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I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.

So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.

But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing.
To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off.
Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary.
But she have been calling.
Guys should I accept her back??

Guy,that banny na everybody get am......Why are you trying so hard to personalize a public entity na

Btw,what are you even accepting her for? . She has already told you both of you aren't dating,so what exactly are you accepting her for? To come and continue cooking for you or what? .

Instead of you to dey draw map on how to wipe that banny,you dey talk of mumu love

You're just calm with her

Those kind of girls deserve arrogant men.

Match her energy if you're to accept her back because she will keep getting you angry if you're calm with her

Bendeco02:
You're just calm with her

Those kind of girls deserve arrogant men.

Match her energy if you're to accept her back because she will keep getting you angry if you're calm with her

That's true. I have been calm thinking she is a responsible gal.

Makavelli001:
I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.

So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.

But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing.
To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off.
Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary.
But she have been calling.
Guys should I accept her back??

First error is calling her again after 4 months. Like are you that ugly or you can't get a replacement or are you a pitiable handicap

Secondly, what is the meaning of " But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry
I'm guessing you meant you didn't kn@ck her because you LOVE her
So in essence when you love a girl you don't kn@ck? You're weird and this leads to the
3rd, she's absolutely right you have no right to ask her anything. Because she comes to your house and cooks for you doesn't mean you're dating. Why are you assuming? I can bet you have never initiated anything towards that direction. You're comfortable with seeing her around you and that fills your heart like a little novice virgin.

4th do you know why she has been asking you for money? Let me enlighten you. Because the 3 errors above only indicates one thing to her. M**g*** done land. And you still bankrolled her.

The other guy was smashing as supposed and you were worshiping her. And you're here lamenting trying to paint her as bad or wicked. When in reality you're clueless on what to do with women.

She did you no wrong. That guy telling you to be arrogant is another great novice. Women are very easy to read and act upon but guys like you make your own lives miserable and then try to paint these girls bad.
If you like go do gra gra force yourself on her I pray you get caught and thrown in jail. Be open and relate with her, seduce her wittingly and make every encounter interesting. Act like a man and not a baby and watch her melt before you. Talking about loving without kn@cking. International Novice mtcheeeeww!

Makavelli001:
That's true. I have been calm thinking she is a responsible gal.

You're the one not responsible and reasonable not that girl. She's a correct babe 💯

And please lose that name as you're the direct opposite. Machiavelli had a sharp mind, swift, cunning and dangerous and always steps ahead but you my friend are the slowest of the slows in slowly kingdom

Sonnobax15:

Guy,that banny na everybody get am......Why are you trying so hard to personalize a public entity na

Btw,what are you even accepting her for? . She has already told you both of you aren't dating,so what exactly are you accepting her for? To come and continue cooking for you or what? .

Instead of you to the draw map on how to wipe that banny,you dey talk of mumu love

Pls avoid this ughelli man comment. He is always myopic and naive on real issues of life. Back to the topic op. U did well and acted like a man n control of his emotions. But she is right too, u guys are not dating. Don’t be in a rush to think the disappointment is sexually related, we can’t tell for now, at least based on what you wrote. Keep sex off the table for now and really study her before committing. God bless you.

Better simp na you be.

Makavelli001:
I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.

So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.

But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing.
To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off.
Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary.
But she have been calling.
Guys should I accept her back??

Don't accept her back
She is confused

kiddaz:
First error is calling her again after 4 months. Like are you that ugly or you can't get a replacement or are you a pitiable handicap

Secondly, what is the meaning of " But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry
I'm guessing you meant you didn't kn@ck her because you LOVE her
So in essence when you love a girl you don't kn@ck? You're weird and this leads to the
3rd, she's absolutely right you have no right to ask her anything. Because she comes to your house and cooks for you doesn't mean you're dating. Why are you assuming? I can bet you have never initiated anything towards that direction. You're comfortable with seeing her around you and that fills your heart like a little novice virgin.

4th do you know why she has been asking you for money? Let me enlighten you. Because the 3 errors above only indicates one thing to her. M**g*** done land. And you still bankrolled her.

The other guy was smashing as supposed and you were worshiping her. And you're here lamenting trying to paint her as bad or wicked. When in reality you're clueless on what to do with women.

She did you no wrong. That guy telling you to be arrogant is another great novice. Women are very easy to read and act upon but guys like you make your own lives miserable and then try to paint these girls bad.
If you like go do gra gra force yourself on her I pray you get caught and thrown in jail. Be open and relate with her, seduce her wittingly and make every encounter interesting. Act like a man and not a baby and watch her melt before you. Talking about loving without kn@cking. International Novice mtcheeeeww!

