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Guys, I would like to ask.

Should A lady who is in a very serious relationship of three years, which is leading to marriage, be Posting pictures of herself and another guy on the social media(Facebook and WhatsApp status) ?

Two weeks ago, we had a little misunderstanding. She then went to a wedding, snapped group pictures with two guys, and a photo of her and one guy. She posted those pictures on Facebook and Tagged me. I didn't respond or commented, I didn't even ask. But I warned her never to tag me on such again, because I had no business with the pictures. Later, when we had settled our differences, I now asked who the guy was, and she said he is her coursemate.

Just this morning, she posted same picture on her WhatsApp status celebrating the guy's birthday. Meanwhile, this is same lady that has NEVER posted me on any of her handles. I have posted same lady multiple times on my Facebook and WhatsApp status.

I wonder why a lady who is in a relationship that is leading to marriage would be posting her photos with a guy when she knows that her man doesn't support such. She's always online chatting with people I don't know. All Her previous relationships before I met her were Facebook relationships. According to her, she met all her exes on Facebook. Same way I got to meet her on Facebook too.
This is same lady who cheated on me by confessing that she dated a guy she met on Facebook for 7months when I wasn't giving her attention. And in these 7months months, we didn't break up. She didn't break up with me before dating another guy. I was thinking she was even faithful.
I asked one of my male friends to test her on Facebook. I told my friend to send her a friend request and then ask her out on a date and see if she would accept. Eventually, she accepted to meet with my guy. My guy informed her that he was traveling from another state just to see her and she accepted. He even sent the venue of where they would meet and she agreed to go meet him there. I was really shocked because I never knew she would have such guts. She is young, calm and appears so innocent. She is always acting like she loves me more than anything else.

Immediately I saw the WhatsApp post on her status this morning, I just blocked her and went to Facebook to block her too. I blocked her calls and text message .

I really need answers to my question.
Thank you.

Nlfpmod
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Brahamimo:
Guys, I would like to ask.

Should A lady who is in a very serious relationship of three years, which is leading to marriage, be Posting pictures of herself and another guy on the social media(Facebook and WhatsApp status) ?

Two weeks ago, we had a little misunderstanding. She then went to a wedding, snapped group pictures with two guys, and a photo of her and one guy. She posted those pictures on Facebook and Tagged me. I didn't respond or commented, I didn't even ask. But I warned her never to tag me on such again, because I had no business with the pictures. Later, when we had settled our differences, I now asked who the guy was, and she said he is her coursemate.

Just this morning, she posted same picture on her WhatsApp status celebrating the guy's birthday. Meanwhile, this is same lady that has NEVER posted me on any of her handles. I have posted same lady multiple times on my Facebook and WhatsApp status.

I wonder why a lady who is in a relationship that is leading to marriage would be posting her photos with a guy when she knows that her man doesn't support such. She's always online chatting with people I don't know. All Her previous relationships before I met her were Facebook relationships. According to her, she met all her exes on Facebook. Same way I got to meet her on Facebook too.
This is same lady who cheated on me by confessing that she dated a guy she met on Facebook for 7months when I wasn't giving her attention. And in these 7months months, we didn't break up. She didn't break up with me before dating another guy. I was thinking she was even faithful.
I asked one of my male friends to test her on Facebook. I told my friend to send her a friend request and then ask her out on a date and see if she would accept. Eventually, she accepted to meet with my guy. My guy informed her that he was traveling from another state just to see her and she accepted. He even sent the venue of where they would meet and she agreed to go meet him there. I was really shocked because I never knew she would have such guts. She is young, calm and appears so innocent. She is always acting like she loves me more than anything else.

Immediately I saw the WhatsApp post on her status this morning, I just blocked her and went to Facebook to block her too. I blocked her calls and text message

You eye go soon clear, if you know do the needful

Stephenmouka:
You eye go soon clear, if you know do the needful

The Stephen above has said everything that this Stephen would have said.

There's something called "respect" - if you don't get it in a relationship where you have explicitly stated what respect means for you, then you sofri bounce.

Don't tolerate rubbish as a guy/bae, you're the prize, if you know your worth.

