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BigYash:
➜ Na that bashing go make am wake up as a man. Na woman them dey pet.. Man na man o
➜ Op dust ur bum bum.. go find one hotel lodge,carry one baby nack.. give am belle run las las you go dey alright No be me talk am o.. na that boy shallypopi talk am

SkengRay:
Na Man You be . You need to Man up and kill those feelings of insecurities. Better Days Ahead .

BigYash:
Even op knows I was just catching cruise with that line from that song by shally. You will just be emotional on top everything.. smhfu

BigYash:
Even op knows I was just catching cruise with that line from that song by shally.

You will just be emotional on top everything..



smhfu

Kobojunkie:
Just an FYI, Men are just as emotional ( if not more than women are). Feelings can't be killed; they can be managed and regulated. What OP needs is to accept his feelings and engage in some self-reflection so he can pinpoint which experiences/traumas/fears from his past gave rise to those anxieties, and learn regulation instead, so he can get back to his studies and do well in his upcoming exams. 🥱

SkengRay:
I'm not disputing that Fact we are all Emotional being but for We Males Emotions Won't Help us in the Long Run. Yes I agree Feelings can be Killed, Suppressing it in the long run might be harmful. It needs to be transformed and redirected. The Step you laid is What will help him instead of Waiting for someone to Reach out to pacify him.

Kobojunkie:
Where do you get this idea that emotions won't help males in the long run though? :-

Rhassidy360:
Go buy apari with juice u go de alright

SkengRay:
From Experience and Observation

Kobojunkie:
Naturo equipped all animals, humans included with a system of emotions. And here you are attempting to convince me that an entire gender do not benefit in the long run from a complex meta data system built into their minds to aid them in navigating their mental and physical state in addition to helping them better respond both to internal a d external environment? You are literally not making sense to me right now, I hope you understand that.

RealityKings1:

SkengRay:
➜ You're a Lady . I don't expect you to get it. When I say it doesn't benefit men in the long run what I meant is that As Men emotions are not unpredictable and they destroy stability.
➜ We as Men are Judged on Discipline, consistency, Reliability and the most important of all Logic Under Pressure .
➜ The Society and History has never favoured nor Reward the Emotional men .
➜ Emotions makes a Man Weak, Unstable and unrespected.
➜ For Men Emotions exposes vulnerability which are exploited. These are Valid points ma cherié

90% of crimes of emotion are carried out by men yearly. And this is because most men lack the emotional intelligence to help them better navigate, manage, and regulate their emotions. Emotions themselves are not the problem, but the idea that men think they can thrive by ignoring them completely is absurd. Unfortunately, most of that bottled-up emotional energy is eventually converted into an [i]emotional outburst, resulting in many of the unreasonable(severely illogical) crimes that men are notorious for committing. So, if you pretend men should suppress their emotions, aren't you arguing for men to continue down the same path of destruction—men, on the most part, wreak destruction on the same society that you claim respects and adores them for their discipline — that has been the fate of many men for the longest? [/i]

Kobojunkie:
There is no separate or different emotion machine for men. It is the same emotional system in men that is in women. And they run exactly the same — studies have shown that men are capable of the same range of emotions that women experience. So, again, what do you mean when you claim that men benefit nothing in the long run from having emotions because, according to you, they are not predictable and they destroy stability? How does the same unpredictable emotion machine in both genders lead to chaos only in men, according to you?

2. Yet when it comes to the same society, w[b]omen are considered more disciplined, consistent, and reliable than men — over 90% of crimes of emotion are committed by men in most societies—, leading to the conclusion that many studies have reached which is that under pressure, men are less logical —more emotional — than women[/b]?

Again, please take time to process your ideas before posting because you are still coming off as less rational in your claims so far.

3. Why should society reward and favor emotional men when emotional women have also never been rewarded and favored by the same society? What is this... some seek for validation before you think men must apply common sense?

4. Emotions make a man weak and unrespected? But emotions can do the exact same for women. Emotions can also expose possible vulnerabilities in women, too. So, this isn't a point that you are making but pretending a fact about emotions is some sort of weakness for one gender when it instead applies to both genders. Women are still respected and strong despite them having emotions. So, why exactly can't men be respected and strong despite having emotions?

90% of crimes of emotion are carried out by men yearly. And this is because most men lack the emotional intelligence to help them better navigate, manage, and regulate their emotions. Emotions themselves are not the problem, but the idea that men think they can thrive by ignoring them completely is absurd. Unfortunately, most of that bottled-up emotional energy is eventually converted into an [i]emotional outburst, resulting in many of the unreasonable(severely illogical) crimes that men are notorious for committing. So, if you pretend men should suppress their emotions, aren't you arguing for men to continue down the same path of destruction—men, on the most part, wreak destruction on the same society that you claim respects and adores them for their discipline — that has been the fate of many men for the longest? [/i]

FyI: You still have yet to answer my question regarding emotions.

