₦airaland Forum

Which glory does a broke non virgin who has committed 99 abortions and has become a sperm bank for multiple men give a man?

The only glory I know such a woman can give a man that will shock him is another man's child

Because there's nothing of value a broke woman can ever give a man.

A woman who only wants to settle for a rich man who already has glory but doesn't want to build with a poor man is one you think has the monopoly of glory?

Any man who still believes a woman brings b
Blessings in 2025 is a Blatant FOOL.

buJu234:
➜Nigerian women dont marry for love oo its for money. thats why immediately they have money, they will tell you they dont need men or husband again

How many Nigerian men marry for love — men who don't believe adultery is their benefit for having a dick in life? Why fault women for at least ensuring their is some benefit to be hard in marriage with Nigerian men?

Marriage sucks, women marry for the benefits not for the love....

Marriage is a woman's game of milking the male partner dry, till he has nothing left in him anymore to offer.....

I will forever remain single till death do me apart.....

They marry for money n background

I am yet to see a wealthy woman go for a poor man but the reverse is common

Jman06:
Women's "love" cannot sustain a lifelong marriage relationship unlike men's. For this reason, marriages should be based on the man's love ie the man should be more inlove because that's what would enable him carryout his responsibilities to his wife and children with his full chest. Wise ladies understand this while the immature ones force themselves on men who doesn't care much about them and suffer the consequences

You are not totally right, it is not predictable which one is better cos there are men tbat have confessed that my wife practically proposed marriage to me , you know what, i am forever thankful she did, i was such a fool not to see how much of a wonderdul wife shw would be then

Men in love and woman in business , No matter how she is pretending in like she love you, my brother she is doing her cool businesses

Dpsychologist:
Marriage is one topic that will never stop shaking tables, and today, we’re going to drag one uncomfortable truth into the open.

👉 Many women don’t actually marry the man they truly love or feel sexually attracted to.
👉 Instead, they marry the man who is ready — the one with money, stability, and seriousness, even if their heart isn’t fully in it.

After the wedding, sex becomes a duty — something she tolerates just to have children. But once she’s done giving birth, the pretending ends. No more intimacy, no more affection, no more spark. What’s left? A cold partnership where both partners are simply co-parenting under the same roof.

This raises tough questions:

Is marriage in today’s world really about love, or just about timing and convenience?

Can attraction and passion be “manufactured” after marriage?

Is society’s pressure forcing too many people into unions built on endurance rather than happiness?

And for men: are you sure the woman you married actually desired you — or just settled because you were available?

The truth is, pretense in marriage always has an expiry date. Once the acting is over, reality kicks in. That’s why many homes lose their intimacy after kids arrive.

So, Nairalanders, over to you 👇:
Do women really marry who they love — or just who is ready?
And men, how do you know you weren’t just “the available option”?

Let’s debate this. No holding back.

Marriage is not about "love"
Take it from a married man.
Marriage is responsibility

There's still true love 💕 but most relationship is nw built on transactions

Women marry for survival, not love

Dpsychologist:
Marriage is one topic that will never stop shaking tables, and today, we’re going to drag one uncomfortable truth into the open.

👉 Many women don’t actually marry the man they truly love or feel sexually attracted to.
👉 Instead, they marry the man who is ready — the one with money, stability, and seriousness, even if their heart isn’t fully in it.

After the wedding, sex becomes a duty — something she tolerates just to have children. But once she’s done giving birth, the pretending ends. No more intimacy, no more affection, no more spark. What’s left? A cold partnership where both partners are simply co-parenting under the same roof.

This raises tough questions:

Is marriage in today’s world really about love, or just about timing and convenience?

Can attraction and passion be “manufactured” after marriage?

Is society’s pressure forcing too many people into unions built on endurance rather than happiness?

And for men: are you sure the woman you married actually desired you — or just settled because you were available?

The truth is, pretense in marriage always has an expiry date. Once the acting is over, reality kicks in. That’s why many homes lose their intimacy after kids arrive.

