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Many men end up chasing a Girl Just to pay her bills

Imagine chasing a girl not because she inspires you, not because she adds value to your life, not because she pushes you to be better but just so you can pay her bills.

Logically, this doesn't make sense but unfortunately that's what happens.

Some of you men have turned relationships into charity foundations. You’re out here doing giveaways in the name of love. Monthly subscriptions of emotional foolishness. Data, rent, hair, nails, Uber, feeding allowance and for what? A woman that doesn’t even respect you?

Let’s be real, too many men today mistake financial performance for romantic connection. You think being her ATM will make her love you. It won’t. It’ll only make her see you as a walking wallet with emotions attached.

The truth is, when money is your only strategy, you lose your dignity before the relationship even starts. You’re not courting her you’re buying her attention on credit. And when the credit runs out, she’ll “suddenly fall out of love.”

Bro, you’re supposed to lead with value, not with transfer receipts. If the only reason she answers your calls is because she’s expecting alerts, you’re not dating you’re funding a lifestyle that excludes you emotionally.

Understand this: respect is earned through confidence, not cash.
When a man has purpose, vision, and discipline, women feel it. They gravitate toward it naturally. But when all you have to offer is money, they’ll use you until you run out of it, then they vanish like your balance.

So stop overdoing.
You’re not her father. You’re not her sponsor. You’re not a humanitarian organization.

Love isn’t proven by how fast you press “send.” It’s shown through presence, protection, and purpose.

Let your money work for you not for someone who’s only around because of it.

Nigerian girls left the group angrily.
The dating scenario in Nigeria has changed, Girls/Women are in business, It's the men that are in love.

A lot of guys, 'sugar zaddies' or just guys who aren't great at dating, are messing things up for themselves. Sometimes it's just low confidence or not knowing how dating actually works.

The absolute craziest thing to me is the whole "girlfriend stipend" thing. Seriously, why are you giving someone that’s not your mother a monthly allowance? That's crazy and if you try advising them, they tell you to hustle harder or you’re immature.

The second they think they've got the girl, they stop putting in effort, lose their edge, and start acting like simps. They turn into the predictable 'nice guy,' thinking that's how you keep her. But any girl looking for excitement and adventures knows she's already won. Nobody wants to conquer a land that's already surrendered. You don't get excited about re-winning a trophy you already have.


The minute you let a girl feel like she has totally won you over, you are instantly out of the game. You always have to remember that dating is a game, and the second you lose your confidence or "frame," you lose the relationship. Sometimes the loss is easy to recover from, but other times, the consequences are so bad you wish you never started

SpencerForbes:
A lot of guys, 'sugar zaddies' or just guys who aren't great at dating, are messing things up for themselves. Sometimes it's just low confidence or not knowing how dating actually works.

The absolute craziest thing to me is the whole "girlfriend stipend" thing. Seriously, why are you giving someone that’s not your mother a monthly allowance? That's crazy and if you try advising them, they tell you to hustle harder or you’re immature.

The second they think they've got the girl, they stop putting in effort, lose their edge, and start acting like simps. They turn into the predictable 'nice guy,' thinking that's how you keep her. But any girl looking for excitement and adventures knows she's already won. Nobody wants to conquer a land that's already surrendered. You don't get excited about re-winning a trophy you already have.


The minute you let a girl feel like she has totally won you over, you are instantly out of the game. You always have to remember that dating is a game, and the second you lose your confidence or "frame," you lose the relationship. Sometimes the loss is easy to recover from, but other times, the consequences are so bad you wish you never started

You hit the nail in the head. I like how you think and the way you put down the info.

Hmmmmmm

APOPTOSIS:
Hmmmmmm

That first quote says alot.

I told one girl that I like her friend,the next day this same girls says she’s hungry,Na so I delete and block her number..She’s hungry all of a sudden and I never even talk with the one I like oo..I no even want both of them again..

Dzzzz:
I told one girl that I like her friend,the next day this same girls says she’s hungry,Na so I delete and block her number..She’s hungry all of a sudden and I never even talk with the one I like oo..I no even want both of them again..

Your mind don dey 🤣

SeverusSnape:

Your mind don dey 🤣

I no want long thing just because say I wan dive into the kontus..I whine am say “How much for the food”she say 3k,Omo na straight blocking..