SkengRay:
1. I never Said there was a separate or Different emotions machine for both gender. What I meant is Men faces Different consequences for expressing emotions compared to you ladies. Our Societal conditioning and expectations are different each gender or you want me to Explain this too?
2. If men commit more emotional crimes, That doesn't mean Men benefit from emotions. You just proved my point . Over lives gets worse when emotions takes over not better.
3. Do you even think this question through . Women are Expected by Society to Express their emotions as free as they want. Those that aren't learned to fake it. This is seen As Feminity. For Men it's Different for Example Both Genders crying in Public at different scenarios Who do you think is going to get help and Sympathy the Female of course and the Men will be Judged for being a Weakling. Another Example My Girl called me Today Saying she's doesn't know how she feels I tried to pacify and tell her to Process it or Write it Down. Imagine if it was the Other Way around she'd feel overwhelmed like why is this guy acting like a lady.
4. Like I Said A woman is Programmed by society to show Vulnerability and she's seen as soft, nurturing and feminine for men to show Vulnerability, he's seen as weak and unstable. Men don’t benefit from emotions long-term because unmanaged emotions often lead to destructive outcomes. The fact that many men explode emotionally only proves that emotional mishandling harms than it helps them. Please Read carefully and Try to Comprehend and understand from both angles. And Also note that males and Females will never be seen as equal by the society. Both Genders have been assigned roles to follow and there are consequences that vary for both.

Kobojunkie:
1. So, men are meant to live under this herd mentality that is Societal expectations, is what you are telling me?

2. Wrong! Emotions are merely signals like traffic lights. (Emotions are not actions—emotions is energy that can be channelled into action.) What is wrong is the way many men respond to those traffic lights. A vast majority lack emotional intelligence, and that is the particular reason why, when eventually overwhelmed by emotions, rather than react intelligently by channeling that energy into more productive endeavors like cleaning the house, gardening, or even learning to swim or write books, many men instead channel the energy into committing criminal offenses or killing women. The problem isn't the emotions themselves but the weakness that causes many men to react negatively when confronted by their own emotions — these are emotions from within we are talking about here.

3. Here's a question. Do you believe all men are somehow stuck living their lives according to societal dictates — herd mentality in flesh —or do you believe individual men are quite capable of harnessing even emotional energy to their own individual benefit?

I live in a society different from the one you describe, and honestly, I don't care what society has to say on most things since I am more of a deal with the facts than merely supposition. A man can choose to cry in private if he, as this slave to society you describe, is not allowed to do so in public. Again, crying is a channeling of the energy that is an emotion. That same energy, as you rightly told your girlfriend to do, can be channeled into journaling.

This isn't a discussion about what one society thinks and what another society does not think, since society is a fluid monster that changes with location and time, and even events. This discourse is about your claim that men do not benefit from emotions in the long run, and clearly, your every submission admits to the fact that men are not emotionless and can therefore learn to gain emotional intelligence of their own by channeling that emotional energy into more productive avenues like women.

4. So, it ain't emotions that are of no benefit to men but the mishandling of emotional energy that messes men up? Phew! We are finally getting somewhere sensible. 🥱🥱🥱

SkengRay:
.... . At no point have I said men are Emotionless Yes I agree that men can develop Emotional intelligence but emotional intelligence is not the Same as public Emotional Expressive. The latter harms man the Former helps Men and That's why Emotions don't benefit men in the Long run when expressed publicly.
➜ Read Carefully to understand and please Ease off on the Chatgpt

Kobojunkie:
Well, forgive me but I am not in the mood to go around and around in circles with you and your ideas(meaningless opinions in my take) regarding society given that societal view of things are fluid... it is different with every zipcode you enter and literally prone to change like every season of the year.

Anyways, again, in your previous post, you finally arrived at the core problem when you explained that it was, in fact, a lack of emotional management skills among the majority of boys/men that men do not benefit from, not emotions. Here you try to backtrack, but... yeah... no, let's not dive back into the previous nonsense and focus now.

Now, there are quite a handful of emotionally intelligent men out there, by the way, and their example literally shows that emotional intelligence — good emotional management — is not impossible for all men. In addition, we learn from their interactions, even in public space, that society is not averse to men having such advanced emotion-handling abilities. So, what in the world are you still arguing for? 🥱🥱🥱

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P.S. I don't do chatGPT... might in the future since I hope to research things on it for projects, but every thing I typed up there is mine.

brain54:
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