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Wizmj4real:
Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

The earlier you detach her from your hook, the better. You are just leading her on since you are not into her, let her go.

I am talking to you bro to bro..Some of us did it in the past, and we will use our mistakes to correct those facing it presently.

DoctorStanley:
But where is the challenge, the excitement, the chase? The feeling of conquest? It is like a lion given ready-made and nutritious meat than one having to hunt for (available) meat. Which do you think is more fun? As long as it is within your power, I think it is better to be with someone who keeps you on your toes. Many men have achieved a lot trying to win a woman who is winnable but not a forgone conclusion!
(It has also driven many men to robbery, drug-dealing, etc )

Baba, na excitement and chase make widows plenty pass widowers. Na him also make lioness kick old lion out when he no longer of value.

Like I said, it is solely my opinion.

Munzy14:
The earlier you detach her from your hook, the better. You are just leading her on since you are not into her, let her go.

I am talking to you bro to bro..Some of us did it in the past, and we will use our mistakes to correct those facing it presently.

Thanks Boss

You want to make sense of it?
Don't!
It was never meant to make sense, affairs of the heart Don't follow logic, know this and know peace, for a relationship, as a man you must imprison your emotions and feelings when making a choice for a partner, that is why unlike women, we are more logical beings, get a lists of wants that aren't associated with aesthetics, pick the girl that ticks most of that list. If you don't, if you go with your feelings, when the novelty and the sparkle fades of, na you go cry, marriage used to be a business arrangement between families, some modicum of that should be brought back

DoctorStanley:
But where is the challenge, the excitement, the chase? The feeling of conquest? It is like a lion given ready-made and nutritious meat than one having to hunt for (available) meat. Which do you think is more fun? As long as it is within your power, I think it is better to be with someone who keeps you on your toes. Many men have achieved a lot trying to win a woman who is winnable but not a forgone conclusion!
(It has also driven many men to robbery, drug-dealing, etc )

Hunt? is she an antelope?

The older you get, the more you will appreciate certainty, clarity, maturity, and reciprocated effort better.

If you have alot going for you, you wont have the energy to tolerate inconsistencies. You will respect yourself so much that you expect a woman to come correct.

And coming correct means no games, or making me chase, because na Saida Boj energy be that. You either make it clear from day one say you no like me, then I leave with no investment that will make me dislike you.

Wizmj4real:
Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

How about you tell her you have a serious date so she will know her place .

Wizmj4real:
Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

Don’t tell her you don’t feel the same way because women generally don’t know how to handle rejection because they aren’t cut out for it. Away from that, please whenever you decide to settle down (marriage) please don’t hesitate to go for a woman like this particular one as they are much more better than the ones you love. Trust me, you will start loving her the longer you stay together and this is because men don’t love as much as women do. Never should you marry a woman you love more than she loves you. If you end up with a woman you love more, she will forever think and treat you like she’s doing you a massive favor by choosing (managing) you.

pansophist:
Hunt? is she an antelope?

The older you get, the more you will appreciate certainty, clarity, maturity, and reciprocated effort better.

If you have alot going for you, you wont have the energy to tolerate inconsistencies. You will respect yourself so much that you expect a woman to come correct.

And coming correct means no games, or making me chase, because na Saida Boj energy be that. You either make it clear from day one say you no like me, then I leave with no investment that will make me dislike you.

yomi007k:
Baba, na excitement and chase make widows plenty pass widowers. Na him also make lioness kick old lion out when he no longer of value.

Like I said, it is solely my opinion.

Wickedlywicked:
Never should you marry a woman you love more than she loves you. If you end up with a woman you love more, she will forever think and treat you like she’s doing you a massive favor by choosing (managing) you.

I guess you guys have never had the experience of many women wanting you. Why do you think kings, prncesses, princes end up marrying who never knew who they were before they met and got to know each other??

pansophist:
If you can love her back, which I know can be difficult, then you are good to go. Men enjoy relationships better when the woman loves.

