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DiarisGodoo:
Touché! We're having an intellectual discussion on a faceless public forum. I have no way of knowing if anything u tell me is true. Likewise I could tell u I'm married or not married, you have no way of knowing and it has no relevance to the topic.

Best regards to your non-hypergamous wife, who loves you for no reason and without seeing any potential in you!
Take good care and thanks for your contributions

I just dey look am dey laugh.

Incels forever obsessed with women, lol
Women aren't the cause of your miserable lives naa

AllBlack:
Can you carefully Show me where I attacked anyone? I dare you.

Just because your receptors interpreted my words as an attack doesn't make it so... or are you trying to say something? take your gaslighting elsewhere. I merely asked questions in relation to the comment that was addressed to me.

Do you know how demeaning it is for the guy to say YOU WISH over a testimony I gave on first hand and present tense basis? That is equivalent to calling me a liar but I didn't expect you of all people to see or even recognise it let alone addressing it since that is your hallmark and trade.

I should check whose comment? So you are now the umpire of uniform commenting? Is there a template I should follow or you just feel like commenting to feel a little relevant? step aside and try somewhere else, this is not your regular water size... you will drown here.

When your wife shock you, don't come and be wailing on Nairaland oooo

A word is a nice for a wise.

AWaLT

Kobojunkie:
1. We are hham. Beings and hence incapable of unconditional love. A man or women telling you they love another just the way he/she is either has a reason (by virtue of being a human being after all or confuse what may be attachment with love.. -- something that a whole load of people out there do. 🥱🥱🥱

We would need to drill down to the particulars of the supposed love in each case to know exactly but is behind the claim. 🥱🥱

2. Hypergamy is but a determinant but a safest option for most women when choosing love. Note the difference, please. So we do not keep going around in circles. 🥱🥱🥱

You keep saying human beings are incapable and it's not true. A woman loves her child because of WHO he is, not because of anything else - that's what we mean by unconditional. Likewise, a man can love a woman regardless that she is very poor and of the lowest status and even "ugly". Women generally DON'T love like that - you must tick certain boxes before she "loves".

I said hypergamy is by far the most, I never said it is the only

Tenrack:
before you buy am for her. Buy for your mama first to avoid stories that touch. Don't be too comfortable all the same. E get why

Na your mama I wan buy for. Adviser of the world

Tenrack:
I like men like am. E go clear for him eyes

Tenrack:
I just dey look am dey laugh.

No mind am

Meedon:
When your wife shock you, don't come and be wailing on Nairaland oooo

A word is a nice for a wise.

AWaLT

shey na you she wan shock before?

Just because your momsy run your popsy 7-0 no mean say everybody dey like that.

Face your life and stop EXPECTING doom in the lives of others.

helinues:
But the person did not attack you, why are you being aggressive?

Check the person you mentioned response's on the same comments by the op.

Make we dey try and be respecting each other even when we are having contrary opinions

Thank u very much!

Jman06:
This is a very big lie! If the writer said that they no longer love their husbands, I may agree. Implying they married whom they never "loved" is a fallacy because these days, ladies mostly choose whom they marry. The problem here is knowing what "love" really is! Getting infatuated with a man who tickles her fancy in terms of physical attraction or wealth is NOT love! Any lady who married for the above two reasons will definitely get tired in the long run and people like the poster of this thread would start saying that she was forced to marry whom she never loved.

Point of the video is that women calculate (consciously or subconsciously) before they love AND MARRY! Men don't. You'd hardly ever see a female CEO love AND MARRY the office cleaner. But men do such things all the time.

Saccharine:
Incels forever obsessed with women, lol
Women aren't the cause of your miserable lives naa

How are we incels? Is it us that posted the video?

Meedon:
When your wife shock you, don't come and be wailing on Nairaland oooo

A word is a nice for a wise.

AWaLT

In VDM voice (talking to him) "you'll loorn, and you'll loorn the hard way!"
nlfpmod

https://youtube.com/shorts/5CgTWe6YHLg?si=JyOD_yl18pe9J0Zx 🙂

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You keep saying human beings are incapable and it's not true. A woman loves her child because of WHO he is, not because of anything else - that's what we mean by unconditional.
✓ Likewise, a man can love a woman regardless that she is very poor and of the lowest status and even "ugly". Women generally DON'T love like that - you must tick certain boxes before she "loves".

