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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Pious101: 2:10pm On Nov 23, 2025

U want to focus on women (liability) when u should focus on creating wealth. I feel deeply for u.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by MONEY247: 2:20pm On Nov 23, 2025

If I want my type of woman, I know what to do....

But I am afraid of women.... Ec"specially this generation

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by meobizy(m): 3:51pm On Nov 23, 2025

Apart from the woman issue, he lacks self confidence. That is why improving on himself is the best advice. He may start hitting the gym only to realize the woman wasn’t worth his time. It is the same advice I give to any gender. Anyone can mistakenly make money. No one mistakenly builds a beautiful physique.

Money is not the be-all and end-all when it comes to winning women. The examples people give are anecdotal. Bank accounts aren’t posted on men’s sleeves.

Kipaji:
1- OP, a lot of people gave you the advice to improve yourself so that you can deserve women later, and I disagree with that.

I already explained why in a thread entitled < "Make Money And Women Will Come" (This Is A Bad Advice) >. I will reproduce my post here:

2- That said, I would also like to question why someone has to improve at all to get women.
It would be like admitting that she is superior to you (and so you need to close the gap to reach her level). Thus, I believe that it is a simpish mindset.

3- When you are "perfecting" and "bettering" yourself to get women, remember that the woman you are currently improving for is being "pounded" by a nobody in the neighborhood who never even heard about improvement, some guy still leaving in his mom's house, her classmate who never had to "improve", or some guy who straight up paid for it. You most likely won't find her a virgin bro, and the guy who deflowered her is no better than you.

4- If you improve, do it for your own wellbeing and that of your loved ones.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Mistersolar: 5:11pm On Nov 23, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by emmaodet: 8:04pm On Nov 23, 2025

Kipaji:
Brutal but true. Besides the millionaires and the billionaires of the world there plenty of men who worked just as hard, just as smart, and even more, without reaching financial success.
And the frustrations from these failures despite years of hard work and doing all the "right" and "smart" things to succeed is amplified by society that'll tell you that you are poor because you didn't work hard enough, because you didn't work smart, or because you were lazy.
The life of a man is a life full of frustrations. It's all about mitigating and canalizing these frustrations.

So so so true and that is why i so much respect a certain verse in the Bible
Ecclesiastes 9:11 and it reads thus
"I have seen something else under the sun: The race is not to the swift or the battle to the strong, nor does food come to the wise or wealth to the brilliant or favor to the learned; but time and chance happen to them all"

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by pansophist(m): 12:02am On Nov 24, 2025

emmaodet:
And what of millions of guys that won't make any headway into their 30's? despite the efforts they put in due to harsh location they meet themselves.

I was watching a joke few days ago on facebook where a guy was narrating how a principal refused to give him his balance payment because he was telling the students that not all of them will be successful grin

The world is not a fair place. There will always be the millions that wont make it. If everyone makes it, then success becomes meaningless. You can do everything right and still fail.

I also remember when Nokia CEO was lamenting how they did everything right but still fail. Who still uses Nokia now? So even the successful can still come down to be failures, life is that unfair, and e actually no send you.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by pansophist(m): 12:06am On Nov 24, 2025

emmaodet:
I see my brother in this quagmire and he finds himself in his early 30's unprepared - Not certificated, no business nor skill, not a hustler, no girlfriend, no money, Nothing

In as much that success is not guarantee, one still have to try. Your brother is unprepared, so what does he expect?

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by olioxx(m): 1:50pm On Nov 24, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

[i]All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot[/b]

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Now let us analyze your post and you will see reasons why the problem is actually a YOU problem.

At the first bolded. NEVER EVER CHASE A WOMAN. You are ruining your chances by doing that, never appear desperate my brother. It is very bad.

At second bolded. No woman, I repeat, No woman will like you if you are this way, your confidence and aura is zero and negative one sef.

