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Almost every young lady is into one from of prostitutiøn (yes, that's the real name) or another. Some flaunt their services especially online. Some boldly ask for patronage. While a greater percentage are "coded", and you'll have to operate on the "frequency" to even know what's up. I agree with all those who say that young men considering marriage should do a thorough background check before they commit. There was one coded Oloshø in Abuja who got married last year. I just the pity the young man she trapped. She posted pictures of her newborn baby some months ago on Instagram 🤣

I disagree with those who blame poverty. Some of these ladies are gainfully employed and some a even "happily" married. It's a choice. Some do it just for fun, peer pressure or adventure. Yes, poverty is a major contributor, but not all poor ladies are prostitutës.

Las las, prostitutiøn is the oldest profession in the world, and would be in every society for a very long time. They provide a critical service in society.

I understand your point, but painting almost every young woman with the same brush isn’t fair. While it’s true that prostitution exists in different forms and some openly advertise it, there are still many hardworking and decent young ladies who live by their values and make an honest living, despite the challenges around them.

It’s also not always just about “choice.” For some, economic hardship, lack of opportunities, or even family pressure play a role in pushing them toward such lifestyles. And yes, some may do it for fun or adventure, but generalizing makes it seem like morality has completely collapsed among women, which isn’t true.

Lastly, while prostitution may have been around for ages, calling it a “critical service” risks normalizing it instead of addressing the root causes and finding healthier solutions for society.

Abee79:
Almost every young lady is into one from of prostitutiøn (yes, that's the real name) or another. Some flaunt their services especially online. Some boldly ask for patronage. While a greater percentage are "coded", and you'll have to operate on the "frequency" to even know what's up. I agree with all those who say that young men considering marriage should do a thorough background check before they commit. There was one coded Oloshø in Abuja who got married last year. I just the pity the young man she trapped. She posted pictures of her newborn baby some months ago on Instagram 🤣

I disagree with those who blame poverty. Some of these ladies are gainfully employed and some a even "happily" married. It's a choice. Some do it just for fun, peer pressure or adventure. Yes, poverty is a major contributor, but not all poor ladies are prostitutës.

Las las, prostitutiøn is the oldest profession in the world, and would be in every society for a very long time. They provide a critical service in society.

AngelSlay:
I understand your point, but painting almost every young woman with the same brush isn’t fair. While it’s true that prostitution exists in different forms and some openly advertise it, there are still many hardworking and decent young ladies who live by their values and make an honest living, despite the challenges around them.

It’s also not always just about “choice.” For some, economic hardship, lack of opportunities, or even family pressure play a role in pushing them toward such lifestyles. And yes, some may do it for fun or adventure, but generalizing makes it seem like morality has completely collapsed among women, which isn’t true.

Lastly, while prostitution may have been around for ages, calling it a “critical service” risks normalizing it instead of addressing the root causes and finding healthier solutions for society.

It is what it is! 😁

SpecialAdviser:
It is not only Lagos oooh. Almost every part of Southern Nigeria. No thanks to socila media and influence from music and entertainment so called role models.

The youths are not even any longer interested in Religion. To teach them about Hell or Heaven is difficult. This is also escalated by rogue pastors preaching everything about prosperity. The prosperity gospel from modern day pastors are not helping Christianity at all. Again what we have are criminal politicians everywhere.

The country is where Jesus will start judgemnet
.

Religion doesn't make a good or bad person or society.

ajalawole:
When parent keep giving birth to kids they can't take care of that is the result. I don't really blame most ladies going into hook up, in as much they can take care of themselves and not be a threat to national security. Hook up is better then kidnapping, arm robbery and all that.

Then the diseases they spread is good for you!

AngelSlay:
If your likes don't patronize them, there would be no OS

Your point is valid but I don't patronize. I am glad you actually see it as prostitution.

On the long run, we will all have to contain the damage in the future. Both those who patronize and don't who don't patronize.

We are all in it together.
Simple and Bitter truth that is actually hard to swallow.

inyass2580:
Not only in lagos

Ul say Nigeria generally because drs no state in Nigeria where hookup doesn’t exist…. Its western ppl dt ppl dt spoil our culture nd tradition bringin us to dr ways of life..

my friend it is politicians that spoilt everything.

Pootle:
this generation is such a lazy one, they want everything soft no stress jus eat, flex and sleep

The Nigerian pastors contributed too.. promising soft life every Sunday without struggle and work. Forgetting Jesus asked us to carry our crosses and follow him

Hhh4444:
oh my God,see how low this country has fallen. So her husband has a share from the prostitution money? Some men dey try sha

not really. She is into make up and her husband allow her go for night work, she was coming with her make up box so her husband may think she was going for make up job. Is when she say her husband will ask about the money she get for the job that was when I know she was married. I just block her, since then I feel for some men honestly.

ajalawole:
so what are they taking of.
Some girls doing hook up are actual sponsoring them self to school or there sibling. They can't just run into hook up if responsibility don't come. I once try to chat a lady on Facebook, she agree to come spend the night, only for her to ask me how much I will give her in the morning that her husband will ask for the money she make from work.... That statement alone make me block her when I sense she was married.