One of the hardest thing you will do (as a consequence of growth) is to choose who already chooses you. It can be hard, I know. But if she presentable, educated, good character, and most importantly, good to you, then it is worth a try.

Convincing other women to find you worthy is like loosing yourself. With every rejection and unreciprocated effort, a part of you dies. It just doesn't worth it.

There might be a million women in a room, but to find the world that vibes with you, where you do not have to prove yourself, and she truly wish you well, is difficult to find, and because it comes easy to some guys, they take it for granted.

I understand you so well bro,
I'm currently in this kind of relationship right now,she come fine,get sense com get better work join. I'm just enjoying the best time of my life with her. Sadly,most guys wouldn't have this one time experience in their lifetime

efemena5050:
Let me tell u the honest truth .....u actually like her and want her but she is the one making u not to like her by making herself to cheap and available for u.......once she switch the gear on ur bald head u will be the one chasing her around...........trust me if only that girl can just off all her available light on u by giving u attitude, less attention,and so many excuses .....oga the way tht girl will become beautiful in ur eyes to the extent that u will want to marry her u will think she use ur pic for babalwo house...........

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EPIC !!
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How can I get to like this your REPLY a million times?? He too make sense

DoctorStanley:
I guess you guys have never had the experience of many women wanting you. Why do you think kings, prncesses, princes end up marrying who never knew who they were before they met and got to know each other??

Seems you quoted the wrong comment. Check again sir because no correlation whatsoever between what I said and what you’re saying. Also, women chasing you because of what you have is different from women loving you even when you have nothing tangible to offer and yes, that’s the kind of woman you keep even if you don’t love her as much as she does because with time, you will start loving her because you will start seeing your mother in her. Men are grown babies, we want to feel loved and often time, we aren’t built to show love. So it’s very natural and healthy when your woman loves you more. You will understand this better with time.

Wisely said. But you must be honest and love her too. I learn that a man will love longer marrying a lady who loves him more than he does. Lass lass, it's just a matter of understanding but if you must, don't take advantage of her,that love can turn to the worst hate and problems you could ever imagine when wickedly exploited.

yomi007k:
This is solely my opinion.

Any lady that has interest in you is a better option compared with the one that doesn't.
Unless she has some characters that you can't tolerate,if I was in your shoes then we would already be in a serious relationship.

I realized that I enjoyed most of my relationships with these kind of women compared with the ones I had to work on.

Love can grow, as love can die.

Wickedlywicked:
Seems you quoted the wrong comment. Check again sir because no correlation whatsoever between what I said and what you’re saying. Also, women chasing you because of what you have is different from women loving you even when you have nothing tangible to offer and yes, that’s the kind of woman you keep even if you don’t love her as much as she does because with time, you will start loving her because you will start seeing your mother in her. Men are grown babies, we want to feel loved and often time, we aren’t built to show love. So it’s very natural and healthy when your woman loves you more. You will understand this better with time.

The problem with your thesis is that women never love for nothing. Men do but women don't. A woman's love is always conditional, always because of one thing or another (could be potential they can clearly see). Hence the saying below.
But more importantly she'd be extremely jealous and insecure Plus you're more likely to see other women because she doesn't have what you really want

DoctorStanley:
The problem with your thesis is that women never love for nothing. Men do but women don't. A woman's love is always conditional, always because of one thing or another (could be potential they can clearly see). Hence the saying below.
But more importantly she'd be extremely jealous and insecure Plus you're more likely to see other women because she doesn't have what you really want

