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Good day everyone including the moderator.
Please am worried about something so pressing at the moment.

There's this babe that really loves me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her, although she's obviously into me of which I know but mannn! My body is moving me for her but my spirit is kinda slow about her. Mind you we share almost our darkest life together, really good friends oh, we video chat, argue , talk about really deep things.

She wanted to visit but clearly to her that I don't trust myself around her and she laughed but I insisted she doesn't visit. Early this month she visited her family in my city and really wanted to visit but I used work as an alibi to avoid her coming around.

Now my issue is am feeling guilty about the whole thing and am wondering why do we chase people that don't like us and get loved by people we're not really into?

Wizmj4real:
Good day everyone including the moderator.
Please am worried about something so pressing at the moment. There's this babe that really love me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her, although she's obviously into me of which I know but mannn! My body is moving me for her but my spirit is kinda slow about her. Mind you we share almost our darkest life together, really good friends oh, we video chat, argue , talk about really deep things. She wanted to visit but clearly to her that I don't trust myself around her and she laughed but I insisted she doesn't visit. Early this month she visited her family my city and really wanted to visit but I used work as an alibi to avoid her coming around. No my issue is am feeling guilty about the whole thing and am wondering why do we chase people that don't like us and get loved by people we're not really into?

That is the irony of life... It is what it is.

I think you should both have a honest mature conversation on this and let her understand that in as much as you respect and appreciate her as a friend, you would not want to take the relationship deeper than it is.

I want to believe she will also respect and appreciate the openess.

dawnomike:
That is the irony of life... It is what it is.

I think you should both have a honest mature conversation on this and let her understand that in as much as you respect and appreciate her as a friend, you would not want to take the relationship deeper than it is.

I want to believe she will also respect and appreciate the openess.

Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

It's an old, old problem that goes back all the way to Jacob. He loved Rachel but Leah loved him. He married both of them. If only that could still be done - you'd marry this lady knowing you can always still marry again

This is solely my opinion.

Any lady that has interest in you is a better option compared with the one that doesn't.
Unless she has some characters that you can't tolerate,if I was in your shoes then we would already be in a serious relationship.

I realized that I enjoyed most of my relationships with these kind of women compared with the ones I had to work on.

Love can grow, as love can die.

Na life be dat o!!!

If you can love her back, which I know can be difficult, then you are good to go. Men enjoy relationships better when the woman loves.

One of the hardest thing you will do (as a consequence of growth) is to choose who already chooses you. It can be hard, I know. But if she presentable, educated, good character, and most importantly, good to you, then it is worth a try.

Convincing other women to find you worthy is like loosing yourself. With every rejection and unreciprocated effort, a part of you dies. It just doesn't worth it.

There might be a million women in a room, but to find the world that vibes with you, where you do not have to prove yourself, and she truly wish you well, is difficult to find, and because it comes easy to some guys, they take it for granted.

Wizmj4real:
Good day everyone including the moderator.
Please am worried about something so pressing at the moment. There's this babe that really love me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her, although she's obviously into me of which I know but mannn! My body is moving me for her but my spirit is kinda slow about her. Mind you we share almost our darkest life together, really good friends oh, we video chat, argue , talk about really deep things. She wanted to visit but clearly to her that I don't trust myself around her and she laughed but I insisted she doesn't visit. Early this month she visited her family my city and really wanted to visit but I used work as an alibi to avoid her coming around. No my issue is am feeling guilty about the whole thing and am wondering why do we chase people that don't like us and get loved by people we're not really into?

Must you bed all women that are into you? Is that how you cheap reach?

This how failed marriage started oooo, before you know, you will give her small chance, before you open eyes, 2 kids for you, after 5 years of marriage, toxic & venomous would overwhelm the marriage completely.

pansophist:
If you can love her back, which I know can be difficult, then you are good to go. Men enjoy relationships better when the woman loves.

One of the hardest thing you will do (as a consequence of growth) is to choose who already chooses you. It can be hard, I know. But if she presentable, educated, good character, and most importantly, good to you, then it is worth a try.

Convincing other women to find you worthy is like loosing yourself. With every rejection and unreciprocated effort, a part of you dies. It just doesn't worth it.

There might be a million women in a room, but to find the world that vibes with you, where you do not have to prove yourself, and she truly wish you well, is difficult to find, and because it comes easy to some guys, they take it for granted.

So, every lady showing you green light, really love you? I doubt if you understand woman's manipulations an inch.
Maybe the girl's clock is tickling, hence desperate to drop down her load to any available mature guy, the guy she has convinced within her, that capable of carrying her loads going forward in name of marriage.

It's been that way since.
Most of the girls that love me aren't any where close to being my spec , but I love them anyways , who am I not to ? They usually tend to do more things for me. I used most of them since they are always desperate for my love.

This is my trick : I attract plenty women that loves me , then I shuffle them based on the things I love most , e.g beauty , smartness , sexy body , cleanness , sexy voice etc

Sometimes I just date all of them like. Must of them would find out and back off but who cares ? Life is sweet

Wizmj4real:
There's this babe that really love me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her,

You are just over thinking things.
so she will automatically be in a relationship with you if she comes to your house?

You really think she's INTO you? let's assume this is true, you think she will still be into you this time next year? You even opened a topic for this.

Keep playing like John Snow.

It's part of life, I have found myself in that situation before and the girls were wondering why I didn't love them......Love is something that comes naturally.

Wizmj4real:
Omo that will be too much on her oh
Kai it will seem like a heartbreak
God I beg oh

It is better you do it now and avoid things getting complicated because then she will paint you the devil's colour without regards to how you feel towards her. Let her know now it won't work oo. For your own good

AllBlack:
You are just over thinking things.
so she will automatically be in a relationship with you if she comes to your house?

