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Please I have tried but nothing Is working.
This started when I was 15 years now I am over 40s.
This is the bad attitude I got from my dad.
I am afeaid of going out for fear of being mocked .
Instead I sleep and stay indoors everyday.
I have lost real sense of living.
I still stay with my parents.
My only source of living is betting.
I am a graduate and I struggled to graduate due to my low self esteeem

Do you have friends? I doubt so. Try making friends that are extroverts. Let’s see how that goes.

The introversion is not a problem.
The lack of self-drive and ambition is the problem.

If 5 years ago, you decided on what you wanted to be today, and you stayed inside the house pursing that vision, you'd be top in your field today.

And there's nothing like "family pattern", you didn't grow in an ambitious environment, but you're already of age now. Build your own environment.

You clearly have no goal, ambition and focus in life!

Dude I have no advice for you.

Continue living with your parents until you're 78 then come back for advise. I'll have one for you

Get a job; people will help redirect your will.

I don't believe you

People wey dey tell you say your problem na low self-esteem, laziness, no ambition bla bla bla haven't told you the real thing. The truth be say hungry never wire you. When hungry show you his number 10 jersey, not even a prophet will have to tell you to get up from that your cubicle and be useful to yourself and your future DNA test.

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Do you guys have any spare car in the house?? Register for bolt and start a daily hustle. Meet new people.

Ibtxxo:
Please I have tried but nothing Is working. This started when I was 15 years now I am over 40s. This is the bad attitude I got from my dad. I am afeaid of going out for fear of being mocked .
Instead I sleep and stay indoors everyday. I have lost real sense of living. I still stay with my parents. My only source of living is betting. I am a graduate and I struggled to graduate due to my low self esteeem

. What you describe is holding you back from living the life you want is mental illness and not a bad attitude. You can immediately seek professional mental health treatment.

Another way to begin battling it yourself is by changing a couple of things about the way you live. Go out every morning/afternoon, or evening to exercise— walk a couple of miles each day for a period of 30 or more minutes, or do some cardio exercises outside of your house. It all needs to be done outdoors, maybe in the field of a school or park somewhere. If you are too shy, you can wear a face mask until you get comfortable with running without needing to cover your face for shame. Also, while you exercise, it would be nice either to listen to music or maybe do some deep thinking to help distract and train your mind away from those intrusive thoughts that plague you most of the time.

Another thing you should do is to change up your eating habits. You should start eating diets that are high in vegetables(fruits too) and protein. Over-the-counter health supplements can be of help, but I believe vegetables and fruits obtained from your local market will do even better job. (Even better if you plant your own garden of vegetables and fruits to help supplement your daily needs.)

The average adult should consume at least 60g of protein in their diet daily. Those proteins help their brains produce the hormones that help maintain the self-esteem-building systems in the brain. Proteins also help in building skin and muscle tissue, which improves one's overall looks. Reduce your overall daily carbohydrate intake — replace with proteins and vegetables —to avoid weight gain.

By changing up your feeding habits each day, you can significantly change the way your brain begins to handle those intrusive thoughts and help you fight against the depression, as well as the lack of motivation that goes with it.

** When you eventually get brave enough, you can also begin going head-to-head against those intrusive thoughts, questioning the validity and reason behind them as a way of completely uprooting them from your mind and psyche.

lol
Lies…not possible
Over 40 years?
Lies 😂

First go do prayer from a powerful Alfa or aladura

God will deliver you. If u dey masturbate your life done spoil

The Mountain Is you.
Step 1 Stop blaming your father
Step 2 Get angry at your situation
Step 3 Change your wardrobe
Step 4 Go to the gym

You need spiritual deliverance

Sincerely they are a lot of men out there like you, there s nothing wrong in starting a help group abi club.. it could be virtual or physical… to help locate and help yourselves

Maybe una be vampire ...but u never know

Ibtxxo:
Please I have tried but nothing Is working.
This started when I was 15 years now I am over 40s.
This is the bad attitude I got from my dad.
I am afeaid of going out for fear of being mocked .
Instead I sleep and stay indoors everyday.
I have lost real sense of living.
I still stay with my parents.
My only source of living is betting.
I am a graduate and I struggled to graduate due to my low self esteeem

Being a homebody is not a problem.