Men can do anything to get a girl. You will be in your house next thing you will see is delivery and book to sign

Some girls doesn't need those things because they are comfortable already.

Dzzzz:
I told one girl that I like her friend,the next day this same girls says she’s hungry,Na so I delete and block her number..She’s hungry all of a sudden and I never even talk with the one I like oo..I no even want both of them again..

she's hungry how? She should be ashamed of herself

SpencerForbes:
A lot of guys, 'sugar zaddies' or just guys who aren't great at dating, are messing things up for themselves. Sometimes it's just low confidence or not knowing how dating actually works.

The absolute craziest thing to me is the whole "girlfriend stipend" thing. Seriously, why are you giving someone that’s not your mother a monthly allowance? That's crazy and if you try advising them, they tell you to hustle harder or you’re immature.

The second they think they've got the girl, they stop putting in effort, lose their edge, and start acting like simps. They turn into the predictable 'nice guy,' thinking that's how you keep her. But any girl looking for excitement and adventures knows she's already won. Nobody wants to conquer a land that's already surrendered. You don't get excited about re-winning a trophy you already have.


The minute you let a girl feel like she has totally won you over, you are instantly out of the game. You always have to remember that dating is a game, and the second you lose your confidence or "frame," you lose the relationship. Sometimes the loss is easy to recover from, but other times, the consequences are so bad you wish you never started

how do you know all this? I'm surprise this is coming from a guy.

Diamond098454:
how do you know all this? I'm surprise this is coming from a guy.

Knowledge by experience and observations.

SeverusSnape:
Nigerian girls left the group angrily.
The dating scenario in Nigeria has changed, Girls/Women are in business, It's the men that are in love.

blame your gender

Diamond098454:
she's hungry how? She should be ashamed of herself

I done back out from both of them…Singlehood be like Hollywood..

Once a lady doesn't have any value
Kindly let them go

Those who say they are in need or hungry and all are a class to be avoided

Diamond098454:
Men can do anything to get a girl. You will be in your house next thing you will see is delivery and book to sign

Some girls doesn't need those things because they are comfortable already.

What's your point?

Did you had meeting with all girls to know they are comfortable?

Bendeco02:
What's your point?

Did you had meeting with all girls to know they are comfortable?

Ben.......... Good evening.

Some girls not all

Dzzzz:
I done back out from both of them…Singlehood be like Hollywood..

hahaha🤣🤣🤣 you are very funny

Diamond098454:
Ben.......... Good evening.

Some girls not all

Good evening babe

Okay

Dpsychologist:
Many men end up chasing a Girl Just to pay her bills

Imagine chasing a girl not because she inspires you, not because she adds value to your life, not because she pushes you to be better but just so you can pay her bills.

Logically, this doesn't make sense but unfortunately that's what happens.

Some of you men have turned relationships into charity foundations. You’re out here doing giveaways in the name of love. Monthly subscriptions of emotional foolishness. Data, rent, hair, nails, Uber, feeding allowance and for what? A woman that doesn’t even respect you?

Let’s be real, too many men today mistake financial performance for romantic connection. You think being her ATM will make her love you. It won’t. It’ll only make her see you as a walking wallet with emotions attached.

The truth is, when money is your only strategy, you lose your dignity before the relationship even starts. You’re not courting her you’re buying her attention on credit. And when the credit runs out, she’ll “suddenly fall out of love.”

Bro, you’re supposed to lead with value, not with transfer receipts. If the only reason she answers your calls is because she’s expecting alerts, you’re not dating you’re funding a lifestyle that excludes you emotionally.

Understand this: respect is earned through confidence, not cash.
When a man has purpose, vision, and discipline, women feel it. They gravitate toward it naturally. But when all you have to offer is money, they’ll use you until you run out of it, then they vanish like your balance.

So stop overdoing.
You’re not her father. You’re not her sponsor. You’re not a humanitarian organization.

Love isn’t proven by how fast you press “send.” It’s shown through presence, protection, and purpose.

Let your money work for you not for someone who’s only around because of it.

The mind guru himself!!! You have my respect... Keep keeping it real!