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A South African man, Dr. Bakhe Dlami, has revealed that his wife has full access to his phone and his bank account “belongs to her.”

The marriage counsellor and psychologist disclosed this in a Facebook post on Thursday, November 20,

The father of three said he owes his woman loyalty, commitment and treats her like he would want his two daughters to be treated.

“Husband of 1, father of 3, always home latest 6:00PM (unless work demands), my wife has FULL access to my phone. My bank account belongs to her, hers belongs to myself; we are one. I'm in this marriage thing a 1 000%,” he wrote.

"I don't do half commitments. And yes, I'm there for the fun. If there's no fun, intimacy, connection: I don't want it. I believe in being a "gentleman", chivalry, decorum. I'm not a simp, I'm a leader. Not a dictator, but a leader.

“I owe my woman loyalty, commitment. I have 2 girl children. I treat my wife like I'd want my daughters to be treated. I strive to be a better husband & father each day. I come from a painful background; have to do better. I can't fail myself. Foolishness is stumbling where your predecessors have.”

Kingzjayzee:
A South African man, Dr. Bakhe Dlami, has revealed that his wife has full access to his phone and his bank account “belongs to her.”

The marriage counsellor and psychologist disclosed this in a Facebook post on Thursday, November 20,

The father of three said he owes his woman loyalty, commitment and treats her like he would want his two daughters to be treated.

“Husband of 1, father of 3, always home latest 6:00PM (unless work demands), my wife has FULL access to my phone. My bank account belongs to her, hers belongs to myself; we are one. I'm in this marriage thing a 1 000%,” he wrote.

"I don't do half commitments. And yes, I'm there for the fun. If there's no fun, intimacy, connection: I don't want it. I believe in being a "gentleman", chivalry, decorum. I'm not a simp, I'm a leader. Not a dictator, but a leader.

“I owe my woman loyalty, commitment. I have 2 girl children. I treat my wife like I'd want my daughters to be treated. I strive to be a better husband & father each day. I come from a painful background; have to do better. I can't fail myself. Foolishness is stumbling where your predecessors have.”


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Fuckyoumod:
what's this Simple man from south Africa saying?

Who cares if he dies for his wive?

Women are naturally not wired to handle a lot of things, so don't expose them to such things.

There is a big difference between treating a woman right and being a SIMPle man.

Osiris12:
This man is gon die real soon.

I Dey wonder if the mama no dey pray for am

Holluwhakemmy:
Good. You are a real husband and responsible father.
Keep it up your home is blessed

ChizzyBuna:
I pity simps bro

It is a crime as a Man to lack OT

I knack one babe a day before her traditional marriage. That night I go Facebook

Her husband tag her for Facebook dey thank her and shower her praises for being his wife

ChizzyBuna:
If you like DIE for your Wife
She will move to another joystick without regret

ChizzyBuna:
A Thief that was caught red handed will still deny he is a thief.

And you expect a simp to accept that he is a simp

thesicilian:
Guys, run anytime a woman calls you a "real" man. It means they already have you totally under their control.

thesicilian:
Guys, run anytime a woman calls you a "real" man. It means they already have you totally under their control.

Holluwhakemmy:
simp at home warriors online we know your type

Kingzjayzee:
Nice one 👏. I pray it doesn't end in premium tears though

dominique:
That's how it should be for both parties, loyalty, honesty and transparency. Nigerian men will say women don't deserve loyalty but they will demand loyalty, submission, understanding and a portion of her earnings. When they're paid in the same the same coin they've been paying women, they start shouting fear women.