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Give 10 young men a job that pays N1M a month and in 12 months 8 of them will be married.

Give 10 young ladies a job that pays N1M a month and in 12 months maybe only one or two will be married.

Why?

The young men can date and marry ladies who make anything between N100K and N1M a month and there are thousands of such ladies available to them.

The ladies, on the other hand, will develop attitude and begin to look for men who make N2M and above a month. This will lead to two problems.

1. The men who make N2M and above a month are very very few. Less than 5 in a thousand men and 4 of them are married.

2. The men who make N2M and above a month will not want them because of their attitude.

Only few women retain their femininity once they start making money and men who make N2M and above a month value femininity above any other thing.

What you just read is the reason why patriarchy seemed to be against women.

The truth is that patriarchy understands the inherent nature of women and wanted to save women from themselves.

If you want to keep a young lady single, give her good money.

Criksus:
...2. The men who make N2M and above a month will not want them because of their attitude.
Only few women retain their femininity once they start making money and men who make N2M and above a month value femininity above any other thing. What you just read is the reason why patriarchy seemed to be against women.
✓ The truth is that patriarchy understands the inherent nature of women and wanted to save women from themselves.
If you want to keep a young lady single, give her good money.

What do you mean when you say women lose their feminity once they attain financial independence for themselves?

2. Are you then insinuating that this patriarchy only thrives when women are held financially subdued? Without financial superiorit, patriarchy loses any possible leverage over women?

A typical African man is threatened by an African lady who earns more than him.

Criksus:
Give 10 young men a job that pays N1M a month and in 12 months 8 of them will be married.

Give 10 young ladies a job that pays N1M a month and in 12 months maybe only one or two will be married.

Why?

The young men can date and marry ladies who make anything between N100K and N1M a month and there are thousands of such ladies available to them.

The ladies, on the other hand, will develop attitude and begin to look for men who make N2M and above a month. This will lead to two problems.

1. The men who make N2M and above a month are very very few. Less than 5 in a thousand men and 4 of them are married.

2. The men who make N2M and above a month will not want them because of their attitude.

Only few women retain their femininity once they start making money and men who make N2M and above a month value femininity above any other thing.

What you just read is the reason why patriarchy seemed to be against women.

The truth is that patriarchy understands the inherent nature of women and wanted to save women from themselves.

If you want to keep a young lady single, give her good money.

You are absolutely correct

Samantha125:
A typical African man is threatened by an African lady who earns more than him.

How is this related to what he posted above or you just want to slide and not proof him wrong

I've said what I wanted to say and I'm done.

tanigororo:
How is this related to what he posted above or you just want to slide and not proof him wrong

Samantha125:
I've said what I wanted to say and I'm done.

Obviously, shying away from the truth

Okay.

tanigororo:
Obviously, shying away from the truth

Samantha125:
A typical African man is threatened by an African lady who earns more than him.

Is it what you read up there? What is he threatened about when most ladies say my money is my money? You ain't sharing your money with him so his decision of whether to select isn't based on your money but on your character this is why a woman with money does not have leverage over a broke girl with good character traits but a man with money has leverage over a broke man with good character traits.

If you like feign ignorance to this observations and be shouting a man is intimidated by a woman with money , a man who has money more than you intimidated by money you will never give to him? Delusional woman.

What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

ExudeLoveToAll:
Is it what you read up there? What is he threatened about when most ladies say my money is my money? You ain't sharing your money with him so his decision of whether to select isn't based on your money but on your character this is why a woman with money does not have leverage over a broke girl with good character traits but a man with money has leverage over a broke man with good character traits.

If you like feign ignorance to this observations and be shouting a man is intimidated by a woman with money , a man who has money more than you intimidated by money you will never give to him? Delusional woman.

Samantha125:
What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

I come in peace really, but this is a question that has bothered on my mind for the longest of time.

Give me your thoughtful answer, if you don't want to answer in here, quote or mention me in a old thread.

Samantha125:
What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

To think you're a married woman
And this is ur mentality.
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Is it that men just wake one morning and say
I want problems
So leme pick any available lady on the streets
Or it's just God's cuss on us to be so obtuse!
Like this lady here is married!. And she feels if she got her bread
There's no use of a Man

But you're not answering my question..

dhiqson:
To think you're a married woman
And this is ur mentality.
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Is it that men just wake one morning and say
I want problems
So leme pick any available lady on the streets
Or it's just God's cuss on us to be so obtuse!
Like this lady here is married!. And she feels if she got her bread
There's no use of a Man

Samantha125:
What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

Exactly a topic of discussion elsewhere yesterday. Women do not show love or empathy. Whatever they do is transactional and to their benefit. Even when it seems she's doing it for you as her partner, she's already calculated the benefits for her long or short term.

The world didn't have the word "date down" until women coined it.

A woman who is financially bouyant will never date a man who isn't but we men do this all the time. No matter how wealthy we may be we never look down on broke ladies. Matter of fact we groom and upgrade them to how we want them to be. But women can never do that and your submission confirms it again and again.

Men are kind, loving, accommodating, protective, caring etc and even when we don't have, we go out of our way to provide Nd please the women in our lives. Men sacrifice it all for family while women sacrifice it all fpr themselves.

The good news is men have started realising the truth of the game and the scripts are changing

I like it the way you put it that women lose their feminism when they touch money. The way I understand it is that, they begin to feel like they are now men. They can't marry a man like themselves, so they look for a slave they can control.