At the third bolded. Brother truly you need to work on your self confidence and aura, are you person with a decent sense of humor? Can you hold conversations, cause you need to initiate lots of conversations, can you lead and do you speak like a leader, can you create tension with a lady? Just stir up tensions once in a while with a lady and she will think of you.

At fourth bolded, the truth is established, you are a big time simp, and you don't even have manly steeze. Them don see you finish. So sorry to say but its the truth.

At fifth bolded, 100k well managed is good and is enough to keep a decent serious minded lady, please dont jerk your life off, and dont hate yourself.

No lies you have a lot of work to do.

Build your confidence brother, speak with authority, know how to tease women, know how to look for their trouble, create tension with women, say naughty things with them. More importantly socialize in the right places to meet the type of ladies that you want.

Truly women are easy to get, with sweet words, confidence and a bit of dagbana you don hold them.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Albertone(m): 10:58pm On Nov 24, 2025

BigYash:
This one head correct so? How many millions dey ur aza? Instead of your to focus on making money,na serious gf be your problem. Something that might ruin you

Chairman if you have any update, please involve me.
I’m 23 and everywhere tough.
I’m also very loyal abeg.

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Okoroemekah: 6:55pm On Nov 25, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

you are killing your dick by jerking off.maybe you are looking for a girlfriend in the wrong place

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by pansophist(m): 5:35pm On Nov 27, 2025

emmaodet:
And what of millions of guys that won't make any headway into their 30's? despite the efforts they put in due to harsh location they meet themselves.
I see my brother in this quagmire and he finds himself in his early 30's unprepared - Not certificated, no business nor skill, not a hustler, no girlfriend, no money, Nothing

I stumble on the article by businessDay,

https://businessday.ng/life-arts/article/from-n200000-to-n2-3bn-how-amoke-oge-cooked-her-way-to-the-top/

basically it is about a restaurant that I visits sometimes in Lagos. This lady sells amala and other local foods and she has grossed over 2.3 billion naira naira on Chowdeck delivery platform. Not million o, but BILLIONSSSS>

Another one mentioned in the article is KoredeSpaghetti in Yaba. He also grossed billon naira sales. BILLIONS

Mind you, these figures are only transactions carried out on delivery platform, and does not include walk-in customers. Now lets that figure sink in for a moment.

Their success story was from grass to grace. Started with borrowed funds, and was patience enough to grow it and hard work and consistency. Success stories like this can be seen in different area from fashion to poultry, farming etc.

When you see figures like these, it becomes clear that some folks are lazy. They rather beg than throw off shame and ego to go hustle.

So if you say your brother is in his 30's with no skills and nothing, then can you really feel sorry for him?

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by emmaodet: 9:30pm On Nov 27, 2025

pansophist:
I stumble on the article by businessDay,

https://businessday.ng/life-arts/article/from-n200000-to-n2-3bn-how-amoke-oge-cooked-her-way-to-the-top/

basically it is about a restaurant that I visits sometimes in Lagos. This lady sells amala and other local foods and she has grossed over 2.3 billion naira naira on Chowdeck delivery platform. Not million o, but BILLIONSSSS>

Another one mentioned in the article is KoredeSpaghetti in Yaba. He also grossed billon naira sales. BILLIONS

Mind you, these figures are only transactions carried out on delivery platform, and does not include walk-in customers. Now lets that figure sink in for a moment.

Their success story was from grass to grace. Started with borrowed funds, and was patience enough to grow it and hard work and consistency. Success stories like this can be seen in different area from fashion to poultry, farming etc.

When you see figures like these, it becomes clear that some folks are lazy. They rather beg than throw off shame and ego to go hustle.

So if you say your brother is in his 30's with no skills and nothing, then can you really feel sorry for him?

