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Ironfaceman:
Some nairalanders will begin to cry even though the story is farfetched. Because charity is not imbibe in them.

To them life is a give and take. But if God had put charity in the power of your hands
Do it.

This isn't about whether something is imbibed or not; it's unwise to train someone else's child with the expectation that they will care for you simply because you invested in their upbringing. It would just be advisable to train the child and expect nothing in return.

vikstandon:
You were used by both as poverty alleviation tool.

The mother (his supposed wife) must have maintained relationship with the father of her daughter (Ex).

Sorry to the man!

I would only consider a single woman, if the father of her child or former mate is dead, no matter the claim or attestation of good behavior.

That's no longer a single mother but a WIDOW.
WIDOWS are far much better & safer than the shittttt narrated above, provided the cause of husband's death can be deduced.

A simp, will always be a simp. How can you father tge daughter of a universe donor.....no be juju be that.

As you lay your bed, you lie in it.....

Rule number 1: Do not date a single mother
Rule number 2: Do not ignore rule number 1

I have come to realise that 90% of women have no depth. They only value who meets their current needs. If you like sacrifice your left hand to keep them alive, when they are saved they will leave you for the man with 2 hands. There are 10% who have values and if you jam them, you have struck gold.

God1000:
His words …



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And what was this man expecting

,,,,, There's a parable in Benin that says; Nòr biòmò èànòr...Meaning-- who born dis pikin na im be d question wey pple go ask.

That is very unfair and also unlike a female child. But then, people have an exaggerated image of the absent parent. They will think if he/she were present, all their problems in life would never have existed. Which is not always true and they may never find out. Only few realise the absentee wouldn't have made any difference.

I commend parents that are doing it alone or on behalf of someone else. Step fathers, step mothers, single parents, foster parents and guardians.

God1000:
Hmm, this is serious oo, but to be honest I prefer donating money to orphanage homes, NGOs and and other charity organizations than taking such risk

Infact I will receive more blessings from God for helping the less privileged with such huge amount of money

Lastly, if you want to do it, do it without expecting anything in return

na so I want Dey.

I want to start putting myself first.

nifemi25:
This is one of the problem you face when you married a single mother... No matter how you care for your step daughter , her biological father will surely shows up from no where when it times to reap what you have sow....

He doesn't even have to show up , she will go look for her father.

You see those single mothers that was once married and failed, avoid them . Don't listen to their emotional stories to buy your heart. If you married such category you are finished.

SpaceX:
Mr step up daddy, your eye don clear, anyways I doubt this. This story may probably be fabricated

This story sounds real, it happens.

Sorry to the kind hearted man who has now been taken for granted.

The mother whom you said see nothing about her daughters behavior is an evil woman and a gold digger. She is the person that encouraged the girl to do what is doing.

You don't need such ungrateful fellow in your life.

My advice is just move on and forget them, God will reward you for your kindness

This story is very pathetic and a good reason to avoid single mothers and if you must marry a single mother take a stand against her bringing in another man's child into your home.

Sorry to the kind hearted man who has now been taken for granted.

The mother whom you said see nothing about her daughters behavior is an evil woman and a gold digger. She is the person that encouraged the girl to do what is doing.

You don't need such ungrateful fellow in your life.

My advice is just move on and forget them, God will reward you for your

Tenrack:
naso e easy. When the deadbeat still dey knack her for side. Now you see why sensible men don't want to have anything to do with single moms? the baggage is too much. Far outweighs whatever momentary gain is there. No worth the hassle

Then she is not serious, a person who abandons you to take care of the child you have together, shouldn’t even be worth your attention. Godforbid but if na me, I won’t even be talking to you

Seunomobo:
I can never ever believe this story..

This is another story to generate traffic and poison the minds of step dad's towards their step daughters......

There's an Ibo proverb that proves that what the man said is the truth. "Ozuzu zucha, onye nwe nwa nwe nwa" This translates literally to mean it is a wasted effort trying to raise someone else child because the child would still go back to his/her real parents

kpankpangolo:
Nairaland and lies.

you everything is always lie to you, u no wan change.

Tohsynetita1:
Many of you are saying it’s fabricated, Dey play, those stories you do hear of radio programme that are more terrible than this ? Are they also fake?
The thing is things they happen for this world, yesterday I saw a woman that has 8 children for 8 husbands, if it were to be online stories, I would have thought it was fabricated.
The story of military man that was burnt with petrol by his wife; who will believe such story if not from good sources?
Bad things are happening in this world, just pray not to experience such.

Allow. Is this not how they insisted for many years that no "sane" lady will leave the man who sponsored her education until the evidences started trickling in?

Those monikers saying the post is fabricated are mostly females and they know what they are doing. Don't be deceived that some of those monikers have "m" in their usernames. On Nairaland, most moniker with "f" in their username are males with two descending balls. The gender neutral usernames or with "m" in their usernames are mostly women. So you shouldn't be surprised as they're simply protecting their interests. Enough warnings have been sounded. Any man who wants to date a single mum or raise her child as his can go ahead.

SlavaUkraini:
He had it coming....

Never expect anything from step-children. Even your own children may ignore you

I've always educate people that whatever you are doing for your children, step kids or anyone out there. Do not stand, expecting anything back in the future. I always told my kids to work hard for their future as I'm not counting on them for my old age too. God will see parents out IJN.

That is an exceptional case. Was it not on the same forum where I read how some girls built a house for their step dad after he trained them? By the way, I grew up hearing my mom say this: "if you are training a child, remember you are training them for their parents". I think it is the bitter truth.

