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My name is obinna from anambra state and am 35 years of age ,am a metallurgical and fabrications expert ,I am here looking for a woman who would be interested in either going into contract with me to have a child or I pay for your bride price but you are not going to live with me,it’s sort of an open marriage,you are free to do whatever you want the only thing I need from you is child ,you must be a good looking and thick lady ,intelligent and from a decent background,am not saying you must come from an angel background but you must not come from family of thieves ,and for every child born ,dna must be conducted ,feel
Free to reach me on email sisyley@yahoo.com
Thanks

Staywithbina:
➜My name is obinna from anambra state and am 35 years of age ,am a metallurgical and fabrications expert ,I am here looking for a woman who would be interested in either going into contract with me to have a child or I pay for your bride price but you are not going to live with me,it’s sort of an open marriage,you are free to do whatever you want the only thing I need from you is child , you must be a good looking and thick lady ,intelligent and from a decent background,am not saying you must come from an angel background but you must not come from family of thieves ,and for every child born ,dna must be conducted ,feel
Free to reach me on email sisyley@yahoo.com Thanks

. Why not get a surrogate to carry the baby and a woman to donate her egg to get you the child?

Kobojunkie:
. Why not get a surrogate to carry the baby and a woman to donate her egg to get you the child?

I want it the natural way ,all of this is gonna make it whole complicated,I have a son already and am looking at having more kids but I don’t want to marry ,so if I can find someone I can go
In contract with ,I only need to negotiate terms with them or if
They want I can even marry them legally but it’s going to be an open marriage and won’t live with me ,the only thing connecting us is kids

Staywithbina:
➜I want it the natural way ,all of this is gonna make it whole complicated,I have a son already and am looking at having more kids but I don’t want to marry ,so if I can find someone I can go
➜ In contract with ,I only need to negotiate terms with them or if They want I can even marry them legally but it’s going to be an open marriage and won’t live with me ,the only thing connecting us is kids

You want pay bride price for a woman to sleep with you and then give you the child that results from the encounter, while she moves on to living her life elsewhere afterwards?

2. I still think you are better off getting yourself an egg donor and a surrogate. For a woman to go through a pregnancy for a man who is not even connected to her and to have a child that she would also have to disconnect herself from... sounds sticky to me. Surrogacy is cleaner and also natural(only that it does not require sex). Also, consider adoption.

Am not having the child till the child is up to some certain age ,she can bear more than one child for me if she chooses to,I really don’t want all of that technology with having my kids , a
Friend adviced I go for ivf and I
Told him no, for adoption , I can’t adopt , I want my own blood, I usually visit
Motherless homes and help
Them in anyway I can but I can’t adopt when I don’t have enough kids from my own blood ,maybe when I have 4 kids I can consider
Adoption ,well I hope to find a lady who might be interested,it’s a matter of personal interest,am going
To be fully involved in care of
The child and if she wants we can co
Parent
But the main goal is ,I don’t want to live
With a woman in my house ,am not gay ,am 100% straight but I don’t want so I believe any woman who it’s a matter of intereSt will reach out ,

Thanks for the advice though ,I will think about it but for now this is what I want

Staywithbina:
Thanks for the advice though ,I will think about it but for now this is what I want

I get what you want but the problem I am having is in your desire to not want the woman in your life, after supposedly have sex with her and also having her raise the child for you for a time. I think you should disconnect yourself as much as possible from the woman for you to achieve what you want, which is ultimately a child of your own, without a woman in your life.

Kobojunkie:
I get what you want but the problem I am having is in your desire to not want the woman in your life, after supposedly have sex with her and also having her raise the child for you for a time. I think you should disconnect yourself as much as possible from the woman for you to achieve what you want, which is ultimately a child of your own, without a woman in your life.

Yea definitely,like I said earlier ,most women won’t want that while there are a lot of them out there who don’t care ,as long as you support in taking care of the child and responsible,definitely going to find one.like I said is just a matter of interest ..but I will keep
My options open though

Staywithbina:
➜Yea definitely,like I said earlier ,most women won’t want that while there are a lot of them out there who don’t care ,as long as you support in taking care of the child and responsible,definitely going to find one.like I said is just a matter of interest ..but I will keep. My options open though

People can and do change their minds later on is the issue I am trying to get you to consider. 🤔🤔

Kobojunkie:
People can and do change their minds later on is the issue I am trying to get you to consider. 🤔🤔

If they decide to change their mind ,highest she will say she’s not gonna let me have the child ,no problem because all of this is going to be on contract and signed ,their is an age a child gets to ,they go to the father ,infact in Igbo land here where I come from ,once a man pays your bride price ,the child belongs to him and any day he wants them ,you can’t hold him back ,well everything will be documented and signed so nobody will play ignorance of anything ..most marriages today are just like that ,many women in lots of marriages today don’t even love the man they are getting married to ,they just want that ring and the title “mrs” just that is hard for them to admit it ,when you talk of open marriage ,so many people
Kick against it but that’s what alot of
People
Are practicing today ,if their are 100 marriages,80
Are cheating so basically for me marriage is like religion built on hypocrisy and lies

Staywithbina:
➜If they decide to change their mind ,highest she will say she’s not gonna let me have the child ,no problem because all of this is going to be on contract and signed ,
➜ their is an age a child gets to ,they go to the father ,infact in Igbo land here where I come from ,once a man pays your bride price ,the child belongs to him and any day he wants them ,you can’t hold him back ,well everything will be documented and signed so nobody will play ignorance of anything
➜ ..most marriages today are just like that ,many women in lots of marriages today don’t even love the man they are getting married to ,they just want that ring and the title “mrs” just that is hard for them to admit it ,
➜ when you talk of open marriage , so many people Kick against it but that’s what alot of People Are practicing today ,if their are 100 marriages, 80 Are cheating so basically for me marriage is like religion built on hypocrisy and lies

When it comes to children, I believe no contract can do what you want as children are not property to be traded in the way you imagine.

2. That may be your local idea of things, but when it comes to the Universal Human Rights of every human out there, that matters little to nothing.

3. You say that as if most men out there love the women they are married to. I have seen men literally admit to hating their wives, but refuse to leave because they do not want to lose the benefits they enjoy by having her available to them. So, it ain't a today's thing but the state of marriages for the longest. (The vast majority of our ancestors did not marry women they loved but women who were available and able to get them access to sex, children, and free labor in the homes.) Love is a more recent idea, which still amounts to nothing when it comes to marriage in much of Africa and Nigeria.

4. Well, the society belittles individuals, particularly women in those supposedly open marriages — they are literally considered no different from wh0res — while the men in those marriages you describe are not demeaned in the same manner. Those women you find in many of those marriages you describe as already open are not obviously unhappy with being in a relationship with a partner who can openly cheat. At the same time, they cannot be granted the same courtesy. So, you should understand why most women would balk at the idea of being in an open marriage.

The lies and hypocrisy are rightly in the society — tradition, and religion — not women or marriage itself.

It’s okay ,thanks for the enlightenment,I will do my research on surrogacy and then plan how to go about it ,thanks for your time too