Panso, i once had this mentality but as time goes on and i observe and experience more, i have been a little bit soft with myself, my brothers and life in general.
There will always be outliers in every society and they are not the norm.
There will always be occassional grace to grace stories but this won't be the norm for the general society.
We have to agree that some if not most people just want to graduate and earn a decent living and not be millionaires and billionaires.
They just want to earn enough to have a car, a decent apartment, some savings, occasional vacation once a while and that's all.
Moreover, the african enviromental condition and climate is too rigid, traditional and homono-directional - it is eaither you are a graduate and earning meagre salary or you are illitrate doing business mostly in the market.
It is not a robust enviroment where most people can feed and live with their skills or passion e.g swimming, football, wrestling, boxing, car race/formula-1, javelin etc
We all don't have to go to school to earn nor know a politician to get a job. It is too stiffening. Reason why i have been very soft on my brothers lately.
What are most japa people doing differently from those at home? Nothing, absolutely nothing - cleaners, maids, bumbum cleaners etc yet come home to live a decent life - build duplex, drive good cars and go on vacations etc

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by GenFunction: 10:13pm On Nov 27, 2025

You are 25.
You should be concerned about building ursef and ur career.
When u have done that,every other thing would fall in-place,including that proper girlfriend of yours.
Don't de-rail bro.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Angelfrost(m): 10:15pm On Nov 27, 2025

Lol... Guy, if this story is not fiction, then you really should be ALONE.

No Offense! lipsrsealed

A man who hasn't found himself nor actually found the purpose for existing has no business stressing a good woman in the name of relationship or even marriage.

Find, walk, and stay focused on your life calling... A serious woman drawn to that passion will be found.

I don't get why you people complicate this thing called Life.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by folake4u: 10:16pm On Nov 27, 2025

emmaodet:
Stop the masturbation pls. I prefer the prostitute option to masturbation.
With prostitute, with time you will start developing to interact, negotiate with ladies and generally become better. Masturbation keeps you away from ladies.

With due respect to your age, would you advice your own son to experience prostitutes before he learns how to court a lady?

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by femi4: 10:16pm On Nov 27, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Stop throwing money around...start adding values to your life n people around you

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Johnstone619(m): 10:18pm On Nov 27, 2025

What u are looking for does not exist anymore, u see the problem is the world has changed so much than we actually realize, u have to manage what's left which is find a good pretender and hope u can both pretend to love each other as long as u can.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by emmaodet: 10:19pm On Nov 27, 2025

folake4u:
With due respect to your age, would you advice your own son to experience prostitutes before he learns how to court a lady?

Given the option between masturbation and prostitutes, Prostitute is a lesser evil even though both are bad.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by thomas2024: 10:19pm On Nov 27, 2025*

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Nobody: 10:21pm On Nov 27, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

😆 you de find gf at 25 years with 100k. Lmaoo! No go learn IT skills.

Getting laid in lagos is the cheapest thing in the world, just look for a girl in your street and say beautiful things to her.

Since you are broke, I hope you are good looking.
I was broke at 22, but I still kpansh many beautiful girls because im good looking.

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Dzzzz: 10:21pm On Nov 27, 2025

If you like get 100GFs you go still KPAI alone.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by alizma: 10:29pm On Nov 27, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

You complained of people chasing one thing or the other when they should just be satisfied with living but here you are, frustrated because you can't find a girlfriend when you should just be ok with living and understand that no free thing in Freetown. Sorry to say you are a selfish being, you want people to live according to your standard yet you don't consider the fact that they also have standards too. If you don't change your mindset, you will kpai out of frustration.

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Helloworld123: 10:31pm On Nov 27, 2025

FitCorper:
Baba jerker cease jerking immediately for your own good. Get closer to your dad.

Which dad? If he had anything to offer him, he wouldn't be earning 100k at 25.

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by sammyscholar(m): 10:32pm On Nov 27, 2025

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Konjiboii: 10:33pm On Nov 27, 2025

Just 25 you Dey para grin

, na konji just Dey hold you.

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by IMPARTIAL: 10:36pm On Nov 27, 2025

I can understand! Everything about you, from what you have narrated, is weird. I think you are weird to relate to.

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by IyaTola: 10:40pm On Nov 27, 2025

Hey… I hear you.
And I’m not going to talk to you like a therapist or lecture you. I’m going to talk to you like a real person who’s been through some dark, lonely phases too.