Ok, let’s be clear and stop being ambiguous. I don’t know where you stand exactly because I never argued or opposed most of the things you stated here. Where exactly do you stand?
My point is: Never marry a woman who doesn’t love you more than you love her. My stance is clear and simple. Are you saying it’s wrong or not because I never said a woman’s love for a man is not conditional as that’s another argument entirely. Again, my point is that as a man, nature doesn’t permit you to love a woman more than she loves you, you will regret marrying her because she will constantly tell you that you aren’t in her class and that she’s only managing you. When a woman loves you more, she will do everything to make the marriage work. She will marry your family members and everything that concerns you. I’m not saying you should marry a woman you don’t love at all but be sure the bearing leans toward her side more because if you are the more emotionally attached person in the relationship/marriage, you will regret it and the marriage will surely crumble as it is a simple logic and I don’t know why you still don’t get it. Men hardly leave their marriages due to cheating but same can’t be said of women. A cheating man doesn’t necessarily love you more than his housewife because he’s only using you as a mere object of sxual satisfaction but once a woman who makes it clear she doesn’t love you and you still proceed to marry her, she won’t only cheat but will constantly remind you that you aren’t her level and will eventually leave you for the person she loves.
Again, nobody is saying a woman’s love for you is unconditional.

BraniacX:
You want to make sense of it?
Don't!
It was never meant to make sense, affairs of the heart Don't follow logic, know this and know peace, for a relationship, as a man you must imprison your emotions and feelings when making a choice for a partner, that is why unlike women, we are more logical beings, get a lists of wants that aren't associated with aesthetics, pick the girl that ticks most of that list. If you don't, if you go with your feelings, when the novelty and the sparkle fades of, na you go cry, marriage used to be a business arrangement between families, some modicum of that should be brought back

This also goes both ways, and in fact, the feeling of "love" by women fades more quickly when she starts having kids and this has to do with hormones. On the other hand, a man's love sustains marriage more because it is real! The biblical injunction for men to love their wives and for women to submit to their husbands wasn't just written for the sake of writing, rather it was written because God himself, being omniscient, knew that a man's love is what would sustain the institution of marriage just like the Christ's love sustains the church.

Jman06:
This also goes both ways, and in fact, the feeling of "love" by women fades more quickly when she starts having kids and this has to do with hormones. On the other hand, a man's love sustains marriage more because it is real! The biblical injunction for men to love their wives and for women to submit to their husbands wasn't just written for the sake of writing, rather it was written because God himself, being omniscient, knew that a man's love is what would sustain the institution of marriage just like the Christ's love sustains the church.

you can love your wife after marriage, I'm not disagreeing with that, I'm only saying the decision of who to marry as a man shouldn't be based purely on love as it leads to choosing the wrong partner for marriage most of the time, matter of fact you're better of with a woman who loves you more than you love her, unless you are one of those unlucky men who only had one choice of partner

BraniacX:
you can love your wife after marriage, I'm not disagreeing with that, I'm only saying the decision of who to marry as a man shouldn't be based purely on love as it leads to choosing the wrong partner for marriage most of the time, matter of fact you're better of with a woman who loves you more than you love her, unless you are one of those unlucky men who only had one choice of partner

And I'm trying to let you know that a woman's so called love is not enough to marry her because it is short-lived compared to a man's love. Men's love come with responsibilities and this is what keeps the marriage going.

Personally, I can't marry a lady I don't love. I must be deeply in love with her because it'll help me carry the family with my full chest. All I expect from her is to respect and be submissive to me. Also, there has to be some level of mutual attraction between us to even come together in the first place. Over the years, marriages and societies had been built on men's love for their wives and that has ensured stability in our families.

Jman06:
And I'm trying to let you know that a woman's so called love is not enough to marry her because it is short-lived compared to a man's love. Men's love come with responsibilities and this is what keeps the marriage going.

