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A Nigerian lady has dropped some deep advice for young women, and honestly, it’s worth paying attention to.
She stressed that the true test of a man’s character is not how sweet he is when things are calm, but how he speaks to you when he is angry.

According to her, any man who truly respects his partner will not insult her, even in the heat of an argument. Respect is not shown when everything is rosy, but when emotions are high.
She warned that many women excuse bad behaviour under the guise of “love” or “tolerance,” forgetting that patience and restraint are the real marks of a responsible man.
Her words were very clear: insults during disagreements might look small at first, but they can grow into something worse, leaving lasting scars. A man who can still choose respectful words when provoked shows maturity and values the relationship more than “winning” the argument.
She also pointed out that some men don’t even need to be angry before they start using derogatory words—and that’s a huge red flag 🚩.

Women who ignore this risk long-term emotional harm, because such behaviour can extend to families, leaving them vulnerable and disrespected.
Her strong advice: “Run afar” from men who normalise insults. It’s not just about mood swings—it’s a consistent lack of respect. Tolerating such behaviour in dating usually leads to regrets in marriage.
At the end of the day, her message is simple: ladies, don’t compromise your self-respect in the name of love. Recognise red flags early before it’s too late.

Na two way thing


Women are likely to abuse you first when there is an argument

Starz825:
Na two way thing


Women are likely to abuse you first when there is an argument

Ajeh, women are likely to insult you First. God gave them sharp tongue

Some women still sound childish, man if you re not ready for this childish act, don't enter marriage

So, a woman who insult a man, what should happen to the Man? Stay and be looking at you?

Dear men, never tolerate any form of insult or disrespect from your GF or wife in a marriage or relationship, the moment you allow this then it'll never stop for as long as that relationship or marriage still exist

Goo0dHardDick:
So, a woman who insult a man, what should happen to the Man? Stay and be looking at you?

Dear men, never tolerate any form of insult or disrespect from your GF or wife in a marriage or relationship, the moment you allow this then it'll never stop for as long as that relationship or marriage still exist

Abi ooo
Na women dey even insult pass they see it as normal thing

Yes

And men who don’t last long in bed between 1 hour and 2 hours

With una sharp mouth?

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha,all did people are comedians,so who says nice words when angry? I keep on saying it that most youths of this era are living in a fantasy world,a world where they think everything is good and cool.

People are different. Some people will speak their minds when angry and the next minute they apologize and are back to their sweet self. Some other people won’t say a word to you for weeks and sometimes the relationship breaks down from it.

I don’t think one trait in a person is a good judge of whether to run or stay. Analyze your partner, weigh the pros and the cons and decide which outweighs the other.

Being mouthy is not a good predictor of future domestic violence. In my opinion, quiet folks are more likely to express themselves physically than the ones who use their mouths. Of course, walk away if you can’t take the insult. Prioritize your mental health.

Women that would accept nonsense from men, including this anti giving advice. As long as the man is showering her with money and gifts and indulging her in an extravagant lifestyle.

Bikonu forget dat side.

eazzzy1:
People are different. Some people will speak their minds when angry and the next minute they apologize and are back to their sweet self. Some other people won’t say a word to you for weeks and sometimes the relationship breaks down from it.

I don’t think one trait in a person is a good judge of whether to run or stay. Analyze your partner, weigh the pros and the cons and decide which outweighs the other.

Being mouthy is not a good predictor of future domestic violence. In my opinion, quiet folks are more likely to express themselves physically than the ones who use their mouths. Of course, walk away if you can’t take the insult. Prioritize your mental health.

Believe this Bro. You can speak your mind without actually insulting the other person. These are two different things. As for the women, they hardly forget heavy-duty words used against them in an intense moment. She will keep reminding you: " You remember that was how you called me shepopotamus the other day." But she won't remind you that she tagged you stupid goat first.
If you are reading this, be free to speak your mind, but ensure you don't insult the other person.

That means they will run tire.
Most men abuse and insult women

COMRADES, I agree with the lady, guys too should stay away from exploiting girls

Only a madman would insult a lady (or anyone) without justification. If a lady provokes a man (as most of them often do) and is insulted in return , then she deserves it.

Every woman becomes relationship adviser after she don see wotoporious.

Girls don't like taking correction from men

From young age, they're like that

The girl that is nice will yimu and keep quiet

Normal girl will do same thing again and will be looking at you to do your worst

Bad girl will change am for you right there.... She will retort and hurl insults at you

Anything you want to do, don't advice/correct a woman you are in relationship with. Depending on how you think she will turn out, just dey manage am

Time shall comes that marriage must becomes a contract business not building a house

Truth is when furious one's reaction can be unpredictable which is why the holy Bible advocates do not sin when angry.

Most of what we call love in this part of the world is transactional. Once money is involved even insults would be like a blessing to a woman.

She should say the same to women!
It has been proven that more women are far more emotionally abusive than men which has most times resulted in domestic violence!
The advise should go both ways!

But women fit insult their men?

Huh hgu jgi ujgy igkh

I don't understand.
So a woman can run her mouth but the man is just supposed to take it? Mba! Mouth wey price must pay.

Dbeautyy:
If you are reading this, be free to speak your mind, but ensure you don't insult the other person.

But what if what is in my mind already is insult? I'm free to speak it abi?

Okay! Agbemoja Kan osi, having miss understanding is normal, but turning violence is very risk, and U ladies pilot Ur speech?? Forget equal rights, and stop watching zee world, isn't real , fiction

Starz825:
Na two way thing


Women are likely to abuse you first when there is an argument

..abi..does the lady also say good words to him when she is angry ?

That’s a deal breaker for me. An effeminate man who swears at me because he is angry will dry up my garden and harden my heart.

I don’t insult anyone I claim to love and care about so I will not tolerate such behaviour. An adult should be able to express themselves without insulting and demeaning others.

If I fvck up then tell me what I did and how it made you feel, set up your boundaries and let me try to adapt if it’s an alien concept to me. Cussing me out doesn’t accomplish anything but resentment.

And who told you he will continue to speak good words to you after marriage

All these genz don't understand the complexity of a man

Marriage environment is a see finish environment, don't compare it to bf/gf relationship

Dbeautyy:
If you are reading this, be free to speak your mind, but ensure you don't insult the other person.

Usually, when I’m angry I stay quiet. I address the issue when I’m less angry or I deem it not worthy of addressing and just move on with my life.

I do not believe that people can speak when angry and not come off as insulting. Even normal words you play with will look like an insult when angry. Picture yourself playfully saying ode, mumu, bighead, I hate you, to a girl. Now picture yourself angrily saying the same thing.

A lot of women do not like the silent treatment and would encourage you to get it out until they meet someone who likes to get it out.

These ladies should be asked how their father behaved when in anger to her mum?

Some are from dysfunctional homes!

May we never jam àgbákò iyawo (an unfortunate wife).