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Biggaboi:
The days when we ask women out are long gone. Now we just keep it simple, take it slow and let her decide for herself of he's single not to want to start a relationship with you. No be only women dey "woke" now.

Kaybaba5:
This one na old style naw, if you use this style nowadays it's mission impossible.
I remember the day girl in my area then wrote a love letter to me. I swear I was like what a joke......

Jakumo:
Fellas, this man's failed mission is a fine example of what a man should NEVER ask a woman. Any man foolhardy enough to formally apply for the official post of "boyfriend" will only succeed in killing off any chance of romance that might have existed BECAUSE that kind of question carries so much baggage as to erase whatever attraction the woman might have initially felt for the man if only he had kept things simple.

A young woman faced with a man applying to be her boyfriend will immediately sense that the man is lacking in confidence, and likely to become jealous and possessive as soon as the woman replies that such a formal relationship can start. Instead of going that old-school job application approach to entering the promised land, it is far better to keep things playful, flirtatious, and light hearted, so the girl can simply go with the flow, without being placed under pressure by such a formalized applications to hang pipe.

Jakumo:
He could have simply dated her a few times, and then suggested they go chill at his place once the rapport was smooth and flowing. There is never any need to file a serious application as he did. That is way too formal and will turn off many women who might otherwise have progressed to giving the man hot sex on demand.

Uptheante:
For her to accept going on a date with him, she must have had some romantic interest in him.

From all indications, she doesn't even have any romantic interest in him.

Assuming she even agrees to go on the so-called date with him once or twice & after depleting his money on the date, she still declines his request by saying she already has a boyfriend & can't go with him or probably she's not interested, is it not a waste of money on his own part?

Why can't he just be straightforward with his desire instead of playing games & making assumptions while his resources gets depleted & his time wasted?

Jakumo:
A man can convey sexual interest in a woman without putting her on the spot by making such a formal "proposition" to be her boyfriend. While I cannot speculate on the way women over 30 might view this subject, I do know from experience that women in their twenties who are blessed with beauty, tend to be wary of any man who shows signs of seeking an exclusive, monogamous relationship that is precisely defined, and for which a woman's consent to abide with a definitive, legally-binding commitment treaty is expected.

Uptheante:
Conveying sexual interest to her doesn't mean she must accept it.

Him, taking her out as you suggest, while spending on her & conveying sexual interest to her is not a guarantee she will accept.
She may turn the tide against him & flare up with statements like " is it because you bought me this or that, that you think you can sleep with me?".
Meanwhile, he has already wasted money on her & she probably already has another man or other men smashing her pússy for free.

A lot of men have asked girls directly to be their girlfriends instead of playing games & the girls have accepted & they enjoyed access to pússy.

If one girl doesn't accept your proposal for a relationship, other girls will. At least, she's not the only girl in the world.

The guy made the right call.

Uptheante:
Are you really a South African or a wannabe?

I'm curious

chiefolododo:
Sudanese?

bende7t:
Same here bro

Kaczynski:
to frame it as victimization is to infantilize the man implying he lacks the emotional fortitude to withstand a negative response. he is presumably an adult capable of handling disappointment without resorting to the melodramatic claim of being victimized.

if the woman response included threats or other forms of harmful behavior then a claim of victimization might hold merit. a mere rejection even phrased unkindly does not meet the threshold for genuine victimhood.

it's simply communication, potentially unpleasant communication.

Kingbuhari:
women are destroyers.. I started life very promising full of life but starting relationship at the age of 13 was my greatest undo.. 1 it weak me emotionally 2 destroy me sexually 3 I defiled my body in a way I regret it now 4 exposed me to danger, 5 lost it for several years till I reach 30 4 so many things i can't mention here but I thank God i replenish in less than 6yrs after I leave comfort zone.. being virgin till 30 is a blessing

SpencerForbes:
You just went and ask an agbero out😒 now she has roasted you and brother zone you
hope you’ve blocked her and if you dare beg her and come back here to cry, 3 strokes of cane 🦯

Una go Dey fall person hand👨‍🦯

Kingbuhari:
If I know what I know today I will not know any woman until I reach 35 years .. they rendered my early years useless with s*Bleep but that God I recovered those lose years

Samantha125:
I'm a wannabe...

Uptheante:
Be sincere with me pls.

Are you Zulu, Xhosa, Sotho or a white South African?

Samantha125:
I'm none of the below mentioned...

Uptheante:
Which ethnicity are you pls?

According to a Nigerian proverb "he who asks questions never loses his way?"

Samantha125:
I'm Urhobo from Delta State...

Uptheante:
No wonder, detected that rare Urhobo beauty from your profile pic.
That's why I was curious when you wrote you are Limpopoian from South Africa 🤔

Samantha125:
Ke a leboga, meaning "thank you" in Urhobo...

I'm just using SA for cruise...

Uptheante:
I thought as much.

Anyway, have a nice day with lots of fun 🍷🍾

Angelfrost:
I would want to agree with you, but NAH!

Life is not that straightforward, Chief.

Good girls still end up in regrets, and such arrogant ladies end up married to great husbands.

Good hearted virgins marry and end up waiting long years for pregnancy, while street wh0res marry and churn out babies like ATM machines dispensing cash.

Same way the best brains who are honest end up in misery and penury while dropouts that are lowlifes roll in wealth!


Life can never be fair nor balanced.

The young man should move on and try to get past this humiliation... I guess he has since he chose to share it online.

Kalulu44:
Who told you it's love that is the issue here, or that the guy isn't yet package to her taste

OvertheTop:
A broke Girl o.
Broke Girl with High Taste.

addexx:
So in your opinion how do men get to date women they like without asking her out? You guys will just be giving impractical advice. Asking a lady out is actually a bold move in defining the relationship and not wasting your time hoping like a simp while someone else is eating from the cookie jar.

Jakumo:
Fellas, this man's failed mission is a fine example of what a man should NEVER ask a woman. Any man foolhardy enough to formally apply for the official post of "boyfriend" will only succeed in killing off any chance of romance that might have existed BECAUSE that kind of question carries so much baggage as to erase whatever attraction the woman might have initially felt for the man if only he had kept things simple.

A young woman faced with a man applying to be her boyfriend will immediately sense that the man is lacking in confidence, and likely to become jealous and possessive as soon as the woman replies that such a formal relationship can start. Instead of going that old-school job application approach to entering the promised land, it is far better to keep things playful, flirtatious, and light hearted, so the girl can simply go with the flow, without being placed under pressure by such a formalized applications to hang pipe.

Yusufisraelj:
Oh please spare us the rants.

Except a guy is foolish enough to assume himself into relationship because he slept with a lady who allowed him.

Boundaries exist for a reason, it's better to define things than to play along into unfavorable outcomes. It saves time and let you focus, than playing around like someone without a goal.

Nyascobar1414:
..

How sir?
Is it the STIs or addiction to the sex?

bende7t:
Seriously bro!!!
They turned a first class material into a second class product, if it were possible they would have destroyed the full career.
Thank God in all. After having numerous heart breaks and drama filled relationship, I had to step back and evaluate my life.
This gender will blame you for their mistakes!!!
They are not worth spending time on.
Am prepping my son not to fall for their manipulations
Very confused gender