Personally, I can't marry a lady I don't love. I must be deeply in love with her because it'll help me carry the family with my full chest. All I expect from her is to respect and be submissive to me. Also, there has to be some level of mutual attraction between us to even come together in the first place. Over the years, marriages and societies had been built on men's love for their wives and that has ensured stability in our families.

very valid bros, very valid👍🏾

Wickedlywicked:
Ok, let’s be clear and stop being ambiguous. I don’t know where you stand exactly because I never argued or opposed most of the things you stated here. Where exactly do you stand?
My point is: Never marry a woman who doesn’t love you more than you love her. My stance is clear and simple. Are you saying it’s wrong or not because I never said a woman’s love for a man is not conditional as that’s another argument entirely. Again, my point is that as a man, nature doesn’t permit you to love a woman more than she loves you, you will regret marrying her because she will constantly tell you that you aren’t in her class and that she’s only managing you. When a woman loves you more, she will do everything to make the marriage work. She will marry your family members and everything that concerns you. I’m not saying you should marry a woman you don’t love at all but be sure the bearing leans toward her side more because if you are the more emotionally attached person in the relationship/marriage, you will regret it and the marriage will surely crumble as it is a simple logic and I don’t know why you still don’t get it. Men hardly leave their marriages due to cheating but same can’t be said of women. A cheating man doesn’t necessarily love you more than his housewife because he’s only using you as a mere object of sxual satisfaction but once a woman who makes it clear she doesn’t love you and you still proceed to marry her, she won’t only cheat but will constantly remind you that you aren’t her level and will eventually leave you for the person she loves.
Again, nobody is saying a woman’s love for you is unconditional.

[quote author=pansophist post=136604316][/quote]Ok, let's analyze what actually happens in real life (also bearing in mind men are polygamous by nature).
A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives. With the first woman you dare not think of another woman talkless of dating one. The second woman knows any possible outside woman is nothing. She knows you value her and the children more than anything in the world.

Whatever to be saying


Damn damn damn

DoctorStanley:
Ok, let's analyze what actually happens in real life (also bearing in mind men are polygamous by nature).
A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives. With the first woman you dare not think of another woman talkless of dating one. The second woman knows any possible outside woman is nothing. She knows you value her and the children more than anything in the world.

Bro, I don’t want to sound condescending but this is honestly not how to argue properly. At first, you said women don’t love unconditionally which is not even what the argument was all about and now you’re talking about woman loving you intensely to the point that she monitors your every move 😂 No sir, that’s not love, that’s obsession and that’s not my point because I never said you should marry a woman who is so obsessed with you that she CONTROLS YOU. And no, such a woman is not in love but is in control of you. Secondly, your second point about the more you sex her, the more she loves you is wrong and the right statement should rather be “the more you sex her and the more time you spend with her the more you start loving her and that would validate my earlier point that men don’t love, we start loving women with time and that’s the proper way it should be. When you marry the woman who loves you and even when you don’t love her up to the way she loves you, the marriage would surely last because nothing and nobody outside will be able to tempt or deceive her and with time, your love for her would grow even fonder.
How old are you bro, I’m not asking to bemean you, I’m sincerely curious because you should naturally understand this if you are married.
What you described there is not a woman who is in love, it’s a woman who is in control; a woman who is controlling your every move and not the one that loves you.
In real life, the one who loves you would be so careful that she wouldn’t want to do things that could force you to leave her especially when she knows you are not obsessed with her. She wouldn’t want to be doing things that you could hold as excuse to leave her. She would be so careful that she dares not control you because she has MORE TO LOSE. Like I said earlier, this is not how to argue properly because you are constantly digressing to something else. Please let’s stick to the point of the conversation. The scope of the argument is “marry the woman who loves you and not the one that thinks marrying you is her way of doing you a big favor”


“A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.?”

I just quoted your exact words and this is why I said this is not how to argue properly. With the quoted words above, you just hastily concluded that the one who “intensely” loves you would SLEEP AROUND WHILE MONITORING YOUR EVERY MOVE WHILE THE ONE YOU LOVE MORE WOULD HAVE “AFFECTION” FOR YOU AND WOULDN’T SLEEP AROUND BECAUSE SHE RESPECTS HERSELF😂
Bro, wasn’t the argument about a woman who loves you and the one who doesn’t love you? So where exactly is that “affection” coming from? How does the one that doesn’t love you suddenly starts having affection for you to the point that she respects herself and isn’t sleeping around?
So you want to marry a woman who doesn’t really love you with the hope that she would start loving you with time; with the more you have sex with her and the more she bares children for you? Just lol, you will soon understand.
Like what’s going on bro? I said marry the woman who loves you and not the one you love more and you are here talking about affection. How will a woman who doesn’t love you have an affection for you to the point of not sleeping around? Read what you wrote again.

