₦airaland Forum

lilsmart:
My sister, I hear your pain and frustration, but let me explain something about our ways.


In our culture, dating is not about one person taking over the financial responsibility that belongs to your father. Your father is the one tasked by tradition and law to train you, care for you, and provide for you until the day he gives you out in marriage.
If you want another man to financially "train" you as if he is your father. You are turning relationship into a transaction, not a partnership. Our traditions honor a partnership built on respect, character, and shared vision not just on an account balance.
The Paddy Adenuges and Dangotes you mentioned often built their wealth through years of struggle with a supportive partner by their side, not by waiting until they were already rich to find a wife.

True

immortalcrown:
Meaning that any man that earns more than you do should disrespect you and should not hesitate to dump you when he finds a lady that earns more than you.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Correct cos it really intrigues me how women live in denial of reality.

Goodlady:
Men said they're the breadwinners naa.

....to a responsible and accountable lady? Yes!

jaephoenix:
✓ Good. So when I see any woman that earns more than her,I'd gladly dump her and go for the highest earner. What's good for the goose,is good for the ....

You wouldn't be the first to do that, so why are you looking for a pat on the back or something?

Nice2023:
➜My reason is that,she is already right in her thinking and u can't force an adult whose mind has been set on something...u cam only be talking.
I had to dwell on the part which is most pressing.

Nothing is pressing about suggesting a woman should take a gamble with what is her life with a man when we know today that the vast majority of those who did that in the past ended up filled with regret and hate for themselves and the decision to settle for less. The vast majority of the married women in Nigeria who gambled their lives on potentials and dreams are today living in abject poverty because of that. And many of these women had to abandon their dreams, jobs, and careers to gain nothing of worth in return. 🥱🥱🥱

Encouraging what should now be considered a great vice is a clear indication that one does not have the good of women at heart.🥱🥱🥱

vanvickie:
...Once woman foot bills for 1 or 2 months due to some financial constraints on the husband's side who has been footing bills for donkey years... THEY SUDDENLY BECOME BREAD WINNERS....

Let google be your friend on the other issues.
As for women not willing to foot the bill, considering that numerous studies have today shown the real value of the unpaid invisible labor that women take on in marriage, I would never advise a woman who is in a provider-slave marriage to pay any bills in the house, unless the husband is considering it a loan of some sort(documented and certified).

Those women didn't suddenly become breadwinners because, from the time of our grandmothers and great-grandmothers, many of us have known that marriages were where the man barely brings much into the marriage, while the woman bore the bulk of the financial responsibilities in the home.

Goodlady:
You don't need to have a taste.
But do you really have money?

Yes I really have money but before I spend I you I need to first confirm that your bóobies are still firm and succulent

Kobojunkie:
Nothing is pressing about suggesting a woman should take a gamble with what is her life with a man when we know today that the vast majority of those who did that in the past ended up filled with regret and hate for themselves and the decision to settle for less. The vast majority of the married women in Nigeria who gambled their lives on potentials and dreams are today living in abject poverty because of that. And many of these women had to abandon their dreams, jobs, and careers to gain nothing of worth in return. 🥱🥱🥱

Encouraging what should now be considered a great vice is a clear indication that one does not have the good of women at heart.🥱🥱🥱

And majority who went for the money aren't crying too?

Marry who u can grow with.

Nice2023:
➜And majority who went for the money aren't crying too? Marry who u can grow with.

The one thing many of those who went for the money at least have is that they did not all come out empty-handed. Time and time again, we have seen that a woman is better casting her lot with a man who has money than with a man who only has dreams and prospects to offer to a woman. Let's start telling the truth if we truly love even the women we are with.

Kobojunkie:
The one thing many of those who went for the money at least have is that they did not all come out empty-handed. Time and time again, we have seen that a woman is better casting her lot with a man who has money than with a man who only has dreams and prospects to offer to a woman. Let's start telling the truth if we truly love even the women we are with.

If money is not your problem, why will you be looking for a wealthy spouse? Only poor people make money the most important issue. If you have your own money other things will be more important and there are a lot of other things. Most financially very well off people don't marry people wealthier than them.

Kobojunkie:
You wouldn't be the first to do that, so why are you looking for a pat on the back or something?

I'm not looking for your damn pat. I'm just explaining how your cretarded logic works

lawani:
➜If money is not your problem, why will you be looking for a wealthy spouse? Only poor people make money the most important issue. If you have your own money other things will be more important and there are a lot of other things. Most financially very well off people don't marry people wealthier than them.

If language comprehension is a particular problem of yours, I suggest you go online to find resources to help you with that before you continue.

jaephoenix:
➜I'm not looking for your damn pat. I'm just explaining how your cretarded logic works

. Rather than try to feed others who amount to hogwash next time, I suggest you ponder the reason why you have such a deep-seated aversion to the preferences that women are allowed to have when choosing partners for themselves. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
If language comprehension is a particular problem of yours, I suggest you go online to find resources to help you with that before you continue.

You were the one that said it is better to choose a man with money than someone with prospects. I just pointed out that it only applies to broke people whether male or female

lawani:
➜You were the one that said it is better to choose a man with money than someone with prospects. I just pointed out that it only applies to broke people whether male or female

So, all your rich political class marrying their daughters off to men from richer backgrounds are poor, abi?