You hit the nail, I will make you my mentor

kiddaz:
You're the one not responsible and reasonable not that girl. She's a correct babe 💯

And please lose that name as you're the direct opposite. Machiavelli had a sharp mind, swift, cunning and dangerous and always steps ahead but you my friend are the slowest of the slows in slowly kingdom

Easy now comrade

So you don't know how to cook, young man give your life to Christ.

She dey come your house and you no chop am even once......bros Why.
I don't get the logic that because you like her you no knack am.

Makavelli001:
That's true. I have been calm thinking she is a responsible gal.

Am not calm with women and it works for me.

Women are like kids or wish that follows you with the hands you give them.

Women respects people that don't take nonsense from them. Be calm to your fellow men not women.

You may think you're nice but they sees it as weakness or call you mugu in their mind.

kiddaz:
First error is calling her again after 4 months. Like are you that ugly or you can't get a replacement or are you a pitiable handicap

Secondly, what is the meaning of " But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry
I'm guessing you meant you didn't kn@ck her because you LOVE her
So in essence when you love a girl you don't kn@ck? You're weird and this leads to the
3rd, she's absolutely right you have no right to ask her anything. Because she comes to your house and cooks for you doesn't mean you're dating. Why are you assuming? I can bet you have never initiated anything towards that direction. You're comfortable with seeing her around you and that fills your heart like a little novice virgin.

4th do you know why she has been asking you for money? Let me enlighten you. Because the 3 errors above only indicates one thing to her. M**g*** done land. And you still bankrolled her.

The other guy was smashing as supposed and you were worshiping her. And you're here lamenting trying to paint her as bad or wicked. When in reality you're clueless on what to do with women.

She did you no wrong. That guy telling you to be arrogant is another great novice. Women are very easy to read and act upon but guys like you make your own lives miserable and then try to paint these girls bad.
If you like go do gra gra force yourself on her I pray you get caught and thrown in jail. Be open and relate with her, seduce her wittingly and make every encounter interesting. Act like a man and not a baby and watch her melt before you. Talking about loving without kn@cking. International Novice mtcheeeeww!

Guy don't get me wrong. Our relating is recently, not up to a month before that incident occurred.
I am not a novice as you think. I have knack many girls, even the first time they came to my house.
Her own case is that I wanted to preserve her.
Also I didn't want her to pass through the ordeals she have told me before.
She have told me that she lost her father when she was 6. And that she had experience heart breaks.
I do not worship her, I only pitied her, and wanted to correct her impression.

A boy becomes a man the day he starts to friendzone women, because that’s the day he finally realizes not every woman deserves access to his energy, his attention, or his masculinity.

Let the truth be told...

You’ve been trained to chase. To worship. To impress.

From childhood, you were told “treat her like a queen,” “give her everything,” “prove you're the one.”
But no one told you you are the prize.
No one told you that women must earn your presence.
No one told you that female beauty is not a free pass into your life.

So what happens?

A hot girl gives you a smile and you melt.
She says “let’s just be friends” and you agree.
She uses you for attention, validation, and emotional support…
While she’s getting destroyed in bed by the man she actually respects.

But when a man flips the script?

She says:
“Why are you treating me like an option?”
“Are you not into me?”
“Why are you distant?”
That’s her realizing she no longer has control.

And that’s where the power shifts.

The man who friendzones women is the man who says:

“You’re cute, but I’ve seen better.”
“You have a nice body, but I’ve got standards.”
“You’re sexy, but I’m not stupid.”
He doesn’t get hypnotized by beauty. He filters it.

You know what women aren’t used to hearing?

“No.”

“No, I’m not free today.”
“No, I don’t entertain women who play games.”
“No, I’m not interested in friendship after 3AM texting.”
And definitely no, you can’t sit here just because you’re pretty.

Let me give you a brutal example:

You take her out. Pay for everything. Give her a ride home. She says “thank you, you’re such a good friend.”

Meanwhile, the guy who never replies to her texts just showed up, and she’s already pulling off her clothes.

That’s the difference between a boy and a man.

A boy seeks female validation.
A man filters women like resumes.
A boy begs for her love.
A man makes her qualify for his time.

If you disappoint, you must appear before the council of brotherhood and explain why you’ve decided to disgrace everybody!

