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Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

Don't make the mistake of not knowing God intimately before marriage.

If you do, your woman will frustrate you without having who will console you.... You need God for wisdom, guidance, manhood framing and periodic consolations

Don't marry who you love

Marry a woman who loves you


One literally has to come before the other

Next thing you'll be cheating on her with someone you love and when she poisons you for double crossing her, you'll be saying women are wicked.

A woman can love you, but still end you after enduring so many betrayals from you, she will turn all the love she had for you into hate and trust me when I say she'll become your worst nightmare.

Sirmwill:
Don't marry who you love

Marry a woman who loves you


One literally has to come before the other

It begins with kneeling to "propose!" Anything you can't continue, DO NOT start. Be firm ab initio, but have empathy.

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

Don't only settle for a partner that you love, prioritize values: ensure that your partner's values align with yours. Look out for complement. Ensure that your partner's strengths and Weaknesses aligns with yours.

Don't be deceived by "marry first God will provide later"
Get fucken rich before marrying anyone ooooo


E no funny o

Learn to keep "What happens in Venice to remain in Venice"no room for third-party.

Don't marry a liability...no matter how rich u are.

End.

Sirmwill:
Don't marry who you love
Marry a woman who loves you
One literally has to come before the other

Please underline this advice.
It has the entire truth about marriage especially if you have plans of spending years abroad.
Marry the woman that loves & cherishes you more.

In addition, don't marry an empty lady.
Make sure she has something to offer.
As a Nigerian you must be steps ahead of your sendless leaders.

Know that women are like babies.

Sirmwill:
Don't marry who you love

Marry a woman who loves you


One literally has to come before the other

This is rubbish!

Men must avoid this senseless advice. Bible says men should love their wives as Christ loves the church and women should submit to their husbands, not the other way round!

I only pity low self esteemed girls who would go and marry a man who is barely "managing" them! You and your children go suffer! The way marriage is done in this part of the world requires that a lady leaves her family and go into the man's family. The man must be madly in love with you as a lady in order to protect your interests and help you find your feet in your new family, otherwise you'll be turned into a slave before you know it.

Those who have ears should hear me!

_DO NOT MARRY BECAUSE ALL YOUR MATE ARE MARRIED
_DO NOT MARRY A LIABILITY WOMAN
_YOU MUST BE FINANCIALLY VIABLE
_DON'T MARRY OUT OF PITY
_DON'T SELL ANY OF YOUR PROPERTY BECAUSE OF MARRIAGE
_DON'T MARRY A GIRL OUT OF LUST
_TO CROWN IT ALL; YOU MUST BE EMOTIONALLY AND SPIRITUALLY STABLE.

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

Never avoid any. Make all the mistakes you can and learn from them. That way you become solid

Before you marry her, please go and do fertility test on her, don't learn the hard way.

Don't marry to enslave or to be enslaved.

Don't just look for virgin for a wife. Get a woman with good character, manners and respect for a wife. Because virginity ends in one night but good character, manners and respect is needed forever.

Love is not an enough.
Don’t marry someone who has nothing doing

Samantha125:
Next thing you'll be cheating on her with someone you love and when she poisons you for double crossing her, you'll be saying women are wicked.

A woman can love you, but still end you after enduring so many betrayals from you, she will turn all the love she had for you into hate and trust me when I say she'll become your worst nightmare.

Is it what you intend to do with your husband? Why do you all have this thought process? Meanwhile it's the man that's is the evil one according to you m

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

If you are a man, and you don't want to be unfortunate in life, and you want to marry, you must adhere to the following criteria. (1) She must be pure..., if you like marry olosho, you go know how far, (2) She must be pious because, If she does not fear GOD, ma guy, you will fear satan, (3) She must have a purpose if not she will turn you to anywhere-belle-face aimless bot, (4) She must be submissive, because if she is not submitting to you, she is submitting to someone else, and you don't want to be taking care of the woman that is blowing another man religiously and finally (5) She must be loyal or else she will be your enemy number 1.

My husband loves me...💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

But I wouldn't mind doing that to someone who plays me for a blockhead.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Is it what you intend to do with your husband? Why do you all have this thought process? Meanwhile it's the man that's is the evil one according to you m

Samantha125:
when she poisons you for double crossing her, you'll be saying women are wicked.

