₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
1. Falling for an easier prey does not mean the easier prey is, in fact, the desired one. If a man goes out to catch a bass but ends up only catching a tilapia or something else, that doesn't mean his desire has been fulfilled, does it?

Also, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So, what I term beautiful may not be what the next person considers beautiful.

2. I don't buy into these assertions of yours at all.

gtassure:
✓ If you live in Nigeria, may be you will have better understanding! One person can be wrong, but 5 to 10 people can not be wrong at the same time! What posters are saying are fact in Nogerian society!

Kobojunkie:
Living in Nigeria does not give one superior knowledge of life and happening in Nigeria. Rather, consuming educated knowledge of happenings in Nigeria does. Even if 200 million Nigeria nsclaim that a thing is so, it will not be enough to counter educated facts collected from polls independently researching all those Nigerians.

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim? An unnamed analyst makes a claim, and we are supposed to believe it is fact? Nonsense!

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several:

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
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Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱

DMCA:
✓ no be ur fellow women do the analysis?

EmperorIsaac:
For financial support... and, probably one that can match their level of maturity!

kelechi50:
There is juju involved, if not how will a sane man leave his wife and children for a side chick

Kobojunkie:
Fellow women wey no get name? Even the reports from your own Government sufficiently counter the claim, so how can such a claim be considered of substance without even names or data to back up the claim?

DMCA:
e pain this one

King2305:
To be very honest, all the trash you there ended up for[i][/i] poster and even gave a more glaring view to his post.

So u now admit say na woman do woman?

Based on ur gibberish "A sidechick has a high opportunity for growth more than the wife"

You are technically saying and affirming that "wife" should get a divorce so as to be a sidechick. In other word, to have a better chance for growth?

That also validates OP claim that a wife gets divorced and ends up being a sidechick. That is his argument.

Whether they have better opportunity or not is not OPs argument. But you have now open our innermost eyes to a better career opportunity as an advantage of being a divorced sidechick. Which I will end up saying is the most useless argument of 21st century.

Also, just like what one guy said, no sane man would leave his wife for a sidechick not to mention "divorced, 8th hand, borehole sidechick"

Kobojunkie:
Fellow women wey no get name? Even the reports from your own Government sufficiently counter the claim, so how can such a claim be considered of substance without even names or data to back up the claim?

King2305:
To be very honest, all the trash you there ended up for[i][/i] poster and even gave a more glaring view to his post.

So u now admit say na woman do woman?

Based on ur gibberish "A sidechick has a high opportunity for growth more than the wife"

You are technically saying and affirming that "wife" should get a divorce so as to be a sidechick. In other word, to have a better chance for growth?

That also validates OP claim that a wife gets divorced and ends up being a sidechick. That is his argument.

Whether they have better opportunity or not is not OPs argument. But you have now open our innermost eyes to a better career opportunity as an advantage of being a divorced sidechick. Which I will end up saying is the most useless argument of 21st century.

Also, just like what one guy said, no sane man would leave his wife for a sidechick not to mention "divorced, 8th hand, borehole sidechick"

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim? An unnamed analyst makes a claim, and we are supposed to believe it is fact? What this is saying is that a great number of Nigerian married men have divorced women for sidechicks, abi? Nonsense!

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several:

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
....

Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱

kelechi50:
There is juju involved, if not how will a sane man leave his wife and children for a side chick

Kobojunkie:
This is simply human behavior!

✓ The lie told by OP, which is that 80% of women who get divorced eventually become sidechicks, is merely of human behavior. 😏
✓ The second behavior by some(not all) women who go to become sidechicks is of a human need to level up in any way possible. Nothing new here. 🥱

donogaga:
A wife will divorce her husband because he cheated on her, after divorce she'll now be dating & knacking husbands whose wives are patient with them despite all odds... No be juju be dat!

Kobojunkie:
The way una dey take process information presented you ehn ..I never see before. Whoever did this to you never meant you any good! Tufiakwa !!!🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. That is a silly conclusion to reach from my comment there, don't you think? 🙄🙄

The question it was in response to is why some divorced women end up side chicks, making clear that this only applies to women after they have been divorced, not before. So, it could not then be reasonably suggested that said women left their marriages solely with the intention of becoming sidechicks. They each had valid reasons for needing to resign from their marriages, reasons that may not have anything to do with their later decisions to become sidechicks afterwards. 🥱🥱🥱

2. A woman whose ex-husband was a douchebag with sidechicks whom he treated better than she ever was—leaving her possibly financially, physically, and emotionally abused in the end with nothing to show for all of her years of diligence as a wife —, can, in fact, consider being a sidechick than a wife in her other relationship. 🥱🥱

ednut1:
This narrative has no statistical backing. Naso una go just dey lie. Most cheating married men prefer young smallies abeg

autoez:
If it was possible for man to just have kids and stay unmarried, the world will be a better place. Fear woman pass snake

Kobojunkie:
1. That is a silly conclusion to reach from my comment there, don't you think? 🙄🙄

The question it was in response to is why some divorced women end up side chicks, making clear that this only applies to women after they have been divorced, not before. So, it could not then be reasonably suggested that said women left their marriages solely with the intention of becoming sidechicks. They each had valid reasons for needing to resign from their marriages, reasons that may not have anything to do with their later decisions to become sidechicks afterwards. 🥱🥱🥱

2. A woman whose ex-husband was a douchebag with sidechicks whom he treated better than she ever was—leaving her possibly financially, physically, and emotionally abused in the end with nothing to show for all of her years of diligence as a wife —, can, in fact, consider being a sidechick than a wife in her other relationship. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim? An unnamed analyst makes a claim, and we are supposed to believe it is fact? What this is saying is that a great number of Nigerian married men have divorced women for sidechicks, abi? Nonsense!

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several:

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
....

Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
I would ask you for a stat to prove this claim, which you make here, suggesting that most divorced women go on to become sidechicks. Where is the backing for this claim? An unnamed analyst makes a claim, and we are supposed to believe it is fact? What this is saying is that a great number of Nigerian married men have divorced women for sidechicks, abi? Nonsense!

There is nothing Juju about it at all. If you reason it without biases coloring your view, you would see it yourself. Anyways, as for the reasons why some divorced women go on to become sidechicks, well, there are several:

➜ Society claims it is wrong to commit adultery, but then, rather than penalize the man and sidechick, lets them off, and in some cases, Society turns the blame on the wife for not being wifely enough or not having the prowess to protect her marriage from the other woman. All this is pressure placed on the wife, who now finds herself fighting depression, rejection, and also having to continue her wifely duties, all while the man and his sidechick continue to enjoy their lives as though nothing ever went wrong. Imagine a situation where even the man's family members receive gifts and entertain the sidechick behind the wife's back as though to say that they approve of the relationship, even as they continue to insist their son's wife continue to serve him judiciously in the home.
➜ Most Nigerian men treat their sidechicks so many times better than they treat their own wives. I mean, this ain't a hidden secret at all, as even very poor men are known to go out of their way to ensure their sidechicks are well fed before even their own children, talk less of their wives. The position of sidechick in Nigeria is so many times better than that of the wife, who, in many cases, is no more than a provider of free labor in the marriage.
➜ A sidechick has more opportunities for growth than a typical wife would have access to. A sidechick has greater control over her time and freedom than the average wife does, and for an ambitious woman, that is a benefit that is of great importance. Having the man while holding on to her independence is a valuable place to be in.
....

Yes, there are lots of benefits to being a sidechick than a wife to a Nigerian man, that is why I believe a wife trading places with a sidechick is a sort of promotion, not a demotion, for a divorced woman.🥱🥱🥱