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Gracefilled01:
This is not biblical. The Bible says none shall lack her mate (Isaiah 34:16), and let every woman have her own husband (1 Corinthians 7:2) . So, as long as anyone desires marriage, he/she is meant to have it. Some don't desire it, and that's fine too.

You are quoting scripture but I'm talking reality. The number of marriageable men and women is not balanced. In many societies, women significantly outnumber men. Add to that factors like early deaths of men, wars, imprisonment, migration, wokeness/liberalism, sociocultural barriers etc and you'll realize there's a mismatch in the dating pool.

So even when people may desire to get married, the demography will constitute a hindrance to it, and it'd never happen for some.

Some ladies are not ready to get married. They want to get married o, they are on dating apps but they don't know what they want. It's like a spirit in them pushes them to avoid good things in their life.

RevenuesBoost:
Read my write-up with comprehension.

Most women that married right, set a standard for themselves.
Setting a standard is different from having a bad character.

What you wrote up there was well understood. You said: "ANY PRETTY WOMAN IN HER 30's, or older, of course, who isn't married is because she has a bad character. You didn't make any exceptions and your post suggests that as long as you are in your 30's or older, pretty, but not married, then you must have a bad character. In other words, only women with good characters get married, while the pretty ones with bad character remain single.

So, I asked you a question: "if that were the case, why are runs girls and rude girls getting married, while so many pretty good girls that abound across Nigeria are still single? You cleverly evaded that question and you are now contradicting yourself by saying that most women that married right, set a standard for themselves.

If that is the case, then why ridicule or chastise older single women who are yet unmarried? Don't you think some of them are still single because they want to marry right by setting standards for themselves? Why should you conclude it's because they have bad character, and not because of the standards they have set for themselves?

Let me blunt with you. Not every woman can settle for any man. On a general note, a man may be a woman's super hero, but some women will rather remain single than settle for him. Why? Because they have a 'type', and will never compromise their stand. What you people fail to understand is, getting married is the easiest thing for any woman if she is the type that is ready to stick to any man. Most women who get married every weekends, are not happy because they had to end up with the the most available guy, and not with men their type. Know this and have peace!

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

There's little or no difference between you and the canadian friend.

You need to find love as soon as possible.

Stop cherry picking guys.

You deserve love.

We4all:
Lol... I was trying to be sarcastic though.

I am actually serious. Marriage on the surface can never be regarded as an acheivement. Take for example, someone who marries a deadbeat and loser would be better off single.

On the other hand, if you marry someone who complements you and both have same vision, work towards the same goal, that is only when marriage may be considered an achievement.
Most marriages I see are just two people merely existing and never living life.

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers [/b]you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while [b]openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

It seems you know those "monkey brothers" very well.
Are they the ones that made you backslide?
Jesus loves you, you need to come back to him

We4all:
Let me blunt with you. Not every woman can settle for any man. On a general note, a man may be a woman's super hero, but some women will rather remain single than settle for him. Why? Because they have a 'type', and will never compromise their stand. What you people fail to understand is, getting married is the easiest thing for any woman if she is the type that is ready to stick to any man. Most women who get married every weekends, are not happy because they had to end up with the the most available guy, and not with men their type. Know this and have peace!

The thing about spec is that its all built on fantasy. `What lots of women fail to realise is that they might not be the spec of the men that asked for their hand in marriage.

The difference between men and women is that men live in reality despite their desire/delusion, but women live in their delusion despite reality.

This spec of a thing are not qualities for a long-lasting marriage. Spec mostly satisfies a person's vanity. Spec should never be a basis for choosing a partner.

When women choose men themselves, they usually go for spec and ignore the most important thing. When the challenges of life comes knocking, I hope such spec can be there to wither the storm.

naijapikin2:
✓ There's little or no difference between you and the canadian friend. You need to find love as soon as possible.
Stop cherry picking guys. You deserve love.

If love for you is defined in terms of a vagina/dick then k surely question if you and I are even on the same page as far as the meaning of love. 🥱🥱🥱

Gracefilled01:
Peace to you, dear Kobo. Got no time for your shenanigans.

Stop lying! 🥱🥱

EXPRESSSMAN:
✓ But they tell you in the beginning that " it is for better, and for worse" and you signed in the presence of all and celebrate. So why running when the issue was fully disclosed to you and you agreed to face it. Do you think it was a joke?

Divorce is thousands of years older than your "for better or worse" mantras, which only deluded individuals believe in. Reality is that divorce is as old as marriage, and it is a lawful exit from the marriage contract. 🥱🥱

If you go into marriage not realizing that divorce has always been a right path out of marriage, then I seriously question your maturity and intelligence for marriage.

pansophist:
The thing about spec is that its all built on fantasy. `What lots of women fail to realise is that they might not be the spec of the men that asked for their hand in marriage.

The difference between men and women is that men live in reality despite their desire/delusion, but women live in their delusion despite reality.

This spec of a thing are not qualities for a long-lasting marriage. Spec mostly satisfies a person's vanity. Spec should never be a basis for choosing a partner.

When women choose men themselves, they usually go for spec and ignore the most important thing. When the challenges of life comes knocking, I hope such spec can be there to wither the storm.

What lots of women fail to realise is that they might not be the spec of the men that asked for their hand in marriage.

Exactly! That is because they couldn't get the type of women they desired, and had to compromise on their stand. Some women will never do the same and no one has the right to judge or condemn them.

The difference between men and women is that men live in reality despite their desire/delusion, but women live in their delusion despite reality.

