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| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by CrownedPhoenix: 3:16pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Port443:Arguably. Many sides to it. Economic hardship may have pushed the girls, times were not as hard for young men then as it is now. And so, there's less money to waste. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by UrgentNeedTv: 3:18pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
The rate of hardship is too harsh Abeg , who no sabi hustle, money value is not something we can rely on self , with your 1k you no fit chop Better bread 🍞 guy |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by judewrites: 3:19pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
From time immemorial, sex has always been transactional, a business venture. (prostitution) But these days, with the alarming way girls appear suggestively on social media, it seems 90% of girls are using their bodies to level up. It's a dangerous trend. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by MrPresidon: 3:20pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Who cares? ![]() The so called nation can burn down to ashes for all I care. I don't care about Nigeria at all and I can confidently tell you that there are so many young people who feel the same way. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by blesdman(m): 3:20pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:truth is that if not far yahoo in the south, armed robbery will have ravaged the south like banditry is doing in the north. Vices feeding the people since govt and politicians have failed their people only thinking about their children and themselves....nonsense people |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Faposky95: 3:33pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
CrownedPhoenix:How many. Count.....?! Do you know the dreams of people like Sam Mbakwe and co. Who would always talk about the future through education and investment in science and tech ? We have multi millions out of school, cannot feed properly and you're here making excuses.....? |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Ishilove: 3:36pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
190:Where did you pop out from? ![]() It's been ages. Hope you're good? ![]() |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Love800(m): 3:37pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
I don't think its poverty. Hookup life style is not a long-term job, so no one would like to invest all his/her lively hood to it. Na just side hustle to take get up-keep. And there are other legit and good hustles apart from hooking-up. We can indulge in those ones, but the main thing is that peeps like taking the short-cut! GadoosGadoo: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by jayce232: 3:38pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Savenigeria2023:Equating hookup to kidnapping is exaggerated. I don't see how hookup equate to kidnapping. If we should replace all the kidnappers on our highway with hookup girls, I don't think we will be talking about insecurity & people can move freely. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by 190: 3:42pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Ishilove:Yup been standing strong! ![]() |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by ajalawole(m): 3:42pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
blesdman:God bless you for this. People don't know what lack of job may bring up, there is less cultism in most schools those days because most students learn update from each others. Case of Bank robbery has even reduce in the South those days. Social media also help those guys also. So I won't say hook up isn't good. Do what will make someone happy. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Chukwudi4naija(m): 3:43pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
These vices are entirely greed-moivated. This is due to emphasis on wealth acquisition by what ever means, as society no longer questions source of wealth. There has always been economic hardship, but the older generation was honourable in pursuit of livelihood. I know how my family and others managed to survive amidst biting economic hardship, but we never resorted to dubious means to gain wealth. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by 3kay945(m): 3:45pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:Yahoo is a crime and yahoo guys are thieves! Just like saying hookup is prostitution. As simple as Abc |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Love800(m): 3:47pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Omo, i love the bolded. You just summarised why hookup lives with us. Let me add to it... apart from your quotes... the perks and sudden/short incentives that comes along with it is mind-blowing. If you have the pontentials and can solve risks that comes with it... then just patronise it, lol! POV- am not saying its a good move. benalvino3: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by plankyjacky(m): 3:48pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Times are strange and hard, no jobs and hopelessness among the youth . The opportunity available to most young people is limited making survival the norms . Idle hand na devil's workshop . |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 3:51pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
It’s easy to see why Lagos youths are embracing the soft life and hookup culture — life is tough, and everyone wants comfort, freedom, and happiness. But while this lifestyle looks appealing on the surface, it also raises some tough questions we shouldn’t ignore. 1. The Illusion of Soft Life Many Lagos youths flaunt luxury lifestyles online, but the truth is, a lot of it is built on borrowed money, fake designer clothes, or “packaging” for social media. The pressure to live soft often leaves young people chasing appearances instead of building real financial stability. Comfort today without planning for tomorrow can easily become hardship later. 2. Hookup Culture and Emotional Costs Yes, casual relationships sound freeing, but they can also leave people emotionally drained. Deep down, most humans crave connection and loyalty. Constant hookups may satisfy the body, but do they truly satisfy the heart? A generation chasing freedom might also be quietly battling loneliness. 3. Tradition Isn’t Always the Enemy While older generations may seem out of touch, not all their values are outdated. Marriage, family, and community have historically provided Nigerians with a safety net during hard times. Completely discarding these structures may leave many young people isolated when challenges come. 4. Balance Over Extremes Soft life and hookup culture shouldn’t be demonized — but they also shouldn’t replace long-term thinking. True independence comes from financial literacy, skill-building, and self-discovery, not just enjoyment and casual flings. A balanced approach means enjoying today while still preparing for tomorrow. Lagos youths are rewriting culture, no doubt. But the real “soft life” isn’t just about popping champagne or jetting to Dubai. It’s about building a future where freedom, happiness, and security go hand in hand. The question is: will this generation find that balance, or get lost in the glitter of the moment? phosky: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 3:55pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