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You have the rights to express your views on issues. I just think i need to start running away from any thread you're on

Your takes on how to handle marital issues are always scary. Its even more worrying when one considers the fact that most women reason alike in matters like this


God abeg o

What's the use of expressing my views when he'll only accuse me of nagging and promises me smoke and mirrors?

Don't worry, I'm the nicest person ever, I just don't like it when people double cross me or take my kindness for naivety, even if they do double cross me, they better make sure I never find out... Because I'll go behind their backs and deal with them indirectly.

EvilMerodack:
You have the rights to express your views on issues. I just think i need to start running away from any thread you're on

Your takes on how to handle marital issues are always scary. Its even more worrying when one considers the fact that most women reason alike in matters like this


God abeg o

Samantha125:
What's the use of expressing my views when he'll only accuse me of nagging and promises me smoke and mirrors?

Don't worry, I'm the nicest person ever, I just don't like it when people double cross me or take my kindness for naivety, even if they do double cross me, they better make sure I never find out... Because I'll go behind their backs and deal with them indirectly.

And you dont have any other ways to deal with them than to poison them or destroy them completely?

This is the second time this month I'm seeing you say almost the same thing and in the first instance, you talked about destroying them and still coming around to show care

Thats not niceness

Don't worry, I'm just joking... ... I'm the sweetest person alive and I can't even harm a fly...

EvilMerodack:
And you dont have any other ways to deal with them than to poison them or destroy them completely?

This is the second time this month I'm seeing you say almost the same thing and in the first instance, you talked about destroying them and still coming around to show care

Thats not niceness

Never ignore red flags no matter how little it could be.

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

Why ? I'll give you some. Those who ''fight'' with my opinions here will say ''He has come again''.

1. DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING WOMEN ARE THE ANGELS AND SWEET LITTLE PRINCESSES WHO CANNOT KILL A FLY. THE WOMAN YOU WILL GET MARRIED TO WILL CHANGE SOME OR A LOT OF HER TRUE SELF TO FIT INTO YOUR TASTE AND PROJECTED EXPECTATIONS YOU HAVE OF HER. SHE WILL READ YOU AND CREATE THE BEST VERSION OF HERSELF THAT YOU LIKE AND WANT. BECAUSE (FOR NOW) SHE DESIRES MARRIAGE WITH YOU AND CAN PROUDLY SHOW OFF TO THE SOCIETY THAT SHE HAS ACHIEVED THE “MILESTONE”. (Her mum will be happy, family will be happy, she will be praised. She has a man to protect,provide and support her, Her friends will be envious, etc etc). SHE WILL CREATE A WELL CURATED VERSION OF HERSELF ESPECIALLY IF SHE REALIZES THAT YOU ARE A PRIZE AND SHE IS MARRYING UP. AND ESPECIALLY, IF YOU DID NOT OBSERVE HER OR GATGER INFORMATION ABOUT HER TRUE CHARACTER FROM AFAR AND LONG ENOUGH, YOU WONT KNOW HER TRUE SELF. THEREFORE TEST TO SEE IF THERE IS HUGE GAP BETWEEN WHO SHE TRULLY IS AND THE VERSION OF HERSELF THAT SHE HAS CREATED FOR YOU AND THAT SHE SHOWS YOU. IF THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT SHE TRULLY IS AND WHAT SHE SHOWS YOU IS MUCH, THEN BE CAREFUL.

2. MARRIAGE IS FIRSTLY FOR DUTY AND EXPECTATIONS. MARRIAGE IS NOT PRIMARILY A MEANS FOR AUTOPILOT HAPPINESS AND “LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER” NONSENSE. THOSE WHO INSTITUTED IT KNOW THIS. MARRIAGE IS FIRST A DUTY. A ROLE WITH TASKS AND RESPONSIBILITIES. YOU DO THEM WHETHER HAPPY OR SAD. YOU ARE THEREFORE TO CONSCIOUSLY MAKE ATTEMPTS TO WEAVE IN AND INCORPORATE THE SPICE, HAPPINESS, CONNECTION, JOY, LAUGHTER AND TO SUSTAIN YOUR MASCULINITY, RESPECT AND LEADERSHIP. YOU SEE THE SEX, IT WILL WANE. YOU SEE THE DESIRE, IT WILL DROP. YOU SEE THE PRESSURES, THEY WILL COME. FAMILY, RELATIVES, YOUR FREEDOM, THE SOCIETY, ETC. THE WOMAN YOU LOVE SO MUCH SOME DAYS YOU WILL FIGHT AND QUARREL AND ARGUE AND SOME DAYS YOU WILL JUST SAY “TO HELL WITH YOU” FOR A FEW MINUTES, HOURS OR DAYS. USUALLY WHEN THE DUTY IS OVER, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE KIDS ARE ALL BIG ENOUGH TO NOT NEED MUCH ATTENTION, THE DISSATISFACTION BECOMES MORE AND MORE, ADDING FUEL TO THE MIDLIFE CRISES.

