldn't even have male friends if they want their marriage to last.

If it was the man doing the same thing can any woman tolerate it ?

Xso666:
She is 2 months pregnant and I came back from work a month and 3 weeks which was when we had sex so how come the pregnancy is 2 months already when I have not stayed up to 2 months in the house

Bro life is more mysterious than you think. I can put it to you that if that woman tells you the pregnancy is yours then 90% chances is that it is yours.

Can I also tell you that the day I deflowered my wife she doesn't know and never believed until she realized she was pregnant.

Can I also tell you that I have four kids and in all of the conceptions I have always been the one to tell my wife that she is pregnant and she will argue to the heavens that she is not and then the test and confirmation. Why am I telling you this?

Just calm your nerves and see how things unfolds. If you are the dad the baby in the womb will communicate with you. God does not take permission from you when He will do His work.

Some sperm stay longer than some alive in the woman's body. My point is do relax and watch how things unfolds. She is carrying enough trouble already. Please don't add to it. If she has ever needed a better man it is now.

Shalom!

Xso666:
I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

The scan result should show plus two weeks from the last sex you had.

It happened with my woman too. It starts counting from her last menstrual period.

I don't know why women like making things difficult for themselves. They'll do things that will put them in a suspicious position, and then start swearing to innocence.

Just tell her upfront that you'll do DNA once the baby is born and relax.

I don't beg my woman to stop chatting with men. For every man I catch her talking with, she'll catch me chatting with three women.

And no, women can't stand having you talk to another woman and ignoring them, no matter the level of your relationship with them.

That way, she'll advise herself.

MoneyMan5:
She can hold conversation with men but there's limit to what married women can do with the opposite sex. According to OP she visited a single man, lied to covered their tracks and what's a single man doing with a married women to the extent of sneaking around with her ? Which business require them to be that close ? Married women shouldn't even have male friends if they want their marriage to last.

If it was the man doing the same thing can any woman tolerate it ?

That lady is obviously catching cruise. Imagine lying about your whereabout and still being caught with another man.

To me, you go explain tire oo. Some men can tolerate.

Xso666:
She is 2 months pregnant and I came back from work a month and 3 weeks which was when we had sex so how come the pregnancy is 2 months already when I have not stayed up to 2 months in the house

The child is obviously yours. You can doubt her movements, but don't doubt the paternity of the child. You've been around for a month and 3 weeks and the scan is just reading 2 months.

The gestational age of the scan is not always matching the actual date of conception.

Samantha125:
Where you there when she was asked?🤔🤔🤔

I dey fear Samantha now ooohh, she fit see white defend am say na black!

AkhereOkaka:
My candid advice, tell her after the birth of the child you're going to get DNA done on the child. Inform her family too and the reason you insist on it. If the child happens not to be yours she and her family will refund the amount you spent on anti natal including drugs bought. Note the DNA will be done before leaving the hospital.

We rise by lifting others

What if he is killled before then..let's be smart

Openair:
Op, you can determine the paternity of a child during pregnancy, it's called non-invasive prenatal paternity test (NIPP). Clinics do it in Nigeria. If you're in Lagos, check smartdna clinic online. They have clinics in couple of places here.
Just do NIPP and rest, you go know if na you get pikin or not.
Don't wait till the child is born, do it now.. imagine paying hospital bills and all, what if e no be your own ??

Op this is the best u can do now to clear all this doubt and the rest…if I maybe sincere with you in all your wife is not being sincere with u in all entirety…get the dna done now and save yourself of many drama…who says u shouldn’t involve her parent? If I hear say u no involve them…this is a strong mater of infidelity and paternal fraud..go get NIPP DONE NOW !!

genkins:
What if he is killled before then..let's be smart

You're right, didn't thought of this. A cheating wife can do anything to cover her track.

But what do you suggest he should do?? let me know your thought thanks

We rise by lifting others

AkhereOkaka:
You're right, didn't thought of this. A cheating wife can do anything to cover her track.

But what do you suggest he should do?? let me know your thought thanks

We rise by lifting others

No one should know your next move.let him bid his time and pretend everything is fine.Then do dna when d child is born..if negative,just dump her.Even if positive,that his wife is meant for the streets simple

Xso666:
I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

Hmm breathe relax and just try your possible best to avoid overthinking.
Now no matter the issue involved l don't think anyone would be wise enough to have a relationship with a married woman when her husband is within his reach.

What would make her cheat,the high libido might be from pregnancy hormones too,if you have doubts confront the guy and ask him what's going on? No fights just talks okay everyone deserves a benefit of doubt,I can see some comments about you still doing DNA or something else someone mentioned try and get it done.
Why would your virgin wife choose another man's sperm to fertilize her for her first baby? Why?
Please just breathe I think you might be overacting though wait till the baby is born hmm.

Xso666:
Did you read about what happened last between us in my previous post

Yes

Jozilinn:
Hmm breathe relax and just try your possible best to avoid overthinking.
Now no matter the issue involved l don't think anyone would be wise enough to have a relationship with a married woman when her husband is within his reach.

What would make her cheat,the high libido might be from pregnancy hormones too,if you have doubts confront the guy and ask him what's going on? No fights just talks okay everyone deserves a benefit of doubt,I can see some comments about you still doing DNA or something else someone mentioned try and get it done.
Why would your virgin wife choose another man's sperm to fertilize her for her first baby? Why?
Please just breathe I think you might be overacting though wait till the baby is born hmm.