I said hypergamy is by far the most, I never said it is the only

I should probably have started by asking you what you think Love is. 😞😞😞

Those are tales you were fed to keep you ignorant. A woman cannot love a child because of who he is. There are other things involved in that which you choose to interpret in that way. Women and men are humans. 🥱🥱

2. For the umpteenth time, a human cannot love unconditionally. Our love is conditional...based on ideas/rules that we invariably gain a benefit from in some way -- emotionally, psychologically or materially, etc., , but never none. 🥱🥱🥱

3. And I already explained that women tend more towards hypergamy to at least guarantee themselves one potential benefit out of a supposed romantic relationship. Women who mostly use hypergamy in filtering down their range of potential mates typically do so because they realize that the chances are high that they benefit little to nothing else in the relationship otherwise. 🤔🤔

Also, if you are fully aware that hypergamy is not the only option, then do you keep insisting that women are hypergamous? That makes no sense! 🥱🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ Point of the video is that women calculate (consciously or subconsciously) before they love AND MARRY! Men don't. You'd hardly ever see a female CEO love AND MARRY the office cleaner. But men do such things all the time.

The video only reveals the level of intelligence of those who agree with it and the news is bleak. 😩😩😩

What is the ratio of male CEOS to female CEOs abeg that you would expect to compare them to each other in the way you attempt.

Also, stud after study has revealed that when it comes to romantic relationships, men have more to gain than women who in most cases carry much of the emotional, mental and physical burden of keeping/running the relationship by themselves. So why expect women in such relationships not to at least look out for themselves with all of that? 🥱🥱🥱

It is men that truly loves. A man can marry a school drop out and still invest in her to become somebody. A woman lacks the capacity to love. What translate to love for them is the benefits they enjoy in the relationship. Know this and know peace. She's not with you because she loves you.

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You are defining "unconditional" too broadly. For our purposes it means loving someone for who they are and NOT for what they are or anything attached to them. Men can love that way. Wonen can't.
✓ Hypergamy is the chief determinant of a woman’s "love". Hence a high value woman can love and be willing to be third wife of a high value man than be only wife of a man of status lower than her's. The sexes are DIFFERENT!

Look up the meaning of the word in the dictionary if you are struggling to wrap your mind around it's meaning and application. We humans are incapable of a wholly unconditional entanglement with our fellow human beings. The labor of love is done either for emotional, mental or emotional benefit implying there are conditions/reasons behind everything we do for qbs with others at least within ourselves. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Whether you imagine it to be chief of not,the fact is the criteria isn't the only one available out there used but women in filtering out potentially unwanted love interests hence it is invalid to claim that women are hypergamous.

AllBlack:
my wife is in the 1% and even if you split that one percent to 0.5%... she love me like say na jazz i use.
tested 1001 times over.
I need to buy that babe a nice benz + 50 million naira cash gift.

So help me God. Amen

You are a very big OKOKO.
You think your woman is different?

Kobojunkie:
1. The video is wrong! Love, in and of itself, is conditional. A man cannot love a woman unconditionally because he is a human being who conditionally decides which woman to love and when to love and maybe even marry her — all of that is conditioned on parameters he has on selecting who to love, marry, and remain married tto.

To say a man can love a woman unconditionally is to suggest that a man is not even a human being at all.

2. A woman's happiness cannot be derived from that which is impossible for a woman. In the same way, a man's happiness cannot be desired from that which is impossible for him as well.

Don't just take what you read(or hear) at face value. Analyze it to ensure it makes sense before you decide whether to run with it or put it back in the trash where it belongs.

Diswan go fit see husband marry like dis

Attacking men and masculinity intentionally.

tiswell:
✓ Diswan go fit see husband marry like dis Attacking men and masculinity intentionally.

