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Jennyclay:
This is why you should have a plan B, C and D if possible

Don't put all your hope in one basket

Even if I'm in a serious relationship i’m still very much open to any incoming relationship till I'm married.

I have trust issues, I don’t trust Nigerian men

Plan A-Z. Even after marriage. We understand

10 year old relationship na wa o.

I even thought it was marriage.

They have been cohabitating for this long and now she's tired of the relationship.

What's the essence of marriage when you can have all the sex exclusively meant for marriage?

Diamond098454:
how do you know she was talking to married men?

Lol 😆 🤣 😂 I literally put her response in my comment yet you ask yeye questions.

People like you dont pay attention when dating, anyways long story short I married someone else and she has refused to talk to me. Maybe im not the type of married men she loves talking to over the phone.

I miss her though, she know how to play with my nipples hahahaha.

Leave am for her mind she dey wise

SpencerForbes:
When you reach that stage, your heart will be so divided that commitment becomes impossible. Every memory—of Charles's deeper pockets, Dominique's superior performance , or Richard's caring nature—will pull you away.

The painful consequence is hating yourself for failing to fully embrace the person standing right beside you.

But it's your life and your decision

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Will ending the relationship solve the problem?
Does she think she can easily find another man that will give her the happiness she desires instead of depression?

The exact advice u would have give to your daughter if she happened to be in her shoe.

Tide comes and goes, it doesn't matter. What matters is that you blend in with the flow, live and take bitterness out of your heart.

Right now, it seems the bright ring light, filtered camera, the flowing tears and the huge number of views gives you that hard on. The online families and strangers will help you nail the so called buddy. You have done ten without online family, no noise, no validation. Why can't you live your next life without all the camera?

judewrites:
10 year old relationship na wa o.

I even thought it was marriage.

They have been cohabitating for this long and now she's tired of the relationship.

What's the essence of marriage when you can have all the sex exclusively meant for marriage?

Who says marriage is all about sex?

Who says marriage has to jump start with ring exchange and refreshment for people you have nothing with in life?

jiggyman:
Lol 😆 🤣 😂 I literally put her response in my comment yet you ask yeye questions.

People like you dont pay attention when dating, anyways long story short I married someone else and she has refused to talk to me. Maybe im not the type of married men she loves talking to over the phone.

I miss her though, she know how to play with my nipples hahahaha.

E be like say you still dey play or wan play away match. Your wife must surely catch you

Why would someone in her right senses be in a relationship for 10yrs?





Any relationship more than 2yrs and the man didn't marry you common sense should tell you to quit.

BlueStripper:
Mental health

Since una learn this nonsense from Americans, una no want us to hear word again.

Even goat now dey cry mental health.

Una go leave marriage go dey friend married men.

Mental health, toxic, narcissist, manipulate, PTSD, gaslight... Etc

These are their words.. People who learnt English on Facebook, IG and TikTok..

I once had a little argument with one of them early this year... We argued over the phone from two different continents oooooo

Just a small arguement... She chatted me the next day that she was suffering from PTSD as a result of the arguement that we had...

VeeVeeMyLuv:
Will ending the relationship solve the problem?
Does she think she can easily find another man that will give her the happiness she desires instead of depression?

the question you should ask yourself is does she need a man to be happy.

mind you the conversation isn't meant for you to join in. would you have advice your own to continue in an abusive relationship?

wait are you the one she is breaking up with or you one of those that abuse, victimize and blackmail women into depression yet make them believe without you they are done?

BlueStripper:
Mental health

Since una learn this nonsense from Americans

It is now like FASHION.
our forefathers would be shaking their heads

Nonsense! if the man die, won't she move on?
Let her move on jorr.

The man did what was best for him, and you also did what was best for you, until the two bests no longer aligned.

End of story.

DyshApp:
‎A Nigerian lady is devastated after ending her 10‑year relationship, opening up about her battle with depression.

‎She shared the heartbreaking incident in video posted to her TikTok account, @mamayochicher.

In the now‑viral TikTok video, the lady revealed that she has contemplated suicide, but hasn’t acted on it because of her son.

