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This was well written

Well done OP!

how can you entrust fried fish in the care of a cat

pocohantas:
Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.
In many cases you think you can eat once and not go back. Then you convince yourself it is not that deep and keep going back.

Generally the culprits bank on lack of consequences or the ignorance of their spouses.

Stolen meat is sweeter, same goes for stolen sex

Chairman. Nothing concern devil for this kind scenero. Devil fit even sue you for accusing em wrongly. No be everything devil hand dey inside but just the person's gradual choice and discision wey compound then afterwards comes consequence.

Lalami3232:
Are you saying it's not the devil's work that we have more non-virgins (fairly used) than virgins(pure and undefiled)?
Are you saying that the high rate of paternity fraud by non-virgins isn't from the workshop of the devil?
Are you saying that the rate at which non-virgins commit abortions isn't a craft of the devil? Oga, devil hand dey inside

What do I really know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Yorubastardz:
Dey whine yourself

You never see girls wey get 10 besties
Out of that 10 only 2 go don knack.

Women know this game better than men.

A woman can get close to you just so she can benefit from you. Not sex
Na man dey always think sex sex sex

For a woman no sexual relationship with a guy is the best. Because the guy will do anything to please her with the hope of getting some puna

That is the rabbit chasing carrot
Back in the days a girl I was toasting I saw her contact list and my name was saved as Daniel crunchies. Imagine just because we dey like hang out for crunches...

You go see Mathhew blue car
Who be Mathew blue car?? Another simp she dey call when she need free ride for campus

After then I realize why women like to have male friends. Na her slaves be that
She can have many male friends that are competing to get a sniff of her puna

Out of that many guys she call bestie.
90%are doing free manual labour
only 10% of them go don chop her on the low

I can't be friends with a girl who is not ready to be giving me to/tow from time to time

Lalami3232:
Are you saying it's not the devil's work that we have more non-virgins (fairly used) than virgins(pure and undefiled)?
Are you saying that the high rate of paternity fraud by non-virgins isn't from the workshop of the devil?
Are you saying that the rate at which non-virgins commit abortions isn't a craft of the devil? Oga, devil hand dey inside

What do I really know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Somebody is impersonating the devil, check very well

Once you are physically attracted to a woman, being friends with her is a risk..... Better go and marry.

If you know, you know.

Lovit:
Las las, it's still the devil's handiwork

Abi oo

pocohantas:
Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.
In many cases you think you can eat once and not go back. Then you convince yourself it is not that deep and keep going back.

Generally the culprits bank on lack of consequences or the ignorance of their spouses.

you that don't have boyfriend

Some of us still date and don't consummate the relationship, in spite of being in close proximity with our partners.

Don't dine with the devil. If you must, do it with a long spoon. The keyword is decency, morality and chastity. Don't throw yourself into a person's arms. E fit cause trouble.

Yea... Its possible to be in relationship with your female friend and still not end in bed.

It depends on both definition of their friendship even if close intimacy start coming. Always go back to the drawing board to understand your union with eachother.

Antinatalismmmm will stop every form of heartaches and rubbishes in this world.

We just need to sacrifice for this common goal. But alas! We are all selfish.

papiilo:
you that don't have boyfriend

So? I need to have one to know cheating is intentional? Komkom🥫 head.

Lalami3232:
Are you saying it's not the devil's work that we have more non-virgins (fairly used) than virgins(pure and undefiled)?
Are you saying that the high rate of paternity fraud by non-virgins isn't from the workshop of the devil?
Are you saying that the rate at which non-virgins commit abortions isn't a craft of the devil? Oga, devil hand dey inside

What do I really know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

You dy mind the mutu btw who be the devil? Him don see am before?
Person go smoke banku finish, begin talk nonsense

THIS NAIRALAND IS UTTERLY USELESS! I ASSUMED THE THREAD WILL CENTRE ON THE MANTRA EVERY ROBBER PARROTS. COME TO SEE IT IS ANOTHER USELESS RELATIONSHIP TIP. UNA NO DEY TIRE TO PURSUE TOTO? TUFIA.

WHO DO AFRICANS THIS THING?! UNSERIOUSNESS IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY.

Yorubastardz:
Dey whine yourself

You never see girls wey get 10 besties
Out of that 10 only 2 go don knack.

Women know this game better than men.

A woman can get close to you just so she can benefit from you. Not sex
Na man dey always think sex sex sex

For a woman no sexual relationship with a guy is the best. Because the guy will do anything to please her with the hope of getting some puna

That is the rabbit chasing carrot
Back in the days a girl I was toasting I saw her contact list and my name was saved as Daniel crunchies. Imagine just because we dey like hang out for crunches...