Are you sure you are OK in the head? What part of that is me attacking men? Is masculinity of ignorance and denial then? 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
I should probably have started by asking you what you think Love is. 😞😞😞

Those are tales you were fed to keep you ignorant. A woman cannot love a child because of who he is. There are other things involved in that which you choose to interpret in that way. Women and men are humans. 🥱🥱

2. For the umpteenth time, a human cannot love unconditionally. Our love is conditional...based on ideas/rules that we invariably gain a benefit from in some way -- emotionally, psychologically or materially, etc., , but never none. 🥱🥱🥱

3. And I already explained that women tend more towards hypergamy to at least guarantee themselves one potential benefit out of a supposed romantic relationship. Women who mostly use hypergamy in filtering down their range of potential mates typically do so because they realize that the chances are high that they benefit little to nothing else in the relationship otherwise. 🤔🤔

Also, if you are fully aware that hypergamy is not the only option, then do you keep insisting that women are hypergamous? That makes no sense! 🥱🥱🥱

You watched the video. What it is basically saying is - "A woman's love is conditional and Women generally don’t MARRY based on love". The operative word is "MARRY". And the video is RIGHT!
A mother will love her son no matter what. That's what we mean by unconditional love.

I didn't say women should not be hypergamous or thst there is no reason why they should be. I only stated the FACT that they are!

Kobojunkie:
The video only reveals the level of intelligence of those who agree with it and the news is bleak. 😩😩😩

What is the ratio of male CEOS to female CEOs abeg that you would expect to compare them to each other in the way you attempt.

Also, stud after study has revealed that when it comes to romantic relationships, men have more to gain than women who in most cases carry much of the emotional, mental and physical burden of keeping/running the relationship by themselves. So why expect women in such relationships not to at least look out for themselves with all of that? 🥱🥱🥱

You arguing somrthing that's long settled. Women love and marry for the most part ONLY after hypergamy has been satisfied. Men don't do that

Kobojunkie:
Look up the meaning of the word in the dictionary if you are struggling to wrap your mind around it's meaning and application. We humans are incapable of a wholly unconditional entanglement with our fellow human beings. The labor of love is done either for emotional, mental or emotional benefit implying there are conditions/reasons behind everything we do for qbs with others at least within ourselves. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Whether you imagine it to be chief of not,the fact is the criteria isn't the only one available out there used but women in filtering out potentially unwanted love interests hence it is invalid to claim that women are hypergamous.

A word could have dozens of meanings. I already told you: for our purposes (FOR OUR PURPOSES!) "unconditional" means loving someone for who they are (which implies you'd love the person same way regardless of what they have or don't have tomorrow, or even if they lose status).

Women ARE hypergamous generally. That's a FACT. I was never saying they shouldn't be or that they have no reason to be

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You watched the video. What it is basically saying is - "A woman's love is conditional and Women generally don’t MARRY based on love". The operative word is "MARRY". And the video is RIGHT!
✓ A mother will love her son no matter what. That's what we mean by unconditional love.
✓ I didn't say women should not be hypergamous or thst there is no reason why they should be. I only stated the FACT that they are!

if you have problems with comprehension then go tackle that before we continue. The video is wrong!

And I have more than given you reasons why at this point , including the fact that love filtered on the basis of hypergamy is also love. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Wrong! Women cannot love even their children unconditionally. I believe you confuse attachment with love is part of the problem here too. Attachment is not love and love is not attachment. 🥱

3. Regardless, the assertions made so far regarding hypergamy in the video are wrong! 🥱🥱

DiarisGodoo:
✓ You arguing somrthing that's long settled. Women love and marry for the most part ONLY after hypergamy has been satisfied. Men don't do that

That a false notion is held by a hoard does not mean the hoard is correct or right. It simply reveals how infectious ignorance can be and how plenty the ignorant really are. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
if you have problems with comprehension then go tackle that before we continue. The video is wrong!

And I have more than given you reasons why at this point , including the fact that love filtered on the basis of hypergamy is also love. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Wrong! Women cannot love even their children unconditionally. I believe you confuse attachment with love is part of the problem here too. Attachment is not love and love is not attachment. 🥱

3. Regardless, the assertions made so far regarding hypergamy in the video are wrong! 🥱🥱

A woman dying or being ready to die for her child, would you consider that love or "attachment"?

Kobojunkie:
That a false notion is held by a hoard does not mean the hoard is correct or right. It simply reveals how infectious ignorance can be and how plenty the ignorant really are. 🥱🥱🥱

Ok, let's get AI to settle the extremely obvious (below)

How many female doctors do you know married to male nurses. Heck, how many female nurses do you even know are married to male nurses?