First thing: nothing about what you said makes you “broken.” It makes you human and frustrated and tired of getting the short end of the stick. When you put effort into people and they use you, or disappear, or choose nonsense excuses — it chips away at you. That emotional exhaustion you’re feeling is real.

But let’s also slow down and separate your actual life from the story your mind is writing when you’re tired and disappointed.

1. Not having had a proper girlfriend at 25 is NOT weird.

A lot of guys go through entire university and early adulthood without a real relationship. Social media and movies make it feel like everyone is coupling up and thriving. They’re not.

A lot of people your age are in “fake” relationships — performative, short-term, shallow, or based on convenience.
You’re craving real connection, which automatically puts you in a different lane.

2. The girls you met in uni weren’t automatically “dumb” or “robotic.”

They were just on a different wavelength. Many people in school are survival-mode focused: grades, certifications, future. That’s their coping mechanism. Doesn’t mean they would’ve been compatible with you emotionally.

You haven’t met “your type” yet — that’s all.

3. The girl who left after 2 years did not leave because of your degree.

That “family won’t accept me” excuse is a classic soft-landing breakup line. She probably felt things changing or got scared or yes, maybe liked someone else. But that doesn’t mean you weren’t good enough — it means she didn’t know how to exit honestly.

4. About people using you for money —

Some girls absolutely do this. It’s not all women, but some people (men included) latch onto whoever gives them attention + resources.

The fact that you’re earning 100k and still being used?
That’s not a reflection of your income — it’s a reflection of bad boundaries you’ve learned from wanting connection so badly that you tolerate crumbs.

This is fixable. Very fixable.

5. “I sit indoors, jerk off, hate my life.”

Listen, you’re lonely — not doomed.
Loneliness makes your brain lie to you and tell you the world is empty.
When you don’t feel chosen, you start to feel invisible.

But here’s the truth: Your life is not hollow. It’s just under-connected.

Humans need:

meaning

intimacy

touch

laughter

companionship

When you don’t have those, everything feels colorless.

6. So what now?

Let’s humanize this and break it down into something real and doable for you:

a) Stop chasing connection from people who show early signs of being transactional.

If “send me money” pops up before emotional intimacy? That’s your sign.
Don’t entertain it. Don’t negotiate.

b) Work on your social ecosystem outside of romance.

Men underestimate this. When you have:

guy friends

hobbies

communities
you stop radiating desperation or scarcity, and you become easier to connect with.

c) Improve your sense of identity.

You don’t need money or muscles or luxury — you just need something in your life that gives you self-worth that doesn’t depend on women.

That can be:

learning a skill

joining a gym

volunteering

doing something creative

working toward a personal goal

Women are drawn to men who have a sense of direction, not perfection.

d) You’re not looking for “girls”… you want a woman with emotional depth.

Those exist. You just haven’t been in the right circles to meet them yet.

Women who don’t use men exist.
Women who want peace, loyalty, and partnership exist.
Women who don’t care about your degree or salary exist.

You only need one.

7. You’re tired — but you’re not at the end.

You’re 25.
Your best years mentally, emotionally, financially, physically… they’re ahead of you, not behind.

Right now you’re in the phase where life feels stalled and you’re comparing yourself to others. But your story isn’t finished — you’re in the chapter before things start happening.

Let me ask you something real:

If you could rewrite your life so that in 1–2 years you’re in a healthy relationship, feeling grounded, earning more, and living a life that has purpose — what’s one small thing you could start doing now that would pull you toward that version of yourself?

You don’t have to fix everything at once.

Drifter02:
At 25 years, I've never had a proper girlfriend.. might sound like fiction but it's true

I've actively chased girls all my life.. but I've never actually met any that liked me for me..

This was particularly worse in university.. all the girls I met were dumb and were only interested in chasing good grades instead of just actively existing..

