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At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

You cannot attract a girl that will truly love you when you have not understood yourself.

Try to analyse your personality. Don't underrate yourself but don't overrate yourself. If you overrate yourself, you will go for girls who will ridicule you. If you underrate yourself, you will go for girls that will accept you but cannot meet your expectations.

When you are able to make a balanced judgment of your personality, you will know the kind of girls that will truly want you and you will go for them.

Before we start. What about your father? Are u close to ur father? He can help you immensely at this repulsive stage of ur life. Fathers are importantly for building confidence in young men, a trait many ladies find attractive whether you are rich or poor as a man.

Confidence will make you weigh the words that comes from your mouth before speaking. People price and rate you by what comes from your mouth.

at your age, u suppose to dey chase the bag aggressively, leave woman alone, 100k a month is damn too low, invest more on yourself so you can earn more.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Baba jerker cease jerking immediately for your own good. Get closer to your dad.

If you think having a woman in your life will make you feel like you've lived a fulfilled life,bro,lemme burst your bubble --"You ain't ready to face life yet"

You've got to first of all love yourself and find a purpose for yourself.....Live for that purpose,and stick to it.......

Even myself,I had my first girlfriend at 27 and we've been great together since then...

Drifter02:
➜At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true. I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me.. This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing.. Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives
Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.
➜All the other girls I keep just want to use me meeting.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month [b]and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. [/b]it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

You are only 25 and yet you are already struggling with an addiction to attention from girls to the point that you are already plagued by an irrational fear that you might die alone?

OP, you need to get yourself mental health therapy at least cause what is obvious is that rather than enjoying your single life, you have come to view it as some sort of valueless placeholder for the life you desire. There is a recipe for a terrible life in relationships. Please go get help so you begin now realizing that your single life is also meant to be enjoyed and is really the only way for you to learn of and to find the peace, connection, and shared life you wish to find in a relationship.

2. You jerking off and hating your life is a clear sign of mental illness. You need to get help from a professional mental health counselor/therapist as soon as possible. You don't need a woman, and no loving parent would want their precious child mixing with someone who hates themselves. And you are precious too, so you need to turn your energy inwards to understand why it is you really hate yourself; the answer has nothing to do with you not having a woman. 🥱🥱

You need to face all those traumas/hurts/betrayals/disappointments/guilt/shame, etc., from your childhood that are responsible for you hating your life at age 26. And you need to confront, accept, and resolve them all before you move forward; otherwise, your life will be a picture of you passing your trauma along to everyone you encounter and them returning the energy in ways that may only make you feel worse about yourself.

FitCorper:
➜Before we start. What about your father? Are u close to ur father? He can help you immensely at this repulsive stage of ur life. Fathers are importantly for building confidence in young men, a trait many ladies find attractive whether you are rich or poor as a man.
➜Confidence will make you weigh the words that comes from your mouth before speaking. People price and rate you by what comes from your mouth.

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FitCorper:
➜Baba jerker cease jerking immediately for your own good. Get closer to your dad.

His father(or possibly his daddy issues) is probably the source of his unhealthy obsession with needing women from.

"Daddy issues" in men are complicated relationships with their fathers, stemming from absent, abusive, or emotionally distant fathers, and can manifest as emotional unavailability, anger issues, a fear of abandonment, or seeking constant validation. These issues create challenges in relationships and can lead to a need for constant reassurance, fear of being alone, or risk-seeking behaviors.

2. OP does not need more of that nonsense performative sort of confidence that most men & women have when it is obvious there is a gaping hole right into their hearts. (You can tell people whose confidence is built on nothing from a mile away if you have higher emotional and social intelligence than they do.) OP clearly lacks the basics, which is self-love, and it is what is needed to obtain that authentic confidence that comes from deep within.

You are still not even in the middle of the journey. what do you want men above 30 single and living the best of their lives do?

At 25, you should be focused on living your best life, not worrying about dying alone.

Before you date anybody, you must date yourself. Invest in yourself: take yourself out, attend social gatherings, upgrade your wardrobe, get a sharp haircut, and treat yourself daily ( daily 2k allowance ). Simultaneously, dedicate effort to boosting your confidence and self-esteem.

When you prioritize self-improvement, women will naturally gravitate toward you, and you won’t just attract girls—you’ll attract a serious girlfriend.

However, be forewarned: since this will likely be your first serious relationship, you are bound to face steady Billings. Make sure you are prepared for that.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

First there is no true love buy it mske more money and buy it... If you buy it secure it with pregnancy Goodluck with the advise

You are 25, your experience is normal. The pendulum swings favourably to you as you grow older, only on the condition that you did not give up on yourself.