At bolded, the issue here is with you men, you tend to get insecured and feel emasculated whenever a woman is more financially buoyant than you, as a result, you'd start taking out your frustrations on us for no particular reason.

I've heard stories of some men even going to the extent of unaliving their women out of envy because of this, and you still expect us to settle for men who earn less than us? No ways.

kiddaz:
Exactly a topic of discussion elsewhere yesterday. Women do not show love or empathy. Whatever they do is transactional and to their benefit. Even when it seems she's doing it for you as her partner, she's already calculated the benefits for her long or short term.

The world didn't have the word "date down" until women coined it.

A woman who is financially bouyant will never date a man who isn't but we men do this all the time. No matter how wealthy we may be we never look down on broke ladies. Matter of fact we groom and upgrade them to how we want them to be. But women can never do that and your submission confirms it again and again.

Men are kind, loving, accommodating, protective, caring etc and even when we don't have, we go out of our way to provide Nd please the women in our lives. Men sacrifice it all for family while women sacrifice it all fpr themselves.

The good news is men have started realising the truth of the game and the scripts are changing

olioxx:
✓ I come in peace really, but this is a question that has bothered on my mind for the longest of time. Give me your thoughtful answer, if you don't want to answer in here, quote or mention me in a old thread.

This here is actually an interesting topic to explore. 🥱🥱

Wealthyonos:
I like it the way you put it that women lose their feminism when they touch money. The way I understand it is that, they begin to feel like they are now men. They can't marry a man like themselves, so they look for a slave they can control.

Feel like men? How do? If a woman is capable of this feeling like men then, of what use is a man then in relationship to such a woman? That is something to explore.

Kobojunkie:
Feel like men? How do? If a woman capable of this feeling like men then, of use is a man then in relationship to such a woman? That is something to explore.

Off course that's why a woman will tell you that since she now has money, no need for a man.

Wealthyonos:
➜Off course that's why a woman will tell you that since she now has money, no need for a man.

Not all women who have money tell men that. (Most of the billionaire women, for instance, out there are in relationships with men who earn less than they do.) However, it is disappointing that for many men, all they bring to the table is their meager earnings—not even enough to pay for a full-time chef and house help, in most cases —and nothing else— basically, all it means to feel like a man is to bring money alone to the table.

Samantha125:
What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

If they call you all sex tool you will say otherwise, you are saying in essence you aren't different from a sex worker, pathetic. In otherwise you are confirming what the OP is saying

It appears that marriage benefits women so why aren’t they running to get married once they have financial freedom? 🤔 strange, isn’t it? 🧐

kiddaz:
➜Exactly a topic of discussion elsewhere yesterday. Women do not show love or empathy. Whatever they do is transactional and to their benefit. Even when it seems she's doing it for you as her partner, she's already calculated the benefits for her long or short term.
➜ The world didn't have the word "date down" until women coined it. A woman who is financially bouyant will never date a man who isn't but we men do this all the time. No matter how wealthy we may be we never look down on broke ladies. Matter of fact we groom and upgrade them to how we want them to be. But women can never do that and your submission confirms it again and again.
➜ Men are kind, loving, accommodating, protective, caring etc and even when we don't have, we go out of our way to provide Nd please the women in our lives. Men sacrifice it all for family while women sacrifice it all fpr themselves.
➜ The good news is men have started realising the truth of the game and the scripts are changing

Relationships have always been about benefits for men —transactional. For the longest time, men have considered the gains of being with a particular woman over the other. Most go in expecting to have the woman bring with her the emotional, mental, and physical labor that is necessary to keep a relationship running, even when the man brings nothing but his limited physical presence into her life. So, why make it an issue when women decide to also become more transactional in their dealings with men they are in a relationship with?

2. Even if we are to assume you are right about this— I will never support women going into a relationship that offers them no tangible benefits — why are you against women not wanting to date down? Studies have confirmed that relationships benefit men more than they do women. Why, then, should women choose to forgo their chances at the one benefit that a man could ever offer them —money— in a relationship?

3. They are? And this, according to the women in relationships with these men, or your own private delusion as a man who has never been in an actual romantic relationship with any of those men? I ask because research has shown that the major reason most women remain in their relationships with men is that they lack financial security of their own.

4. That actually plays well in favor of women.

You're not answering my question...

ExudeLoveToAll:
If they call you all sex tool you will say otherwise, you are saying in essence you aren't different from a sex worker, pathetic. In otherwise you are confirming what the OP is saying

Samantha125:
A typical African man is threatened by an African lady who earns more than him.

Dinosaurs.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCF6_gPc3L4?si=GgUKAQmbhN4e7sOy

Kobojunkie:
why are you against women not wanting to date down?

Answer please. I too want to know.

Samantha125:
What's the use of a man if a woman can provide for herself?

The put down the men trick of women don't need men.

Then why do such women always buy a husband just like Natasha and co?

Double0h7:
It appears that marriage benefits women so why aren’t they running to get married once they have financial freedom? 🤔 strange, isn’t it? 🧐

The put down the men trick of women don't need men

People who go buying husbands especially another woman's husband like Natasha and co.

If only men would real eyes how ivu you women are

To use them for their pleasure... Allegedly that same Natasha is giving her husband a one hell of a beating... There's even a video of her slapping her husband while on live.

Dtruthspeaker:
The put down the men trick of women don't need men.

Then why do such women always buy a husband just like Natasha and co?