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Amotolongbo:
Was he meant to ask her that question?
That kinda question warrants that kinda response

And her question warrants his response too, simple! No comment! Ditto!

Op kudos to you!
She is looking for Poverty Alleviation Man
PAM.
If she is really interested, she would have gotten what she wants even with your sarcastic reply.

thomas2024:
And her question warrants his response too, simple! No comment! Ditto!

But I can’t read anywhere the lady is crying foul or complaining

ExudeLoveToAll:
Did u read where he asked if she was open for a relationship? She didn't answer next is to size his pocket what do u do for a living . That answer is good for her, na thief him be abi thief no dey do d do?

So you expect her to respond to that kind of question from a total stranger?

The lady asked him what he does to chase him away and nothing else. What an immature mind asking a lady if she is still opened to a relationship when they’ve never personally discussed anything like that before or met

july21st:
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.

My brother you did the right thing, she is not ready for any relationship, she is just looking for the man she has built in her mind, that is why she jumped into asking you that question. Honestly, if you know the kind of men majority of this single ladies have built in their minds, you will feel sorry for any guy going closer to them. Someone that is not perfect is looking for a perfect man, it is only God that will save majority of them. They allowed what they watch on social media to take control of their reasoning

Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish . He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"?

Ok...imagine a guy asking her about her body count in their first conversation....its very disrespectful and desperate to ask questions based on personal economy on first talk

Both of you are not yet ready

Amotolongbo:
So you expect her to respond to that kind of question from a total stranger?

The lady asked him what he does to chase him away and nothing else. What an immature mind asking a lady if she is still opened to a relationship when they’ve never personally discussed anything like that before or met

Did you see where I said she commented on a previous post on nairaland that was centered on getting a marriage partner?
And I got her number from there. Which I explained toher where I got her number.

july21st:
Interested in what. I lost interest. She has no time to waste by even simply introducing herself or her name. I asked her if she is still open for relationship and she rudely jumped to my occupation. She don't have time to waste is my that have time to waste ba. I have a job and am comfortable

my brother you do well, can't she just calm down before asking what you do for a living, so doin if you tell her you do okada for living she no go reply you again

But if you tell her you work in central bank she do quick to ask when should we see,

Almajiri everywhere, Dem no won gree calm down build with you when Dem reach 40 Dem dey always get sense.

Op, she don already get plenty customers for her DM, so she dey use the job occupation question to select the top 20 future magas....


I like as you jump that hoop with two legs at once...

Two crates of stout for you boss.....

Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish . He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"?

It was too early in the conversation... auntie


Haba.....


I meet you now.. 2 mins ...I dey ask if you are a Virgin?...

Does it make sense to you?

You expected her to welcome you, so you would come back here and tarnish her.

You are still a kid

july21st:
So I chatted this person I met here in nl. She posted on a thread about relationship and marriage. This is someone that says she ready for marriage.
I blurred her name and contact to protect her privacy. I don't want to pre EMT what I feel that made me reply that way. But what do you think about this response?

Obembet
Mydd44
Seun
Cuteeme
Netwalkers
Samantha125
Npfl

Blocked you and you are still pained...pele

Foodqueen:
You expected her to welcome you, so you would come back here and tarnish her.

You are still a kid

Welcome me where? Don't sound stu... trying to cover up nonsense.

cuteeme:
Blocked you and you are still pained...pele

I am not pained. I am actually happy for dodging a bullet. Why should I be pained for someone coming to drain me financially and emotionally with nothing to offer?

july21st:
I am not pained. I am actually happy for dodging a bullet. Why should I be pained for someone coming to drain me financially and emotionally with nothing to offer?

Yet you are here crying. Thank God i dodged a problematic person. Thank you Lord. Have a nice life.

cuteeme:
Yet you are here crying. Thank God i dodged a problematic person. Thank you Lord. Have a nice life.

Okay. Me and you who seem like a trouble maker now? I didn't even say you are the one . I covered your name didn't I? You are the one crying 😭 here. I posted this thread for educational purposes. Just carry your wahala dey go. Don't tell me to have a nice life because you have nothing to contribute to my life. If you did I would have known

You are all almost the same and reason almost the same way. How is the guy's approach wrong? What happened to the girl saying her name, how about the guy's location, age and other pleasantries? She just jumped to what he does so she can start calculating her pay cheque and cash out modalities. That guy is a biz woman and she deserves the thief response.

Julia25:
His presentation was wrong, although childish . He shouldn't have done that, and to the 'economy-centric' dude above—How does asking for his occupation negate her "love orientation"?

july21st:
Okay. Me and you who seem like a trouble maker now? I didn't even say you are the one . I covered your name didn't I? You are the one crying 😭 here. I posted this thread for educational purposes. Just carry your wahala dey go. Don't tell me to have a nice life because you have nothing to contribute to my life. If you did I would have known

As you have nothing at all to contribute to mine...besides i don't do things with a tiff okay? So bye

cuteeme:
As you have nothing at all to contribute to mine...besides i don't do things with a tiff okay? So bye

How many times you go say bye? Just go ma. Pls

july21st:
How many times you go say bye? Just go ma. Pls

Go first oga

july21st:
Pls wrong presentation how? I already lost interest because I felt it's proper to make introductions first before delving into such.
I introduced myself. She didn't say her name. She is asking what I do.
Of all the things to ask someone in the world of. Is my occupation she is interested in.