Jman06:
And I'm trying to let you know that a woman's so called love is not enough to marry her because it is short-lived compared to a man's love. Men's love come with responsibilities and this is what keeps the marriage going.

Personally, I can't marry a lady I don't love. I must be deeply in love with her because it'll help me carry the family with my full chest. All I expect from her is to respect and be submissive to me. Also, there has to be some level of mutual attraction between us to even come together in the first place. Over the years, marriages and societies had been built on men's love for their wives and that has ensured stability in our families.

Nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love all at (emphasis on this) but please, make sure she loves you more. Men can cope with women they don’t love really but trust me, women can’t cope with men they don’t love because they aren’t polygamous in nature. When a woman starts cheating, you will surely see the signs if you are the observant type because they aren’t built for it unlike men. A man can be cheating and still not joke with his housewife; a man can see someone who’s better than his wife outside but still remain in the marriage with her and not try to marry the other lady but trust me, once your woman starts seeing another man as being better than you and this man talks to her, you are gone my brother and she will start showing it in the ways and manners she talks to you. She will starts becoming “naggy” and disrespectful. Again, nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love AT ALL but please marry the one that loves you more. The one who thinks marrying you is her way of doing you a favor will SURELY NEVER RESPECT YOU because she knows you don’t want to lose her and that whatever she does, you dare not complain because she’s the prize. She will constantly remind you of how you aren’t in her class and how she married you out of pity. I pray you don’t realize all these things too late in life. If you marry a woman who doesn’t love you as much as you love her, one thing is certain, you are sure to train children that are not yours; children from the true love of her life; children from the man she truly loves

DoctorStanley:
Ok, let's analyze what actually happens in real life (also bearing in mind men are polygamous by nature).
A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives. With the first woman you dare not think of another woman talkless of dating one. The second woman knows any possible outside woman is nothing. She knows you value her and the children more than anything in the world.

Bro makes me laugh. I had to quote you again. Bro thinks “dicking” a woman and impregnating her would force her to start loving him and that it would make a woman who doesn’t love him initially to start respecting herself to the point of not disrespecting him or sleeping around. Just LOL
Please my brother, I’m saying this to you bro to bro and with utmost seriousness and sincerity, please don’t make this mistake. A woman who doesn’t love you won’t respect or have affection for you when she starts bearing kids for you as you erroneously think and wrote up there. Please don’t make that mistake (I’m assuming you aren’t married yet). A woman who doesn’t love you will see marrying you as her way of doing you a massive favor hence, don’t expect respect from such arrangement because she knows you have no other choice than her; she knows you are obsessed and that she will get away with whatever nonsense she does.
Lastly and most importantly, a woman who doesn’t love you will surely bear for you kids from another man; another man who is the true love of her life. A woman who loves you will never imagine holding hands with another man let alone, sleeping with him to the point of having kids for him. A woman who loves you would surely find other persons sexually irritating. I care for you and that’s why I’m stressing about this.
Marrying a woman that doesn’t love you is a recipe for disaster; you are sure to train another man’s child! At this point, even God knows I’ve tried! Have a good life.

Wickedlywicked:
Like what’s going on bro? I said marry the woman who loves you and not the one you love MORE and you are here talking about affection. How will a woman who doesn’t love you have an affection for you to the point of not sleeping around? Read what you wrote again.