See this one....no wonder you support hookup since you are a major partaker

livebullet:
The Nigerian pastors contributed too.. promising soft life every Sunday without struggle and work. Forgetting Jesus asked us to carry our crosses and follow him

a country where churches are more than factories

ajalawole:
not really. She is into make up and her husband allow her go for night work, she was coming with her make up box so her husband may think she was going for make up job. Is when she say her husband will ask about the money she get for the job that was when I know she was married. I just block her, since then I feel for some men honestly.

Ooh ok,now it's clear.

Musty112:
No matter how trendy and fashionable immorality becomes, do not participate!

DO NOT PARTICIPATE OR INDULGE THE ACTORS!

Them change ashawo to 'baby girl lifestyle '
Naija I hail o

Hookup is simply biology and economics. The poorer a society is, the greater the number its women go into sex for money. Biologically, men desire to have sex with as many women as possible. It is that simple.

The term "hook up" even got popular after the 2015 elections. Before then, it was known as "runs girls". The Nigerian economy has not experienced a GDP growth rate of 5% per annum for almost fifteen years. Do we know the effects of that?

BTW, the work sef no easy. Abi una think say hookup na easy work?

Love800:
I don't think its poverty. Hookup life style is not a long-term job, so no one would like to invest all his/her lively hood to it.
Na just side hustle to take get up-keep. And there are other legit and good hustles apart from hooking-up. We can indulge in those ones, but the main thing is that peeps like taking the short-cut!

It is poverty. Poorer societies have more women engaging in sex for money.

jayce232:
Equating hookup to kidnapping is exaggerated. I don't see how hookup equate to kidnapping. If we should replace all the kidnappers on our highway with hookup girls, I don't think we will be talking about insecurity & people can move freely.

You dey mind our people?

Hookup exist in the Netherlands and Singapore, but these are very safe countries.

GadoosGadoo:
Can we all agree that poverty is the major driving force

..yes poverty, hunger, hardship, inflation, high costs of living, high rate of unemployment are the cause.. survival of the fittest

ajalawole:
kidnapping is bad and a crime, but let be honest with ourself Yahoo isn't a crime.

^^^


It is a crime.

Call a spade a spade.

ajalawole:
I know of many guys who don't force cleint to send them money, they do willingly. How will you feel you open your phone and see a white man sending you nude, those white bring this upon them self so I don't blame most guys out hustling.

^^^


These are excuses.

You can call it 'picking', 'yahoo', 'hustling' or any of these other nonsensical terms - it doesn't change the fact that it is a crime.

You call the victim a 'client'. Calling him/her a client implies that a transaction took place. What was sold to the so called client?

ajalawole:
I have a app where some ladies in Nigeria sell nude to those Yahoo boys to work with. What should we call this too. But of them are hustling to survive.

They are all on one app or another. But they have no interest in the political process and its outcomes. So many young people in this country don't vote - and they say it with pride. They do not vote in local elections. They do not vote in state elections. They do not vote in presidential elections. They do not vote in any of the polls for lawmakers - state or federal. But hundreds of thousands of them vote in Big Brother Nigeria or Big Brother Africa 'elections'.

If young people show no interest in the political process or how their country is run, they will suffer and end up doing 'hook up' or end up in jail (for 'doing' yahoo). No two ways about it.

Savenigeria2023:
Not sure there is a lot of difference between both vices as its same mindset. Hookup for ladies vs Yahoo/Kidnap for guys

There is a whole world of difference between the two. Hook up requires two willing participants … Yahoo/Kidnapping - not so much.

You are right though. Poverty is another dimension.

Gerrard59:
It is poverty. Poorer societies have more women engaging in sex for money.

Fisher007:
Hmm
Where do i start from.
Cockroaches everywhere.

70 percent of the young ones are doing hookup.
Meaning your chance of marrying a retired hookup person is also 70 percent.

Terrible times ahead for those considering marriage. The endgame or time will be terrible for a lot.

Well we are all in this together.

Nobody is going anywhere.

the bolded is deep insight, and actually true

Ebubu:
the bolded is deep insight, and actually true

Una go marry ashawo last last. Lol! Y'all started it.

For those interested in African culture, let me be as honest as I can with you.

Be informed that African culture includes easy care-free sex life. Our ancestors didn't take things like sex seriously, so we have always been that way but it wasn't commercial as is today. The commercial aspect is what could be said to be caused by foreign influence.

I don't see any big deal in having easy sex with someone as long as it's consensual, in fact, I prefer that to lying to a girl I don't know that I love her. That's why in ancient Egypt, sex was considered just as a staple. But they invented condom for protection. They also invented contraceptives.

It's same way that African culture included deep spirituality even before white people arrived here, and that's why we're addicted to foreign religions because we have always been interested in things of the spirit from time immemorial. The commercialization of what is now called religion is what is modern.