She changed when I brought her to Lagos she was never like this when I met her because I met her when she was still schooling

Samantha125:
Firstly, you said you don't want her giving out her number regardless of who the person is, so she's not supposed to have anyone else's contact details except for yours... Then secondly, you said her high libido is your greatest insecurity.

Clearly you're the problem here, free that woman from that prison you call a marriage... Is she your wife or your slave that you want to control her every movement? It's not her fault that you're insecured due to your low libido.

Are South Africans this terrible

Xso666:
She changed when I brought her to Lagos she was never like this when I met her because I met her when she was still schooling

I know you want solutions and that's why you made this post but please for the sake of your mental health and your well-being...wait till after the baby is born maybe you might still get reasons to either hold on or let go you understand.

Take matter to village for what? So you can be a laughing stock? Wait till the baby is born and do DNA test without informing your wife(so she won't collude with the doctor). Just ask doctor what sample you need to collect from the baby

Xso666:
She changed when I brought her to Lagos she was never like this when I met her because I met her when she was still schooling

Xso666:
She is a virgin and the part that scares me the most is how she suddenly became addicted to sex and even sometimes she jokingly tells me my d**k is not big enough and I don’t satisfy her and we will jokingly laugh it out

She is being real with you, so you want her to be pretending

Xso666:
Good day everyone, please I will be as brief as possible on this. After my first post here on naira land I was adviced by members of this forum never to bring my family predicament on the internet space as I would not get answer or solution to my problem. Well I made a complain here about my virgin wife who I caught coming back from God knows where with a guy that sells thrift in my area because I went for outside work but unfortunately the work didn’t hold so I had to come back home unexpectedly. My wife denied having an affair with this guy and even swore on her late father grave that she never had anything to do with this guy and that the guy only escorted her from where she went to buy something that evening. Now here comes the big problem as my wife is pregnant and and we went for scan and the date of the pregnancy didn’t match with the last time we had sex because I am a very busy person and I go outside for work. I am confronting my wife now and begging her to tell me who is responsible for this pregnancy but she insisted I am responsible and she has never cheated on me, I didn’t want to take the matter to the village because I was advised not to involve her family members in our relationship for now but honestly I don’t think I can hold it anymore I really love my wife and I don’t know if I am overthinking things or I am doing too much on this. Some weeks ago when she was bathing I quickly went through her phone and I saw a number not saved in her WhatsApp and I went through the conversation and I found out it was a guy she was talking with and this is same girl I have warned never to give her number to anyone I don’t care who the person is but she always have a way of making me feel like I am too in-secured and I end up apologizing to her because I married her a virgin but her high sexual libido is my greatest insecurity as I feel like I might not be enough for her and maybe she might be doing things at my absent as the pregnancy date isn’t matching when last we had sex . Please I need sincere advice on how to go about this issue and please I don’t want insult or abuse as I am not in a right state of mind now.
Help me move to front page so more people can help me contribute to this so I get good and matured answers.

That child is not yours.
Women can swear by anything and even cry if you did not catch them red-handed.
Women can lie and she will never give In.

Can you afford DNA test after delivery? Tell her .

If you leave them for too long like 1week, there's a possibility of another man giving her doggy before you return. So sorry, but it's life.

Divorce her ASAP

Bukola94:
She is being real with you, so you want her to be pretending

Well you may be right on that but I don’t think it’s actually the real thing

Baronthecelebri:
Divorce her ASAP

Please do you read about my first post here when I noticed how everything started

Fekumzi123:
That child is not yours.
Women can swear by anything and even cry if you did not catch them red-handed.
Women can lie and she will never give In.

Can you afford DNA test after delivery? Tell her .

If you leave them for too long like 1week, there's a possibility of another man giving her doggy before you return. So sorry, but it's life.

That is just my fear because she tends to love sex and I don’t know if it’s normal

Samantha125:
What he needs is to free her from that marriage... Is she not supposed to hold a conversation with men from down the street because she's married?

Did you know what the man ladies and men in the past? Most men are hyenas, they don't have conscience not to ask a married woman out, some women don't know how to say no, especially the ones that there husband is not always around

Until he has proof that she's cheating, then all these are just allegations based on his insecurities.

And why leave your wife behind if you know that some women don't know how to say "no"?

Bukola94:
Did you know what the man ladies and men in the past? Most men are hyenas, they don't have conscience not to ask a married woman out, some women don't know how to say no, especially the ones that there husband is not always around

Samantha125:
Until he has proof that she's cheating, then all these are just allegations based on his insecurities.

And why leave your wife behind if you know that some women don't know how to say "no"?

It is advisable husband and wife live together. The least apart should be 21 days and maybe 2months in some circumstances. I am always hot every 4 or 5days, I don't know much about women body chemistry . The max I can do without climax is 2weeks

Zaheertyler:
If you’re the father you have spoilt your marriage already
If you’re not marriage still spoil
You should have been patient

Please I want you to explain how I spoilt my marriage

Baronthecelebri:
Divorce her ASAP

She actually is threatening me with divorce now she said if I don’t trust her enough then I should divorce her with the pregnancy

Fekumzi123:
That child is not yours.
Women can swear by anything and even cry if you did not catch them red-handed.
Women can lie and she will never give In.

Can you afford DNA test after delivery? Tell her .

If you leave them for too long like 1week, there's a possibility of another man giving her doggy before you return. So sorry, but it's life.

For now I can’t afford the dna and she’s already threatening with divorce instead of being sober and trying to make me see reasons why the preg is mine