I hear your point, but I don’t fully agree. Greed is part of it, yes, but it’s not the whole story. The environment today is very different from what our parents and grandparents faced. Back then, there were still some safety nets, communal support, and opportunities tied to integrity. Now, the pressure is heavier—social media glamorizes wealth, and society rewards “success” without asking how it was made. Many people aren’t just chasing greed, they’re trying to survive, or at least avoid being seen as “failures.” So while the older generation may have endured with honour, the system has shifted. It’s not only about personal values anymore, but also about the structures that shape choices. Chukwudi4naija: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by moststylish(m): 3:55pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:Hmmm Yahoo is not a crime. Like in your mind what do you think Yahoo is all about? Obtaining money by false pretenses is not a crime? Maybe till they do it to a member of your family. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 3:59pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:When parents keep bringing children into the world without the means to properly care for them, we can’t be surprised at some of the outcomes. That said, I don’t entirely blame ladies who end up in hookup — many are simply trying to survive and take care of themselves. But let’s be real: survival shouldn’t mean normalizing hookup as if it’s a sustainable or admirable path. Saying “at least it’s better than kidnapping or armed robbery” sets the bar far too low. Our society should be pushing for opportunities that give young women (and men) dignity, independence, and a future they can be proud of. Yes, hookup might seem like the lesser evil compared to violent crimes, but it still comes with long-term risks — health-wise, emotionally, and morally. Instead of glorifying it, we should focus on creating real alternatives through education, skill-building, and better economic structures. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 4:00pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
t’s true that hookup culture isn’t limited to Lagos — Abuja, Port Harcourt, and even smaller cities all have their own versions of it. People experiment with all sorts of lifestyles now, and social media has only made it more visible. But while it’s important to be cautious, we also need to be careful not to paint every woman with the same brush. Not every lady with a past is unworthy of a genuine relationship. Everyone has their history, and just as men want to be judged by who they are today, women deserve the same fairness. That said, doing due diligence before entering any serious relationship is wise. Knowing your partner’s values, background, and lifestyle is part of protecting yourself from heartbreak or worse. As for casual flings, you’re right — health risks are real. Men (and women too) need to take responsibility, practice safe sex, and understand the consequences of their choices. At the end of the day, it boils down to self-control and discernment. The choices we make in private often determine the peace or chaos we’ll live with later. Ryda: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by adams123: 4:01pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
SpecialAdviser:so, Jesus is your own judge at the end of the hour? |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by 3kay945(m): 4:06pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Love800:Poverty is a major factor. Other reasons are minor. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Love800(m): 4:16pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Yea... you are not wrong though. Thats a good observation from you. I appreciate. 3kay945: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by CorperKola: 4:24pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:Hook up culture is prioritizing short term casual non-emotional relationships basically for companionship and sex It doesnt necessarily mean sex for cash or sex work Your story is just crazy even though i have heard sich before, some people even send their wives to italy so that they can earn in foreign currency. I wonder how that whole conversation will come up between husband and wife. It will be very interesting |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by yewit37486: 4:24pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Ryda:But.... how come you know so much? |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by zed7: 4:33pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
People assume hook up is only olosho work. Thats not what the article means. It simply says, people are prioritising casual relationships, both men and women. Simply put, no strings attached relationships, because they're scared of committing and do not want to put in the work required in a stable, committed relationship. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Hhh4444: 4:36pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
Fiscus105:Same thing I was asking myself but the reverse is the case... These gals now charge higher,so it means men are still able to pay higher. |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by Hhh4444: 4:40pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
ajalawole:oh my God,see how low this country has fallen. So her husband has a share from the prostitution money? Some men dey try sha |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by UnknownQueen(f): 4:43pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
SpecialAdviser:Why must the youth be in interested in the lies you were taught.... Why must the youths be interested in the ways of our ancestors ... Our ancestors carved their own niche, let them carve theirs.... It's called Life for a reason..... |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 4:44pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
If your likes don't patronize them, there would be no OS Fisher007: |
| Re: Hookup Culture And The Rise Of ‘soft Life’ In Lagos by AngelSlay: 4:45pm On Sep 09, 2025 |
yewit37486:He retired few months ago. |
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