You really think she's INTO you? let's assume this is true, you think she will still be into you this time next year? You even opened a topic for this.

Keep playing like John Snow.

This isn't a matter of John snow or Johnny Sins. You clearly have not met any girl that is deeply into your matter. Years or distance doesn't affect them and when they mean your matter especially if you can't clearly and strongly define what it is with the relationship they will claim ownership of you and if you make the mistake of steady knacks them it's another level of ownership of you she will start to display. He should define it clearly for her to understand that she's alone and he's not for her otherwise she will assume she's his and he's hers especially after knacks. Don't ever underestimate that gender or learn the hard way

Oddkashy:
This isn't a matter of John snow or Johnny Sins. You clearly have not met any girl that is deeply into your matter.

Do you always apply such extreme amount of certainty in the lives of others.

Marry her if she is fine, you will enjoy later

Men, go for women that loves you double the amount of times than you love her and your days will be long.....


If you know, you know....

It's because the human heart wants what it wants.

Let me guess, na one BADDIE wey no dey even look your face your heart dey beat for. It's one of the complexities of the human heart.

Don't mind all those people who are saying you should love her because she's showing you the "signs of loving you". If you do, you'll regret because the heart wants what the heart wants.

#Picks_tooth

It's life... All the guys I had interest in back in varsity never bothered looking my way... ... But looking back, I'm now grateful that they didn't because who knows? They'd have probably broken my heart by now and left me bitter...

Because we don't know what we really want in life. If somebody truly and geneuily loves me, I will reciprocate in multiple fold.

The main question is why do you think you don't like the person?

A lot of people mostly females have some psychological criteria in choosing their mates. For example he must be 6 Ft, handsome, rich, etc. Hence, when a man without these attributes comes, they technically don't even know the person exists.

The thing is there are no problems with these criteria, only that they are not the fundamental requirements. The pivotal internal attributes which makes a person human should be the fundamental qualities. Things like emotional maturity, kindness, goals, seamless interactions, etc should be prioritized.

Other physical attributes like money should of course be considered but not to the aggressive extent it is these days. If the guy have a job and you see the zeal and passion for a constant improvement, then its a go. Not waiting for the guy to be a Davido all of a sudden.

The same goes for guys looking out for say mama with zero common sense to mould your child....

OK


you can not please some people who does not like or love you ,some are paid to hate someone


while some are full of hate .




But If some one loves you and shows and prove it to you and even comes to you,



than you should love them back



Princess Faith Chukwuamaka

Let me tell u the honest truth .....u actually like her and want her but she is the one making u not to like her by making herself to cheap and available for u.......once she switch the gear on ur bald head u will be the one chasing her around...........trust me if only that girl can just off all her available light on u by giving u attitude, less attention,and so many excuses .....oga the way tht girl will become beautiful in ur eyes to the extent that u will want to marry her u will think she use ur pic for babalwo house...........

Law of electromagnetism, unlike poles attract, like poles detract. Love is something of the mind.

People are often attracted to qualities they wish they had. For example, someone that is poor might be drawn to a wealthy person, or a short person to a tall person. But the attraction is not always mutual, someone tall may not necessarily want someone short. Opposites attract, but only when both sides find value in the difference

Wizmj4real:
Good day everyone including the moderator.
Please am worried about something so pressing at the moment.

There's this babe that really loves me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her, although she's obviously into me of which I know but mannn! My body is moving me for her but my spirit is kinda slow about her. Mind you we share almost our darkest life together, really good friends oh, we video chat, argue , talk about really deep things.

She wanted to visit but clearly to her that I don't trust myself around her and she laughed but I insisted she doesn't visit. Early this month she visited her family in my city and really wanted to visit but I used work as an alibi to avoid her coming around.

Now my issue is am feeling guilty about the whole thing and am wondering why do we chase people that don't like us and get loved by people we're not really into?

As a Gen Z guy you are, abeg no mind people oh...make sure plenty butterflies and lizards are flying in your tummy for her before you date her oh, go for the hot babes that make butterflies, lizards, house flies, mosquito to be flying inside your stomach, don't settle for less bra, na so e be

Because some people like what they can't have. Both genders

Wizmj4real:
Good day everyone including the moderator.
Please am worried about something so pressing at the moment.

There's this babe that really loves me but I don't really fancy her as per getting into a relationship with her, although she's obviously into me of which I know but mannn! My body is moving me for her but my spirit is kinda slow about her. Mind you we share almost our darkest life together, really good friends oh, we video chat, argue , talk about really deep things.

She wanted to visit but clearly to her that I don't trust myself around her and she laughed but I insisted she doesn't visit. Early this month she visited her family in my city and really wanted to visit but I used work as an alibi to avoid her coming around.

Now my issue is am feeling guilty about the whole thing and am wondering why do we chase people that don't like us and get loved by people we're not really into?

It is normal about humans interrelationship with the environment.

Plenty reasons!
1. 'Good' / desirable things don't come easy (Oyinbo)
2. Opposite stuff attract and same stuff distracts (Maybe this one na chemistry abi physics self)
3. We prefer harder stuffs (If e cheap, na Nbanu straight up)
4. Village people self no want things to go easy for anybody (Oyinbo self get village people, we just need to ignore their pretense on the matter)
5. If 'it didn't dey, it didn't dey' (contact Wike on this biko)

On a serious note, human body chemistry is somehow ultra-complex and very difficult to calculate.
Mama Eve self no too like Adam like that, imagine if she get alternative that year.

Very worrisome. To make it complicated, na people wey we like no even send us.

😂

No be small thing

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