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A lot of married are fed up with being controlled, being dehumanized and being underrated by their wives and their wives' familes but can't give up because of what people will say. A quick stop at beer parlours will confirm this. It is now too bad that some men dread going back to their homes after daily hustle that you see them hanging in junctions pretending to be waiting for someone. If you're a married man, put yourself and your emotions first before putting others. Stop seeing yourself as superman and take care of yourself like you take care of others. You have one life just like everyone else and if you die, another man will replace you in no time. I saw a full grown man crying inside his parked car and telling someone over the phone that his wife has finished him and immediately he saw me, he started covering up. With the way he reacted, I knew nobody died and it was definitely family pressures. Men please take care of yourselves and let out your emotions sometimes. If it's not working, find a way to leave the marriage. They no bury your placenta with hers.

If you don’t mind me asking; are you married?
Aaaaah!

Women are also fed up, it's a problem of both genders.
That's because marriage is unnatural. It's against human nature.
Humans need variety and excitement to be happy and marriage to one person is opposite of that.

A lot of men are dying in ignorance due to low self esteem. They believe a woman and her family will respect and honour them if they shoulder their responsibilities.

Some of them purposely marry a liability lady from a liability family because of low self esteem

Nonexisting1:
you see them hanging in junctions pretending to be waiting for someone.

saw a full grown man crying inside his parked car and telling someone over the phone that his wife has finished him and immediately he saw me, he started covering up..

😂😁

Towma:
Women are also fed up, it's a problem of both genders.
That's because marriage is unnatural. It's against human nature.
Humans need variety and excitement to be happy and marriage to one person is opposite of that.

If you are a Christian...

And believe in the creation story in the Bible and how God made eve for Adam then this comment will be weird!

brain54:
If you are a Christian...

And believe in the creation story in the Bible and how God made eve for Adam then this comment will be weird!

Walahi that comment is shaking the table of Genesis

For your peace of mind have baby mamas birth your children for you. Marriage is a scam and drains life out of men. The last enduring marriages happened in the 1980s. The institution of marriage today is a joke.

Towma:
Women are also fed up, it's a problem of both genders.
That's because marriage is unnatural. It's against human nature.
Humans need variety and excitement to be happy and marriage to one person is opposite of that.

Sophistry, saying clever things that are untrue.

I am not fed up.

Only fools who don't know when to call it quit dies in marriage.

Always check the age demographic of people saying marriage is scam ... you will hardly find someone above 45 among them.

- Marriage is like that land they told you to buy when you were 25 but believed it too bushy only for you to rent a house for millions of naira in the same area 20 years after.

- Just hope you become very wealthy by the time you turn 45, because its either you sleep with ashawo or people's wife because at that age it will be very very hard for you to get 25 years old girl who is willing to marry a 45year old man except you have decent money. And don't forget you've already gotten to that age where you just want to stay in door on the weekends coz you don't want to be the oldest man in the club .

koladata:
Always check the age demographic of people saying marriage is scam ... you will hardly find someone above 45 among them.

- Marriage is like that land they told you to buy when you were 25 but believed it too bushy only for you to rent a house for millions of naira in the same area 20 years after.

- Just hope you become very wealthy by the time you turn 45, because its either you sleep with ashawo or people's wife because at that age it will be very very hard for you to get 25 years old girl who is willing to marry a 45year old man except you have decent money. And don't forget you've already gotten to that age where you just want to stay in door on the weekends coz you don't want to be the oldest man in the club .

Here is wisdom.

This is serious, a friend just left home, i mean he left him wife with 3kids, even we friends he never tell us what is wrong. And one thing alot of people don't know is marriage is not by Force

Them the follow wetin society say. Na them go suffer na. Allow society to pressure you go marry or stay in marriage that is pressuring you. The suffer and pain go reach everybody.

It's so unfortunate that threads like this with insightful facts don't make front page, I wonder what the mods of this section are doing honestly.


Let me throw a little input, most of these married men like pretending in their marital homes, for them to take a stand and say the bitter truth about what marriage entails is a big problem for them. For me I will continue to say it, marriage is a scam, take this from a mature man.

This is the reason why people need to embrace open marriage.

I have several married women as girlfriends therefore I know what I'm talking about

Meedon:
Them the follow wetin society say. Na them go suffer na. Allow society to pressure you go marry or stay in marriage that is pressuring you. The suffer and pain go reach everybody.

anybody when still dey allow society pressure am go too suffer. Society when no go help you when you get problem,why should you listen to them?

brain54:
If you are a Christian...

And believe in the creation story in the Bible and how God made eve for Adam then this comment will be weird!

The creationist story is the one that is very weird. It is more weird when an educated individual believes in such ludicrous stories.

Nnamdipapa:
The creationist story is the one that is very weird. It is more weird when an educated individual believes in such ludicrous stories.

Are you going to tell men that you did not believe it when you were a kid?