So, Nairalanders, over to you 👇:
Do women really marry who they love — or just who is ready?
And men, how do you know you weren’t just “the available option”?

Let’s debate this. No holding back.

They marry who is ready and cheat with who they love or who understands their psychology

Men can be in love, women are in business

Well, men can also be in lust but women still in business

The constant remains women, forever in business

Women cannot love men that have nothing to offer

WriteerNg:
it's because their biological clock runs faster than men.

She has to make that tough decision whether she likes it or not.

Well said.

Kobojunkie:
Marrying someone who loves you and you don't necessarily love the same is the same thing as settling. Nigerian men do this a lot, as this explains why the vast majority of Nigerian men now conceive adultery as their birthright in marriage.

The reason nigerian men cheat is the history of polygamy in Nigeria and Africa not that your useless reason
Beautiful women are in every socio economic class and cadre, low class,middle class and high class
So your point makes no sense
So when nigerian men marry the women they dont want, after that they magically acquire the resources to bed 'classier babes' in your fantasy land abi ??
It doesnt even make any logical sense !!!
The only good point you can make is men will always prefer younger and fresher if their wives become older and fatter

Even a blind person knows they marry who's ready, life is easier for girls because most of them just grow up then hope for someone to take care of them by getting married to them, so they usually don't have the idea what it takes to become financially stable enough to cater for a family, and because of that all they think about is marriage and having kids before the biological clock comes knocking, this worsen when they feel they're out of time, they become desperate and anything that shows up with a ring even if na vulture they'll jump at it as long as they feel he can take care of them, but with guys it's a different ball game, we have to get there somewhat to consider marriage, our biological clock runs into our 80s, heck a 90 yr old man can still have kids, so we go for who we feel we love, life and it's circumstances.

Trueprophet91:
Marriage is not about "love"
Take it from a married man.
Marriage is responsibility

So you are not responsible compared to dangote or otedola abi
I understand what you are saying but In this context, your point is really pointless, i cant call it dumb

Signs you are the option B to Z as a man is she will deny you Sex eventually once you marry her or request for money before sex because she did not find you attractive from the beginning you are the spare option that was ready.

CorperKola:
➜The reason nigerian men cheat is the history of polygamy in Nigeria and Africa not that your useless reason...

This is obviously irrational bullsheet given that Nigeria is not the only country in the world with a history of polygamy. To add to that, the Northern states do not boast of the same levels of adultery as is found amongst those in Southern Nigeria, where the culture of adultery has become commonplace in marriage. 😏😏😏

Can we please start critically analyzing the reality of things beginning in 2025? 🥱🥱🥱

Dpsychologist:
Marriage is one topic that will never stop shaking tables, and today, we’re going to drag one uncomfortable truth into the open.

👉 Many women don’t actually marry the man they truly love or feel sexually attracted to.
👉 Instead, they marry the man who is ready — the one with money, stability, and seriousness, even if their heart isn’t fully in it.

After the wedding, sex becomes a duty — something she tolerates just to have children. But once she’s done giving birth, the pretending ends. No more intimacy, no more affection, no more spark. What’s left? A cold partnership where both partners are simply co-parenting under the same roof.

This raises tough questions:

Is marriage in today’s world really about love, or just about timing and convenience?

Can attraction and passion be “manufactured” after marriage?

Is society’s pressure forcing too many people into unions built on endurance rather than happiness?

And for men: are you sure the woman you married actually desired you — or just settled because you were available?

The truth is, pretense in marriage always has an expiry date. Once the acting is over, reality kicks in. That’s why many homes lose their intimacy after kids arrive.

So, Nairalanders, over to you 👇:
Do women really marry who they love — or just who is ready?
And men, how do you know you weren’t just “the available option”?

Let’s debate this. No holding back.