Blocking when you will later unblock na baby doings. Call her, tell her you don't feel respected by her actions, if she no talk well. Call off the relationship.

But how do y'all go back to people that cheat on you? Abeg o... Me no go fit.

I only commented because I noticed that you are dating for marriage.

So igbo people have this thing called ''Iju ese''. it means to make research about the full profile of your prospective spouse. It is not gender based, so either the man or the woman can do Iju-ese about their potential spouse.

You cannot meet a girl on facebook, and decide that you want to marry her. Your knowledge of each other is not that deep and strong. Even if you want to undergo Iju-ese, you guys dont have any mutual friends that can attest to the morality and suitability of your prospective spouse.

Everything you know about your potential spouse should not be things he/she told you, but something that can be verified by you and other third parties you trust, especially those who have your best interest in their heart (eg family relatives).

This is why I consider referral the best method for meeting a potential spouse. Statistically, such marriage last. The lack of research is how many people unknowingly marry demons, repentant akunna, and folks with dirty past.

You are putting the cart before the horse. before you give someone the tag of fiance/fiancee, you must have undergone series of due process, and Iju-ese is amongst the first (then genotype test, religious compatibility, etc).

As far as I can tell, you do not have a relationship. Both of you are just horney, misguided and wasting your time.

You also mentioned how she cheated on you for seven months.

It annoys me when people are lamenting for the problem they caused themselves. You expect a goat to bark like a dog, that is your problem.

That relationship should not have started in the first place.

The fact that you forgave her cheating doesn't mean you are good and capable of forgiveness, it simply means you have a very low standard for yourself and it reflects on the choice you make.

As a man, you should not forgive cheating.

You can forgive almost anything from a woman, but not when another man come inside your house and come inside your spouse. Are you mad? Do you hate yourself?

Any woman that can cheat on you can kill you. Countless men have died because they forgave a cheating woman. Forgiving doesnt makes you a bigger person, but it makes you a scapegoat that deserve everything, including death.

The world is not a beautiful place, remove that fine glass you are wearing and create strong boundaries that must not be crossed, otherwise, you will suffer, and it is your fault.

You go dey date student, ontop of that social media freak. Oboy turn that girl to your fwb jare. Serious relationship lol listen to yourself. Na only you dey reason am so

pansophist:
I only commented because I noticed that you are dating for marriage.

So igbo people have this thing called ''Iju ese''. it means to make research about the full profile of your prospective spouse. It is not gender based, so either the man or the woman can do Iju-ese about their potential spouse.

You cannot meet a girl on facebook, and decide that you want to marry her. Your knowledge of each other is not that deep and strong. Even if you want to undergo Iju-ese, you guys dont have any mutual friends that can attest to the morality and suitability of your prospective spouse.

Everything you know about your potential spouse should not be things he/she told you, but something that can be verified by you and other third parties you trust, especially those who have your best interest in their heart (eg family relatives).

This is why I consider referral the best method for meeting a potential spouse. Statistically, such marriage last. The lack of research is how many people unknowingly marry demons, repentant akunna, and folks with dirty past.

You are putting the cart before the horse. before you give someone the tag of fiance/fiancee, you must have undergone series of due process, and Iju-ese is amongst the first (then genotype test, religious compatibility, etc).

As far as I can tell, you do not have a relationship. Both of you are just horney, misguided and wasting your time.

I'm not sure u understood my post. Who told u we haven't done all that ?
I said we first met on Facebook.

Tenrack:
You go dey date student, ontop of that social media freak. Oboy turn that girl to your fwb jare. Serious relationship lol listen to yourself. Na only you dey reason am so

Some of u talk like you're the masters of relationship and you have never in your life been cheated on by lady you're dating. I believe you don't have exes. And your first girlfriend is still the one you're with till date?

So, students don't deserve to be in a relationship?

Relationship expert, well done

It’s a question which you can answer yourself. Why do you need opinions on a straightforward matter?

Brahamimo:
Guys, I would like to ask.

Should A lady who is in a very serious relationship of three years, which is leading to marriage, be Posting pictures of herself and another guy on the social media(Facebook and WhatsApp status) ?