Wickedlywicked:
Bro makes me laugh. I had to quote you again. Bro thinks “dicking” a woman and impregnating her would force her to start loving him and that it would make a woman who doesn’t love him initially to start respecting herself to the point of not disrespecting him or sleeping around. Just LOL
Please my brother, I’m saying this to you bro to bro and with utmost seriousness and sincerity, please don’t make this mistake. A woman who doesn’t love you won’t respect or have affection for you when she starts bearing kids for you as you erroneously think and wrote up there. Please don’t make that mistake (I’m assuming you aren’t married yet). A woman who doesn’t love you will see marrying you as her way of doing you a massive favor hence, don’t expect respect from such arrangement because she knows you have no other choice than her; she knows you are obsessed and that she will get away with whatever nonsense she does.
Lastly and most importantly, a woman who doesn’t love you will surely bear for you kids from another man; another man who is the true love of her life. A woman who loves you will never imagine holding hands with another man let alone, sleeping with him to the point of having kids for him. A woman who loves you would surely find other persons sexually irritating. I care for you and that’s why I’m stressing about this.
Marrying a woman that doesn’t love you is a recipe for disaster; you are sure to train another man’s child! At this point, even God knows I’ve tried! Have a good life.

Funny guy. The word "more" has been part of this discussion from the start. How can you love her MORE if she doesn't love you at all? How can you even love somebody who shows no affection for you at all?? So clearly what we're discussing is this: the woman has affection for you but you love her more.

Now, we don't have to be theoretical about any of this because we have real life to reference. If you love a woman, what I'm telling you is the only way she can "love" you MORE in real life (I know because due to my circumstances and profession I've been target of such "love" severally). What you want is a woman who has affection for you but doesn't love you more than you love her (at least initially) because that extra "love" comes with too much headache

We can also reference the past when they practically had no divorces. Men picked women they liked and the women ended up loving the men who picked them. Not vise versa. Jacob worked seven years to marry Rachel but Leah loved him. How fulfilled do you think he'd have felt if he had only married Leah?

DoctorStanley:
Funny guy. The word "more" has been part of this discussion from the start. How can you love her MORE if she doesn't love you at all? How can you even love somebody who shows no affection for you at all?? So clearly what we're discussing is this: the woman has affection for you but you love her more.

Now, we don't have to be theoretical about any of this because we have real life to reference. If you love a woman, what I'm telling you is the only way she can "love" you MORE in real life (I know because due to my circumstances and profession I've been target of such "love" severally). What you want is a woman who has affection for you but doesn't love you more than you love her (at least initially) because that extra "love" comes with too much headache

We can also reference the past when they practically had no divorces. Men picked women they liked and the women ended up loving the men who picked them. Not vise versa. Jacob worked seven years to marry Rachel but Leah loved him. How fulfilled do you think he'd have felt if he had only married Leah?

Bro, it’s your life and as such, you are free to do whatever you want with it. From your comment that I quoted, you explicitly claimed that the one who’s obsessed with you would be monitoring your every move while the other one would respect herself and wouldn’t be sleeping around. Like how does that even make sense? You just declared that a woman loving a man too much would lead her to be sleeping around.😂 That statement was based on what exactly? Hearsay or imagination?. Like wtf is going on bro?
My point is: when choosing the right woman to marry, choose the one who loves you more and she won’t force another person’s child on you to train.
This is the problem with many of you these days and the reason for the recent spike in paternity fraud causes we witness nowadays. These ladies now get married to you AVAILABLE men and not their hearttrobs and you wonder why you available men end up training another man’s children.
Bro, at this very point, I’ve tried enough for you and of course, it’s your life and you’re free to do whatever you so wish. Go ahead and marry a woman you love more than she loves you especially the one that has another man she’s dying over with the hope that she will love you more when you start having sex with her and she starts birthing kids for you😂 I sincerely hope and wish you don’t learn the hard way. I sincerely want to know how old you are and if you are married or not and I’m not meaning to sound condescending but your comments are troubling me. Frankly speaking, I’m worried for you.

