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You place women on a pedestal...then you provide them your resources without them even having to ask to invest in ANY WAY.

Then complain when they take you for granted.


You all will learn the hard way.


Just as ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. So it is that the lack of wisdom and knowledge WILL ALSO NOT BE AN EXCUSE.

Makavelli001:
I've been Tell one girl I just sincerely liked that I want us to be in a serious relationship but she refused. Then she was working. Then after 4 months I decided to call her, surprisedly she answered me politely. Not like other times when she was always arrogant.
Then later she told me that she is no longer working. That she quit.
Fast-forward, we started relating. She comes to my house to cook sometimes. But I no chop am (knacking) becos I luv that girl, so I didn't want to be in a hurry.

So one wkend she came, a guy called her and the guy was tell her to forgive him for disappointing her yesterday. After their conversation, I did as if I don't no what was happening. I didn't ask her who was that.

But she was uncomfortable. Then after she had finished cooking, she started telling me about the guy. I told her she shouldn't tell me. That I did not ask her. Then she answered me arrogantly that I don't have the right to ask her because we are not dating.
The thing pain me but I just keep silent. This is a girl I really loved. And she have been asking me money and I have been giving her. And she have the mind to tell me such thing.
To her surprise, I just stood up, and I told her to come let me see her off.
Since then I Neva call her again. I deleted her from my diary.
But she have been calling.
Guys should I accept her back??

You place women on a pedestal...then you provide them your resources without them even having to ask, earn or to invest in the outcome in ANY WAY. You ''luv that girl'' ....why? What does she have, and what can she contribute into the building of your income, financial stability, riches, wealth, philanthropy, as a positive influence to the society, your network and your power? Tell me how you suddenly ''luv that girl''. Why?
Please tell me why she (they) will not treat you (all) that way, when from all her female brain and psychology you have made her so important to you, and you are so feeble-minded that without her investing anything, you have allowed her access to your home, your time, attention, resources, protection and provision? Then you all come here to complain when they take you for granted. You are a woman wrapper. Simple.
You all will learn the hard way. Just as ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. So it is that the lack of wisdom and knowledge WILL ALSO NOT BE AN EXCUSE.

Two main things control human thoughts, behaviors and actions.
-Basic Instinct : Instincts we are born with.
-Experiential Intelligence : What we use to override basic instinct and reason before we take action.

Basic instinct for a woman is that a man that is easy, is also weak. He has no masculine power. Your value is not based on your running around women and dotting them and rushing to provide and splashing them with niceties. Women may love you and be fond of you for this. But they will not see you as a worthy mate until you act like a man. Your approach IS WEAKNESS. She seeks the man who is man enough to protect, provide, but yet residents, difficult to deceive and beguile. You are dealing with a woman who is using you for the current state she is in. When she sees and meets a man who is man enough and is able to provide as much as you or even more, she will discard you. Someone has disappointed her and not taking her seriously, yet she is lashing out at you.

As a man, your life is a PROJECT. REMEMBER, YOU ARE LOVED AND VALUED BASED ON WHAT YOU CAN PROVIDE. You have goals and expectations. Any woman is a subcontractor. Discard any woman who refuses to meet her obligations. You made the mistake of leading with emotions instead of value. She rejected you when she had options, then came back only after her situation changed. And not because she suddenly saw your worth. You gave her time, money, and loyalty, and she still reminded you that “you’re not dating” after disrespecting you in your own space. That’s the reality. Uncle, she never truly respected you. Women like that will use a good man for attention, comfort, and support while chasing the men they really want. The moment you pulled back, now she’s calling.....hahaha .....not because she values you o, but because she misses the benefits. Don’t fall for it. Taking her back would only reward her disrespect. Hold your ground, focus on your purpose, and never let a woman treat you like a backup plan.


I think there should be a formal and mandatory Rites of Passage program for Boys and Young Men.

