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Meme1312:
This is a failed marriage.... Plan ur exit lowkey, when she delivers annd the child is not urs leave the marriage.... Just chill small and u need to stop being timid else she will always trample on you.... From what you are saying my best advice is plan ur exit except you are leing

Xso666:
Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Xso666:
➜Put yourself in my shoes please

Kobojunkie:
I am also putting myself in her shoes as well. So, what keeps you from helping a woman whom you confirm you married as a virgin at this point in getting advice that may help her see her world better?

Tenrack:
This is for guys that trust their women. Keep trusting, okay.

Xso666:
Well I don’t think all women are the same because I didn’t get to date her properly before bringing her to Lagos and like someone said on this forum that when I brought her to Lagos she met other people and noticed we were not compatible

verminnel:
The baby isnt yours...

Xso666:
➜Well I don’t think she would be interested in joining this forum but I will talk to her about it that’s if I don’t bore her with my advice

Kobojunkie:
Show her some of the posts from the Family section so she can get an idea of what people come on here to do. There are also places on other forums, like Reddit and Threads, where many women go to talk to each other and share experiences, she might be interested in as well.

Auxtan:
I was considering marrying a girl through recommendations and stuffs without true dating and stuffs. But this your story is a testament that it doesn't work out well like that. I believe you brought your wife from another town and most possibly a village because she didn't know any man and is well behaved, the reason why she's a virgin according to you. But here's the thing, she is just discovering you and it turned out you both don't match. The fact she started flings with someone else due to the nature of your job, if that there was any real connection before marriage you would have seen these signs and would have made a better decision concerning her.

One advice you got wrong on this platform is reacting quickly to your discoveries. Sometimes a man sits back and acts stupid till he gets a verified established fact before acting. The moment you saw these signs, especially the day you came back earlier to spoil her plans, you would have stepped back a bit and acted stupid to buy yourself more time to verify your suspicion, remember until established suspicions are not facts.

Reacting quickly to your suspicions damaged your relationship with your wife that was why she went from probably hiding what she feels about you to showing you and telling you to your face.

For her pregnancy you are unsure about, I will advice you to be calm about the situation, I know you're emotionally drained but a man of your age should learn to be emotionally strong as every happenings is all life lessons. Wait for her to put to birth to ascertain with certainty of the baby's paternity through DNA test. Start saving for it because that will be only how you can be certain of that the baby is yours or not.

Be strong.

Xso666:
Thank you for this but I’m still considering if I should wait till she delivers

Diamond098454:
You said she was a virgin when you mate her that means you open that golden door like Senator Ned and Gina so, why are you doubting if the pregnancy is yours or not? Well, it's first time pregnancy she maybe going through a lot. Don't take a decision that you will regret later calm down let her deliver

Xso666:
Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Xso666:
Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

drstranged:
These are the kinda stuffs the Mods should move to front page. This guy needs help.
My advice is to send her away and later do DNA on the child. If it's yours, take care your child, though I doubt that child is yours if what you have narrated is true. But her frolocking secretly with another man is enough grounds for divorce. Your life might even be in danger. Once a woman's heart is with someone else she can kill you to have her way with that man. That's how fish brained that gender is. Like most persons have suggested, send her back to her parents house. You can delay divorce until the child is born. Do DNA and whichever way it goes, still push for the divorce. The DNA is only to confirm if the child is yours. If it's yours, then be a part of that child's life by taking care of it. But on no condition should you take her back. Women, once they have gone down that line of cheating, can never change. They might pretend to have repented and changed, but that is only to buy time and re-strategize. And her comeback might certainly be disastrous for you. Never forgive cheating or the semblance of it. Shalom.

Tolu2024:
Let her know you are seeing someone else if she feel guilty you can take her serious but if she don’t care just forget about her .

You can wait for her to give birth and perform a DNA 🧬 to be on a safer side.

Tonynelson:
Don’t send a woman out with pregnancy, it’s not tradition. When she gives birth, ascertain the paternity of the child, then you know what next to do. Good luck

Xso666:
Thanks for this idea i want to take the bold step but some people advice me to wait till I get concrete evidence against her and that she might be acting due to pregnancy hormones and all

Xso666:
Thanks for this because I don’t want to act based on emotions and then later get blamed for everything

Xso666:
Please guys I am seriously dealing with marital issues and I have posted on this forum as regards to how my wife turned into something else in my very own eyes. Well in my previous post I talked about how my wife changed in pregnancy though I am still not sure the pregnancy is mine as I have stated on my previous post how she is secretly seeing a guy in my street who sells female wears and I am a kind of person that don’t often stay in the house. To cut the long story short my wife has been pregnant for some months now and all I can say is that this past months have been hell for me as I barely even have 10 minutes conversation with my wife as she nags about everything and anything I do. I stopped getting jobs since my wife got pregnant and since then I have been at home but my wife has decided to make the house unbearable for me and this time she goes out to see the guy with her pregnancy and sometimes makes some secret calls and when I try to confront her she tells me to my face that I’m boring and making her uncomfortable. I have decided to send her back to her parent but I’m considering if I should wait till she gives birth before acting or I just take the bold step now. Please guys I need mature minds to talk to me on how to go about this and also she has refused having sex with me due to pregnancy and I have started masturbating too much and I am not having it again and I am ready to loose my mind and act otherwise but I don’t want to act based on emotions which is why I came back to this faceless forum to seek advice and also I need assistance in anyway just to stand on my feet as a man especially during this pregnancy before she gives birth.

Tenrack:
[sup][/sup]bro send her home after she delivers