3. WOMEN DO NOT REMAIN THE SAME. BECAUSE MANY MEN FOOLISHLY THINK I MET HER THIS WAY AND SO SHE SHOULD BE THIS WAY.A ONCE NICE CHASTE WOMAN CAN BECOME A TERROR AFTER 5 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. SO KNOW HER VALUES AND THE MOTIVATION FOR MARRIAGE.

4. DO YOUR DUTIES, KEEP YOUR BOUNDARIES OF LEADERSHIP, RESPECT AND LOYALTY. LOVE HER, BUT CHASE YOUR GOALS AND DO NOT SEEK HER VALIDATION. CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS. THERE ARE THINGS YOU CANNOT TOTALLY CONTROL. BUT YOU SEE DISRESPECT, DISLOYALTY AND SO ON. DO NOT LET THOSE SLIDE.

5. FINALLY, YOU CANNOT STOP A PERSON WHO WANTS TO CHEAT. THEY WILL ALWAYS FIND A REASON TO. EVERYBODY HAS THE MOUTH TO SAY '' Hi honey, I think ill cheat o, because you make me feel this way'' or ''You don't make feel this way, so I want a separation (divorce/breakup) so can I sleep with A or B''. BUT THEY HARDLY EVER DO. WHY DO THEY NOT BREAKUP OR DIVORCE OR SEPARATE BEFORE CHEATING WHEN THEY CAN? BECAUSE THEY WANT TO CHEAT. That is why it is called “CHEATING”. THE BIOLOGY OF HUMANS ALLOWS AND SUPPORTS MULTIPLE SEXUAL PARTNERS. IF HER SELF CONTROL IS WEAK,DONT EXPECT FAITHFULNESS.

KNOW THESE AND KNOW PEACE.

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

Getting married

Jman06:
This is rubbish!

Men must avoid this senseless advice. Bible says men should love their wives as Christ loves the church and women should submit to their husbands, not the other way round!

I only pity low self esteemed girls who would go and marry a man who is barely "managing" them! You and your children go suffer! The way marriage is done in this part of the world requires that a lady leaves her family and go into the man's family. The man must be madly in love with you as a lady in order to protect your interests and help you find your feet in your new family, otherwise you'll be turned into a slave before you know it.

Those who have ears should hear me!

this one na woman in a man's body lol 😂

10thTenthMan:
Why ? I'll give you some. Those who ''fight'' with my opinions here will say ''He has come again''.

1. DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING WOMEN ARE THE ANGELS AND SWEET LITTLE PRINCESSES WHO CANNOT KILL A FLY. THE WOMAN YOU WILL GET MARRIED TO WILL CHANGE SOME OR A LOT OF HER TRUE SELF TO FIT INTO YOUR TASTE AND PROJECTED EXPECTATIONS YOU HAVE OF HER. SHE WILL READ YOU AND CREATE THE BEST VERSION OF HERSELF THAT YOU LIKE AND WANT. BECAUSE (FOR NOW) SHE DESIRES MARRIAGE WITH YOU AND CAN PROUDLY SHOW OFF TO THE SOCIETY THAT SHE HAS ACHIEVED THE “MILESTONE”. (Her mum will be happy, family will be happy, she will be praised. She has a man to protect,provide and support her, Her friends will be envious, etc etc). SHE WILL CREATE A WELL CURATED VERSION OF HERSELF ESPECIALLY IF SHE REALIZES THAT YOU ARE A PRIZE AND SHE IS MARRYING UP. AND ESPECIALLY, IF YOU DID NOT OBSERVE HER OR GATGER INFORMATION ABOUT HER TRUE CHARACTER FROM AFAR AND LONG ENOUGH, YOU WONT KNOW HER TRUE SELF. THEREFORE TEST TO SEE IF THERE IS HUGE GAP BETWEEN WHO SHE TRULLY IS AND THE VERSION OF HERSELF THAT SHE HAS CREATED FOR YOU AND THAT SHE SHOWS YOU. IF THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT SHE TRULLY IS AND WHAT SHE SHOWS YOU IS MUCH, THEN BE CAREFUL.