10thTenthMan:
➜You place women on a pedestal...then you provide them your resources without them even having to ask to invest in ANY WAY.
Please tell me why she will not treat you that way when from all her female brain and psychology you have made her so important to you, and you are so feeble-minded that without her investing anything, you have allowed her access to your time, attention, resources, protection and provision?
Then complain when they take you for granted.You all will learn the hard way.
Just as ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. So it is that the lack of wisdom and knowledge WILL ALSO NOT BE AN EXCUSE.Two main things control human thoughts, behaviors and actions.
-Basic Instinct
-Experiential Intelligence
Basic instinct for a woman is that a man that is easy, is also weak. He has no masculine power. Your value is not based on your running around women and dotting them and rushing to provide and splashing them with niceties. Women may love you and be fond of you for this. But they will not see you as a worthy mate until you act like a man. Your approach IS WEAKNESS. She seeks the man who is man enough to protect, provide, but yet residents, difficult to deceive and beguile.
➜ You are dealing with a woman who is using you for the current state she is in. When she sees and meets a man who is man enough and is able to provide as much as you or even more, she will discard you. Someone has disappointed her and not taking her seriously, yet she is lashing out at you. I think there should be a formal and mandatory Rites of Passage program for Boys and Young Men.

Why are so many of you disconnected from reality? OP did not kill someone. He simply has emotions for a girl. How is that the same as placing the gal on a pedestal? He literally knows of her dalliances with other men but chooses to wait for her with the hope that she will come around to like him at some point. Why make that seem like an evil thing for him to do?

Humans use each other whenever they can; that is why we are referred to as social animals. OP may have considered that letting her come around him would maybe get her to realize how his feelings for her may be what she wants; what is wrong with that? Must she force herself to like OP because OP likes her? Must OP force himself on her because he likes her(even though the feelings are not reciprocated)?

You are not owed a romantic relationship(or any other) by anyone, not even women you like, and you can live well without romantic relationships. Try to work on yourself so you don't go around sounding so emotionally damaged in your assessment of human relations.

Kobojunkieee:
Why are so many of you disconnected from reality? OP did not kill someone. He simply has emotions for a girl. How is that the same as placing the gal on a pedestal? He literally knows of her dalliances with other men but chooses to wait for her with the hope that she will come around to like him at some point. Why make that seem like an evil thing for him to do?

Humans use each other whenever they can; that is why we are referred to as social animals. OP may have considered that letting her come around him would maybe get her to realize how his feelings for her may be what she wants; what is wrong with that? Must she force herself to like OP because OP likes her? Must OP force himself on her because he likes her(even though the feelings are not reciprocated)?

You are not owed a romantic relationship(or any other) by anyone, not even women you like, and you can live well without romantic relationships. Try to work on yourself so you don't go around sounding so emotionally damaged in your assessment of human relations.

And that’s why so many men stay stuck in cycles of emotional manipulation and quiet frustration. No one said OP killed someone, so let’s not ''strawman'' the argument, if you know what I mean. The critique isn’t about having feelings. I have no issues with anyone having feelings. From jealousy to anger, to frustration to fear, etc. It is how they are managed and how they becloud one's sense of judgment that matters. It is about how those feelings were managed, misplaced, and ultimately disrespected. Yes, he liked the girl o..Ok no problem...But he needs to stand on his value and not tolerate being sidelined, disrespected, and emotionally strung along, hoping she'd eventually pick him after dealing with other men.

You say “humans use each other” as if that justifies emotional exploitation. Sure, people use people. The question is, do you let yourself be used without getting value in return? If a man is investing time, money, and emotional energy while getting zero commitment, zero intimacy, and open disrespect, then he’s volunteering for his own downfall. That’s not noble. At all. That is simply self-inflicted foolishness.

No one said she owes him love. Who can force love biko? But he also doesn’t owe her provision either. Reciprocity is the baseline of healthy interaction. If she’s free to chase other men, fine. But don’t sit in another man’s house cooking and collecting money while talking to your real interest on the phone. That’s disrespect, and he was right to walk away.

The message is not that women owe men relationships. No one owes you anything. It’s that men owe themselves dignity. The emotionally damaged ones are the men who keep hoping loyalty will be rewarded, even when the woman has made it clear he’s just a safety net. And men who defend that behavior under the guise of “being human” are justifying weakness and codependency. Men need to stop romanticizing disrespect just because they’re afraid to admit when a woman doesn't want them.