You need to know that you are not on the same timeline with a woman your age. You will fail to date most, and it is normal. There are more virgin men your age than virgin women.

You have to bear it, that is the only way. You will only end up alone if you just whine about your life. But from your 30's upwards, you will have access to new generation of women. It is turn by turn. Right now, your seniors are with the women of your generation

This place you are is very lonely, I know. Every man if they will be vulnerable will tell you that they pass through it to some extent, but you will think your situation is abnormal if you do not understand these dynamics.

I will repeat. Do not give up on yourself. Keep working hard to improve your social and material conditions, it is your redemption.

Learn to love yourself first. STOP struggling with low self esteem.. take care of yourself... Carry yourself well..

When you have grown to do this, your mind set will change

Live women find money 1st, wen money dey only dem even ur neighbor daughter go chase u

dollytino4real:
Live women find money 1st, wen money dey only dem even ur neighbor daughter go chase u

you just give this OP the whole truth only if he can understand. Na Money be real man

Cum4me:
you just give this OP the whole truth only if he can understand. Na Money be real man

if he will listen to my advice o, if he is engaged meaningful woman appetite go dye out,

Learn a sport, start hitting the gym, travel around the country, read books and engage with social groups. You have to make yourself a person you want to date before others will see you the same way. All you’re doing is dwelling on how you don’t have a girl instead of perfecting yourself as a human. When you start any of my recommendations, you’ll start seeing yourself as too important to share with anybody.

At twenty-five, you have youth as your advantage. Look for means to double your income while at it.

Ehen, if you want variety in your life, you can pay to knack oloshos. Sex is sex. Nature doesn’t care how you get it.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Turned 25 during the week
Same case 😅😁

Modified
Jerking off isa no no sha
Babes full street na just to look and maybe show interest

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

From what you wrote,it clearly shows, you have, "low self esteem", and it's really intimidating you before women.

With 100k you are earning, you can conveniently date/marry , lady earnings 200k and and still will be in charge of your relationship.

My advice for you is to keep pushing for the girl you wish to date and u stop, degrading yourself before women.... you hype yourself and let her see you, as potential successful man

Nevertheless, you must keep working on yourself in other to improve your life in all rounds.

Women need sweet talks to get and to control.

Sonnobax15:

If you think having a woman in your life will make you feel like you've lived a fulfilled life,bro,lemme burst your bubble --"You ain't ready to face life yet"

You've got to first of all love yourself and find a purpose for yourself.....Live for that purpose,and stick to it.......

Even myself,I had my first girlfriend at 27 and we've been great together since then...

Have you seen person without purpose at 25 making 100k u go see then for aboki place for early moh moh doing drugs and smoking cigars.

Stop the masturbation pls. I prefer the prostitute option to masturbation.
With prostitute, with time you will start developing to interact, negotiate with ladies and generally become better. Masturbation keeps you away from ladies.

pansophist:
You are 25, your experience is normal. The pendulum swings favourably to you as you grow older, only on the condition that you did not give up on yourself.

You need to know that you are not on the same timeline with a woman your age. You will fail to date most, and it is normal. There are more virgin men your age than virgin women.

You have to bear it, that is the only way. You will only end up alone if you just whine about your life. But from your 30's upwards, you will have access to new generation of women. It is turn by turn. Right now, your seniors are with the women of your generation

This place you are is very lonely, I know. Every man if they will be vulnerable will tell you that they pass through it to some extent, but you will think your situation is abnormal if you do not understand these dynamics.

I will repeat. Do not give up on yourself. Keep working hard to improve your social and material conditions, it is your redemption.

And what of millions of guys that won't make any headway into their 30's? despite the efforts they put in due to harsh location they meet themselves.
I see my brother in this quagmire and he finds himself in his early 30's unprepared - Not certificated, no business nor skill, not a hustler, no girlfriend, no money, Nothing

Cum4me:
you just give this OP the whole truth only if he can understand. Na Money be real man

But most men won't be rich no matter how they hustle.
Never have we had men in large percentage have money nor will it happen now nor in the future.
Rather, a low entry basic minimum requirement should be used.
In a world were there is mass failure financially, you don't use the highest cut off mark to screen out intending student rather, the bar should be moved lower to the minimum entry

Guy engage in yooth activities, church all those things... I swear you go try babes tire

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

emmaodet:
But most men won't be rich no matter how they hustle.
...