Only broke men live in reality, and this is why the average Nigerian man believes that with your money, you can get any beautiful woman to marry you. Infact, most men ditch the women they dated when the were broke for wild pretty girls as soon as they hit the jack pot. So, what reality are you talking about?

This spec of a thing are not qualities for a long-lasting marriage. Spec mostly satisfies a person's vanity. Spec should never be a basis for choosing a partner.

When women choose men themselves, they usually go for spec and ignore the most important thing. When the challenges of life comes knocking, I hope such spec can be there to wither the storm.

I agree that spec mostly satisfies a person's vanity, but would you rather have a woman settle for 'Mr available' only to cheat on him with her spec? Like some people have rightly said: 'we live once', and since marriage is supposed to be an everlasting thing, there is nothing wrong in wanting a spec for marriage.

As for your last statement, challenges of life will always come knocking in marriages, and not every man (whether spec or not) will be capable of withering the storm. I know women who settled for 'Mr available' and did not have it good in their marriages. So, at the end of the day, nothing is guaranteed!

Who needs an enemy with a friend like her! 🤢

semid4lyfe:
You are quoting scripture but I'm talking reality. The number of marriageable men and women is not balanced. In many societies, women significantly outnumber men. Add to that factors like early deaths of men, wars, imprisonment, migration, wokeness/liberalism, sociocultural barriers etc and you'll realize there's a mismatch in the dating pool.

So even when people may desire to get married, the demography will constitute a hindrance to it, and it'd never happen for some.

Where is the statistics? Post it here, let’s see. Because the last time I checked, world’s male population is 4.14 billion, while female population is 4.09 billion.

Where did you get your own statistics? Women don't outnumber men, it’s the other way round, albeit, by a narrow margin which can’t be considered significant.

Post your statistics, I await it.

Here is mine from a very reliable body, statista. There are lots more but let’s start with this.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/1328107/global-population-gender/

Kobojunkie:
Your friend is probably lucky she did not engage any of those men you introduced to her. Those Passport-brothers you introduced to her would have likely sealed her death or regret in marriage.

A woman should remain single rather than running around filled with regret in marriage. Africans still have yet to normalize divorce, so it is difficult for many to get out once they are trapped in such situations.

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On another note, something tells me that this woman telling this story is herself a single-married woman, seeing as she is all wrapped up in tales of Boaz and all that religious nonsense— religious delusions —, while openly demeaning her friend for having standards.

women are not made for men, women are not an object, a toy or property.

I applaud her for sticking with her principles

Kobojunkie:
If love for you is defined in terms of a vagina/dick then k surely question if you and I are even on the same page as far as the meaning of love. 🥱🥱🥱

Definitely not... I mean not fundamental... But you can't exclude it.. se.x is not fundamental... But it's necessary.

Gracefilled01:
Where is the statistics? Post it here, let’s see. Because the last time I checked, world’s male population is 4.14 billion, while female population is 4.09 billion.

Where did you get your own statistics? Women don't outnumber men, it’s the other way round, albeit, by a narrow margin which can’t be considered significant.

Post your statistics, I await it.

Here is mine from a very reliable body, statista. There are lots more but let’s start with this.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/1328107/global-population-gender/

Ma'am, I am not contesting population statistics with you. Neither do I do gender battles. My opinion is majorly hinged on realism and truism of life.

Again. not everyone who wants marriage will eventually get married, and these are some reasons.

◾Imbalance in gender ratio in some societies
◾Timing and opportunity.
◾Personal standards and compatibility issues.
◾Health and sicknesses.
◾Financial struggles.
◾Uncontrollable life circumstances (War, death, etc.)

Your belief that everyone (men & women) who desires marriage will get married is only obtainable in an utopian world where everything aligns perfectly. Reality says otherwise.

Top of the morning to you.

Kobojunkie:
Divorce is thousands of years older than your "for better or worse" mantras, which only deluded individuals believe in. Reality is that divorce is as old as marriage, and it is a lawful exit from the marriage contract. 🥱🥱

If you go into marriage not realizing that divorce has always been a right path out of marriage, then I seriously question your maturity and intelligence for marriage.

You talking of divorce is making it mild. Maybe it is the one that suits you. Don't forget that you can exit marriage with murder, sickness, disease, disability or death . These are what made it " for better or for worse" It is not for the faithless. So that mantra is still real.

semid4lyfe:
Ma'am, I am not contesting population statistics with you. Neither do I do gender battles. My opinion is majorly hinged on realism and truism of life.

Again. not everyone who wants marriage will eventually get married, and these are some reasons.

◾Imbalance in gender ratio in some societies
◾Timing and opportunity.
◾Personal standards and compatibility issues.
◾Health and sicknesses.
◾Financial struggles.
◾Uncontrollable life circumstances (War, death, etc.)

Your belief that everyone (men & women) who desires marriage will get married will only happen in an utopian world where everything aligns perfectly. Reality says otherwise.

Top of the morning to you.

Sorry, I believe otherwise. I respect your own belief too. Cheers.

EXPRESSSMAN:
You talking of divorce is making it mild. Maybe it is the one that suits you. Don't forget that you can exit marriage with murder, sickness, disease, disability or death . These are what made it " for better or for worse" It is not for the faithless. So that mantra is still real.

You are literally choosing not to make sense, why?

tanigororo:
Did you have this conclusion when you are in your 20s too or after 30+
I don't mean to be rude, but I just want to know if you have ever been in any serious and sweet relationship before.

Yes I understand and I want you to get it, A man have never been my problem,I prefer puxxy to dicks,I got girlfriends not boyfriends