‎”I don’t know what to do. I’ve been so depressed. I don’t know who to talk to. I’ve known this person for 10 years“, She stated,

However, the identity of her ex‑fiancé was not disclosed in the video, and she sought the services of a therapist.

Kobojunkie:
You are going to be fine. You have already taken the first step, and now you just need to keep taking more steps in the same direction, and you will be fine. 🥱🥱

Lol.
How do you know that she's going to be fine ?
How did you come to the conclusion that this step is a right step?

If she is suffering from clinical depression, then she obviously needs medical and counseling help. I don't see how encouraging her to end her marriage is going to make her life any better going forward. Even well adjusted women suffer mentally after a marriage breakup, talkless of someone who is already on tje edge.

Your kneejerk reaction is a classic.
People like you , and there are legions of your type, destroy the lives of fellow women because you tend to project your own life or relationship traumas into the lives of other women by always encouraging them to blame men for every negative circumstance in their lives.

An honest response would have been to advise her to seek counseling and medical help to sort out her own personal demons first.
Until she does that, I don't see anything getting better for her.

TechBaron:
Mental health, toxic, narcissist, manipulate, PTSD, gaslight... Etc

These are their words.. People who learnt English on Facebook, IG and TikTok..

I once had a little argument with one of them early this year...

Indeed.
These are the new magic words for modern women to keep them from taking personal responsibility for anything.

Lalami3232:
Abeg if una date these women for 10yrs, make una dey marry dem oooooooo. After una scatter kpekus finish, una go want make we wey get average preeq to inherit una damages, it's not fair na. Anyways dear, I wish you the best in future and I hope you meet a new man who will dry your tears and give you reasons to smile again. But for now, welcome back to the street!!! Hopefully you don't stay in the street for long because if you do, we *******************

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

I don't agree with the bolded text, and I don't subscribe to that line of thought. The new man is certainly not looking for who to fix, or someone's tears to dry but to date and to love.

Anyone who's heartbroken or damaged needs to fix up before jumping into another relationship. We don't tolerate messy baggage here please!

fake tale , believe that gender at your own peril

dawnomike:
That kain heartbreak is depressing...

Which kind relationship una dey do for 10 years?

Jennyclay:
Do you know how it feels to be heartbreaken? I don't think you know

For me, I can only be loyal to a man I'm already married to.

A man will trust you before he married you, except you want to marry a dumbhead that will not catch you with your cheating scheme.

The only therapy she can get is kaikai and weed , one in the morning one in the evening she will be alright

Jennyclay:
Do you know how it feels to be heartbreaken? I don't think you know

For me, I can only be loyal to a man I'm already married to.

You can never be loyal.

Loyalty is inbuilt it's not something learnt.

You a just the way you are right now because it's your nature.

Quit giving trying to explain why you can't be loyal now. Just be you and enjoy your life cos life is so short.🤪🤪🤪

Jennyclay:
This is why you should have a plan B, C and D if possible

Don't put all your hope in one basket

Even if I'm in a serious relationship i’m still very much open to any incoming relationship till I'm married.

I have trust issues, I don’t trust Nigerian men

We go Nak you tire be that... Marriage na luck.

na the camera way una dey set they vex me pass.

placeofallure:
Mistake! It's not about finding another man; she doesn't need a man to be happy, sane and vivacious. She needs herself to help herself! In fact, if I were her, I'd stay off men for a little while.

Okay that's great

tommy589:
E be like say you still dey play or wan play away match. Your wife must surely catch you

Hahahah! No bro! I only miss her because we shared connection for 2 years, which is normal. Soon it will wear off, nothing serious.

My point is, when women come online to cry about things like this, they are always not saying how they fumbled. Once they start opening and closing legs for you, they assume thats all you need as a man.

Nowadays, instead of fixing things, we throw them away and want to buy a new one. Gen Zs generation. If you can handle a closed door, why close it in the first place, why burn the bridge and turn around and start weeping when you still need it to pass through

It has happened to me years back. A deliverance was conducted on me in the Lord's Chosen Chrismatic Revival Ministry Church and I gave my life to Jesus Christ and my life never remain the same to my surprise. Now i have joy overflow through Jesus Christ.
I strongly advised you to locate Lord's Chosen church and they will not charge you any money but will be happy to see you