Brutal but true. Besides the millionaires and the billionaires of the world there plenty of men who worked just as hard, just as smart, and even more, without reaching financial success.
And the frustrations from these failures despite years of hard work and doing all the "right" and "smart" things to succeed is amplified by society that'll tell you that you are poor because you didn't work hard enough, because you didn't work smart, or because you were lazy.
The life of a man is a life full of frustrations. It's all about mitigating and canalizing these frustrations.

VOsimhen144:
at your age, u suppose to dey chase the bag aggressively, leave woman alone, 100k a month is damn too low, invest more on yourself so you can earn more.

osimhen baba.. how Turkish league? Lol

90% of Nigerian girls are robotic in nature, now.

1- OP, a lot of people gave you the advice to improve yourself so that you can deserve women later, and I disagree with that.

I already explained why in a thread entitled < "Make Money And Women Will Come" (This Is A Bad Advice) >. I will reproduce my post here:

Kipaji:
"Make Money and Women Will Come"

Society and women tell this to men who are unsuccessful in dating to give them some hope. The idea is that they should not worry, they should just work harder and generate wealth. When they get money women will beg them to be their girlfriends and wives.

But, if women will come when you make the money, have you ever wondered where they are now? Let's assume that they will effectively be with you later, after you become rich. OK now, in the meantime, who are they with? Are they sitting at home, chastely waiting for you to make money? Are they working on themselves while preserving their purity to deserve you when you finally make it?

No. Where are they then? They are with other guys they judge worthy of their youth and freshness. And you are not on the list. So, you have to wait. And to not let you hanging, they give you the task to accumulate the wealth they will enjoy after the other guys have enjoyed their bodies.

See, that advice (make money and women will come) would be apt if, after becoming rich, the women that will come are virgins. But, they are not. Who took their virginity then? A guy who was just as broke as you were when girls and society told you to make money first. This advice is thus hypocritical... but also dangerous.

Many young men unsuccessful in dating will follow this advice. They will work very hard at school, at work, and in life to finally be able to attract women (among other reasons.) Eventually many of them make it. After all these painful years of work, it is high time to harvest the rewards: money, respect, security, stability, confidence, wisdom, -oh and, what did they say will come with financial success again? Ah yes, women! But, as they look left and right, they realize that most women are damaged beyond repair, many are single mothers, and virtually none of them are pure. And when they understand that the guys who took these women purity where in the very same state they thought they had to grow from to attract them, these men become bitter. They feel scammed. And rightly so. Unfortunately, this frustration can lead to hatred and violence. And this is not good for men themselves and society as a whole.

This is one of the reasons why a man should not succeed for women. Succeed for you and your legacy first and foremost. And when you do succeed, be ruthless in your selection of women.

When dealing with women, never lean on your money. That is dehumanizing as money is an object and, more importantly, it is external to you -- you are not your money. Money can come and go, but your inner strength and masculinity stays. And keep in mind that no amount of money entitles you to a woman's body. No amount of money protects you from the games women play. No amount of money can compensate for lack of attraction.

Men and women should stop giving this advice to our sons. We must encourage them by all means to generate wealth and succeed in life. But let's not fool them with "women will come", without telling them the full story. As these men are busy building, most women are busy fvcking (and most of the guys they are fucking don't have money).

2- That said, I would also like to question why someone has to improve at all to get women.
It would be like admitting that she is superior to you (and so you need to close the gap to reach her level). Thus, I believe that it is a simpish mindset.

3- When you are "perfecting" and "bettering" yourself to get women, remember that the woman you are currently improving for is being "pounded" by a nobody in the neighborhood who never even heard about improvement, some guy still leaving in his mom's house, her classmate who never had to "improve", or some guy who straight up paid for it. You most likely won't find her a virgin bro, and the guy who deflowered her is no better than you.

4- If you improve, do it for your own wellbeing and that of your loved ones.

Sonnobax15:

If you think having a woman in your life will make you feel like you've lived a fulfilled life,bro,lemme burst your bubble --"You ain't ready to face life yet"

You've got to first of all love yourself and find a purpose for yourself.....Live for that purpose,and stick to it.......

Even myself,I had my first girlfriend at 27 and we've been great together since then...

When are you getting married?

Find one girl give belle

25yrs is too early to make a conclusion .In as much as relationship is good...but this age is the time to chase your dreams with all seriousness....the other things will fall in place gradually.

As for jerking.,no use ur hand spoil ur life kpatakpata

This one head correct so? How many millions dey ur aza? Instead of your to focus on making money,na serious gf be your problem. Something that might ruin you