Again, if language comprehension problems dey, make you go deal with am.

Kobojunkie:
So, all your rich political class marrying their daughters off to men from richer backgrounds are poor, abi?

Again, if language comprehension problems dey, make you go deal with am.

The number of rich people fixing marriages for their kids with other rich folks is not in the majority. I know many rich folks whose children married normal working class people. If you are already rich, to get someone richer than you to marry is often a herculean task, that is my point. Even if you want it, it is not always easy especially as a woman but also as a man.
There are many reasons you can want someone for a spouse and money is just one of them. In many cases some people will not even consider someone even with their money.
I don't know what language you want me to comprehend...

lawani:
➜The number of rich people fixing marriages for their kids with other rich folks is not in the majority. I know many rich folks whose children married normal working class people. If you are already rich, to get someone richer than you to marry is often a herculean task, that is my point. Even if you want it, it is not always easy especially as a woman but also as a man.
There are many reasons you can want someone for a spouse and money is just one of them. In many cases some people will not even consider someone even with their money. I don't know what language you want me to comprehend...

Again...

Kobojunkie:
If language comprehension is a particular problem of yours, I suggest you go online to find resources to help you with that before you continue.

Kobojunkie:
Again...

I still insist, only really broke people always follow the money

bigpicture001:
This is exactly the mentality of ladies who later got too old for young men to fancy...

I HV up to 6 of them in my area now..smiling up ND down to any single matured guy...

Don't mind them, people like her when they get to their mid to late 30s will be forced to date and marry guys who are much younger than them. The respect and submission they don't want to give to the guys when they're younger, they give it to guys who are 5-7 years younger than them when they're in their mid to late 30s. She'll end up submitting to her you her brothers age mate.

MikaelDare:
➜Don't mind them, people like her when they get to their mid to late 30s will be forced to date and marry guys who are much younger than them.
➜ The respect and submission they don't want to give to the guys when they're younger, they give it to guys who are 5-7 years younger than them when they're in their mid to late 30s. She'll end up submitting to her you her brothers age mate.

A woman forced to date and marry a man much younger than her? Are these women complaining?

2. How many women give respect and submission to younger guys that they date? How many younger guys out there dating older women require submission from them?

P.S. Respect is something every human being should give to every other human being. If you can't respect your woman because she is a woman, then you should not have any business being with that woman, or any woman for that matter.

Goodlady:
I am sorry to say this to ya face. I can't date a broke man.
Can't respect a man that's not earning more than me. Reality has proven money's the engine if love so don't preach to me.

What will be used in taking care of my skin, my needs and all the stuff? The answer is money.
It's an aberration for a man to approach someone richer than him.
That's why it's good to do profile check before dating.
A times if numbers weren't given out after sizing the guy's destiny they d say she's rude, she's bla bla bla yenyenyen.
Who nor like better thing?
When there are eligible Bachelors like Paddy Adenug, Okoyya boys, Dantalta family, Danghote family and co to marry from.
Abeg make no sapahead boy disturb me today. I am not responsible for ya hardship. Make you you make legit money before you impregnate or marry any woman.

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Are you virgin young slim and cute?!

Show your self. 🙂


When you’re bold enough to post such an insolent topic, here I am being bold enough to put money on the table that’s right within my reach. Now you be brave enough to show yourself so I can see you.
Or maybe it’s better that I first present the standards.
If you don’t look at least roughly like this, please spare us from showing yourself.
https://www.facebook.com/share/r/1DUqUdTDL2/

goran3310:
😕😕🫤🫤😞😞😢😢🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🥲🥲🙂🙂😃😃😆😆
Are you virgin young slim and cute?!

Are you a virgin yourself that you would think you should be entitled to one? 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Are you a virgin yourself that you would think you should be entitled to one? 🥱🥱

You’re asking for money. I’m asking for you to be a young, beautiful virgin.
I have what you’re looking for. Do you have what I’m looking for?

Kobojunkie:
Are you a virgin yourself that you would think you should be entitled to one? 🥱🥱

Here. I meet your criteria. Now… do you meet mine?
What I’m asking from you is what every man with money will ask.
Where does that leave you in all of this?

goran3310:
Here. I meet your criteria. Now… do you meet mine?
What I’m asking from you is what every man with money will ask.
Where does that leave you in all of this?

Again, my ask was, are yourself a virgin that you would feel you are entitled to having one for a wife. Even rich men do not seek out virgins, so why require she be a virgin because you have the picture of a couple of what seems a couple naira notes ? 🥱🥱🥱

goran3310:
✓ You’re asking for money. I’m asking for you to be a young, beautiful virgin.
I have what you’re looking for. Do you have what I’m looking for?

You do you feel the need to ask her for that in what seems an attempt to invalidate her preference? Why not go find you a beautiful virgin elsewhere instead of bothering OP for that? 😕

Why are posts being hidden and deleted here?

Alright. I won’t come to this PDF Romace for the next two months.
Go ahead and keep deleting posts and turning on all sorts of filters and blocks. Goodbye. 🙂

goran3310:
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Are you virgin young slim and cute?!

Abeg, abeg. Which kind question be this?