Your problem is your lack of “basic” goals.

How did something as basic as getting a job slip pass you till 40?

Well its never too late, start a small business or get a job fast than join a church.

At the church become a dedicated worker, I believe these two - job/business and church will help you rebalance. Create a social network.

Don’t ever think its too late, as a man even 50s is not too late. I have thought of it most of us are chasing the same thing - financial freedom and progency. A man that started a good job at 25 fit no see N100 million till 50 while someone at 40 starts his life within 1 year he see N100 million legit.

My point is do away with lazy, start your race.

Ibtxxo:
Please I have tried but nothing Is working.
This started when I was 15 years now I am over 40s.
This is the bad attitude I got from my dad.
I am afeaid of going out for fear of being mocked .
Instead I sleep and stay indoors everyday.
I have lost real sense of living.
I still stay with my parents.
My only source of living is betting.
I am a graduate and I struggled to graduate due to my low self esteeem

Bro you dey chop .. you dey see light .. you dey use internet .. be like na wahala you need for your life abi .?? Bro only 2% on people can afford to sleep morning till night without hunger waking them the next day .. find your passion .. you are already in the right place ..

2RightHands1Coc:
First go do prayer from a powerful Alfa or aladura

God will deliver you. If u dey masturbate your life done spoil

Person no comot he dey chop you say him life don spoile .. many slaves don't even know they are slaves .. till you are 50 and and looking 65 .. bro is 40 and has lived like 5 lives simultaneously of a 9-5 person .. don't snooze .. he is enjoying ..

You have zero responsibilities, food falls on your table when you need it. That is what is keeping you at home😔

Stephen0mozzy:
The introversion is not a problem.
The lack of self-drive and ambition is the problem.

If 5 years ago, you decided on what you wanted to be today, and you stayed inside the house pursing that vision, you'd be top in your field today.

And there's nothing like "family pattern", you didn't grow in an ambitious environment, but you're already of age now. Build your own environment.

This is one of the most sensible replies i have read on NL this year.
Well said. OP consider this and reflect on it. Let me add that it's not too late to turn your life around. I am also an introvert but i work from home as a penetration tester and a bug hunter, plus i still engage in social activities and keep in touch with friends.

Very pathetic

Are you physically challenged?

TUANKU:
This is one of the most sensible replies i have read on NL this year.
Well said. OP consider this and reflect on it. Let me add that it's not too late to turn your life around. I am also an introvert but i work from home as a penetration tester and a bug hunter, plus i still engage in social activities and keep in touch with friends.

Hi bro. Good morning. Please can you fill me in on this? I'll be grateful if we can have a private chat. How can I become one and does this take time to learn.? I really need a job. Thanks

Tenrack:
Hi bro. Good morning. Please can you fill me in on this? I'll be grateful if we can have a private chat. How can I become one and does this take time to learn.? I really need a job. Thanks

Good morning bro. I will be glad to help/assist you.
How do i get in touch with you? Drop your WhatsApp number/email address.

TUANKU:
Good morning bro. I will be glad to help/assist you.
How do i get in touch with you? Drop your WhatsApp number/email address.

Thanks bro. Good morning. Here's my email. tennytoni@gmail.com once I get your email I'll send my number promptly. God bless you. 🙏

Tenrack:
Thanks bro. Good morning. Here's my email. tennytoni@gmail.com once I get your email I'll send my number promptly. God bless you. 🙏

Ok. I will email you ASAP.

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

Appreciated. Anticipating. 🙏

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

please let me know when you do. Thanks.

TUANKU:
Ok. I will email you ASAP.

Hello sire. Good evening

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