Get out of your feelings and into your focus.
Friendzone her. Test her. Make her earn the main character role.
Not every girl deserves a seat at your table.

Step up or step aside.
This is warfare. Get hard or go home.

kiddaz:
You're the one not responsible and reasonable not that girl. She's a correct babe 💯

And please lose that name as you're the direct opposite. Machiavelli had a sharp mind, swift, cunning and dangerous and always steps ahead but you my friend are the slowest of the slows in slowly kingdom

Guy don't get me wrong. I am an alpha male 100%
In her own case I wanted to mellow down.

Kids full nairaland
Another kid spot

FitCorper:
Pls avoid this ughelli man comment. He is always myopic and naive on real issues of life. Back to the topic op. U did well and acted like a man n control of his emotions. But she is right too, u guys are not dating. Don’t be in a rush to think the disappointment is sexually related, we can’t tell for now, at least based on what you wrote. Keep sex off the table for now and really study her before committing. God bless you.

What really annoyed me wasn't that she said we are not dating. It was the fact that it was on Saturday that I told her to come. She said no that she will not be chance, that she will be doing house chores. Then I said she should come on Sunday. Which she did. Not knowing that she intended to go out with the other guy on Saturday, but the guy disappointed her. So the guy called to apologize (According to their conversation on phone) guilty conscience made her to start telling me without me asking her, then I told her not to tell, becos I did not ask her. That was when she said that I don't even have the right to ask her that we are not dating. Also the manner which she said it pissed me off. I just stood up and told her to start going.

Makavelli001:
I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.

So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.

But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing.
To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off.
Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary.
But she have been calling.
Guys should I accept her back??

You did well by telling her to ****off.

Get condoms and initiate knacking her, when she visits next time. If she says no, open the door and tell her to vamoose.

Kaido:
You did well by telling her to ****off.

Get condoms and initiate knacking her, when she visits next time. If she says no, open the door and tell her to vamoose.

Una take the knacking serious o...

kiddaz:
You're the one not responsible and reasonable not that girl. She's a correct babe 💯

And please lose that name as you're the direct opposite. Machiavelli had a sharp mind, swift, cunning and dangerous and always steps ahead but you my friend are the slowest of the slows in slowly kingdom

The matter pain you pass the op sef...

brain54:
The matter pain you pass the op sef...

The guy is just annoying and to think he's probably a grown man

Makavelli001:
Guy don't get me wrong. I am an alpha male 100%
In her own case I wanted to mellow down.

😂

brain54:
Una take the knacking serious o...

A lady that just left here now was telling me how she likes staying on top and riding. We no dey date o and no be hookup lady.

Women love sex more than men. It is naive saying you "I no go knack her cuz I love am"

A girl once told me "thank goodness that I asked to knack her." She don dey wait tey tey.

Women take knacking serious.

Before you take her back and start suspecting everything she does, which will end up in a broken relationship or marriage, leave her.

Start with someone new that you can trust. You guys hardly forgive. You will probably use her for sex and it ends there.

Kaido:
A lady that just left here now was telling me how she likes staying on top and riding. We no dey date o and no be hookup lady.

Women love sex more than men. It is naive saying you "I no go knack her cuz I love am"

A girl once told me "thank goodness that I asked to knack her." She don dey wait tey tey.

Women take knacking serious.

You must not knack everything you see...

Or place too much priority on knacking.

Person no soppose be rabbits that only think about knacking when they see the opposite sex.


Something fundamentally wrong with that kind of thinking!

Makavelli001:
➜I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.
So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.
But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing. To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off. Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary. But she have been calling. Guys should I accept her back??

Block her completely so she can go find her space somewhere else while you deal with your emotions and learn to regulate without all of that angst.

Clearly, she friend-zoned yo,u and you don't like being friend-zoned; she is not to blame for this. Since you would clearly not be her sidekick, I suggest you look for ways to move on after her.

Note: If you think continuing to harass her until she eventually gives in and has sex with you is going to make you feel better or superior. Think again! Many of us have done that nonsense and ended up feeling shittier about ourselves for even thinking that was some sort of workaround for our personal emotional issues; emotions cannot be resolved by having sex, not even with the poeple who we feel have done us wrong.

ukaface:
➜Don't accept her back She is confused

. She is not confused one here. She knows that OP has some unrequited love situation going on there. And tries to be nice to him because of that, but that is all she can do since her heart is not with OP. OP needs to accept his feelings and also accept that he can love her from afar since she does not reciprocate the feelings he has for her. And it is not her fault.