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Shebi she is used to"Nigerian Time", she now went there with the same mind set

Well, this never happened, she is just farming engagement for Elon Musk and Zukerberg's money

Smitaro100:
I know say e must b black, black and lateness to event na 5 and 6...

E get why dem dey call am African time

Nonsense just full this time and age. Instead make she show remorse, she dey defend and provide excuses.

Ladies With Bad Parental Upbringing Will Feel its Their Right,

almarthins:

E get why dem dey call am African time

Nonsense just full this time and age. Instead make she show remorse, she dey defend and provide excuses.

U dey mind am..

MissPride:
Some women like defending nonsense.
What does Victoria mean by lateness is normal for women? Like, how?

Very pathetic.... It's because guys had tolerated her excesses for so long that it now becomes a norm to misbehave.

grandstar:
Since this was her 7th date, I'm certain this wasn't the first time she was late. He was simply teaching her a lesson.

I'm an estate agent and many agents and clients are fond of showing up late for inspections in Nigeria.

It's very infuriating.

Whether 100tg meet or first meet lateness is a no no

TONYE001:
Punctuality is one of the major ways to demonstrate respect (for self and those you deal with) and dedication. I too cannot put up with being late.

Of course, we are humans, and are imperfect. If there is a genuine reason to be late, it should be communicated on time. In my entire work history, it's hard to believe, but I tell you here that I don't ever recall being late. I've worked in an international organization, taught in several secondary schools, and now working as a medical doctor. Across all these platforms, lateness was nowhere close to me. I recall the time I was in an international organization, I almost always sign after the cleaners. In the hospital I currently work in, I've never ever come to work late, not even by a second. I'm able to achieve all these effortlessly, I just have to wake up early and hit the road early. And we have four kids we prepare for school and all that.

While I worked in a teaching hospital in SE Nigeria, whenever it was time to take over a call duty from a colleague, I often showed up 20 to 30 minutes early (around 7:30am, for a call that would typically start by 8am). I like to acclimatize (I usually chill in the call room and plan my day). Also, showing up early is very relieving for those that may likely have gone through hell throughout the night. It will interest you to know that there are colleagues that would show up 10 to 20 minutes late, or more!

My point is, over here, a lot of us have issues with being punctual. We call it "African man time". I disagree with this term, there is nothing African about being late.

Now, back to the story. I cannot judge whether or not it was extreme to call off the date, we don't even know how late the lady was. I'm also not familiar with the German culture. So, it would be hard to make an objective comment here.

But if I had a date/any appointment and the person comes in late (without a good reason), I'll feel bad, and may make some conclusions about the person. I'm not sure I would have cancelled the date sha, not before calling this person to find out what's up. I mean, the person may be in a situation beyond his/her control...like a medical emergency, a traffic situation, etc.

In conclusion, I'd like to use this opportunity to urge us all to try to be punctual in all of our dealings. Time is one resource that once spent, it cannot be gotten back. Don't waste people's time, please. Be more responsible, show up at the time you agreed to be there. Being late is actually very irritating.

I resonate with you.. over here Nigerians terms being punctual means desperate..
So for dating .. date takes there time to show up late ...

But for interview i doubt, if they would show up late...

But for Work environment... Most esp public service... They don't have respect for time.. and punctuality..

So Yes there's what we call Nigeria time like.. Emi lo kan

MissPride:
Some women like defending nonsense.
What does Victoria mean by lateness is normal for women? Like, how?

She is one of those that never learn...

SHE CARRIED AFRICAN time go meet EYINBO.. Time is TIME, waits for NO ONE, ITS MONEY

MissPride:
Some women like defending nonsense.
What does Victoria mean by lateness is normal for women? Like, how?

Women like Victoria are the reason many ladies and single or having serious relationship issues

grandstar:
Since this was her 7th date, I'm certain this wasn't the first time she was late. He was simply teaching her a lesson.

I'm an estate agent and many agents and clients are fond of showing up late for inspections in Nigeria.

It's very infuriating.

Client can come late o na u go get patient

Mumu girl, you think say na Nigeria you dey. White people don't play with their time. Nothing like African time there

Count yourself lucky jare.

Otherwise that relationship go be like employer-employee relationship...

I would have done the same and I have done same. Lateness triggers me. I have a friend that is always late and I stopped going anywhere with her. I cannot come to pick you up and you keep me waiting for 30mins. If you don't respect my time, you don't respect me. Even artisans, if I notice you don't keep to appointments, I will stop working with you.

You carry the Africa mentality to Germany. You think men will always wait for ladies.

Things and time has changed.

If you work with Germans remotely, it would change the way you do things differently.

PerfectStranger:
Na only Nigerian men una dey use do anyhow. Other men from saner climes don't tolerate half of what we take down here.

Na we go pay, na we go still book uber, we go still call to check up, as how na??

Nigerian men can tolerate nonsense bcoz of kpekus na.

This is why most naija women cannot thrive and remain single abroad. Their entitlement mentality & stingyness will make them single. They don't understand the culture shift & want to remain lazy & demanding in relationships abroad. Nobody has that time. 1st date to get to know you is usually coffee date ut naija girls want restaurant where you go spend £80 pounds like say na naija. Una gonlas last import that your naija guy

I love Germany

I love Germany

I love Germany

Ich liebe Deutschland

The greatest assets in life is time. The time spent can never be recovered. You may lost your car, house or money, but with more hard work, you can recover them all by getting new ones. Some of us are 70 or 60 or 40 years old now. We are praying that how I wish I would have been 25 or 30 years old now. The things your were doing at 25 or 30 years then, you can't do them now that you are 50 or more years. We should be cautious of time. The time wasted can never be recovered! Indeed, procrastination is the thief of time" which is an adage, aptly popularized by Edward Young.

She should be ashamed to post this. She was only four minutes away from the venue .... Giving the impression that she was just four minutes late. Did he know that? One can get to the venue ..a restaurant...but has to wait some time before being allowed to enter.

yinkus6750:
What else was she expecting ?
If you arriving late for an appointment,due to unforeseen circumstances,courtesy demand you communicate and apologize ahead of expected time.
Been punctual means you value and take the appointment serious, hence you must be ahead of the appointed time.
Let's value time and use it wisely.

..too much of robbing makeup on her face made her to be late

This one thinks the kind of private part she has comes with the privilege to get away with being disrespectful and the freedom to come late to a meet-up

Too much of robbing make up on her face , making her hair ,robbing lipstick, robbing cream, pedicure , robbing roll on, robbing eyelashes, spraying perfume made her to be late

Smitaro100:
I know say e must b black, black and lateness to event na 5 and 6...

In her defense , her forefathers only calculated time in full moons and didn't start to use the watch in the 16th century. Still learning

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pocohantas:
I would have done the same and I have done same. Lateness triggers me. I have a friend that is always late and I stopped going anywhere with her. I cannot come to pick you up and you keep me waiting for 30mins. If you don't respect my time, you don't respect me. Even artisans, if I notice you don't keep to appointments, I will stop working with you.

Glad to read I‘m not the only one.
I tell friends who are never on time that we are meeting at 6:30 when I want them to come at 7 and just go around 7. They think they are late but I planned it like this.