Please, Mr OP, I have not come to pamper you. I have posted my response. Read through all the responses here. Eventually the choice is yours. This is my final take on the matter.

10thTenthMan:
➜And that’s why so many men stay stuck in cycles of emotional manipulation and quiet frustration. No one said OP killed someone, so let’s not ''strawman'' the argument, if you know what I mean. The critique isn’t about having feelings. I have no issues with anyone having feelings.
➜ From jealousy to anger, to frustration to fear, etc. It is how they are managed and how they becloud one's sense of judgment that matters. It is about how those feelings were managed, misplaced, and ultimately disrespected. Yes, he liked the girl o..Ok no problem...But he needs to stand on his value and not tolerate being sidelined, disrespected, and emotionally strung along, hoping she'd eventually pick him after dealing with other men.
➜ You say “humans use each other” as if that justifies emotional exploitation. Sure, people use people. The question is, do you let yourself be used without getting value in return? If a man is investing time, money, and emotional energy while getting zero commitment, zero intimacy, and open disrespect, then he’s volunteering for his own downfall. That’s not noble. At all. That is simply self-inflicted foolishness.
➜ No one said she owes him love. Who can force love biko? But he also doesn’t owe her provision either. Reciprocity is the baseline of healthy interaction. If she’s free to chase other men, fine. But don’t sit in another man’s house cooking and collecting money while talking to your real interest on the phone. That’s disrespect, and he was right to walk away.
➜ The message is not that women owe men relationships. No one owes you anything. It’s that men owe themselves dignity. The emotionally damaged ones are the men who keep hoping loyalty will be rewarded, even when the woman has made it clear he’s just a safety net. And men who defend that behavior under the guise of “being human” are justifying weakness and codependency. Men need to stop romanticizing disrespect just because they’re afraid to admit when a woman doesn't want them.
➜ Please, Mr OP, I have not come to pamper you. I have posted my response. Read through all the responses here. Eventually the choice is yours. This is my final take on the matter.

1. The one psychologically manipulating OP is not the girl but OP himself. Enough of you projecting what seems to be your own victim mentality on the OP, abeg! OP literally admits that the girl does not have feelings for him, but then goes on to assume that if he is available for her, she would somehow twist herself into liking him, as if he has ever been able to do that for the women around him who have feelings for him. 🥱🥱🥱

1b Not tolerate being sidelined? Are you sure you are OK at all? She clearly did not have feelings for OP before he invited her over to hang out and cook at his place. And she still didn't like him afterward. What did you want OP to do then? Force himself on her? I really don't understand why you think this is some entitlement battle for you when it should not be any such thing. 🥱🥱🥱

2. There is no case of exploitation here. OP kept calling the girl who eventually — after quitting her job — decided to hang out more at his place during her time of unemployment. He did not say anything about her exploiting him, nor did he suggest that she claimed to love him during that time. 🥱🥱🥱

Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

3. OP allowed her, knowing she does not have feelings for him. He literally allowed her into his space to cook and stuff with the hopes that she would develop feelings for him by allowing it. What part of that sounds like exploitation to you? If anything, they both used each other during that time. She did not force herself into his space or life— he let her in. She did not demand that OP serve her whims. He invited her into his space with hopes that by doing so, he would gain from the investment.

Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

4. Na wa oo! All this because OP tried to take advantage in the way he felt best. Again, learn to stop projecting! 🙄🙄

5. You did not come to pamper him but to belittle him for doing exactly what so many men out there in his shoes would have done, abi? Kwantinue!

10thTenthMan:
You place women on a pedestal...then you provide them your resources without them even having to ask, earn or to invest in the outcome in ANY WAY. You ''luv that girl'' ....why? What does she have, and what can she contribute into the building of your income, financial stability, riches, wealth, philanthropy, as a positive influence to the society, your network and your power? Tell me how you suddenly ''luv that girl''. Why?
Please tell me why she (they) will not treat you (all) that way, when from all her female brain and psychology you have made her so important to you, and you are so feeble-minded that without her investing anything, you have allowed her access to your home, your time, attention, resources, protection and provision? Then you all come here to complain when they take you for granted. You are a woman wrapper. Simple.
You all will learn the hard way. Just as ignorance is not an excuse in the court of law. So it is that the lack of wisdom and knowledge WILL ALSO NOT BE AN EXCUSE.