You go see Mathhew blue car
Who be Mathew blue car?? Another simp she dey call when she need free ride for campus

After then I realize why women like to have male friends. Na her slaves be that
She can have many male friends that are competing to get a sniff of her puna

Out of that many guys she call bestie.
90%are doing free manual labour
only 10% of them go don chop her on the low

OG player
Oldtaker wey don mature
Hehehe

Many are ignorant of what DEVIL is . Anybody becomes a devil when he or she activates negative ideas. Lucifer, an arch angel was the first devil. After him, uncountable devils have emerged. Don't get it twisted . Lucifer is not THE DEVIL , he is the first devil. Many other creations have become and are becoming devils over the ages. We have devils as men, devils as women, devils as spirits and even devils as animals. If you know this, you will never again say what you did was caused by devil. You became a devil when you activated ideas against the express will of GOD the Creator.

pocohantas:
Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.
In many cases you think you can eat once and not go back. Then you convince yourself it is not that deep and keep going back.

Generally the culprits bank on lack of consequences or the ignorance of their spouses.

I no gree.


Cheating is unintentional 100%

Accidents happen

Tallesty1:
I no gree.


Cheating is unintentional 100%

Accidents happen

Lol! I wish that was the case. 😃
People know what they are doing o.

pocohantas:
So? I need to have one to know cheating is intentional? Komkom🥫 head.

of course, how would you know sth u haven't experienced

pocohantas:
Nothing like devil's handwork.
Cheating is very calculated and intentional.
In many cases you think you can eat once and not go back. Then you convince yourself it is not that deep and keep going back.

Generally the culprits bank on lack of consequences or the ignorance of their spouses.

you are 100% right. Exactly what my wife did to me a month to our wedding

meobizy:
THIS NAIRALAND IS UTTERLY USELESS! I ASSUMED THE THREAD WILL CENTRE ON THE MANTRA EVERY ROBBER PARROTS. COME TO SEE IT IS ANOTHER USELESS RELATIONSHIP TIP. UNA NO DEY TIRE TO PURSUE TOTO? TUFIA.

WHO DO AFRICANS THIS THING?! UNSERIOUSNESS IS THE ORDER OF THE DAY.

Dpsychologist:
He who uses sugarcane as a walking stick will soon eat it. And you cannot keep a monkey and a banana in the same place.

Let’s stop pretending. A man and a woman cannot be besties for long without emotions getting involved — especially when they’re constantly together, talking daily, sharing secrets, and soothing each other’s emotional wounds. You can call it “pure friendship” all you want, but biology and human nature have never signed that agreement with you.

Every emotional bond carries a seed of attraction. And when that seed is watered with consistency, vulnerability, and comfort, it will germinate. That’s not temptation — that’s science and psychology teaming up against your denial.

When your girlfriend has a male bestie or your boyfriend has a female bestie, you’re not being insecure for feeling uneasy. You’re being observant. History has receipts, and patterns don’t lie.

It always starts innocently — a late-night chat, inside jokes, venting about the main partner, “we just vibe differently,” and before long, they’re emotionally entangled. Then one weak moment later, it becomes “it was the devil’s handwork.”
No, it wasn’t. It was poor boundaries wearing perfume and smiling.

Let’s be honest — emotional intimacy is more dangerous than physical touch. When someone knows your deepest fears, insecurities, and dreams, they gain access to your heart’s password. And the moment your partner finds that comfort in another person, emotional betrayal has already begun — long before any physical line is crossed.

So no, it’s not paranoia to draw boundaries. It’s wisdom.
Because prevention will always be cheaper than damage control.

If you don’t want chaos, don’t build the stage for it.
If you don’t want to “blame the devil,” stop giving him rehearsal space in your friendship.

Men and women can be friends — yes.
But best friends? Constantly close, emotionally bonded, and always available? That’s not friendship anymore — that’s a slow-motion love story waiting for the right mistake.

Boundaries are not mistrust. They’re respect for reality.
Because as long as blood flows through veins and attraction remains a human instinct, no one is immune to the fire that emotional closeness can ignite.

So before you say “it was the devil’s handwork,” remember — the devil doesn’t force hands. He just creates opportunities.

#BoundariesSaveRelationships
#PatternsDontLie
#PreventionOverExcuses

It is reasonable to limit chatting or outings with the opposite sex while in a relationship in order to avoid unnecessary jealousy and to respect your partner's feelings. But that is about consideration and boundaries; it does not mean that friendship between a man and a woman is destined to turn romantic or sexual.

The idea that emotional closeness between a man and a woman will automatically lead to sexual attraction is not biological and does not reflect everyone's reality. If that were the case, relationships between even opposite-sex siblings would frequently become romantic; which clearly is not the case.

Many friendships feel more like sibling relationships than romantic ones. If someone even begins to develop feelings, adults are capable of recognizing the change and creating distance or adjusting boundaries. Intimacy does not simply happen by accident; it involves conscious choices from the people involved.

Attraction is personal and experienced differently by each individual. Not everyone thinks about sex or interprets emotional closeness as sexual. Personally, sex is not something that naturally sits at the front of my mind when interacting with people. Even when my bf says romantic things like he can't wait to kiss me or talks about marriage and having kids, my first thoughts are often about how awkward physical closeness feels. There are many things I personally find awkward, I even find it uncomfortable to eat from the same plate or share utensils with someone, whether male or female.

Everyone experiences friendship and closeness differently; friendship doesn't automatically lead to romance.