I'm going 20yrs in marriage and 50 yrs next year.
Many people dont understand and still wont be able to understand what marriage is about. I also didnt too

Marriage should be seen as strategic partnership and not lust that most people confuse for love. Marry for the right reasons and you are good

Finally, men also need to understand and accommodate a couple of concerns from women. The society has made them feel naturally inferior (though DEI is trying to change things) . We need to support them

There's just alot to put together for a topic like this

CorperKola:
So you are not responsible compared to dangote or otedola abi
I understand what you are saying but In this context, your point is really pointless, i cant call it dumb

You mustn't compare with "dangote or otedola". What makes them a standard,money?

XXCASH:
➜I'm going 20yrs in marriage and 50 yrs next year. Many people dont understand and still wont be able to understand what marriage is about. I also didnt too. Marriage should be seen as strategic partnership and not lust that most people confuse for love. Marry for the right reasons and you are good
Finally, men also need to understand and accommodate a couple of concerns from women. The society has made them feel naturally inferior (though DEI is trying to change things) . We need to support them. There's just alot to put together for a topic like this

. Sounds like you have been in one of the endurance marriages described by the OP.

SultanOfPuna:
A girl I was dating went behind my back to marry a guy she meet couple months.

When I saw their wedding picture I was so confused. The guy look weak and his face look like he is already tired of life

I guess he is more richer than me because I fine pass the guy scatter.
The guy also look like someone that his wife will control anyhow.

Maybe I'm wrong but this marriage thing don cast. Looks like she choose who she can control as husband

Looks aren't the only factor that attracts the opposite sex to each other. Other factors are:
. Fame
. Money
. Intelligence/Wisdom
. Humour
. Their uniqueness (not two persons are the same) such as courage, honesty, confidence, etc.

Try to work on yourself around three or four of these areas. Afterwards, no woman will ever leave you because you will be a perfect representation of uniqueness that doesn't exist elsewhere.

Alot of them want to eat what dey don't work for so once dey come across a guy that guide small la san, na to born for him go dey there mind

You guys should give it a rest already.
Women don't marry for love, women marry for business, blablabla. The men marrying them, are these women 7-15yrs younger their first loves/gfs? What happened to the gf you told to move on if she sees who will marry her?

Any woman wey wan use una hold body as husband has done her best. After all, you won't allow her rest from insults if she stays single or choose to remain married.

Sirhush:
➜Alot of them want to eat what dey don't work for so once dey come across a guy that guide small la san, na to born for him go dey there mind

If a woman needs to settle for you, then you at least need to have something for her in the way of a benefit. These men who marry these women are not forced into these unions, as many of them also settle for these women out of pressure as well.

Women don't call for marriage so they can't marry who they love..if they do it's rare. Greater percentage of women don't get to marry their first choice..it's not in their hands most time.

Adakintroy:
➜Women don't call for marriage so they can't marry who they love..if they do it's rare. Greater percentage of women don't get to marry their first choice..it's not in their hands most time.

Is the first choice usually the best choice, or just a result of an infatuation? If a woman does not end up with her first choice, doesn't that invariably mean the first choice did not necessarily love her?

CorperKola:
You are not totally right, it is not predictable which one is better cos there are men tbat have confessed that my wife practically proposed marriage to me , you know what, i am forever thankful she did, i was such a fool not to see how much of a wonderdul wife shw would be then

The same "love" of theirs that end up putting them into the hands of bad men that turn them into punching bags? By then they'll now start crying back to their families and all those who advised them against such marriage hitherto? See ehn, I have seen things that made me conclude that a man's love is more important in marriage than a woman's.

Let me just bookmark this post for future reference.

Hemanwel:
➜My own point is that, you will hardly see a marriage in which there is a mutual feeling. It's either the man loves the woman and the woman doesn't love him or vice versa.

This here is Nigeria, as far as most Nigerian marriages; as a matter of fact, I have never met any married Nigerian couple who share mutual feelings.

They marry who has the highest money, not who's ready. And they love the highest bidder.