Two main things control human thoughts, behaviors and actions.
-Basic Instinct : Instincts we are born with.
-Experiential Intelligence : What we use to override basic instinct and reason before we take action.

Basic instinct for a woman is that a man that is easy, is also weak. He has no masculine power. Your value is not based on your running around women and dotting them and rushing to provide and splashing them with niceties. Women may love you and be fond of you for this. But they will not see you as a worthy mate until you act like a man. Your approach IS WEAKNESS. She seeks the man who is man enough to protect, provide, but yet residents, difficult to deceive and beguile. You are dealing with a woman who is using you for the current state she is in. When she sees and meets a man who is man enough and is able to provide as much as you or even more, she will discard you. Someone has disappointed her and not taking her seriously, yet she is lashing out at you.

As a man, your life is a PROJECT. REMEMBER, YOU ARE LOVED AND VALUED BASED ON WHAT YOU CAN PROVIDE. You have goals and expectations. Any woman is a subcontractor. Discard any woman who refuses to meet her obligations. You made the mistake of leading with emotions instead of value. She rejected you when she had options, then came back only after her situation changed. And not because she suddenly saw your worth. You gave her time, money, and loyalty, and she still reminded you that “you’re not dating” after disrespecting you in your own space. That’s the reality. Uncle, she never truly respected you. Women like that will use a good man for attention, comfort, and support while chasing the men they really want. The moment you pulled back, now she’s calling.....hahaha .....not because she values you o, but because she misses the benefits. Don’t fall for it. Taking her back would only reward her disrespect. Hold your ground, focus on your purpose, and never let a woman treat you like a backup plan.


I think there should be a formal and mandatory Rites of Passage program for Boys and Young Men.

You really hit at the point dube. The most annoying part was that she insulted me inside my house. But on the contrary, I did not place her on a pedestal. I wanted to preserve her because from my inspection of her, she is hard working type. If not that I didn't want to go hard on her. I would have issued her a slap and walk her out.

Anyway, thanks for your comment.

Kobojunkieee:
Why are so many of you disconnected from reality? OP did not kill someone. He simply has emotions for a girl. How is that the same as placing the gal on a pedestal? He literally knows of her dalliances with other men but chooses to wait for her with the hope that she will come around to like him at some point. Why make that seem like an evil thing for him to do?

Humans use each other whenever they can; that is why we are referred to as social animals. OP may have considered that letting her come around him would maybe get her to realize how his feelings for her may be what she wants; what is wrong with that? Must she force herself to like OP because OP likes her? Must OP force himself on her because he likes her(even though the feelings are not reciprocated)?

You are not owed a romantic relationship(or any other) by anyone, not even women you like, and you can live well without romantic relationships. Try to work on yourself so you don't go around sounding so emotionally damaged in your assessment of human relations.

That's 100% true. After she told me of her predicaments. I pitied her. I was aware that she may not like me that much. But I was of the opinion that it may be because of her past experiences, so that had made her to be skeptical of men. For that reason, I decided to be nice to her, hoping that she will change. But the reverse was the case.

You don't have any Masculinity at all,you need to be blend you're too dull, search this Man on Facebook his post will reset your Brain (indiscov)

Makavelli001:
➜That's 100% true. After she told me of her predicaments. I pitied her. I was aware that she may not like me that much. But I was of the opinion that it may be because of her past experiences, so that had made her to be skeptical of men. For that reason, I decided to be nice to her, hoping that she will change. But the reverse was the case.

She is obviously not skeptical of men. She may be skeptical of some men but not of men. She clearly does not love you. I think part of what she did, in the time she has been around you, was try to find out if she had any deep feelings for you. But ultimately, she failed to find any, and in her disappointment, she lashed out at you at the end. I suggest you take it that she is not for you. Reflect on this, accept it, so you can move on from your feelings for her without hard feelings.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a human having feelings for another human who may not possibly reciprocate the feelings. It is OK, and one is not diminished in any way by it. It can be an opportunity to learn and grow, or a chance to double down and pretend one is a victim of some sort. It is all up to you.