It is because you are now more travelled and exposed, that is why you now know that those theories are merely fables

PantShifter:
Are you going to tell men that you did not believe it when you were a kid?

It is because you are now more travelled and exposed, that is why you now know that those theories are merely fables

U agree with. I believed as a kid and now beginning to deconstruct and question àll my beliefs.

Ask them the real reason they can't/don't quit.

Singles guys are always the ones talking down on marriage!!!

I just left my wife and kids. I rented another house where I cool off.

This women connived with her family, they re bashing me, calling me all sort of name just because his brother made little money last year. In spite that I was financially co-sponsored him when his oga settled him; I finished their family house to a level they're living in it. Despite these efforts her family sees me as a worthless man because their sister always feed them lies against me.

The annoying part is that they will believe it without asking questions

Ike gwuru. I want to be far from her
So that she will not see anybody to blackmail

Proserpina:
Ask them the real reason they can't/don't quit.

Singles guys are always the ones talking down on marriage!!!

How do you know they're single guys?

We're busy enjoying different to/ tow to have time for such discussions

Towma:
Women are also fed up, it's a problem of both genders.
That's because marriage is unnatural. It's against human nature.
Humans need variety and excitement to be happy and marriage to one person is opposite of that.

Woman divorce 80% of the time, men do tolerate way more than women else that 80% will be for the guys initiating divorce.

ExudeLoveToAll:
Woman divorce 80% of the time, men do tolerate way more than women else that 80% will be for the guys initiating divorce.

It's not in Nigeria that women divorce 80%.
Its in Western countries. In Nigeria, men don't tolerate more, they cheat more and brag openly about being naturally polygamous.

Nnamdipapa:
The creationist story is the one that is very weird. It is more weird when an educated individual believes in such ludicrous stories.

Lemme guess, Newton, Galileo, Copernicus, and other early scientists that believed the creationist stories werent educated
All the renowned scientists between 1CE and 1700 all believed in this theory, not even Darwin himself doubted it per se

There is no correlation between your claims. You can only doubt the stories because you've researched well enough independently, using from manuscripts from many years back to debunk whatever the Jews wrote in the bible and to see its flaws, not because of some phantom formal education in the 20th century

galantjoe:
I just left my wife and kids. I rented another house where I cool off.

This women connived with her family, they re bashing me, calling me all sort of name just because his brother made little money last year. In spite that I was financially co-sponsored him when his oga settled him; I finished their family house to a level they're living in it. Despite these efforts her family sees me as a worthless man because their sister always feed them lies against me.

The annoying part is that they will believe it without asking questions

Ike gwuru. I want to be far from her
So that she will not see anybody to blackmail

The lord is your strength...jakpa for your sanity and safety.

PantShifter:
Are you going to tell men that you did not believe it when you were a kid?

It is because you are now more travelled and exposed, that is why you now know that those theories are merely fables

Na travelling make you talk say dem be fable
If so, then anyone who has visited an average of 10 countries should believe the bible stories arent true


People likeDonald Trump are richer, more significant and well travelled than you, but dem no call am fable

Or just maybe youre the most travelled person in history


How does travelling wide relate to this?

All those Nigerian Atheists don travel before dem begin dey doubt God shey? Nigerian Atheist don travel pass Kaka wey dey write 'I belong to Jesus" under jersey, na why dem believe Jesus and Kaka no believe am

See logic

EvilMerodack:
Lemme guess, Newton, Galileo, Copernicus, and other early scientists that believed the creationist stories werent educated
All the renowned scientists between 1CE and 1700 all believed in this theory, not even Darwin himself doubted it per se

There is no correlation between your claims. You can only doubt the stories because you've researched well enough independently, using from manuscripts from many years back to debunk whatever the Jews wrote in the bible and to see its flaws, not because of some phantom formal education in the 20th century

Ok, the snake spoke to the woman in Eden right? Lets all go to sleep then.

galantjoe:
I just left my wife and kids. I rented another house where I cool off.

This women connived with her family, they re bashing me, calling me all sort of name just because his brother made little money last year. In spite that I was financially co-sponsored him when his oga settled him; I finished their family house to a level they're living in it. Despite these efforts her family sees me as a worthless man because their sister always feed them lies against me.

The annoying part is that they will believe it without asking questions

Ike gwuru. I want to be far from her
So that she will not see anybody to blackmail

Sadly this things you are passing through are what married men are passing through but to open mouth to talk about what women truly are in marriage is hard for them, you see them pretending, saying that a woman is a gift from God to a man. I just laugh when I hear such things from married men, cause I know they are indirectly asking for help to quit there miserable marriage. As you japa go another house good, make you get your sanity back before she kpai you with problem.

Imagine you building there family house to a level, is it easy in this hard economy. Marriage no be your mate, stick to been a bachelor and have peace.

Married man here. Everything the OP said is true. You marry a Nigerian woman, you have dug your grave. Avoid them by all means. Nothing dey inside marriage make I no lie to you. Forget all this teeth wey you see married people dey open.