2. MARRIAGE IS FIRSTLY FOR DUTY AND EXPECTATIONS. MARRIAGE IS NOT PRIMARILY A MEANS FOR AUTOPILOT HAPPINESS AND “LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER” NONSENSE. THOSE WHO INSTITUTED IT KNOW THIS. MARRIAGE IS FIRST A DUTY. A ROLE WITH TASKS AND RESPONSIBILITIES. YOU DO THEM WHETHER HAPPY OR SAD. YOU ARE THEREFORE TO CONSCIOUSLY MAKE ATTEMPTS TO WEAVE IN AND INCORPORATE THE SPICE, HAPPINESS, CONNECTION, JOY, LAUGHTER AND TO SUSTAIN YOUR MASCULINITY, RESPECT AND LEADERSHIP. YOU SEE THE SEX, IT WILL WANE. YOU SEE THE DESIRE, IT WILL DROP. YOU SEE THE PRESSURES, THEY WILL COME. FAMILY, RELATIVES, YOUR FREEDOM, THE SOCIETY, ETC. THE WOMAN YOU LOVE SO MUCH SOME DAYS YOU WILL FIGHT AND QUARREL AND ARGUE AND SOME DAYS YOU WILL JUST SAY “TO HELL WITH YOU” FOR A FEW MINUTES, HOURS OR DAYS. USUALLY WHEN THE DUTY IS OVER, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE KIDS ARE ALL BIG ENOUGH TO NOT NEED MUCH ATTENTION, THE DISSATISFACTION BECOMES MORE AND MORE, ADDING FUEL TO THE MIDLIFE CRISES.

3. WOMEN DO NOT REMAIN THE SAME. BECAUSE MANY MEN FOOLISHLY THINK I MET HER THIS WAY AND SO SHE SHOULD BE THIS WAY.A ONCE NICE CHASTE WOMAN CAN BECOME A TERROR AFTER 5 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. SO KNOW HER VALUES AND THE MOTIVATION FOR MARRIAGE.

4. DO YOUR DUTIES, KEEP YOUR BOUNDARIES OF LEADERSHIP, RESPECT AND LOYALTY. LOVE HER, BUT CHASE YOUR GOALS AND DO NOT SEEK HER VALIDATION. CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS. THERE ARE THINGS YOU CANNOT TOTALLY CONTROL. BUT YOU SEE DISRESPECT, DISLOYALTY AND SO ON. DO NOT LET THOSE SLIDE.

5. FINALLY, YOU CANNOT STOP A PERSON WHO WANTS TO CHEAT. THEY WILL ALWAYS FIND A REASON TO. EVERYBODY HAS THE MOUTH TO SAY '' Hi honey, I think ill cheat o, because you make me feel this way'' or ''You don't make feel this way, so I want a separation (divorce/breakup) so can I sleep with A or B''. BUT THEY HARDLY EVER DO. WHY DO THEY NOT BREAKUP OR DIVORCE OR SEPARATE BEFORE CHEATING WHEN THEY CAN? BECAUSE THEY WANT TO CHEAT. That is why it is called “CHEATING”. THE BIOLOGY OF HUMANS ALLOWS AND SUPPORTS MULTIPLE SEXUAL PARTNERS. IF HER SELF CONTROL IS WEAK,DONT EXPECT FAITHFULNESS.

KNOW THESE AND KNOW PEACE.

you are blessed bruh.
Marriage experience didn't teach you this and I know that for sure. You are just a man who has experienced life and also watch nature unfold their characters through humans.
Not all elders can spit This facts

Sirchiboy:
Tell me one mistake I should not Make or avoid before getting married

⚉If you have yet to sufficiently lift yourself out of poverty to where you are no longer living from paycheck to paycheck, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
⚉If you have yet to deal with every one of the emotional traumas from at least your childhood, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
⚉If you have yet to sufficiently learn who you are— you lack self-awareness and self-love—, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
⚉If you have not found your type in a partner, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
⚉If your type is currently jobless, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
⚉ If you are not ready for the full-time job and responsibilities of being in a committed relationship, DO NOT consider getting married or having kids.
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