10thTenthMan:
And that’s why so many men stay stuck in cycles of emotional manipulation and quiet frustration. No one said OP killed someone, so let’s not ''strawman'' the argument, if you know what I mean. The critique isn’t about having feelings. I have no issues with anyone having feelings. From jealousy to anger, to frustration to fear, etc. It is how they are managed and how they becloud one's sense of judgment that matters. It is about how those feelings were managed, misplaced, and ultimately disrespected. Yes, he liked the girl o..Ok no problem...But he needs to stand on his value and not tolerate being sidelined, disrespected, and emotionally strung along, hoping she'd eventually pick him after dealing with other men.

You say “humans use each other” as if that justifies emotional exploitation. Sure, people use people. The question is, do you let yourself be used without getting value in return? If a man is investing time, money, and emotional energy while getting zero commitment, zero intimacy, and open disrespect, then he’s volunteering for his own downfall. That’s not noble. At all. That is simply self-inflicted foolishness.

No one said she owes him love. Who can force love biko? But he also doesn’t owe her provision either. Reciprocity is the baseline of healthy interaction. If she’s free to chase other men, fine. But don’t sit in another man’s house cooking and collecting money while talking to your real interest on the phone. That’s disrespect, and he was right to walk away.

The message is not that women owe men relationships. No one owes you anything. It’s that men owe themselves dignity. The emotionally damaged ones are the men who keep hoping loyalty will be rewarded, even when the woman has made it clear he’s just a safety net. And men who defend that behavior under the guise of “being human” are justifying weakness and codependency. Men need to stop romanticizing disrespect just because they’re afraid to admit when a woman doesn't want them.

Please, Mr OP, I have not come to pamper you. I have posted my response. Read through all the responses here. Eventually the choice is yours. This is my final take on the matter.

You are right. But it seems you missed this part of the story:

Her own case is that I wanted to preserve her.
Also I didn't want her to pass through the ordeals she have told me before.
She have told me that she lost her father when she was 6. And that she had experience heart breaks.
I do not worship her, I only pitied her, and wanted to correct her impression

Kobojunkie:
She is obviously not skeptical of men. She may be skeptical of some men but not of men. She clearly does not love you. I think part of what she did, in the time she has been around you, was try to find out if she had any deep feelings for you. But ultimately, she failed to find any, and in her disappointment, she lashed out at you at the end. I suggest you take it that she is not for you. Reflect on this, accept it, so you can move on from your feelings for her without hard feelings.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a human having feelings for another human who may not possibly reciprocate the feelings. It is OK, and one is not diminished in any way by it. It can be an opportunity to learn and grow, or a chance to double down and pretend one is a victim of some sort. It is all up to you.

I don't have any intention of taking her back either. Since that day she misbehave, I haven't pick her calls till date. My feelings for her blown when she disrespected me. Knacking her wasn't really my priority, if it's was, I would have done it. When she come, she use to pull off her dresses, remaining her undies.

I latter get to believe that the guy that made the first comment in this trend was right. That I was trying to personalize other people property.

Makavelli001:
You are right. But it seems you missed this part of the story:

Her own case is that I wanted to preserve her.
Also I didn't want her to pass through the ordeals she have told me before.
She have told me that she lost her father when she was 6. And that she had experience heart breaks.
I do not worship her, I only pitied her, and wanted to correct her impression

Ok......If you say so. Some parts of the story do not check out..but hey what do I know.. Lol !!
You probably understand the context better.


Like soap, you try to make humans clean, like soap you MUST dwindle in the act.
My advice then is that you take her back out of pity. I feel you continue with the pity and take no offense at whatever she does, unless it relates to physical harm. After all, like Dale Carnegie said, ''It is natural for people to forget to be grateful; so, if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for a lot of heartbreaks''. Take her back, expect nothing in return- whether sex, gratitude, investment of her time, energy, effort, etc. Fulfill the mission of ''preserving her''. Do not let her attitude stop you from doing what you need to do to ''pity her'' and ''preserve'' her and ''correct her impression''.

Because, (I mean), It is a seemingly noble/lofty ideal.

