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Kobojunkie:
No, I do not wish to insult you. I only wished to know how experienced one would need to be to think what you described is love. 🥱🥱🥱

You see one thing about love that I have learned in my years is that if you don't first have healthy self-love --- not the performative kind we like to tag as self-confidence that is instead born of selfish desire to thrive at the expense of others--- you will not know true love. You will of course experience chemically induced form which is really an addictive high in addition to the trauma born kind which is really trauma bonding, as well as the codependent kind which is really another form of crazy, but not the real-connection-forming, safety-giving sort of love that many of us truly yearn for. 🤔

So, ol' boy, you are still too young to be running after women. You still have a lot of work to do on yourself to build yourself for life -- I am talking of your mental, emotional and social intelligence. 🤔🤔

This time is time for you to focus on that hole inside of you that you have been trying to throw girls at. You can't close it with external things. You can only close it by dealing with the internal issues keeping it open -- childhood trauma, lost dreams, disappointments, hurts, betrayals,etc. You need to confront them, accept and forgive yourself (or them) to close up that large hole. The more you tackle them, the more you grow into the best version of you necessary for you to have the best life possible. 🥱🥱

Ask yourself, what are you waiting for? There will always be girls out there for you. Loose that scarcity mindset that is driving you right now. And focus your attention on healing yourself otherwise you will end up as clueless as many of those before you, chased by many of the same shadows from their youth even in their old age, not realizing it is their mind that keeps trying to bring them back to the same issue for them to properly resolve their own self.

This advice wey u give op een he no fit relate. dem no dey advice who don fall in love...

Englishisamust:
➜ This advice wey u give op een he no fit relate. dem no dey advice who don fall in love...

Well, when I was his age, I wanted and was open to good advice. What I instead got was a lot of bad, terrible vomit that many confused with advice. So, for me, giving OP access to what I never got is my way of sending a letter back in time to my younger self.

Double0h7:
Tell us more: what has she said or done to have you so sprung? I love a good gist 🤭

you're beautiful

Cum4me:
you're beautiful

You’re very kind 🥰

Richsteemit:
She said I make her feel like a real woman. Don't let me gist you finish. My head just dey burst.. love don dey drive me craze

The way only a real man can 🤐