Prettychild:
Then she is not serious, a person who abandons you to take care of the child you have together, shouldn’t even be worth your attention. Godforbid but if na me, I won’t even be talking to you

You would be surprised. Most of these single mom would accept the man in a heartbeat. Some might take a little while convincing but soon you'll see them hop into bed with the same man. It's more common than you think. That's how they give keep giving birth outside marriage.

All these south African people self

Kajaard:
This is why I keep telling my fellow men never to date single mothers. Her child will never appreciate anything you do for them and the mother will not allow you discipline the child as well.

Single mums are a huge baggage every right thinking man should avoid.

Chai

God1000:
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for this post wetin dey funny 🤣🤣 me pass be say her mother sees nothing wrong about it....

Laughing at people like this is what befits them. I once had heated argument on issue like this with a colleague of mine.

He sought for my opinion concerning a single mum he fell in love with, that the lady asserted that any man that would marry her should be ready to accept her son as well. I advised him not to trade the path - a journey he would later regret he embarked on. He was trying to avoid all the shortcomings, I unveiled to him, would happen on the long run.

This is one of the shortcomings I highlighted for my so called colleague!

It is so disheartening and saddening to train another man's child as a guy, and at the end the irresponsible man who abandoned the child when he or she was little comes to lay claim to the child all the in name of "He/She is my blood."

God1000:
His words …



https://www.facebook.com/100067538267625/posts/pfbid0BaeexCKaVUKYyf4ymr62ANFLdP7h8s2KeRadqLjxYAron3JRj6STFAYEKawPsjxBl/

If the mother sees nothing wrong in it then obviously you were lied to by the mother.

Kajaard:
This is why I keep telling my fellow men never to date single mothers. Her child will never appreciate anything you do for them and the mother will not allow you discipline the child as well.

Single mums are a huge baggage every right thinking man should avoid.

You are 100% right, they are meant for those polygamous Alhajis and chiefs. Normally no right thinking young single man should take up a responsibility from a single mother while her baby dad is still very much alive.

One can manage to marry a young widow with no more than a kid or two but not a single mother whose her husband is still alive.

Kajaard:
This is why I keep telling my fellow men never to date single mothers. Her child will never appreciate anything you do for them and the mother will not allow you discipline the child as well.

Single mums are a huge baggage every right thinking man should avoid.

This is scary what should they do then?

pocohantas:
That is very unfair and also unlike a female child. But then, people have an exaggerated image of the absent parent. They will think if he/she were present, all their problems in life would never have existed. Which is not always true and they may never find out. Only few realise the absentee wouldn't have made any difference.

I commend parents that are doing it alone or on behalf of someone else. Step fathers, step mothers, single parents, foster parents and guardians.

You are a very intelligent person, there is obvious mystery behind knowing one biological parents. You mayb nice to a child for 50 years, the moment he discover you are not the biological parent, he will want to find the truth behind his root or existence.

Training another man's children in the name of marriage when he is still very much alive is the most dumbest or senseless thing a man can do.

Men sef will never learn
Stupid people

God1000:
Hmm, this is serious oo, but to be honest I prefer donating money to orphanage homes, NGOs and and other charity organizations than taking such risk

Infact I will receive more blessings from God for helping the less privileged with such huge amount of money

Lastly, if you want to do it, do it without expecting anything in return

It's a risk worth taken,if you really did your best sincerely the stepdaughter will still remember in time of need.

SWATMan:
There's an Ibo proverb that proves that what the man said is the truth. "Ozuzu zucha, onye nwe nwa nwe nwa" This translates literally to mean it is a wasted effort trying to raise someone else child because the child would still go back to his/her real parents

This is not sometimes true, but people get to believe what they want to believe and on that you're right if that's what u believe....

Morenikeji090:
Hmmm it’s deep I can’t fully blame the step daughter this is just a pure example that blood is thicker than water. And for step daughter you don’t have to ignore your step father at least if you can’t relate with him fully like your real father at least think of the old days and try to make a good relationship with him has well..

the truth remains that, some brainwashed step daughter just develop certain hatred for that very thoughts that the man closest to their mum is not even their biological father. this is an eye opener for men. same way a single mother chose to go with another man that is not their baby's father out of helplessness. within them, they constantly wish their baby father is the one they ended up with. this is a concept of 'not everyone we need we truly wants'. at anytime a single mother have the opportunity to be with her baby father, she wont think twice and wont mind the feelings of the present man inn her life irrespective of how kind such man is and how many years theyve been together before calling it quit and moving in with her baby father.

They are always readily equipped with the excuses 'for the sake of my child'. if I must be sincere, it can never be at advantage of the new man doing all he could to give her and her kid(s) a good life.

for example, 3 parties in a game. A single mother, the daughter and the good guy. if for any reason their is bond between the guy and the mother and the bond is not too good with her daughter, she will flag a problem to it. same way the guy must bond with the step daughter and the mother. but she or anyone wouldn't see it as a problem if only the mother bonds with the guy and her child chose not to, also it is cool if the child bond and the mother doesn't bond in real sense. what this means is that, for any reason the guy must maintain a close bond with the two parties for peace to rein, but any or even non of the party can chose not to bond with him.

They constantly act it and even rub it on the step dad's face that their child is a priority and they are not willing to stress or bother themselves an inch for the man.

It is typical of single mothers to go weeks without hearing their single father's voice for as long as her daughter is with her. but she will constantly call and pretend to care if her child is with you or around you. at such time, the man attracts her interest.

may God safe us from known and unknown evil..