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Right decision

Kayberg:
Remove your "Point 1".
No sane family will watch the wife of their son murder him in the name of marriage before reacting.

"Points 2 & 3" are good enough and well said without "Point 1".

Aren't you surprised that we can point to one good "counsel" from Junkie? Don't ask for more please!

Caaz:
Congratulations op.


Inu mi dun for you.




Congratulations once again,we should celebrate your divorce with a bowl of cold starch and steaming hot plate of Banga soup..


Bro the wiveshood is proud of you....Damn i m super proud of you.

Ahnie stop making jest of someone's marriage.
Grow up

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

So happy for you .
Just curious 🤨 for the 5 years you guys dated no sign of any red flags at all? 🚩

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife.

i no understand, your wife dey beat you?
omo good men still dey o, diluted with some sprinkle of arindin

lilvicky68:
You waited too long

If not for his siblings, he will still be there, crying like a baby

IamAsiri:
✓ Unfortunately, there is no proper documentation trail here in Nigeria. A person can be an violence offender and his/her name does not pop it up with pictures when searched.

With a population of over 200 million, that country don become wild West be that. 😩😩

Congratulations, nothing worth your life.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

As Nairaland don see say the forum don dey lag behind, I won't be surprised this story was fabricated.

It is when she stabbed you in the neck that you realized that you cannot continue like this. I detest clerics who argue that it is not an excuse that managing the situation and negotiations is the only way.
Like they are waiting until she cut off your head

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

u still de speak queen's English for person weh de mission to end ur life? Run dont look back

I think the only thing that would make a woman or anyone go straight to physical violence with you every time there's an issue is if they know that they you can do absolutely nothing about it.

You should not be anyone's footmat in the name of love.

So sorry man!

pansophist:
Over 100 slaps this year and you’re still there? Wow.

One retaliation at the early stage of the violence could have saved him a lot of troubles and probably saved his marriage but he chose to be subservient.

If he had died, it would have been a clear case of natural selection.

He has little will to live.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

So you mean you courted for 5 years, but couldn't maintain the real thing for even up to two years? That's crazy.

Did she just become violent in your house or love clouded your consideration of her violent nature while courting her? What role have you played in her become hateful/violent towards you? I strongly believe you played a role in this if ever she wasn't violent during courtship.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Until l listen to ur wife side of her story... b4 l will conclude my judgement...

I can't based my judgement only on ur submission

You collect the children

It is when the woman kills their son, that you will understand why it is better for the family to intervene.

Kobojunkie:
Congratulations @OP!1. Why is your family putting their mouth when the decision is yours? Did they have some sort of contract with your wife that they then feel it is their place to interfere in the divorce?

2. Good decision! From your post, it is not clear if you have actually implemented the divorce or if you only recently decided on this.

3. Please, be sure to opt for shared/joint custody of your children(or full custody if you feel your wife is a threat to them), so you can only have a part in the raising of your own children and maybe have them at least 2 weeks out of each month.

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simeonabio:
It is when the woman kills their son, that you will understand why it is better for the family to intervene.

If your family is into doing any such, you better warn them to stay out of husband-and-wife matter, even if divorce, before they meet their match in a woman/man.

I'm sure OP is part of men who kneeled and begged his ex-wife to marry him all in the name of proposing and yeye romance
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Naturally most women don't respect SIMPS. Women can easily see through men and bring out our weakness. But if ur woman know say plenty craze dey your head, tell me how she will hit and beat you. Ko possible
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Even to discuss children's school fee matter with you sef, she will need to comport herself, serve you better dinner and sit quietly bedside you before landing the matter
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But wen una go dey kneel down beg woman to marry u because of booooobs and yaaaaaansh wey go tire you few months into marriage , she sees herself as a demi goddess and starts misbehaving
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Most women don't misbehave to their husbands with craze and money to take care of her the family. Emphasis on the CRAZE aspect
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Men should stop acting like sissies and act like men

dollypi:
What were the fights about? For things to get to the point of stabbing...

It might be a good thing to report the neck stab, just so there's an official record. Take picture evidence of the wound, hospital reports.

Stay away from her. In fact flee. Block her number, communicate strictly via email, so there's a trail.

If you are careless you could still end up dying at her hands.

Then Tinubu Will end up pardoning her.

Kobojunkie:
"For better for worse" was coined by male-focused systems to help keep women in check. Men being encouraged to stand up against the establishment is actually a good thing.

Men standing up against the establishment is actually good because it will help to elongate the lives of the two parties involved.

Imagine in the centuries before women were subjected to all kinds of weird stuffs because of the "for better for worse," mantra.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Wait are you saying there was no signs of her being violent all through this 5 years?? Women can be very deceitful. It's scary

Congratulations sir . I know some people will say no marriage is perfect but please always priorize your mental.health. you might be missing the good thing about her. Maybe she's a good good and good in bed but please, thats not happiness. Congratulations once again

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

She saw you as a weak man.

In marriage there should be a spice of one minute madness from the man once in a while to make sure your wife see you as the leader. University, book or social media will not tell you this.

You courted for 5 years and didn't witnessed these gap in her behavior?

Why wait till after marriage.

I'm sure on your wedding day you both will be happy of building a new home in love.

EmperorIsaac:
Aren't you surprised that we can point to one good "counsel" from Junkie? Don't ask for more please!

It shocked me self that a whole two set of good advice came from that moniker.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

Come and tell us how she took the break up.

guest1234:
I Finally Chose to Walk Away from My Marriage

After deep reflection and repeated attempts to make things work, I have decided to step away from my marriage for the sake of my peace, safety, and well-being.

For a long time, I have endured constant physical and emotional abuse from my wife. During disagreements, she often resorts to violence, slapping, hitting, and using hurtful words. On several occasions, she has even threatened me with sharp objects such as knives and scissors. Unfortunately, today, she carried out that threat and stabbed me in the neck. By the grace of God, it wasn’t fatal, but it was the final straw that made me realize I cannot continue living in fear.

Throughout our marriage, I have done my best to provide for our home and ensure we lacked nothing. Despite my efforts, I have never received her support, emotionally, mentally, or otherwise. I have never raised my hand against her, yet that restraint has often been taken for weakness, giving her the boldness to abuse me repeatedly.

My family, having witnessed much of what I’ve gone through, has now asked her to leave and packed her belongings. She has quarreled with nearly every member of my family and remains in conflict with them.

This decision to end the marriage is not out of anger but self-preservation. I am choosing to prioritize my mental, emotional, and physical health. I have nothing to hide and no intention to tarnish her image; I am only speaking the truth about my experience.

From this point forward, I am focused on healing, rebuilding, and finding peace again.

My own wife dey tell me say na me go commot for house for her, say na men dey leave now not the wife

You have taken the wisest decision in your life. Congratulations dude.

guest1234:
1) My family is taking it as a pain upon themselves because they know that she is taking my weakness as a strength to her because I don't talk or beat her, she has started misbehaving. This said ladies has slapped me over hundred times this year without me retaliate.
2) I started having the thought of divorce when she started misbehaving and hitting me and today when she stab me is what broke the camel back
3) No ( child) issue yet we courted for five years and the marry is one year and 8 months.

Congratulations. Thankfully you don't have any kids together.
If you accept her back
I will be disappointed