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Fiscus105:
Meanwhile, many of these useless husbands, the future wives saw the signs when they were dating but they still went ahead to marry them, who to blame?

Kobojunkie:
Women are to blame when society --- traditional and religious leaders alike -- insist that women are able to marry and change even the most disgusting man into the man of her dreams simply by her being in his life and making sacrifice after sacrifice to the gods of marriage?

Who told you two that the man didn't run away because the woman is toxic and unmanageable?
What's even more pronounced is our society expect husband to manage his wife and her shortcomings

kuse2:
I can see so many hates against single mothers..
I've met a couple of them and trust me the ones I've met are pure bliss.. They were just victim of circumstances..

I had evidence of some of them being in abusive relationships which nearly cost them their lives before they quit.. I've seen some where the man was very irresponsible who does not care about the taking care of the family, all he did was collecting from "her" all to go squander on another girls or alcohol and bets..

Not all single mother are bad and I will choose a single mother over a single girl with serial abortions..

To all single moms digging it out, especially in this period of school fees, may God bless and settle you.

This is interesting. How do you determine or find out if a single lady has had serial or several abortions?
There are good single mothers who made the wrong decision but don't make mistake when choosing one, do your findings properly

lailo:
Single motherhood is all shades of wrong. The single mothers may be good mothers but never good wives and it is very dangerous to reward them with marriage. The western world is in family disarray today because of reign of single motherhood. Run my brother

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I don’t know because I never dated one nor plan to.

NoToPile:
Even those that always say they must have sex with any woman they are dating are talking.

As if a baby is not a direct product of sex.

Mshewww

😂

Pupanchie:
Were you there when she was raped cos they are so much good when it comes to manipulation, and again can you proof to the world you trusted your girlfriend?

no where did I mention she was my girlfriend o....besides, yes, there was plenty evidence it was rape and the guy in question never denied it.

TheWebbers:
Senseless post.

Your wife, be it single mum or not, if olosho still dey her eyes will go back to knack her ex or anyone she fancies.

You guys talk like only single mothers who later got married go back to exes, and that claim aint even true one ioata. In fact most single mothers develop strong hatred for their baby daddies forever for abandoning them with the baby. Stupid generalisation.

This is true in some cases but would they make good wives for other men? That's the question

maasoap:
This is true in some cases but would they make good wives for other men? That's the question

Being a good wife has nothing to do with being a single mother. A good wife is respectful, has a good heart, soft spoken and all that. A lot of non single mothers have very ugly personality. In fact most women who nag, cheat and disrespect and even kpai their husbands are not single mothers.

keemsleek:
Yes, you are right but it's time people separate single mothers. The widows are there, women whose marriages did them wrong are there, the kind of ones you just talked about are there. The poster you replied to is right too. A single girl who has perfected her act of not giving birth by abortion or a coded runs girl who is single is worse than a single mother. So there are still good single mothers and good single women. We pray we don't fall into the hands of the worst of the two women.

Widows are not single mothers

TheWebbers:
Being a good wife has nothing to do with being a single mother. A good wife is respectful, has a good heart, soft spoken and all that. A lot of non single mothers have very ugly personality. In fact most women who nag and disrespect and even kpai their husbands are not single mothers.

Didn't say it has. If you are a single mother, at least, the least you can give the new husband is peace of mind, not toxicity

seniorgozman:
Widows are not single mothers

Widows are single mothers sir. the difference is that she lost her hubby and she now single. I lost my dad at the age of 11yrs and I was raised by a single mom of 4, another kind of single mothers are the divorced 1) became single mothers due to marriage did them wrong another left thier marriage just to flex and or cheated or where the ones that destroyed the marriage and the last the baby mamas, 1) the one guy used sweet mouth to turn them into single mothers and rejected the baby, another the ones that were raped, another the worst ones that it's all about money, lived a wayward life, runs babes, loosed one and the one that like bad boys vibes. Once u have kids and no father figure around is a single mother but with different shades.

Olachase:
But when she was eating the indomitable, fry egg and soft drink she didn't notice the marriage might do her wrong

Any man that get married to a single mom has no choice or due to his age

Too many kids will just come up and write trash on NL. Don't worry, when you grow up, you will understand.

Nonexisting1:
Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

Your comment was too generalistic.

Some women actually fought hard to stay in the marriage but their men were simply irredeemable.

So, the women would be forced to leave the marriage for the sake of their kids and life.

He who wears the shoe know exactly where it pinches.

Get down from your high horse and stop demonising these women by putting them in a box.

Acidosis:
Everything you accused single mothers of, any woman with an ex is guilty of as well. Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Yeah You just dont have a living breathing evidence
Just that 'tiny' detail is the difference

Someone here reported how his baby Mama came with her husband to visit their child, while the husband was outside in the car waiting, Okafor's Law played out and he had a quickie with her

Nonexisting1:
Wrong. They have the babies because they plan to use them as meal ticket from men and as means to an end called marriage. When their expectations are not met, they become frustrated and toxic. Look into the stories of single mothers around you and you will find out if I'm lying.

