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| I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Goodlady(op): 5:18pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man. Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me. What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money. It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him. That's why it's good to do profile check before dating. A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen. Who nor like better thing? When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from. Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.
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| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by immortalcrown(m): 5:20pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Meaning that any man that earns more than you do should disrespect you and should not hesitate to dump you when he finds a lady that earns more than you. What is good for the goose is also good for the gander. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Theomarvelus(m): 5:29pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
I pray you won't fall victim of ritualist that we use 'someone's own money or resources to host or entertain them'. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Nobody: 5:42pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
What happened to you hustling?? Must you date before you can eat and take care of your skin? You can be a hardworking woman instead of waiting for one rich man or you said you can’t respect a man you earn more than, that means if you earn more than your father, you’ll disrespect him?? You just proclaimed yourself as a certified ’treasure hunter’, congrats 🤝 🎊 If God didn’t create men, you wouldn’t take care of your skin or make your hair. Keep waiting for a rich man, you don’t know like attracts like and no man wants to be with a lady that has this kinda thoughts. You better delete this before I post it on your wedding day. ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Nice2023(m): 5:45pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Goodlady:Aunty be calming down. U are right and also very wrong. I and my wife were bankers when we got married. Her salary was more than mine even till date and even when I left the bank to join a federal job. But my side income brings in 40 to 50million per annum. If I had wanted to keep this a secret my wife wouldn't know. So,salary isn't everything aunty. Love first and family goal is key to marriage and not ur skin and those things u just mentioned there. ironically,I don't collect my wife's salary and in fact,I encourage her to save and invest towards retirement. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Wealthyonos(m): 5:58pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Sense just left this post. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 6:09pm On Nov 18, 2025*. Modified: 5:51pm On Nov 19, 2025 |
Nice2023:You said OP is right and wrong, but did not clarify any of this in your comment. ![]() Your wife is lucky that, in your case, things turned out better than they were when she first met you. However, for the vast majority of women out there who married men who earned less at the time, the reality did not turn out the same. That is partly the reason why almost 50% of married women in Nigeria today are breadwinners. Of the others who were not breadwinners, many of them who were not able to attain financial independence before marriage(and maintained it in marriage), a large portion are financially abused by their spouses in marriage. ![]() What OP expressed is a preference many women have, and there is nothing wrong with their choice. Additionally, that choice is facilitated when the woman is financially independent before and throughout the course of the marriage, as we are all aware that even rich men can be stingy towards their own wives and children. ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by papiSNEH(m): 6:28pm On Nov 18, 2025*. Modified: 7:01pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Coming from someone that still uses bra she bought 5 years ago ![]() Kobojunkie:The underwear 👇
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| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 6:31pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
papiSNEH:Are women not meant to wear bras they bought 5 years ago? Heck, I still have underwear from about 10 years ago myself. 🥱🥱🥱 If you keep your clothing well, you have no reason to get rid of them just because some other person don't have the simple skills to care for his own clothes/underwear. 🥱🥱 |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by LIVINGICONREBOR: 7:05pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:kobojunkie, kindly check your acct. I don press something for inside make you use am buy new boxers. You no suppose dey talk some kind things for outside. Wearing the same set of Underwears for 10 years? |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 7:10pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
papiSNEH:How come you think that because your 5-year-old underwear looks like that therefore everyone else's ought to look the same? 😷😷 |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Mirasteel: 7:29pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Same way most men can't date broke and entitled girls/women. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Tolu2024(m): 7:57pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Goodlady:Those people you mentioned don’t marry from poor family or gold diggers they only marry from rich families to form alliances and to build empire which poor family can’t connect. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by PerfectStranger(m): 9:57pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
LIVINGICONREBOR:
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| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by optm(m): 11:05pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Hypnotise: 11:07pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
And if he earns more, will that command your full submission? |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 11:08pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
optm:Did you also know that it is poor men who complain about women from poor backgrounds being able to marry into rich homes? Yeah! 🥱🥱🥱 A woman can only marry a man who wants to marry her, so if a rich man wants to marry a woman from a poor background— something that happens more often than not— why try to shame the woman for this? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 11:09pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Hypnotise:Is respect the same as submission? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Hypnotise: 11:13pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Yes. And loyalty. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by optm(m): 11:14pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:This isn't what the discussion is about. I had to delete my post because when I read it, I realized I came too strong in addressing it. I really do not take those kind of people serious. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 11:15pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Hypnotise:What you are insinuating is that when you show respect to your coworker, it means you submit to him and are also loyal to him? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Hypnotise: 11:36pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Not coworker. President, vice president. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 11:47pm On Nov 18, 2025 |
Hypnotise:I said coworker! Or do you not respect your coworkers, siblings, class mates? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Dzzzz: 2:11am On Nov 19, 2025 |
That one na your own business.. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Sapasenator: 2:14am On Nov 19, 2025 |
Goodlady:Can you tell us your earnings? I wan check something |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by lilsmart(m): 4:11am On Nov 19, 2025 |
My sister, I hear your pain and frustration, but let me explain something about our ways. In our culture, dating is not about one person taking over the financial responsibility that belongs to your father. Your father is the one tasked by tradition and law to train you, care for you, and provide for you until the day he gives you out in marriage. If you want another man to financially "train" you as if he is your father. You are turning relationship into a transaction, not a partnership. Our traditions honor a partnership built on respect, character, and shared vision not just on an account balance. The Paddy Adenuges and Dangotes you mentioned often built their wealth through years of struggle with a supportive partner by their side, not by waiting until they were already rich to find a wife. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Hypnotise: 4:19am On Nov 19, 2025 |
Kobojunkie:Not only coworkers, I respect everyone equally and generally, not until they touch the tiger’s tail and they see operation python dance, because that’s what respecting the wrong people does sometimes, it leads to disrespect. With the instance of siblings, if you happen to have younger ones, I’m sure you respect them, but you don’t submit to them. On the contrary, it is expected they submit to you, by the order of parents and society. Also junior coworkers submit to senior coworker’s authority. Likewise junior students are at the mercy of senior students. Any sign of disobedience will be tagged unruliness. |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by Kobojunkie: 4:26am On Nov 19, 2025*. Modified: 4:49am On Nov 19, 2025 |
Hypnotise:What all of this is telling me is that you know for a fact that Respect IS NOT same thing as submission or loyalty, yet earlier you attempted to convince us that you didn't know this and assumed them to be all one and the same. And I am wondering why you felt the need to waste your time and mine? Why? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by TheBreastSucker(m): 5:20am On Nov 19, 2025 |
Goodlady:I have money but I can only date you if your booobie is firm and sweet. When can I come have a taste for confirmation? ![]() |
| Re: I Can't Respect A Man That's Not Earning More Than Me by ExudeLoveToAll: 6:01am On Nov 19, 2025 |
immortalcrown:Not even a lady that earns more than her because it will be a hard but because no woman ever accepts she has money whether they have or not men aren't necessarily the beneficiaries of women's money. When u see q more pretty woman you dump her since she is a a call girl and has been paid for her service each night, in so doing you have plenthora of beautiful ladies at your disposal. Only prostitute respect men as long as men paid them for the night |
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