Makavelli001:
➜I don't have any intention of taking her back either. Since that day she misbehave, I haven't pick her calls till date. My feelings for her blown when she disrespected me. Knacking her wasn't really my priority, if it's was, I would have done it. When she come, she use to pull off her dresses, remaining her undies.
I latter get to believe that the guy that made the first comment in this trend was right. That I was trying to personalize other people property.

If you view people in that manner, then can you definitely state that anyone can be your property then? If even that guy were to, tomorrow, find out that the girl he has been dating has chosen to abandon him for someone else, can he ever definitively state that she belonged to him for the years she was with him?

I think that is generally a psychologically immature way of reviewing persons and relationships. People with whom you are in a relationship do not, by nature of that, become your property. No! They remain individuals fully capable of making other choices at any time or point in the relationship. You, on the other hand, can only enjoy being with them for the time they choose to be with you, and accept when they leave that it is time for you to move on from them, too.

This gal is right now entangled with some other guy does not mean she is the guy's property, as she may decide to leave him for someone else soon. The same applies to you and to everyone else. It really is and can be just that simple. We complicate these things when we think our identities should be tied to those we are in a relationship with and what they stand for, only for us to feel our whole world has been crushed when they eventually walk away.

Kobojunkie:
If you view people in that manner, then can you definitely state that anyone can be your property then? If even that guy were to, tomorrow, find out that the girl he has been dating has chosen to abandon him for someone else, can he ever definitively state that she belonged to him for the years she was with him?

I think that is generally a psychologically immature way of reviewing persons and relationships. People with whom you are in a relationship do not, by nature of that, become your property. No! They remain individuals fully capable of making other choices at any time or point in the relationship. You, on the other hand, can only enjoy being with them for the time they choose to be with you, and accept when they leave that it is time for you to move on from them, too.

This gal is right now entangled with some other guy does not mean she is the guy's property, as she may decide to leave him for someone else soon. The same applies to you and to everyone else. It really is and can be just that simple. We complicate these things when we think our identities should be tied to those we are in a relationship with and what they stand for, only for us to feel our whole world has been crushed when they eventually walk away.

The 'property' that I mean, which probably is what the guy mean applies to sexual waywardness. Not individual ownership.

I'm currently running a background check on her, and what I have found is so amazing.

Makavelli001:
✓ The 'property' that I mean, which probably is what the guy mean applies to sexual waywardness. Not individual ownership.
✓ I am currently running a background check on her, and what I have found is so amazing.

Sexual waywardness is a delusion that lives rent-free in the minds of boys who think a woman's body is property for them to grade according to standards even they do not live by. 🥱🥱🥱

There is a reason why successful and mature individuals in societies do not go around degrading others or females in the same manner.

2. For what purpose? Why do you still wish to carry her matter for your head, going as far as to pretend she is property for you to judge according to standards she never told you she holds to? 🥱🥱

Makavelli001:
Guy don't get me wrong. I am an alpha male 100%
In her own case I wanted to mellow down.

Nor be lie

Makavelli001:
That's true. I have been calm thinking she is a responsible gal.

A woman is yours only when she's with. The moment she leaves your house she belongs to other guys.

A woman won't take you serious if you haven't nacked her. Be there simping while other guys are ea.ting her raw while yours is to keep giving her money.

Kobojunkieee:
Why are so many of you disconnected from reality? OP did not kill someone. He simply has emotions for a girl. How is that the same as placing the gal on a pedestal? He literally knows of her dalliances with other men but chooses to wait for her with the hope that she will come around to like him at some point. Why make that seem like an evil thing for him to do?

Humans use each other whenever they can; that is why we are referred to as social animals. OP may have considered that letting her come around him would maybe get her to realize how his feelings for her may be what she wants; what is wrong with that? Must she force herself to like OP because OP likes her? Must OP force himself on her because he likes her(even though the feelings are not reciprocated)?

You are not owed a romantic relationship(or any other) by anyone, not even women you like, and you can live well without romantic relationships. Try to work on yourself so you don't go around sounding so emotionally damaged in your assessment of human relations.

Op nor try at all how e go accept woman wey reject am wen e dey work only when e don dey jobless? Na da place hin Bleep up start e still come dey yan rubbish say e nor wan chop am bcoz say e like am ;Dwho does that?