Wickedlywicked:
Bro makes me laugh. I had to quote you again. Bro thinks “dicking” a woman and impregnating her would force her to start loving him and that it would make a woman who doesn’t love him initially to start respecting herself to the point of not disrespecting him or sleeping around. Just LOL
Please my brother, I’m saying this to you bro to bro and with utmost seriousness and sincerity, please don’t make this mistake. A woman who doesn’t love you won’t respect or have affection for you when she starts bearing kids for you as you erroneously think and wrote up there. Please don’t make that mistake (I’m assuming you aren’t married yet). A woman who doesn’t love you will see marrying you as her way of doing you a massive favor hence, don’t expect respect from such arrangement because she knows you have no other choice than her; she knows you are obsessed and that she will get away with whatever nonsense she does.
Lastly and most importantly, a woman who doesn’t love you will surely bear for you kids from another man; another man who is the true love of her life. A woman who loves you will never imagine holding hands with another man let alone, sleeping with him to the point of having kids for him. A woman who loves you would surely find other persons sexually irritating. I care for you and that’s why I’m stressing about this.
Marrying a woman that doesn’t love you is a recipe for disaster; you are sure to train another man’s child! At this point, even God knows I’ve tried! Have a good life.

Oga, what I wrote is short. Here it is below. Where did I say if a woman loves you she'd be sleeping around??
Part of the reason you love a woman is because she respects herself and because of that self-respect doesn't sleep around. Get it now?

[quote author=Wickedlywicked post=136628376][/quote]You talk as if we live in a vacuum. In REAL LIFE men constantly woo (they WOO) and marry women they find appealing regardless of how the woman feels INITIALLY. And usually, with time, the woman's affection towards them increases and they raise their children and "live happily everafter"!

DoctorStanley:
Oga, what I wrote is short. Here it is below. Where did I say if a woman loves you she'd be sleeping around??
Part of the reason you love a woman is because she respects herself and because of that self-respect doesn't sleep around. Get it now?

Oh wow, so I’m now lying on you?

“A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives”

Those are your exact words, read them again and I’m sure you wouldn’t be able to make any sense out of it either because I couldn’t after I read it.
Also, my bro like I said earlier, it’s your life and you at 100 percent liberty to do whatever you want with it. Please go ahead and marry a woman that you love more than she loves you, one thing is certain, she will pin a child/children she gets from the other man she truly loves, her heartthrob and sweetheart, the one that doesn’t love her more than she does love him, on you and you will happily train them as the available caretaker man that you are. Again, this is the problem bedeviling our society today. Many Ladies now end up marrying the men that are chasing after them and not the ones they truly love and then end up cheating on these men with the ones they truly love but can’t have.
It’s your life bro and I don’t understand why I’m stressing on your behalf😂 Enjoy yourself and have a good life. You are being ignored now.

Wickedlywicked:
Oh wow, so I’m now lying on you?

“A woman's intense "love" (notice I put it in quotes) as you describe, comes with extreme possessiveness, jealousy, constant suspicion, constant monitoring, insecurity, can't bear to see any woman interact with you, etc. IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?? Or do you want a woman who won't sleep around (because she values herself too much), has affection for you but doesn't monitor you, is everything you want in a woman, etc.? In real life the more you sex her, as she has children with you, as she gets older and her options narrow, the more she "loves" you. That's why in the old days arranged marriages usually turn into "love" on the woman's part while the man married more wives”

Those are your exact words, read them again and I’m sure you wouldn’t be able to make any sense out of it either because I couldn’t after I read it.
Also, my bro like I said earlier, it’s your life and you at 100 percent liberty to do whatever you want with it. Please go ahead and marry a woman that you love more than she loves you, one thing is certain, she will pin a child/children she gets from the other man she truly loves, her heartthrob and sweetheart, the one that doesn’t love her more than she does love him, on you and you will happily train them as the available caretaker man that you are. Again, this is the problem bedeviling our society today. Many Ladies now end up marrying the men that are chasing after them and not the ones they truly love and then end up cheating on these men with the ones they truly love but can’t have.
It’s your life bro and I don’t understand why I’m stressing on your behalf😂 Enjoy yourself and have a good life. You are being ignored now.