You correct man, I have a baby mama who decided to cut me off because I refused to marry her after she got pregnant for me, she even named my son after her father's name. Now she has denied me access saying I didn't pay anything on her head. She is mbese from Imo state.

keemsleek:
Yes, you are right but it's time people separate single mothers. The widows are there, women whose marriages did them wrong are there, the kind of ones you just talked about are there. The poster you replied to is right too. A single girl who has perfected her act of not giving birth by abortion or a coded runs girl who is single is worse than a single mother. So there are still good single mothers and good single women. We pray we don't fall into the hands of the worst of the two women.

Widows are not the same as women the took in for men that rejected them

Acidosis:
Everything you accused single mothers of, any woman with an ex is guilty of as well. Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Gbam! You said it all. Single mother, widow, rape victim, victim of an abusive marriage or virgin: ALL of them are human beings. IT IS ALWAYS A RISK TO LOVE A HUMAN BEING, AND THERE IS ALWAYS A FORM OF BETRAYAL INVOLVED IN LOVE. EVEN SOME OF US WHO HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR DECADES HAVE DISCOVERED UNEVENNESS IN LOVE. SOME WOMEN LOVE THEIR NUCLEAR FAMILY MUCH MORE THAN THEY LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS. YOU CHOOSE THE BETRAYAL YOU CAN ENDURE. IT'S BETTER THAN THE NON SINGLE MOTHER WHO PAYS HER HUSBAND BACK WHENEVER SHE IS ANNOYED BY HIM IN THE FORM OF GOING TO SLEEP WITH SOMEONE ELSE.

Hmmmn,Am not a Single Mother neither do I wish to become one,but to those blaming them,I hope you know that Life happen to some of them,Also life can also humble people.
I had a friend who loved and cherished a guy She was dating ,the guy never cared for her instead He was just using her as a means to an end.
This lady collect loan to buy Keke for this guy still went the extra mile to rent apartment that they were living but later found out that the bastard had other plans,he left her and married another lady it was after two months that She discovered that She was pregnant for him,it took the intervention of a lot of people for her to keep the pregnancy and up till today She is still a Single Mother with only one Son.

Every Man She met after the incident usually want to use her because of this same mentality that Single Mothers are bad people.

Moreover most people shouting Single Mother this or that also have them as Sisters, friends, neighbor etc.

IamAsiri:
No, I don't. After separating the widows and casting blame on the "irresponsible" ones, your last paragraph in my own opinion just stated the fact that ANY woman who has no man in her life but wants to keep and train a child alone is selfish. And that is what I addressed.

And just like I said earlier, some women se women were just victims of circumstances.

Anyone who got pregnant as a result of rape chose to be pregnant because she could have taken pills or injections after the rape to do the needful but she didnt

casualobserver:
Ok! Believe what you want.

The world designed men such that you eventuallyweakened by age.

Either way it is a sign of weakness in a man.
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I repeat no man worth his salt settles for a single mother.

The only exception is a widow.

Bro you try o with your patience to explain lol..if him no want learn from what reasonable men are saying then he can as well learn painfully with experience getting married to a single mother..som SIMPs are irredeemable

symbianDON:
it is not always true. I know a very upright lady who actually became a single mother as a result of r@pe.

Lol dey play..just dey play..shey dem ban postinor for her area?

torqque7:
Bro you try o with your patience to explain lol..if him no want learn from what reasonable men are saying then he can as well learn painfully with experience getting married to a single mother..som SIMPs are irredeemable

This is my classification of women

1: Single never married, no children, below 30. 35 max!

Big gap.


2: widow: someone deemed her fit to be a wife. Could be a hidden gem. Likely a good woman that life dealt a bad hand.
3: single never married, no children, 35-40. (Very likely an attitude problem &or someone’s side chick. Will marry anyone who will marry her)
4: divorcee: too much drama. The biggest decision of her life she got wrong. May still have the same issues that ended her marriage.
5: single never married, above 40, no kids (spent the valuable part of her life to a man as somebody’s or some people’s side chick) no upside. Only companions for divorced older men who don’t want kids.
6: single mother, any age, never married. Run away! Nothing to gain for a man, absolutely everything to lose.

The older a woman stays single the more likely she has been a side chick or a serial side chick to a married man. She has been messing with someone else’s marriage. 1) if she can’t respect other people’s marriage she won’t respect hers. 2) she carries into her marriage bad karma!

Once a woman is a side chick, she comes to a marriage with a wrong attitude because she has been pampered by a married man who can’t offer her marriage. She thinks that’s how life really is or should be.

The only girls to marry are 1 and 2. The rest are different grades of damaged.

maasoap:
Sha try and find out what killed her last husband.

u talk true 4 this one