Two weeks ago, we had a little misunderstanding. She then went to a wedding, snapped group pictures with two guys, and a photo of her and one guy. She posted those pictures on Facebook and Tagged me. I didn't respond or commented, I didn't even ask. But I warned her never to tag me on such again, because I had no business with the pictures. Later, when we had settled our differences, I now asked who the guy was, and she said he is her coursemate.

Just this morning, she posted same picture on her WhatsApp status celebrating the guy's birthday. Meanwhile, this is same lady that has NEVER posted me on any of her handles. I have posted same lady multiple times on my Facebook and WhatsApp status.

I wonder why a lady who is in a relationship that is leading to marriage would be posting her photos with a guy when she knows that her man doesn't support such. She's always online chatting with people I don't know. All Her previous relationships before I met her were Facebook relationships. According to her, she met all her exes on Facebook. Same way I got to meet her on Facebook too.
This is same lady who cheated on me by confessing that she dated a guy she met on Facebook for 7months when I wasn't giving her attention. And in these 7months months, we didn't break up. She didn't break up with me before dating another guy. I was thinking she was even faithful.
I asked one of my male friends to test her on Facebook. I told my friend to send her a friend request and then ask her out on a date and see if she would accept. Eventually, she accepted to meet with my guy. My guy informed her that he was traveling from another state just to see her and she accepted. He even sent the venue of where they would meet and she agreed to go meet him there. I was really shocked because I never knew she would have such guts. She is young, calm and appears so innocent. She is always acting like she loves me more than anything else.

Immediately I saw the WhatsApp post on her status this morning, I just blocked her and went to Facebook to block her too. I blocked her calls and text message .

I really need answers to my question.
Thank you.

Nlfpmod

Brahamimo:
➜Guys, I would like to ask. Should A lady who is in a very serious relationship of three years, which is leading to marriage, be Posting pictures of herself and another guy on the social media(Facebook and WhatsApp status) ? ....
Immediately I saw the WhatsApp post on her status this morning, I just blocked her and went to Facebook to block her too. I blocked her calls and text message .I really need answers to my question. Thank you.

This is a you problem, not a her problem. 🥱🥱

You are clearly in a relationship with a person who is the complete opposite of what you desire to have. Why not break up with this woman — free her so she can find herself her type— and go find yourself a woman who would be properly aligned with your particular desires there?

Break up. Even seun knows I don’t need too many characters to say that.

Brahamimo:
Some of u talk like you're the masters of relationship and you have never in your life been cheated on by lady you're dating. I believe you don't have exes. And your first girlfriend is still the one you're with till date?

So, students don't deserve to be in a relationship?

Relationship expert, well done

I've never cheated on a partner before Oga. And if I'm cheater on, otilor if I catch them red handed

I have sworn never to advise grown men who don't have sense even with the red flags right before their very eyes. Go ahead and marry her please. My focus now is on younger men whom the only world they know is a feminist one and who have been programed to worship women and yield to their manipulations. My agenda is to free them of that mentality. In your case, you are not being manipulated, you just don't want to make use of your God given brain. Goodluck, you will need it.

Brahamimo:
Immediately I saw the WhatsApp post on her status this morning, I just blocked her and went to Facebook to block her too. I blocked her calls and text message .

You have handled the matter, so why are you here writing all this plenty about POST this and not POST that?
You took the beehive into your house because only you want to customise the honey, bees will follow you. Abi wetin you expect before?

Guy leave dat gal becos u will regret it if u marry her.... Any gal dat knows dat u wnt 2 marry her nd still c guyz behind u can't stop it even after marriage nd 4 ur information dat her coursemate na her ex via school dat yr nd he's her type of guy nd she loves him alot.... Guy u no need a spiritualist to tell u dis gal no love u imagine nava post u 4 1dy yet she won marry u.... Wat makes her happy is wat she posts.... Wetin i knw self nothing goodluck with her in future...

Lol
E gt one time wey matters like dis dey bother me
I no gt advice give u
By ursef u go c road..

My babe no Dey post guy at all…If she try am eh,na shaolin kick she go collect..