Some are even married now and their lives are still robotic and pathetic.. these days they're chasing corporate certifications and more needless difficult things instead of just calming down and living their lives

Interestingly, the only one that had a school cert I met that gave me her number later told after two years (we never had sex btw) that she feels my family won't allow us marry as I had a BSc and she doesn't.. (young girl of 22 ).. naso she break things up. Bro the reason was just weird and strange. I suspect though she has another man she's attracted to.

All the other girls I keep meeting keep using me for money.. rather than bonding emotionally, it's always send me card.. buy me ice cream.. take me out.. stupid nonsensical crap and whatnot

Bro.. I'm just tired. I earn 100k a month and all I do I just sit indoors, jerk off and hate my life.. it's almost true love died with the last century. Without a partner.. my life just feels hollow and meaningless

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by thomas2024: 10:41pm On Nov 27, 2025

Kipaji:
1- OP, a lot of people gave you the advice to improve yourself so that you can deserve women later, and I disagree with that.

I already explained why in a thread entitled < "Make Money And Women Will Come" (This Is A Bad Advice) >. I will reproduce my post here:

2- That said, I would also like to question why someone has to improve at all to get women.
It would be like admitting that she is superior to you (and so you need to close the gap to reach her level). Thus, I believe that it is a simpish mindset.

3- When you are "perfecting" and "bettering" yourself to get women, remember that the woman you are currently improving for is being "pounded" by a nobody in the neighborhood who never even heard about improvement, some guy still leaving in his mom's house, her classmate who never had to "improve", or some guy who straight up paid for it. You most likely won't find her a virgin bro, and the guy who deflowered her is no better than you.

4- If you improve, do it for your own wellbeing and that of your loved ones.

You’re on point✅

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by FreeIgboho: 10:42pm On Nov 27, 2025

pansophist:
You are 25, your experience is normal. The pendulum swings favourably to you as you grow older, only on the condition that you did not give up on yourself.

You need to know that you are not on the same timeline with a woman your age. You will fail to date most, and it is normal. There are more virgin men your age than virgin women.

You have to bear it, that is the only way. You will only end up alone if you just whine about your life. But from your 30's upwards, you will have access to new generation of women. It is turn by turn. Right now, your seniors are with the women of your generation

This place you are is very lonely, I know. Every man if they will be vulnerable will tell you that they pass through it to some extent, but you will think your situation is abnormal if you do not understand these dynamics.

I will repeat. Do not give up on yourself. Keep working hard to improve your social and material conditions, it is your redemption.

It is not necessarily by age, it is by having the combination of things that women in that area want - something called "game". In Nigeria it happens to be money and things money can buy, also celebraty

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by FreeIgboho: 10:46pm On Nov 27, 2025

meobizy:
Apart from the woman issue, he lacks self confidence. That is why improving on himself is the best advice. He may start hitting the gym only to realize the woman wasn’t worth his time. It is the same advice I give to any gender. Anyone can mistakenly make money. No one mistakenly builds a beautiful physique.

Money is not the be-all and end-all when it comes to winning women. The examples people give are anecdotal. Bank accounts aren’t posted on men’s sleeves.

Bad advice for Nigeria market. Just have visible money and women WILL be there!

Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by folake4u: 10:49pm On Nov 27, 2025

emmaodet:
Given the option between masturbation and prostitutes, Prostitute is a lesser evil even though both are bad.

Lol. How do we raise healthy male children if we keep adding prostitutes to the mix. Well, another choice can be added which include hobbies, networking with the opposite gender.

Later una go dey talk say them dey sideline una for International Men's Day, when your folks keep doing the same thing a million times and expecting a different result. undecided

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Re: I'm 25 Years Old And I'm Afraid I Might Die Alone by Asaainc(m): 10:52pm On Nov 27, 2025

Let me ask you, in 10 years from now,where do you see yourself? Bro focus on your goal. Its only a focused man with vision that attracts meaningful women. Build a Biz, a career or a skill set to becoming financially stable. Also be prayerful, commit your life in God's hands and ask him to guide your every step.

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