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Thanks to those that called. I feel lifted

Nobody will talk to you the way some good music would bro...

as if you'll pay for the call card/data .

U beta FREE yourself from that sef imposed bandage.Pick beans cook jare

Wetin be this drama again? You have heartbreak and suddenly you can't eat, sleep, or read? 😂 Abeg, stop the emotional theatrics!

You are in school, you should be happy you have one less distraction! Instead of you to be focused on important things and fueling your purpose, you are crying over somebody’s daughter.

If you truly want to stop the pain, open and face the books. Stop giving excuses and go hustle! You have bigger problems than who dumped you or what caused the heartbreak or you can carry on with your thoughts.

U beta com out of that self imprison .Play with yo fellow hostel peepz,go to class and read yo books instead of waiting for phone call

They are sites and apps where people actually make money from people like you...


Lonely people pay people money just to talk to them!

Go buy apari with juice u go de alright

Na Man You be . You need to Man up and kill those feelings of insecurities. Better Days Ahead .

Host78:
➜ Been feeling lonely and suicidal lately. Had my heart broken. My exam is coming up soon and I can't focus to read. Everyone expect me to be strong. I can't even talk to friends or family because all the time they expect me to perfect.
But I'm shattered inside. I feel messed up. Please if anyone can help me through this trying times. Comfort, motivation. Anything I'll appreciate. Honestly I hv no idea how to get myself out of this. Since morning I've been indoors all alone. Trying to read and can't read. Trying to sleep I can't sleep Can't eat and yet so hungry. Food feels tasteless. I really need help If you can call 0705 582 28 49

, what it sounds like you are dealing with is anxiety and maybe boiling over into panic attacks. I suggest you put on your exercise gear and take to taking long walks or jog around the way for as long as 30 or more minutes. Regular exercise will do you a whole load of good right now. And while jogging, I recommend you listen to some uplifting emotional therapy, like what is obtained from the following YouTube channels

➜ The School of Life
➜ Psych2go

Note that the key is engaging in serious regular SELF REFLECTION, without which you will only be kicking stones down the road.

Also of great importance is getting enough sleep every night, regardless of how stressed you may be. Sleep helps us combat that stress hormone—cortisol— that powers much of our anxiety, so it is essential to get at least 8 hours of sleep each night, no matter what it is we are up against. That way, you make your battle against anxiety much smoother for yourself.

Additionally, suppose you have been consuming foods, drinks, or drugs— coffee, coke, high-caffeine drinks, etc., — high in caffeine, particularly to help you boost your focus during exams, I suggest you cut them out completely at this point. Very, very important that you cut them off, cause they may be exacerbating your anxiety too.

Another thing you can do is see a professional mental health therapist asap and work with him/her to get you where you can begin changing your behavior towards treatment. You can beat anxiety before it takes complete control over you, if you have the willpower to do what is necessary.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9zZr2KRvzs?si=yE3BaYEwXkIxzXRb

do you need your mommy to bottlefeed you ??

10years from today, what will be important to you?

1. Staying alive and preparing to pass your exams
2. The relationship that wasn't met to be

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brain54:
They are sites and apps where people actually make money from people like you... Lonely people pay people money just to talk to them!

Loneliness can hit anyone at pretty much any time. (It does not discriminate by gender, age, or race.) The only way to shore oneself of it is to ensure one continues to build up one's emotional and social health/intelligence, something most of us ignore.

Traay:
➜op go and talk to chatgbt, but seriously op are you gay? this’s some gay sh*t you’re doing here, looking for someone who will comfort you because you got your heart broken.

Stop being stewpid! Anxiety has nothing to do with gayness. As a matter of fact, the male loneliness epidemic — also a mental illness — that the medical world has been talking about today affects more heterosexual males than gays or even women. Stop trying to bully or shut down those who admit to themselves at least that they indeed have a problem that needs medical attention.

The funny part is that most of you trying to bully others into keeping quiet about their suffering are suffering the same thing they are. Only you think you believe that being vulnerable is some weakness when, in reality, it is the best and only way to get yourself the help that you also need for what ails you. 🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Loneliness can hit anyone at pretty much any time. (It does not discriminate by gender, age, or race.) The only way to shore oneself of it is to ensure one continues to build up one's emotional and social health/intelligence, something most of us ignore.

I understand all these and fully aware...

But I don't understand why you quoted me kobo?


I only said they are sites were people pay for such services.


Surely you didn't think I was mocking lonely people?

Wananonly:
Nobody will talk to you the way some good music would bro...

Music does not treat or cure anxiety. Focused CBT and mindfulness— improving one's social and emotional intelligence— can.

brain54:
➜I understand all these and fully aware... But I don't understand why you quoted me kobo? I only said they are sites were people pay for such services. Surely you didn't think I was mocking lonely people?

I am just making sure the message is balanced with the fact that many of those sites provide much-needed help for real problems that people are going through. The money to be spent should not be the focus, but the benefits one could derive from accessing such services.

What OP needs is helpful advice to help him overcome what many of us have at one time or another had to deal with as human beings in this life. So, the best would be to give our best advice so he can get back to his calm, motivated, focused self, and also gain the experience— life cheat sheet— needed should he face this same issue elsewhere in the future.

