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Hespee93:
While the story might be tale, I bet it with you there are girls out there who might be in the same 👠 as the girl described here.


A sister my ex was taking advice from about her relationship is over 35years without being in a single relationship or married.

Talkisneeded:
Your moniker remind me of a book I read in early 2010s,tanigororo-banigororo…

Been looking for the title

tanigororo:
Whoever lied to women that marriage is not an achievement is doing them wrong.

Real2088:
You are the wrong one here, don't say women,speak of the ones you know,I don't need a man, I am proudly heading to 40 and I would never regret it,work on your mindset, nurture your daughters and your sisters too same way,Not just a Man, there are so many life out there,there is a problem if you stick their mind to it

tanigororo:
Did you have this conclusion when you are in your 20s too or after 30+
I don't mean to be rude, but I just want to know if you have ever been in any serious and sweet relationship before.

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

tunjijones:
Na wetin catch my attention too.

Are pastors allowed to marry twice in one life?

RevenuesBoost:
I remembered telling my husband that, "any pretty woman that is approaching her 40s with no husband has a bad character that she needs to fix"

He smiled, analyzed it, thought of the people around him that's aged but not married and concluded that it's true.

GiftofGod77:
A very good write up and testimony with good advice for those who want to learn. However it is not like a taking a risk of gambling. It is about waiting upon the Lord no matter what.

tanigororo:
Whoever lied to women that marriage is not an achievement is doing them wrong.

semid4lyfe:
Not all women will get married. Ditto men.

Kobojunkie:
You want a woman to have to settle for a man in order to be married. When this same woman decides later on to abandon the man after locating the man that meets his standard or decides she no longer wishes to settle, you will come back to stab at her for settling in the first place, right?

Kobojunkie:
1. To show you lied, here is what the passages you quoted out of context instead says.

Notice it says absolutely nothing about women or men, but instead speaks of animals and plants. 😏😏
Notice the passage makes no mention of the above applying to every woman and man born on earth?

2. The passage regarding eunuchs and barren women makes absolutely no mention of desires being at play where it concerns the matter at hand, as I already pointed out in my previous response. (Many who desired it, seemingly, more than life itself, ended up dying without ever tasting marriage. ) Since when did life or anything have only to do with fleeting desires anyone has?

Please stop hiding your lies and delusions behind the mention of that book. It is beyond infuriating! 😏😏😏

EXPRESSSMAN:
It is taking a risk. Stop misinterpreting it.

Gracefilled01:
Fake pastor. What sort of pastor comes online to mock a supposed friend? By the way, there's no such thing as a female pastor. It's unscriptural. Let her keep deceiving herself and gullible followers.

GiftofGod77:
Hahaha it's not a risk if the Creator and Architect of marriage helps and chooses a partner for one then it will be very successful. But when we use our instincts and our nuances we will find it difficult to understand the delicate fabric and stands of marriage. So it can be a risk if it is human engineered but not a risk if it is God engineered. Thank you.

EXPRESSSMAN:
For your information, I am a born again Christian. I do know that God blessed man and gave him the things to live with including his words. God can also intervene in the affairs of men.
You and I know that " we use our instincts and our nuances" to live. But now you want to deny that, to claim that you know God more than others. So all the marriages around us that are in shambles are what? Tell me the ones God engineered and the ones He left unegineered. I don't like talking with religious people.

We4all:
Yeah, marriage is an achievement and it feels exhilarating that this so called achievement has sniffed the life out of many women.

headbasher96:
Nothing new here but what caught my fancy was she attended my first wedding and now the second one.
Our sister really the poach men overseas.

We4all:
What is your definition of a bad character since all the runs girls, rude girls and gold diggers that I know are married? However, I know other good girls who are in their 30's and 40's and are unmarried because they have set standards for themselves. Would you advice them to marry any man that comes their way just because of societal pressure or the desperation to become a Mrs?

GiftofGod77:
No sir. I never want to make you or anyone think or perceive me as a religious bigot or local champion. What I am saying is something you can help us crosscheck. Marriage is made by an Architect or a Designer. The problem we have, including myself please because I am only a poor sinner who lives by grace daily, is that we live just like I said by our human instincts or nuances instead of adhering to the rules the Architect has set. Let me give you an example, a person who is not mature spiritually will be very irritable and easily annoyed by the slightest provocation or any error committed by a spouse. You will see such spouses whether men or women resort to insults or even physical abuse or eve cheating outside because what is resident in such people is not the Spirit of God. These are carnal people who think living is not by the grace of God but by their own effort or their own capacity. This is what I am saying sir.

Nukilia:
When religion re-wires your brain and you do not take your time, you'll be stuck for a very long time...

EXPRESSSMAN:
Yes, I now agree with you. But before you made it look like God engineers some marriage and not others.
But now we agree that everything depends on our understanding of God's word and how we apply it.

Nnamdipapa:
Marriage is never an achievement. Its only poor africans who consider marriage an achievement. You can be fulfilled and happy as a single individual. You may also choose to raise kids as a single person and still be fulfilled.