You did well bro. God bless you.

If it were me, I would block her instantly for asking me such question at that stage of the chatting. Haba!
She wanted to Size you, so she can know your worth first.

july21st:
How many times you go say bye? Just go ma. Pls

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cuteeme:
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The both of you still very much like each other the way your both replying each other on here. Y'all can still figure it out sha.

But this is my take: I'm not supporting anyone sha but I understand the OP , you didn't even tell him your name, you just asked for his occupation like dat , at least your supposed to introduce yourself and get to know eachother very well and his occupation would pop out naturally without even asking him , that's how you get to know people.

Ibkay32:
I don’t think she’s really open to any relationship. She’s just looking for someone she can put her problem on to sponsor her business center and cover her bills, lol 😆

Isn't that what they're all looking for?

MikeofKd:
The both of you still very much like each other the way your both replying each other on here. Y'all can still figure it out sha.

But this is my take: I'm not supporting anyone sha but I understand the OP , you didn't even tell him your name, you just asked for his occupation like dat , at least your supposed to introduce yourself and get to know eachother very well and his occupation would pop out naturally without even asking him , that's how you get to know people.

Thanks for your open-mindedness...that is my own test for knowing serious people and to test temperament and he failed woefully. He just fell into the trap. I was as polite as i could be. If the question did not go well with him, there are reasonable ways to go about it. I am in for seriois business not just boyfie things. I am very much well-paid and run a fashion business. So if a guy asks what i do, i can proudly say without feeling hurt. What of men that asks, do you go around and say that you are a thief? Is he even proud to tell what he does? Is he ready to care for a family?? Inasmuch as i am not looking for set awon "i neva shop" still have some confidence in you,have tiny bit of hope in you at least. Then it shows that intellectually we can never be at sync. So i told him to keep it moving. Next thing, childish him brought it here like a baby crying in diapers so people will clap for him?? I see many reasonable comments here and i am glad that there can still be sensible people here on NL... cos this is not really my go-to SM platform.

Anyway, i thank everyone who have contributed to this discuss positively and negatively. I am married to the love of my life, a sound and intelligent man who has ticked all my boxes in what I really want in a REAL man... At the end of the day i 'looked well' so i don't catch a leech on my way to the very peak. We are not only married we are blessed with a family. Thank you. God bless you.

cuteeme:
Thanks for your open-mindedness...that is my own test for knowing serious people and to test temperament and he failed woefully. He just fell into the trap. I was as polite as i could be. If the question did not go well with him, there are reasonable ways to go about it. I am in for seriois business not just boyfie things. I am very much well-paid and run a fashion business. So if a guy asks what i do, i can proudly say without feeling hurt. What of men that asks, do you go around and say that you are a thief? Is he even proud to tell what he does? Is he ready to care for a family?? Inasmuch as i am not looking for set awon "i neva shop" still have some confidence in you,have tiny bit of hope in you at least. Then it shows that intellectually we can never be at sync. So i told him to keep it moving. Next thing, childish him brought it here like a baby crying in diapers so people will clap for him?? I see many reasonable comments here and i am glad that there can still be sensible people here on NL... cos this is not really my go-to SM platform.

Anyway, i thank everyone who have contributed to this discuss positively and negatively. I am married to the love of my life, a sound and intelligent man who has ticked all my boxes in what I really want in a REAL man... At the end of the day i 'looked well' so i don't catch a leech on my way to the very peak. We are not only married we are blessed with a family. Thank you. God bless you.

Well said , Godbless your union , Enjoy !

Suddenly you are married and now have a family.? Continue to lie and deceived your self

That went south so fast

cuteeme:
Thanks for your open-mindedness...that is my own test for knowing serious people and to test temperament and he failed woefully. He just fell into the trap. I was as polite as i could be. If the question did not go well with him, there are reasonable ways to go about it. I am in for seriois business not just boyfie things. I am very much well-paid and run a fashion business. So if a guy asks what i do, i can proudly say without feeling hurt. What of men that asks, do you go around and say that you are a thief? Is he even proud to tell what he does? Is he ready to care for a family?? Inasmuch as i am not looking for set awon "i neva shop" still have some confidence in you,have tiny bit of hope in you at least. Then it shows that intellectually we can never be at sync. So i told him to keep it moving. Next thing, childish him brought it here like a baby crying in diapers so people will clap for him?? I see many reasonable comments here and i am glad that there can still be sensible people here on NL... cos this is not really my go-to SM platform.

Anyway, i thank everyone who have contributed to this discuss positively and negatively. I am married to the love of my life, a sound and intelligent man who has ticked all my boxes in what I really want in a REAL man... At the end of the day i 'looked well' so i don't catch a leech on my way to the very peak. We are not only married we are blessed with a family. Thank you. God bless you.

If I may ask, do you have kids?