Sometimes I don't understand you men, your fellow man just opened up about his struggles with depression and instead of showing him some brotherly love and support, you're bashing him.

Tomorrow you'll be the same men complaining of how women don't care about your well-being when you guys don't even care about each other's well being as men.

Samantha125:
Sometimes I don't understand you men, your fellow man just opened up about his struggles with depression and instead of showing him some brotherly love and support, you're bashing him.

Tomorrow you'll be the same men complaining of how women don't care about your well-being when you guys don't even care about each other's well being as men.

Samantha I didn't bash anyone...

MaziObinnaokija:
➜U beta com out of that self imprison . Play with yo fellow hostel peepz,go to class and read yo books instead of waiting for phone call

Why are you lying to him? Are you trying to get us all here to believe that you have never experienced anxiety or panic attacks before? Cut the bull and stop lying to your fellow humans. 🥱🥱🥱

Samantha125:
Sometimes I don't understand you men, your fellow man just opened up about his struggles with depression and instead of showing him some brotherly love and support, you're bashing him.

Tomorrow you'll be the same men complaining of how women don't care about your well-being when you guys don't even care about each other's well being as men.

Na that bashing go make am wake up as a man. Na woman them dey pet..

Man na man o

Op dust ur bum bum.. go find one hotel lodge,carry one baby nack.. give am belle run las las you go dey alright

No be me talk am o.. na that boy shallypopi talk am

Samantha125:
Sometimes I don't understand you men, your fellow man just opened up about his struggles with depression and instead of showing him some brotherly love and support, you're bashing him.

Tomorrow you'll be the same men complaining of how women don't care about your well-being when you guys don't even care about each other's well being as men.

Men aren’t created to display emotional weakness he did. You experience it and manage it. I love heartbreaks because it pushes me. As a man once you’re heartbroken, you need to refocus rather than sit yourself down sulking.

One secret is we men also cry, not wailing but crying and we don’t sulk in it rather use it to fuel our passion. That’s what makes us men. If the bashing will strengthen him, then the work is done.

Thank goodness you didn't, the reason why your gender has the highest suicide rate is because you guys are not considerate of each other's personal wellbeing, making it difficult for many men out there to open up about their mental health struggles like depression.

Most of your gender would consider such men as weak.

brain54:
Samantha I didn't bash anyone...

So you're advising him to be irresponsible by punishing an innocent soul? Aren't you guys the same people claiming to be responsible fathers? I'd like to believe that you're still a child.

What if that child's mother eventually takes him to court for child support? He'll only be burdening himself with more responsibilities by impregnating a woman out of frustrations.

BigYash:
Na that bashing go make am wake up as a man. Na woman them dey pet..

Man na man o

Op dust ur bum bum.. go find one hotel lodge,carry one baby nack.. give am belle run las las you go dey alright

No be me talk am o.. na that boy shallypopi talk am

All humans have emotions — the whole range of emotions is available in every human being out there — therefore, all humans are emotional beings.

Emotions are short-lived, intense, and direct reactions to a specific event, while moods are longer-lasting, less intense, and more generalized states of mind that may not have a clear cause. Emotions are like a fleeting spark, such as anger over a traffic jam, whereas a mood is like a continuous, low-level background feeling, such as a general sense of contentment or irritability throughout the day.

Emotions are signals, indicators of our current emotional state, a part of our motivation system. Emotions are not actions; signals/flags do not act. Rather, an individual's response to an emotion — emotional response — is indicative of low emotional intelligence. That is a problem linked to a lack in the area of regulating one's emotions.

Considering one's emotions as a form of weakness is an admission of a very low level of both emotional and social intelligence. Men are just as emotional and in some ways more emotional — they react emotionally — than most women do. This is explained by the fact that men are more prone to committing emotional crimes daily than women are.

There are so many things wrong with feeling threatened by your own emotions or thinking that subduing them makes you stronger when, in fact, it reveals you are an emotionally weak individual with nothing whole to offer others in the way of a relationship or connection.

Kobojunkie:
Why are you lying to him? Are you trying to get us all here to believe that you have never experienced anxiety or panic attacks before? Cut the bull and stop lying to your fellow humans. 🥱🥱🥱

Anxiety/panic attack on top of say I kpai person? U nowadays students.

MaziObinnaokija:
Anxiety/panic attack on top of say I kpai person? U nowadays students.

What in the world is this gobbledegook?

Kobojunkie:
What in the world is this gobbledegook?

Ask the elderly ones in yo household

MaziObinnaokija:
Ask the elderly ones in yo household

If the ones from your side of the divide all reason as you do, I would rather not waste my time.

First seek out the elderly ones in your house help.It appears sumtin is amiss with your. Brainbox. A good mecko will fix it

Kobojunkie:
If the ones from your side of the divide all reason as you do, I would rather not waste my time.

Samantha125:
So you're advising him to be irresponsible by punishing an innocent soul? Aren't you guys the same people claiming to be responsible fathers? I'd like to believe that you're still a child.

What if that child's mother eventually takes him to court for child support? He'll only be burdening himself with more responsibilities by impregnating a woman out of frustrations.

Even op knows I was just catching cruise with that line from that song by shally.

You will just be emotional on top everything..



smhfu