You keep saying it's my life!😆. Of course it's my life, and an excellent life at that, and I'm enjoying it!
How can even a child say if a woman loves you she'd be sleeping around?? Please point out where exactly I said that

DoctorStanley:
You talk as if we live in a vacuum. In REAL LIFE men constantly woo (they WOO) and marry women they find appealing regardless of how the woman feels INITIALLY. And usually, with time, the woman's affection towards them increases and they raise their children and "live happily everafter"!

Bro, this is exactly the point. When you woo a lady, it becomes pertinent that you use your manly prowess to make her love you. You use your masculine charm to make her see you as her final bus stop and the only man who has the keys to her heart. You make her see you as someone she has no choice but to love before making that grace mistake of marrying her and hoping she will start loving you once she starts birthing My bro, I dey shake head for you. It’s fine, you will soon understand by the time you marry. Firstly, I wouldn’t marry a woman I’m not attracted to or the one I don’t find appealing. The only thing we are educating you about is the fact that aside the fact that you love her and find her appealing, make sure you make her love you more and finds you appealing even more than you do toward her before taking her to the final stage, with that, you are rest assured that she loves you and you don’t have to convince her to love you with “dicking” and child birth. Childbirth doesn’t make a woman love you more especially for a woman who didnt love you as much as you loved her before marrying her. Convincing a woman to love you is a sure recipe for disaster and a life where you will perpetually fight to have her because even the holy books say: “pesin wey use money buy love no dey pay finish”
I have nothing else to say at this point, with time, you will gain better understanding. Enjoy your weekend.

Wickedlywicked:
Nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love all at (emphasis on this) but please, make sure she loves you more. Men can cope with women they don’t love really but trust me, women can’t cope with men they don’t love because they aren’t polygamous in nature. When a woman starts cheating, you will surely see the signs if you are the observant type because they aren’t built for it unlike men. A man can be cheating and still not joke with his housewife; a man can see someone who’s better than his wife outside but still remain in the marriage with her and not try to marry the other lady but trust me, once your woman starts seeing another man as being better than you and this man talks to her, you are gone my brother and she will start showing it in the ways and manners she talks to you. She will starts becoming “naggy” and disrespectful. Again, nobody is saying you should marry a lady you don’t love AT ALL but please marry the one that loves you more. The one who thinks marrying you is her way of doing you a favor will SURELY NEVER RESPECT YOU because she knows you don’t want to lose her and that whatever she does, you dare not complain because she’s the prize. She will constantly remind you of how you aren’t in her class and how she married you out of pity. I pray you don’t realize all these things too late in life. If you marry a woman who doesn’t love you as much as you love her, one thing is certain, you are sure to train children that are not yours; children from the true love of her life; children from the man she truly loves

Ladies don't really need to marry whom they "love" but who loves them more (that is for ladies who are smart)! Our mothers were married off to men who are interested in them, not necessarily whom they "love" and they enjoyed marriage that way! More women have learnt to love their husbands in the course of the marriage than before it. In fact, most of our foremothers got married to men they barely interacted with prior to marriage. Today, some ladies marry men they claim to love yet divorce rate is skyrocketing! What does that tell you?

We have seen cases were ladies of this generation married men they claimed to love and not long after such marriages, they started coming to their parents and siblings with complaints of maltreatments and loss of love in for the man. The way marriage dynamics is in our society requires absolute love and interest in the lady by the man. This is because the lady is married off from her own family into the man's family where she is a stranger and requires time to get used to the new family. If she's the one doing more of the loving than the man, she might be turned into a slave in the man's family before anyone knows what's going on. That's why I believe that a man should love his wife deeply before marriage can happen between them and not the reverse