So, things like easy sex can easily take hold on us. We have always been a people interested in such, though in this instance, we'll never know how white influence would have added to it.

Having said that, if you're interested in having our culture back, the solution is that we must understand the principles of CAUSE and EFFECT, then go to the ORIGIN of the problem and remove it. The CAUSE of our societal problem is the language, education, religion imposed on us by Europeans. Those three has changed our psychology and what we're living is the consequence.

Cause and Effect explained

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RWGoZwpubQ&pp

Gerrard59:
You dey mind our people?

Hookup exist in the Netherlands and Singapore, but these are very safe countries.

How are they safe? Have you seen the crime statics in those countries?

musicwriter:
For those interested in African culture, let me be as honest as I can with you.

Be informed that African culture includes easy care-free sex life. Our ancestors didn't take things like sex seriously, so we have always been that way but it wasn't commercial as is today. The commercial aspect is what could be said to be caused by foreign influence.

I don't see any big deal in having easy sex with someone as long as it's consensual, in fact, I prefer that to lying to a girl I don't know that I love her. That's why in ancient Egypt, sex was considered just as a staple. But they invented condom for protection. They also invented contraceptives.

It's same way that African culture included deep spirituality even before white people arrived here, and that's why we're addicted to foreign religions because we have always been interested in things of the spirit from time immemorial. The commercialization of what is now called religion is what is modern.

So, things like easy sex can easily take hold on us. We have always been a people interested in such, though in this instance, we'll never know how white influence would have added to it.

Having said that, if you're interested in having our culture back, the solution is that we must understand the principles of CAUSE and EFFECT, then go to the ORIGIN of the problem and remove it. The CAUSE of our societal problem is the language, education, religion imposed on us by Europeans. Those three has changed our psychology and what we're living is the consequence.

Cause and Effect explained

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RWGoZwpubQ&pp

I understand your point, but I need to correct a few things from a historical perspective.

African cultures were never as one-dimensional about sex as you present. Yes, some societies were more open with sexuality, but many others had strict norms around marriage, fidelity, and family structure. For example, among the Igbo, Tiv, or Zulu, there were cultural rituals and taboos regulating sexual behavior. It wasn’t a “free for all” — sex was tied to lineage, inheritance, fertility, and community balance.

About ancient Egypt, while they did experiment with contraceptives, the condom as we know it wasn’t an Egyptian invention but developed much later in Europe. Egyptians used things like honey and crocodile dung mixtures as spermicides, which is quite different.

On spirituality, you’re right that Africans were deeply spiritual before foreign religions arrived. But again, it wasn’t “addiction.” Africans adapted new religions (Christianity, Islam) into their cultures because they resonated with certain values and offered power in political and trade relations. It wasn’t just imposed — there was agency and choice involved too.

Finally, on “cause and effect”: while colonial languages, religion, and education changed African psychology, they aren’t the sole cause of today’s issues. Internal dynamics, governance, and modern economic systems also play huge roles. History is complex, and oversimplifying it risks ignoring the richness of African agency in shaping its own destiny.

True, but let’s not pretend hookup is entirely harmless either. While it’s consensual on the surface, a lot of times money, desperation, or social pressure is quietly involved. That’s why it’s risky to glorify it. Yahoo and kidnapping are outright crimes, yes, but hookup culture also has hidden dangers — from emotional damage to health risks. Both sides have consequences, just that one is obviously criminal and the other is socially tolerated.

Phut:
There is a whole world of difference between the two. Hook up requires two willing participants … Yahoo/Kidnapping - not so much.

Hamachi:
I understand your point, but I need to correct a few things from a historical perspective.

African cultures were never as one-dimensional about sex as you present. Yes, some societies were more open with sexuality, but many others had strict norms around marriage, fidelity, and family structure. For example, among the Igbo, Tiv, or Zulu, there were cultural rituals and taboos regulating sexual behavior. It wasn’t a “free for all” — sex was tied to lineage, inheritance, fertility, and community balance.

About ancient Egypt, while they did experiment with contraceptives, the condom as we know it wasn’t an Egyptian invention but developed much later in Europe. Egyptians used things like honey and crocodile dung mixtures as spermicides, which is quite different.

On spirituality, you’re right that Africans were deeply spiritual before foreign religions arrived. But again, it wasn’t “addiction.” Africans adapted new religions (Christianity, Islam) into their cultures because they resonated with certain values and offered power in political and trade relations. It wasn’t just imposed — there was agency and choice involved too.

Finally, on “cause and effect”: while colonial languages, religion, and education changed African psychology, they aren’t the sole cause of today’s issues. Internal dynamics, governance, and modern economic systems also play huge roles. History is complex, and oversimplifying it risks ignoring the richness of African agency in shaping its own destiny.

Next time you want to reply me don't use AI.

I posted at 10.03 am and you replied by 10.09 am. That's in 3 minutes, which is barely enough time to read my post!

NB:
The AI gave you a wrong answer for the first part cause everything I said is as. AI is the next thing that would enslave people in third world countries. I made this prediction 15 years ago before it was invented .

Useless lifestyle