You did the right thing, break up with you

Dzzzz:
My babe no Dey post guy at all…If she try am eh,na shaolin kick she go collect..

dey play… she has excluded you from viewing some certain status…

Unclebayo:
dey play… she has excluded you from viewing some certain status…

Una go Dey think say every babe go be like your babe..

pansophist:
I only commented because I noticed that you are dating for marriage.

So igbo people have this thing called ''Iju ese''. it means to make research about the full profile of your prospective spouse. It is not gender based, so either the man or the woman can do Iju-ese about their potential spouse.

You cannot meet a girl on facebook, and decide that you want to marry her. Your knowledge of each other is not that deep and strong. Even if you want to undergo Iju-ese, you guys dont have any mutual friends that can attest to the morality and suitability of your prospective spouse.

Everything you know about your potential spouse should not be things he/she told you, but something that can be verified by you and other third parties you trust, especially those who have your best interest in their heart (eg family relatives).

This is why I consider referral the best method for meeting a potential spouse. Statistically, such marriage last. The lack of research is how many people unknowingly marry demons, repentant akunna, and folks with dirty past.

You are putting the cart before the horse. before you give someone the tag of fiance/fiancee, you must have undergone series of due process, and Iju-ese is amongst the first (then genotype test, religious compatibility, etc).

As far as I can tell, you do not have a relationship. Both of you are just horney, misguided and wasting your time.

This is the best advice for him. Hope he takes it.

Dzzzz:
My babe no Dey post guy at all…If she try am eh,na shaolin kick she go collect..

Lol. Sha no go kill person daughter. Ogba ewon straight niyen Lol

Dzzzz:
Una go Dey think say every babe go be like your babe..

Lol. Naso one guy be Dey swear with him life say him babe no fit cheat on am. Via say him Dey provide everything she need and he Dey bang her wella. Not until dem play am tape wey one guy Dey blast him babe better doggy. My guy no Dey vouch for Nigerian girls oo. Especially if na Lagos, make e come be Lagos island. Lol

Elzazzi:
Lol. Naso one guy be Dey swear with him life say him babe no fit cheat on am. Via say him Dey provide everything she need and he Dey bang her wella. Not until dem play am tape wey one guy Dey blast him babe better doggy. My guy no Dey vouch for Nigerian girls oo. Especially if na Lagos, make e come be Lagos island. Lol

Baba,guys no know say money and banging won’t keep a woman,it will only make them keep coming back to you..A woman will cheat on you with someone with less money and small pweek..

Fake story because if this is true, your parents need to take you to a spiritualist or to a doctor to examine your head.

Dzzzz:
Baba,guys no know say money and banging won’t keep a woman,it will only make them keep coming back to you..A woman will cheat on you with someone with less money and small pweek..

No mind them Lol. Woman fit fvck another man just because he get fine bow leg.

Elzazzi:
No mind them Lol. Woman fit fvck another man just because he get fine bow leg.

My ex GF boyfriend carry her go Dubai but on her way back na my room she land‼️‼️

pansophist:
I only commented because I noticed that you are dating for marriage.

So igbo people have this thing called ''Iju ese''. it means to make research about the full profile of your prospective spouse. It is not gender based, so either the man or the woman can do Iju-ese about their potential spouse.

You cannot meet a girl on facebook, and decide that you want to marry her. Your knowledge of each other is not that deep and strong. Even if you want to undergo Iju-ese, you guys dont have any mutual friends that can attest to the morality and suitability of your prospective spouse.

Everything you know about your potential spouse should not be things he/she told you, but something that can be verified by you and other third parties you trust, especially those who have your best interest in their heart (eg family relatives).

This is why I consider referral the best method for meeting a potential spouse. Statistically, such marriage last. The lack of research is how many people unknowingly marry demons, repentant akunna, and folks with dirty past.

You are putting the cart before the horse. before you give someone the tag of fiance/fiancee, you must have undergone series of due process, and Iju-ese is amongst the first (then genotype test, religious compatibility, etc).

As far as I can tell, you do not have a relationship. Both of you are just horney, misguided and wasting your time.

Agba🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 Pansophist, the wisest man on nairaland!!!

Dzzzz:
My ex GF boyfriend carry her go Dubai but on her way back na my room she land‼️‼️

Omo.

Women no get pity ooo.